I absolutely love your editing style! So very much! It isn't too quick or too loud, it isn't following all of the stupid trends, it is just calm and easy to follow and extremely well thought out. If you have never considered editing for other content creators, I absolutely think you should because you are a natural. Most people don't understand the amount of detail work that goes into making a video like this, but I do. I wish more people had the same editor in their heads that you have! thank you for keeping things at a good, natural pace so we can follow along❤
Thankyou so much...the other day a lady commented that this isn't my content and I was like absolutely it's not and she's one of the many people who really don't understand how much work goes into it especially the editing part....but I don't blame her... Because I just don't compile and post videos I carefully go out of my way to select clips that hit the nail on the head and also give ten + minutes of commentary....thankyou so much for mentioning this.....I was even skeptical that maybe I'm not doing what's expected but I told myself this is my chanel and I'll do it as I see fit....I also don't like those creators who keep interrupting videos....I love to let my subscribers watch the video and enjoy it and then if interested listen to my personal opinion....❤️
If you get ghosted out of nowhere then it's one of 3 things. 1. He found someone else, 2. he doesn't like you like he thought he did, 3. His wife/girlfriend found out or is on his trail.
Hmm roster can be fun. The perks are amazing 💁🏽♀️. I’m too busy for dates, don’t want kids, not looking for marriage. Just fun times while I’m focused on my dreams and goals. Adding fun positive vibes in my life. I don’t get the women that want to be on a Dusty’s roster. I love the international trips, 5 star restaurants, shopping sprees. Looking good while we just have fun times. ❤
I was thinking the same thing. She seems young so perhaps naive. But she has no idea if he cheated or not. She also didn’t expect him to ghost her so clearly he isn’t who she thought he was.
I don't think it's that deep to ghost someone after one or two dates. But during an actual relationship or after months or years after consistent emotional investment is just heartless!
After six years together, he just didn't answer the phone. Changed his number. Wouldn't come to the door. No explanation. The last time I saw him, he acted totally normal. I love you's we got food. To this day, haven't spoken to him since. I found out on FB he moved a girl in 12 years younger than him. He was 34 at the time, I was 27, she was 22. Karma got him, though. His mom kicked them out of the paid off house she bought him when we were together. They had a baby, broke up right after and now she's got him on child support. 18 years. Wish I never met him now, but that's definitely one of the more memorable most F*d up things someone's ever done to me. It's been 11 years, I only remember him for that. Nothing else good about the relationship. Definitely a blessing in disguise. I'm so happy we never had a baby together. I stayed single for six years after that. I met my now boyfriend, together 5 1/2 years. We live in a house with two dobermans ❤🩵 and life is stable and peaceful 😌
I got ghosted for saying no to sharing explict content of my body. If you havent give up your dignity or your dream then men walking out on you should not even upset you.
@@Frugal637 Yeah, when I get ghosted I respect the dead. I had ppl come back and I see them send a message on FB but I'm not bothered. I'm not a supermarket you can walk in and out of , I'm a private resort.
@@Muchloviess Indeed. We were friends too and I encouraged to chase his dream, and we would make a deal that I do everything in the house supporting him emotionally and he will support me financially when he starts earning because I believed the nonsense that a man is a partner for life if you are building him up.. Nope... They are not. In general they are vile and predatory. I can't deny that being ghosted hurts a little because we were friends before we started to become close but it's a clear sign that men don't love you. They only love what they can get and take from you.
This video low key triggered me. I haven’t been ghosted by a man in several years, but there was a time in my life where ghosting was a very common theme with the men that I dated. There was one man that I was so stuck on for a few years. He kept coming in and out of my life. Kind of embarrassed thinking about it, but reminds me how cruel a lot of men are. I disliked men for a VERY long time. I was eventually able to find my person and will be getting married in two months.
At least this happened to these women while they’re young and can easily move on. Men do this to women too after they’ve been married 10, 20, 30, etc years too and that’s usually how women end up destitute when they’re older, particularly if they reliant on the man for their livelihood.
I hope I am not being insensitive…maybe am broken inside, I find ghosting as a clear communication style of cowardice so I really don’t take it personally. I prefer you ghost me than stay in my life whilst you hate my guts.
When a man ghost you, there is definitely someone else in the picture (another possibility). Do not continue a relationship with someone that ghost you. You are not the person they want. you're what's available.
I remember a video of a therapist explaining dating apps as a buffet. Larger quantity, low quality. It’s a very small quantity on the apps that are looking for a serious relationship while also being someone of substance. Some are on there seeking validation, some are married or in relationship, some are on the rebound looking to hook up, some are homeless and jobless so not in a position to date. That leaves maybe 1/4 who are even worthy of dating.. lol. The odds are just BAD overall
There's no such thing as ghosted for no reason. People who ghost have a reason, whatever you think about it. Sometimes little things can be the reason that made them realize they're not interested. I'm not endorsing the behavior, but usually rejection is protection
This might come as a shocker to some people. The way men say women love bad boys that’s the same way men love women who treat them like trash. The mistake women make is to make themselves easily accessible to men. All lovey dovey within a week into the relationship, cooking and cleaning and matching surnames. Men are supposed to chase and keep a look out for competition hence why they get bored after a few months and on to the next girl. Stop making yourself accessible to men unnecessary, keep him on his toes and quit doing wifey duties for a boyfriend.
Girl #2 he’s cheating that’s why he kept asking how invested she was… he felt bad after the last conversation so he ghosted. My ex’s family lied to my ear while I was crying until his mother caved and said he was there!
I’m pretty sure if that was the case a family member may have reached out or answered their cell phone . When my friend got in a bad car accident, her brother picked up her phone to tell me she was in ICU.
My ex boyfriend did everything to be with me for 2 years, we builded first a friendship. Then we got together and after 6 months the dude just ghosted me. Only to come back 2 years later to say I am the love of his life blabla... It's been 7 years and he still heavily try to get with me even if I have a new boyfriend and I literally do not answer him. It took me years to be able to date or trust any men. I remember all the questioning with no answer, worst feeling ever when it was the person you thought would be your person for life. This is so disrespectful and mean.
Have I been ghosted before? No. I've *dodged a bullet* before. It is the worst, most narcissistic, self-centered, disrespectful thing in the world to ghost someone that has invested in you, lived with you, even gotten engage or married to you. But when that pain wears off, there's a point where I am at least glad to know what a selfish coward he is before wasting more of my life on him. I wish I knew what the answer is not to get blindsided by this behavior, but it seems like even the really good (appearing) men turn into these useless parasites for no reason at all. The whole 4B thing makes more sense with every passing day. Stay single ladies, for your mental health and your life.
There levels to GHOSTING first date I do not think you should take it so seriously. People change their minds for many reasons. Ghosting someone you actually in a full relationship with is bogus. If you fear abuse or are experiencing abuse of course GHOST they ass protect your life. The least you can do if you do fear physical harm is call them or text them and let them know it is over. I do not feel all breakups require a face to face protect yourself at all COSTS. Respect the dead if someone GHOSTS you.
If you don’t want to meet up with someone after the first date second date or 100th ,date doesn’t matter, you should tell them you don’t want to see them again. These are just disgusting cowards
@@dorino9057Try saying that if it was a woman doing the ghosting. If a woman picks up on some dangerous vibes or hears something that could potentially put her in harms way after a first date, she is NOT obligated to tell that man she doesn’t want to continue meeting/talking with him therefore if a man has a reason for not wanting to continue talking to a woman after a first date, he is not obligated to give her a reason. People sense pf entitlement actually be having them believe that they are owed an explanation and then when they don’t get what they want, they’re just dumbfounded. Get over yourself.
Im not obligated to do anything. If I dont feel like dealing with you anymore thats it! Some women are psychos and dont want to let you go. Im not giving anyone an opportunity for anything when i feel like leaving dont care how you ‘feel’
So glad Lady #2 had a follow-up and that she did healing work after. Her "fiance" is a manipulative user and a sociopath. Just a note, NEVER get deeply emotionally involved with someone you've never met face to face and don't get engaged to someone whose house you've never been too and friends/family you've never met. When you reach that level of commitment you shouldn't have to go through all that to find them unless they've literally disappeared from their life.
@Rose-kj7rz depends on how you do it. Plus how much money he has.These guys know you notice so i dont always play that stoic game lol.... If he ghosted, that means he isn't serious about me anyway, but he thinks I am about him, so why not toy with him and get 🤑. It's a total mindF .
@@Blissedx why would I want gifts and money from someone who doesn't take me, or a relationship serious? I want gifts to mean something. I want them to have significance. Not just something someone gives me bc they think I'll accept their mind games and they can buy their way into my life.
I was ghosted after a 11 month relationship..... And this was before "GHOSTED" was really a Thing, so I didn't know what was going on... I thought maybe he was in a car wreck or arrested ect... I went to his house and saw his car park. So I left a note on the windshield. 30min later he sends this completely irate text yelling at me asking " how dare I try and find him and come to his house".... WHAT!!!!???? ....LIKE, WHAT????.... I WAS SOOOOO CONFUSED 😕 WE WERE TOGETHER FOR 11 MONTHS!!! JUST WHY? 🤷🏾♀️
What I didn't know until I dated multiple people at a time, and I say dated, not exclusively dated, is that when a man would be interested and then seemingly drop off, it probably was because he was entertaining someone else, because that's what I did as well. When you're talking to 3+ people, it's hard to balance who is available when and who said what. Before when I talked to, dated, and then either proceeded with a relationship or asked to just be friends with someone, I did it one person at a time. I used to think it was my fault if they ghosted me, but I find that when you wrong someone, they typically are very vocal about it. When someone doesn't care to have you around, that's when they quietly let you go.
20:32 Preach, sir! I agree 100%. Ghosters are creatures of opportunity, and unless they did it because they feared for their life I do not respect them. And that means anyone who ghosts me because I am not violent nor am I aggressive. So…ghosts be gone. lol.
A boyfriend of six years mother died left him some money. He started smoking crack kicked out of his apartment. Moved to boston got arrested there for 6months came back to the city. Called me, stopped calling didnt think nothing of it. Then I saw him with a lady that used to drink alcohol and use crack everyday she had a stoke and she had a walker. I dodged that bullet
I was recently ghosted just when i though this was getting somewhere... Again... Yeah i know i guess i was gullible for thinking some dumb fuck was going to actually see me the way i though i saw him. But you know what? Screw him.
Was talking to a guy for months, decided to fly to his city for a lil vacation (it wasn’t to see him), we met, had dinner, everything was perfect. Kept talking for about 2 weeks when I got back home. Woke up one random morning blocked on all forms of communication. No warning. He popped back up a year later. A YEAR!!!
For the first one, tbh that happens multiple times more with men on dating apps, it doesnt really last like that. So it doesn't surprise me. The the fiance one is crazy though wtf?
I feel like some ppl don’t know what ghosting is… Nobody owes you constant communication if you just met or haven’t even met them irl. They literally don’t know you and neither do you and people are busy. I feel like this also doesn’t apply to neurodivergent ppl but you wouldn’t know unless they told you. I’m not good at responding to people immediately especially if the messages are long and thoughtful. I’m also busy af and get tired/forgetful so I won’t respond to someone for days at a time if I just met them/have only been talking to them for less than a month from on a dating app bc they’re not a major priority until I get to know them better in person. If a guy decides not to text me for a day or two and we aren’t in a relationship I’m not pressed bc I got my own shit to do anyway. If he just isnt interested oh well I know my worth. Now it’s another story if you’re in a committed relationship and the guy just drops you like he never knew you. That’s weird and disrespectful af.
At the end of the day it’s hurtful but know that the person who ghosts you is childish and uncommunicative and you don’t deserve that! So all and all it’s okay!
Me: watching this in horror Also me: has definitely ghosted before It’s not good…but I’ve also had a few guys get really nasty after I sent a text saying I didn’t think we were a good match romantically. Trying to be better now though
My dad and I are twins in that we both pick horrible partners. So we opt for singlehood and freedom. He gets me. And is the only man I love unconditionally. These other mother truckers can suck it. The last one tried to kill me because i knew he was down low, had a daughter with his exwifes daughter and practiced black magic. Told ya. Cant pick em for shit. So there will be no ghosting for me. I have no intention in dating. But it most definitely is a coward move. And ive learned from past experience, they generally swing the block so be ready to look good, live good, and tell him to kiss your hind parts.
I’m seeing why a lot of them are getting ghosted…. Some of these people are unhinged I’m reading the comments from some of these people and I don’t blame the person who ghosted them!!!!!
He’s not that type but yet he ghosted you after 8 months. Girl I don’t know if it’s because you are young or what but he probably found someone and did cheat on you 😩
Hawaii girl didnt get ghosted he told you straight up it was over. Lol. He doesnt cheat....famous last words. I getting he used you for a trip to hawaii.
The dude asking "Do you want me to come home to you?" was planning to abandon his wife and child but changed his mind. At 10:28 Poor baby doesnt lnow shes already been dumped.
I was with my ex for 10 months and out of the blue, sends me a text saying he's not happy and we need a break. I was angry at the way he handled it and told him that he needs to take accountability for how he did what he did. He apologized and I was cool until he video calls me telling me he's backed up. I told him that I don't do booty calls, situationships or flings. I do relationships. He ghosted me then had the nerve to call me 5 months later and wants to hang out. I told him that I wouldn't even if Jesus came down and slapped me on the back of the neck with his sandal and told me to take him back.
Ghosting is sometimes necessary. I've been ghosted and I've done the ghosting. I'm pretty sure majority of people have ghosted someone at some point in their life. It may seem like telling someone you are not interested instead of ghosting is the best thing to do but sometimes it isn't. Ladies especially have to be very careful with rejecting men because some men are dangerous. If you just met this person and you have no history whatsoever, ghosting is acceptable whether you ghost or they ghost. Whoever is being ghosted should look at it as a blessing in disguise. If you have history with the this person you obviously should communicate unless for some reason you really need to get away from this person. So all ghosting is not bad. It just depends on the situation.
I ghost men all the time because it’s too dangerous to reject them to their face. Even if they seem nice, there’s a 90% chance they are going to want to argue about it and lie about how they’ll do differently.
If men were to cry about everytime they were ghosted or used for there money and ghosted it will have its own channel. Oh yea they do. Always remember there is two sides to story
You aren't 'ghosted' if your just talking and your not in a relationship. Thats a victim mindset. Ghosting is if he's your man and leaves with no explanations. I feel for the lady whose fiance left. He was grimy. He actually did you a favor. Marriage would have been hell .
I disagree with the woman who says not to block someone who ghosted you. I think keeping the door open for communication keeps you from healing and moving forward, and implies you're waiting for the ghoster to come back. Block and move on.
I can’t say anything I ghosted men before but it’s because for most of them they can’t hold a convo it’s always the wyd and send me pics and the basic conversations that makes me ghost.
Some of these men sre immature snd narcissistic. They try to boost their own ego by doing this. They sctually get a kovk out of it. Others simply lack self esteem or adequate communication skills. Its easier to go ghost,than to talk sbd say what they really feel.
Ladies, I'm a man and I have a question for you. If I went out on a date with you and I saw red flags that immediately turned me off and/or wasn't attracted to you when I saw you because you don't look like your profile pic could you handle those truths or would you rather get ghosted and spared hearing what red flags and flaws that I saw?
Tbh, I would ghost someone if they made me feel unsafe or like they can’t take rejection. If it’s one date, they don’t really need a full blown explanation. If they just aren’t your type an you don’t want them, just say you do not feel like you both vibed well together. I personally only see it as awful if it’s someone who strung their partner along a longer relationship (months, years), and then suddenly they cut all contact and give their partner no closure. That’s it.
All you have to do is say that you don't think you're compatible with one another. I've done it plenty of times after a first/second/third date when I wasn't attracted to the guy, saw a red flag, or we just had different values or life plans. The great part is that it's not a lie, you really AREN'T compatible. I haven't had many people ask for a "reason," but if they do I say that I'd like to keep that personal and that I wish them all the best. Only 1 man has gotten upset by that, the rest realize if it's just a date or a few dates that it's fine and they let it go
I’ll be honest I’ve ghosted people but for very good reasons if I expressed to you that it’s not working out or something is wrong or I find something out and you’re still trying to convince me that it isn’t or even with proof that nothing is going on or something just not right I’m ghosting you
