Know Your Worth, And Don't Pay For Everything 

Dont be ordering the sea bass, with the steak desert, add side baked patato, and wine. When all I order was the house salad with a water.

I love how reflective you are and how you're ready to learn the wisdom life's lessons try to teach. Thank you for sharing! You always give good advice in your storytimes.

This video was probably the best. Yes, he has some funny ass videos, however this video makes you more reflective, I have been inspired by this video and realized I shouldn't waddle in unfortunate situations. Take something that allows you to grow from it. I really loved this video.

I learned alot from this video thanks.

I love it when you say MY SCOOTER. He must have been really cute, we've all been used just chalk it up to experience.

I cannot believe we have over 20 minutes of inspiration and knowledge and all some people are asking you about is your damn hair.

THIS is why I love you Qaadir.

Qaadir. What you do in a situation like that (the bar situation), is excuse yourself to the bathroom real quick. You are very kind. After the ice cream, my ass would've been headed home. Definitely NOT second date material. Lol!

I've been used like this before and it really sucks.

GIIIRL this guy was unbelievable! omg!

He was a lesson.

wow what a user.. however, you are not alone. a lot of ppl have been through at least one user. And just like you thought, we all think that the person has good intentions and we have hopes that it will be worth it in the end due to the personality he's giving. Everything is happening in the moment so it's hard to see it for what it is when you're on a date. Also, we also give people the benefit of the doubt against our better judgement because we think it's a test. hell no. I'm glad I've grown

"It's just that a beer, ain't no 's' on that." LOL

QAADIR Why THE FUK would you keep going to different places with him when you KNOW he kept fumbling in his wallet? You were trippin. Did you think it would magically appear?!? That was kind of dumb. But I'm glad you learned from it. That was ridiculous.

The Unwritten Rules of Treating is so true!!!

Your words are my thoughts, 1000 times the speed in fast forward.... I bow down. I'm not worthy. You are so damn insightful i cant stand it. I don't know enough people this put together. It's sad. I know people watch you for entertainment but damn....

I am getting annoyed just listening to this story! oh HELLLLLLLL NOOOO Q!!!! HELLL NO!!!!!!!! ugh!!

“Can I get some uh red wine on ice” lmaoo

Ain't no s on that #priceless

Thank you so much love

I so needed that. "Sometimes you have to get lost in order to take a step in the right direction." Thanks Qaadir! No truer words. I am passing this around to my girls.

Thank you so much for sharing your thoughts with me =). I felt like I had to share that story with you all even though I felt dumb for doing what I did =( -Qaadir

Thank you for your love and support love it means the world

Thank you for the love and kind words love

@Qaadir Howard I actually got emotional listening to this story at how upset I felt knowing how that dude was taking advantage of you. I'm glad you saw through the whole thing at the end of the day but still upset you went through it. All you present is the most beautiful energy, your soul is truly one of kind and deserve nothing but kindness. All the absolute best to you, love you so so much!❤

Thank you so much for reaching out and telling me that love. I appreciate your thoughts

I freaking adore you and can listen to you for hours, thanks for being you and sharing so much. big hug from Paris, France Angelo xoxo

You too nice Qaadir cause I would've left him fumbling.

i really hate people who take advantage of the kindness of others. thank goodness you learned a lesson and will avoid these types in the future. True love will never just take from you.

Hahahaha I know I wanted a change to fit where I am at this point in my life =)

A wise man once said, 'If you lend someone £20 and you never see that person again, it was £20 well spent'. This guy you were out with sounds like a user! Lesson well learnt! You'll look back on that day and smile, because no one will ever take advantage of you again. XXX

You are so smart and wise. I love the fact that you are willing to share this moment in your life, and that you learned from it. So many times we screw up and are too embarrassed to speak on it, and more importantly willing to admit our screw ups. You are fantastic and I loved this video!

Sometimes you have to get a little lost in order to find your way..but you can always take a step in the right direction no matter how lost you are..... LOVE the message!!!!

RIGHT REVERS!! i will not watch anyone for this long EXCEPT qaadir. loving it! (and qaadir, I can tell you're a nerd from the outside HA)

" We are having a Crazy Sexy Cool situation! You know like TLC! " lmao XD

I corrected myself which is why I said it twice =P lol -Qaadir

Qaadir, I learned the very lessons you speak of about a year or 2 ago and even more this year. One thing I will say to you is DON'T be too eager find love, a relationship, etc. Often times, that's how people end up in the wrong place. We get so caught up is seeking the right one, that we end up with the wrong one. It takes time. I lost my V-card at 22 to my first and last relationship that lasted 6 months and dated few since. I'm now 25, never been in love and okay with it. Love takes time.

His is so tacky. You are going to experience love to the fullest in the right time. I appreciate the willingness to share this experience and give such wisdom. "let me be the student and not the teacher" classic. He needed a teacher to teach him how not to be a leach .

i love that you take the time to think about mistakes, on your scooter. sometimes we realize we didn't act right (towards ourselves) but we tell ourselves "that was shitty, i'll think about it later" and then we never take the time to do so, and we keep making the same mistakes.

I started watching your vids at first because you're so funny, but the more I watch the more true respect I have for you from what we know of you as a person in general. You seriously ROCK and inspiring in many different ways. Also unique You rock, I love you. Thanks

It's cool that you can be funny and over the top in your videos and then come down and give advice to those who need it. It shows how versatile a performer you truly are. For those who have disrespected you on here and in life, it's only been because they're miserably blinded. You are AMAZING!

U said it right.... never settle for someone who is not gonna treat you the way that you would treat them..... and by the way, love the hair!

You totally deserve better honey. This man was was not worth your time, but I’m glad you found your way out.

he's awesome! ; he's very out spoken. and not afraid to speak the truth! Go Qaadir!

"Whatever the case might be" "this particular individual" "perhaps" those are your favorite words! I love you so much!

I didn't discuss it because everytime I would say I was going to cut it you all would tell me not to lol so I knew what the answer =P -Qaadir

Thank you for your kind words =) I truly appreciate it

Honey honey honey, first of all: LOVE THE HAIR! Second of all, I so so so so so understand your point about really wanting to experience being in love and having a loving relationship. That feeling of wanting it THAT much, makes us blind and makes us settle for less. Good for you that your brain took over and pushed your feelings aside at the right moment! Hope you had a goooood bubble bath!

that was amazing! i loved that because you told about your experience and then you analyzed it and gave some really great advice. I LOVED THIS. this made my day.

So true just stay true to yourself and know what you need and want from someone before you get in a relationship with them. Never try to work in a relationship blinded.

You are my hero; you inspire me to do better in this world. That is the highest compliment I can give someone. You deserve it.

I feel you Qaadir ,I'm 25 and I never had a boyfriend.I really want a significant other but I will never let someone manipulate my mind.I know my self-worth and I will never let a dude compromise my integrity. :)

girl kaboom ...and explode

love always finds you, never the other way around, and usually when u least expect it. the fact ur willing to spend time with self (meaning completely unattached) and have such a strong ability to see reality and reflect honestly, ur doing far better than most! love will come but u have to be willing to let go so you can receive it :) some guys are hard to resist i kno, just find ur way back quik and take a hard right!

"All That I Can Say" is ....Amen! at least you are someone that can correct yourself on a situation.

Omg, yes I loved the message at the end. Ur a great person, you'll get ur chance. I'm sure you'll find the right person. I'm in a situation right now that I know is not right and this spoke to me soooo much.

yess!!! you always say it! and im so glad that you have the courage to admit when youre wrong, and share the lesson you learned with all of us. thank you sweetheart! i always love your videos

qaadir, This has to be one of the best messages I've ever heard on youtube... thank you for saying what you did. I'm going to add it to my facebook, I know a whole bunch of people who need to hear this.

Yes please check out her album. I recommend you play it at night =)

this is my favorite video that is on ur channel......I went thru a situation where I was with a guy, and there were so many red flags that he was shady.....but I ignored them because of exactly what u were saying in the video, 'i was blinded by what could be.' after the situation, i kept telling myself that i was dumb n stupid for messing with him, until i finally came to the conclusion that this needed to happen for me to learn and understand that i deserve better..we all go thru it, u rock!!!!

We all have played the fool. You live and you learn.

you are sending some wonderful messages my way, I'm definetly feeling this. much love & thank you

Hey stumbled over this video and I just wanna say that you rock for posting this. You have a great way of expressing yourself and telling a story. Knowing your worth is priceless and that is something that people who use others will never be able to experience mainly because they're too busy trying to rob others of their blessings. Thanks for the shot of wisdom man and stay strong.

I have to agree, he's clearl a user. Qaadir is too nice. Sometimes people need to be taught a lesson and he's one of them.

You are incredibly wise for your age and your advice is very much appreciated thank you!

You have a lot of wisdom.... you saw the problem, corrected it and are pressing on.

this hit home for me, qaadir.. i was in a verbally abusive relationship for almost a year last year and i would never cut the relationship because i couldn't get over them. i had convinced myself they were the BEST and the best i could get, but know i know i'm worth more. i'm glad they broke up with me, even though i think about them still sometimes. but as madea says, some people are leaves and some people are roots - you gotta know who is who. thanks so much for this video

you are very wise to be so young & yes it is a blessing to be able to see into the future before you get in too deep

"You can't know any better if you don't know.." That's so freaking true!! Well said! #PREACH

I'm so glad you have come to the bright conclusion on your own. that the moral of the story.YOU ARE SOMEBODY! love u

That was a great lesson learned. At first I did'nt understand why you kept paying for that dude but now I get it...you were trying to see if it could go any where romantically. But I'm so glad that you realized that you were worth more than that,,,way more.

This was amazing and I was talking to the screen like "girl I know how you feel!" it was great to hear what I've been through!

Aww Q. I respect you so much for putting this video up! We all make mistakes. The fact that you can share good and bad with us speaks volumes about your character :0)

omg this was one of my fav qaadir videos! although i live for the funny ones, i enjoyed this one prolly the most! continue to aspire! love you

this was one of my fav videos qaadir, this is gonna help alot of people i know and it helped me too , thank you :)

I was used too, but over a few years time. I finally let it go. Thank God. Sometimes I want to prove I can be a good friend, girlfriend, wife. But, that person, or those ppl(true friends) are not in my life currently.

I have had things like that happen to me too- been walked all over, etc. But each situation is a lesson learned. Love your videos :) you're fabulous

well I'm definitely a fan of your posts on youtube....I didn't realize you were so young. You do have a lot of wisdom and insight for a person of your age. I like your analogy on having the tools for surgery but not ready to operate. I think that is very true for serveral instances in life. What I've learned and keep getting reminded is - that you have to follow your gut!......don't ever feel apprehensive about that. Follow your gut it will never leave you astray....

I love his ADHD rants at the end of his videos. ily! your amazing.

i SO agree with what you mean about when other people offer to buy you something. i usually just say i'll get whatever they are getting.

You're even more fabulous for admitting your inner nerdiness. I love your videos!

Hahahahaha yup yup! Im glad you like =)

I am glad you learned from that lesson, please do not let that happen to you again. That fool had it planned ahead of time to have you pay for everything, how tacky and low class. I'm sure he wouldn't want anyone to do that to his mother yet he is willing and able to do it to someone else!!!!

i love how you directly reflected about what you just did. Imma do that some more too

Timaya All I have to say as a "somewhat" older person that has been thru stuff like that, is to follow your instincts. Usually they will NEVER steer you wrong. If anything you learned a lesson and you now know the Warning signs. If a guy ever ask You out, usually most of the time he will pay if he is isn't he will usually mention or say something. Chile you never ever should have paid for anything you didn't bring up your self. you are way better than I cause I would have went IN!! luv ya vids

Thanks for this upload !! You really spoke directly to me on this one, exactly what I needed to hear... you're amazing !!

I think I love you! Thanks for being wise ... I recently got myself out of a friendship that was toxic and I don't know why I hadn't done it sooner - but really it was just timing as you said.

No I don't want to do that I just wanted to show that Im not perfect I make mistakes however learning from them is key =) -Qaadir

No tea, no shade but the situation that happened with my homegirl happend AFTER this I just told that expirence BEFORE this post. So trust me love, I have learned =) -Qaadir

Q you are awesome. I REALLY needed to hear this. Your videos are amazing and they always make me a better person. Please continue what you are doing.

I promise that you won't regret it love! Remeber to play it at night just before you go to bed. You'll have a beautiful expirience. Please email me after you do it to tell me what it was like 0=) -Qaadir

i TOTALLY agree! you arent the only one this has happened to you. and AMAZING hair!!

This video is still so important. One of my favs. I always come back to this one.

Thank You for this video and the wonderful message at the end..Every second was worth watching!

i love how u evaluated urself towards the end and the way u ened the video. so insightful Q. i kno u will find/experience love.

Qaadir...you seem to be a great person to know and you definitely are worth more than what ol' dude tried to throw you. When you are a great person and treat ppl with so much respect like you do, sometimes God makes it harder for just don't let any and everybody get close to you or you get close to other ppl unless you force it. He wants us 2 be the best first & then he will allow someone in that is deserving of u. I am still learning that myself, sometimes i'm ready but God is not.

Thank you Qaadir.

Like u said, Know Your WORTH! I learned the hard way, we teach peeps how to treat us! Demand more 4 ur self, bcause u deserve it! Like "sibonita" said, remember we've all been there! But just know we aint going back there no time soon! luv yah!!!

it is so true about not lowering your standards and finding someone that is perfect for you. Honestly I think one of the reasons why their is so much divorce is because people sometimes settle for people that are not perfect for them because they dont want to be alone. I guess it just takes time.

you make my day everytime just got in an argument with the boyfriend and then i watched this :) ahh i love you girl!