Apparently not enough to have kept my ex husband and his affair partner from starting a relationship. I think he ended up ruining his career for that affair. He never got the promotion he was previously in line for. He will spin it saying he did not really want the increased responsibility. He quit working for that company and then went to a couple of others. He is now 55 and apparently quit a job he moved to a different state for with is wife (former affair partner). He quit that job a year ago and has not worked since. Apparently he now has long covid and does not have the stamina to work. He is such a liar. I guess his new wife believes him. That is her issue. I only know all of this due to my 21 year old son telling me.
My husband's boss literally uses their workplace as his hunting grounds for getting a date. He always goes for the females 20+ years younger than him and his current gf he hired her, trained her, made her his gf and promoted her within 3 weeks they began dating. It's gross and predatory behavior. One of these days one of these women are going to pull the sexual harassment card and he is going to deserve it.
I never date people who are able to mess with my money. That's why all the co workers who tried to date me learned that they can't wooo me. No matter if they are in the job or switch job. If I met you at work, you're disqualified from my dating pool. Edit: Some of them were really sexy too. My money was sexier😂😂😂.
this dont mix buisness with pleasure,work is for just that I dont even get mixxy with coworkers they will bring news back ..work and home thats it do not blur the lines
Avoid dating coworkers, someone at your gym, and even your church unless you don't mind drama. Some people are just not mature enough to handle the ups and downs of relationships.
@TexasGal. this makes me feel like you aren't taking the time to vet them before hopping into the relationship. People can definitely change up after something goes wrong but you should be spending enough time observing them and how they behave especially towards people they don't like.
A lot of these women remind me of myself when I'm being delusional. 🤣 A guy that says he just wants to be friends, just wants to be friends. These women are the female versions of "nice guys" who mistake someone being friendly for flirting. Yes, if a guy is into you he will let you know, period. Stop overthinking it.
Love can bloom anywhere- and also shrivel up and die 😂Do not date at work, in your neighborhood, at any hobby groups - don’t date anyone you will see after you break up!
😂😂😂that story with the guy just wanting to be friends and coming up with scenarios is playing games with her, he is testing her to see how she reacts he wants to see how she reacts and probably how easy it would be to manipulate her. I've had similar experiences bur I always clock on and don't fall for it. What man at work goes to a specific woman asking about scenarios, so he don't have any female friends out of work to talk to? Whe he couldn't tell her who else liked her it's coz he was talking about himself and he damn well knew she would not like the guy he said liked her he made that up just for cover and to see her reaction.
I used to be a waitress during my naive college years and recall vehemently being told by one of the older waitresses, “Do NOT get your HONEY where you make your MONEY” and I blindly obliged! Hands down one of life’s best gems!
The whole coworker situation is really hard. There are so few places these days where people interact in real life and work is one of them. However, it's a real risk to date someone at work if it goes sideways. If it's a large company and you work in different departments, it may be ok. Really depends on the circumstances. But you are taking a financial risk.
45% of couples meet at work. People just need to stop sleeping around at work if you are dating intentionally and moving smart it shouldn't be causing issues just because you work in the same place.
@thepragmatist true and that's why you don't sleep with them or rush into a relationship. I just hate that people feel discouraged dating people in places we spend most of our time. I know everyone's experience isn't mine but I've met some great men at work (Gotta admit: I also met my ex at work who did cheat in year 6 but that was 1 of many men I met alomg the way).
This is exactly what my time in the army taught me. All I was, was a proximal crush. And you can’t escape them after you get off of work. You LIVE with them too in barracks and army communities. Once I got out, I found out real quick that I was not as cute as they made me think I was. lol. Listen to these girls.
The proximal crush bit is so true! Most people have interest in a person based on how easily they can access them. Rarely would you find that a person is willing to leave the job to continue a serious relationship.
so, true. #1 on thing I strongly dislike is a male trying to get at me just because I'm there. Like WTH! Don't you males have any self respect and boundaries. S€x is NOT that great! Nor is attention!...ugh!
This is so true, if we hadn't been in such close proximity to each other I'm sure that the hookups that happened would have never occurred if we weren't ALWAYS with each other and weren't as isolated from the civilian population. This environment also breeds predators who's victims feel like they can't report their assaults without huge repercussions affecting them at work. It also doesn't help that the main methods of filing a report are a double edged sword. Damned if you do, damned if you don't.
@@Shenzi_Volkov you said a whole word. I was in more than one situation where I was terrified to tell someone what had happened. And many of them are involved in the Freemasons and they protect one another from low to high. The military is also an std cesspool. Something about motorpool Mondays, Sgts time, and constant deployments that just causes everyone to wanna cheat on their spouses and sleep with their subordinates. lol. I’m very happy to not be noticed anymore. I’m more than happy to stop TRYING to be noticed anymore ;)
Very true. My ex & I were engaged. He switched up on me out the blue, heavily. Stopped calling me on his hour long lunch breaks, the whole nine. My intuition told me he was cheating with a coworker. Long & behold. When we broke up, my brother told me he saw them together at their coworker's wedding. The kicker is, tye side chick and I looked like we were related. Found out a few years later she put black magick on us to break us up. Ladies, be careful 🖤🤍❤️✨️
i’m currently dating my coworker; i knew him long before he started working with me though. definitely don’t recommend it and im not happy about it but it is what it is lol
"Don't mix business with pleasure" Famous quote. It's extremely tempting every now and then, only when strong emotions take place. I still try fighting myself inside hard AF😂😂😂. I don't want to ruin my life and I love me too much!❤😊😇🥰
12:19 dude. I think a married co worker tried to do this with me. And I didn’t realize it. He took me to lunch alone three times. And I naively thought it was to discuss a marketing project. It was weird because I always felt like the lunches were kinda useless and we didn’t really do anything productive. He just asked me personal stuff and it was kinda boring. It turned weird when he did this after he quit his job to work somewhere else. Like, why are we doing this? You’re leaving. Luckily, literally nothing happened. I was not the best conversationalist. And I was too much of an airhead to notice or fall for his “flirting.” I’m glad nothing happened. I won’t do this ever again.
I think it’s a matter of being smart and mature. Love can literally bloom anywhere and you might miss your blessing because you’re not smart enough to discern when you’ve encountered the perfect person for you . . . in the workplace. Problem is, a lot of people hook up with co-workers for the WRONG reasons and rush into things. Co-workers have gotten married since the beginning of time. No matter where you go, the potential to meet & date the wrong person is there.
The issue im having is why as adults some people cant just be friends the opposite sex. Like 2 of the girls made it seem like its not possible. Ive always been nice to all my coworkers
The problem is never can men and women be friends. The problem is usually one person wants to be MORE than friends. I go by the rule of thumb, don’t be friends with someone if they want to date you and you don’t want to date them. Don’t be friends with someone if you want to date them and they only want to be friends with you. Keep those firm boundaries because when people like you they’ll be like “well I don’t understand why we can’t be friends.” It’s because you like me and I don’t need you plotting in the background
They can be friends but it’s not practical when usually someone ends up catching feelings. Especially if both parties are single. It’s a whole mess. Men need male and vice versa for women.
Im going theough this exact scenario. I cant tell if he is even straight! He always asks me if Im ok because I happen to be leaning over or resting. What does it mean? Theres no reason for a man to be checking in with me like that. He also is chivalrous with me, opening the door etc. what is up with these men at work.
You were blessed to have a good 1 sent to you. Congratulations! Please don't take this video the wrong way though, good men are rare just like good women are. When good connect with good it a beautiful divine moment and ever lasting life experience in my personal opinion. I'm not against it dating coworker for that reason alone. If it's not for the greater purpose, it must be left behind!😇❤
Yea I was gonna say I’m dating my coworker slash partner and we plan on getting married in the next couple years. We literally work together everyday, it’s hard some days but that’s work when we get home we’re cool 🤷🏾♀️
I laugh because people don't realize what proximity attraction is, also yall sharing a favorite TV show or game doesn't mean you're soulmates 😂 please stop falling in limerance with people and thinking it's love
What happens when the person dreams about you, but doesn’t even know it? The co-worker tells you the dream & is trying to figure out what it means and you immediately realize he dreamt about something that happened to you in real life? Is that limerance too? When you both have 100 different things in common and can talk to each for hours without it ever becoming boring?
@@reesebloom8093 Firstly sounds very nuanced to just you, this isn't a normal occurrence amongst the populace...but Secondly I said having a few things in common. If I thought everyone who liked the shows I liked and the music I liked and the hobbies I liked were my soulmates...I'd have at least a million. 😅 unfortunately no one can sustain 1million loves at a time...but you get to figure out your own call. It could be limerance...it could be love, heck it could just be a twin flame which doesn't mean you're destined to be lovers. But again that's up for you to decide...also sounds like you might be one of those "I used this method to manifest my sp...type of people..." and I don't believe in that so I can't say
@@Life_Love_and_a_Lens I never used a single thing to manifest anybody. I actually don’t believe in manifestation. But thanks for making that random assumption about me just because I asked you a couple questions 😂 You seem like the type that thinks they know it all.
@reesebloom8093 I said you sound like those people, because that's what they sound like. I can only make comparisons based on what I've seen. Also, assumption is a basic human tool to asses situations... doesn't mean we can't be wrong in our assumptions. I'm sorry that my assumption was wrong about you.
I purposely seek out men who have nothing to do with my line of work. I’ve had crushes on people I’ve worked with, but I do not pursue it, even if I am pursued. Also one of the two serious bf’s I’ve ever had cheated on me with one of his coworkers, so that sucked 😅
I learned this in college dating my ex while we were in the same major and 8/10 of the same classes for 5 years 🤣🤣 that experience taught me NEVER to date my coworkers UNLESS I am quitting or he is. And even then still shaky.
I've learned my lesson for sure! I feel like people who want to date you as a coworker, want the easy access to you. Usually are manipulators(from my experience not all). Also people get VERY territorial! You maybe cool with it but the insecure partner will make it so obvious 😬😬😬
22:34 This woman has been so manipulated by her coworker that she thinks that her feelings for him are genuine. He was awkward and nervous because he knew how she felt and he was manipulating her. Be so careful ladies
As someone who gets pegged I have “pretty privilege” I have to be very mindful in the way I carry myself - especially because my career is in a male dominated field (accounting). 3rd generation. My father drilled it into me to NEVER mess with my co-workers or boss, no matter what they promise. Never messed where I worked. Rose in ranks, position, projects because of my intelligence and talent. Never once could it be invalidated. Ppl know of my integrity. I earned the top officials respect and trust. Ladies, do not mess with ppl in your career field.
Yeah I learned this lesson through my brother. He dated a girl when he used to work at a hospital and he got set up with this girl which then turned into a 1+ year toxic relationship. When they broke up he ended up quitting his job. Do not date your coworker 😭😭
Ashley is so beautiful, I wish young women like her understand that men bread crumb in order to get you emotionally attached. The dude who friend zoned her wanted to just sleep with her no strings attached, ladies don’t fall for the okie doke👑
Babeeeeeey I LIVE AND BREATHE by “do NOT date a co-worker.” Right now the new hire is cute and respectful and honestly I’m crushing on him. BUT because I have self control and I’m an ADULT I do NOT talk to him about anything other than work and keep conversations concise and professional because what I’m NOT about to do is add relationship stress to work stress. NOPE
another thing is why when the man is black they keep referring him to random black women in the job as if we come in there looking for somebody let alone black! 🤣 🤣 aint no way!
My mom met her husband at work but for me HELL NO, NEVER AGAIN…. Please don’t date your coworkers omg you will regret it…. DON’T DO IT ESPECIALLY IF YOU LIKE YOUR JOB.
DO NOT GET YOUR HONEY WHERE YOU GET YOUR MONEY!!! it never ends well and the man gets off better than the woman. He gets a promotion and the woman has to leave
Don't date anyone that you associate/work with at any establishment unless you're comfortable with abandoning the environment you met in. Drama is hard to avoid if you share the same peers. Its almost like getting into it with family bc everyone wants to either get directly involved or talk shit behind your back. If you're going to date a coworker, they better work in a different branch. Its best not to at all.
My supervisor dated her coworker and now they have been happily married for 6 years and have 2 kids together. They are the sweetest couple ever. I think they got lucky tbh, so just tread with caution.
My dad has lunch with ladies at work, but that’s because they are at an engineering company in the Deep South that marginalises the few women & people of color who work there. So they’ve kind of built up an alliance😂
Some men would just pretend that they like you by doing these cute things, act pike they are dropping hints of liking you but all they want is an experience to be with a woman. It gives a ego boost to them and they like the fact that you are thinking about them and that you think they are flirting with them and things goes great for them if you admit because then it is just like a ego boost!!
Girl you are completely understandable. I am a halfrican (half kenyan, half black american) so it could be because half my family sounds like you, but I understand you perfectly. Don't listen to these haters.
I mean its human nature you leave people in. Room for a long time feelings will happen. If not romantic you still care about the peopl you work with. How can you not
The reality is A large portion of people who date meet their partners at work if I'm correct it's 45% of people. I don't think it's a problem to date someone ( or afew if the place is large enough) at work I do think it's a problem to sleep around at work. I worked security at UPS and dated afew guys, talked to alot more but never slept with any of them I never felt judged past afew men feeling like I'm too picky or didn't know what I wanted and that's thair opinion not my truth.
That’s why I DESPISE medical shoes. We don’t date our coworkers, especially not in the same department😂 If you see a doctor/doctor, doctor/PA, doctor/nurse couple, they probably got together in med school or undergrad.
I agree with the girl at the beginning of the video 0:51 I have been told I'm pretty my entire life and I don't get hit on and badgered everywhere I go - people really leave me alone lol
I'm so disgusted with the carelessness of respecting coworkers. I'm sick and tired of having to tell coworkers I don't date coworkers. It's lack of values to not know what you're looking for in a romantic relationship. If you know, congratulations 👏 you're rare!😂🎉
I can understand you perfectly, you’re speaking THEE MOST proper queen’s english❤. Anyone who says they can’t, might be the type to shut down the second they hear the accent. Boooooooo
If u have anything to lose don't date ur co workers, co stars, class mates, neighbors, teammates, and most of all your inlaw's relatives. Sure there's plenty more
My husband was my coworker for 5 years before we got together 😂 i dont see an issue with dating someone you work with as long as they arent your boss, manager, or working under you.
I agree. I think people are just too immature & hook up with certain co-workers for the wrong reasons. But you can literally meet your spouse anywhere if it’s the RIGHT person for you.
For that white young lady talking about that guy who she thought liked her. He 100 percent liked her. I feel it was one of those things where he’s afraid what his homeboys think because she’s not what the circle usually dates or hooks up with. Not to mention even thought she’s not that big at all I consider her “thick” but in the white community she would be considered fat. So I feel it was one of those things where he super into her but too afraid to shoot his shot because his friend circle is performative so he keeps her in proximity instead hoping she cracks so he gets to at least still hook up with her without him coming off as a fck boy or azzhat. Been through that a few times 🤷🏾♀️
Not a good idea to date the boss. You will never be trusted by workers or business partners and its can potentially destroy a business. I wouldnt want to invest in a company that co workers all screw each. A potential lawsuit will financially destroy a company. In business., lose lips and opening legs sinks ships. And vice versa.
No she’s not. I’m the exact same way. And I barely have any friends at all from both genders. The most that I do have are females and no males. Being shy of the opposite sex is real. It could be that or other reasons too. There’s a lot of adults that keep to theirselves or don’t have much friends in general.
@@estela_agbegninou8337 I am a relatively solitary person who still has friends of different genders. I don’t hang out with big groups of people on the regular and go about most of my days on my own, but I do have a lot of close, long-standing friendships with people of different gender identities nevertheless, chiefly due to what I do for a living requires a lot of public-facing interactions and time in front of the general public. I also went to public school and had very strict parents who also didn’t shelter me. You miss a lot of nuances in social cues and forming really strong bonds through community when you are totally isolated, and I personally can’t afford to do that with my particular career path. When you’re inexperienced with people of different gender identities than you, you have to likewise be self-aware enough to understand that that’s something to work on, for your own sake. You’ll keep hurting your own feelings otherwise.
