This frustrates me. I never had an affair, was a good stepfather for her son, and my wife still left. After 16 weeks tomorrow, her heart is still hard. You are blessed to have a great wife- that is a GIFT. Looking back, my wife used a lot of emotional abuse, so it may be a blessing that she left and won't look back. 4 weeks ago she said she got the divorce papers but still has bot given them to me.