Tom thank you for this video. My narc mother always said I was bad (ruim in portuguese) and that I would end up alone. She was mean, heartless. Said she dropped me ( just born) by accident from the top of the stairs and I rolled all the way down. Said that she wanted to divorce my father right after the marriage and couldn’t do it because of me. She is a text book example of the manipulative narcissist. My ( narc too) golden brother treat me really bad and dont talk to me anymore. My sister is a slave to the narc, that has been for years in a clinic w alzheimer. I have been no contact for 24 years! I feel alone no matter what. And as my husband ended up to be a narc too, I really never again “let anyone in”… Your videos are treasures. Thank you so much for the ADOOORABLE person that you are! You helped me when I was discovering that I was a narc scapegoat, and still help me today: I’ll try to let them in. Very scared though! 😆Wish all the best!
I went no contact in 1996 with my mother. It was real easy for me as I started to realize that she was starting to do to my 12 year old son what she had done to me my entire life! I grew up in a dysfunctional family with a golden child. Well the golden child had a son the same age as mine so I guess you can figure out the rest of the story. Nobody was going to hurt my beautiful son. So I went no contact and really threw my mother and her idiot husband a curve ball! I dealt with it, and no help from anybody really just my own common sense. Best decision I ever made in my life. I became AS FREE AS A BUTTERFLY! It should be the title of my book! Good to have you back Tom, you give all of us a boost!
I'm at the point of isolation. I fear people. My husband died 2009. After 40 years. After that all most of my girl friends died as well. I don't Trust people. I go out twice a day. I talk to clerks at the store. Maybe 10 minutes, all together. I don't want to me people. I'm not ready. Thank you for sharing. I appreciate you and this group
Tom, I can't even believe my own siblings could do what they did. My sister hijacked my mother's estate and sold the house without me knowing anything she was doing, after my mother passed. My mother tried to break up my marriage, then my husband abandoned me. There is no one now. No contact is the only way. You still have your son. I'm glad he is in your life. Glad he's in the Navy & proud he's doing well. I'm a Navy veteran. I am having a hard time believing there are people still out there, I could trust. At 63 it's hard. Everyone is gone and I never had kids. Thank you for posting this. I love ya!💙 You were the first person I discovered on youtube that helped me understand what happened to me. I remember binge watching your vids in McDonald's, shaking and in tears almost 5 years ago! Time sure flies! I got good at no contact and you are right that those negative relatives only wish us harm. It's truly sad the damage narc parents cause. I have an awesome therapist who is truly a godsend. I had to go thru a few to find her. We are going to start working on childhood memories next. Peace and love brother!❤
I am sorry for what you have gone through with your family. Yeah, I went NC too, and my NM passed away, and I am receiving letters from the lawyer handling her estate, and if I get money, I have figured out how to use it, but I will believe it when I actually receive it. I guess I too have to keep trying to get someone I can open to and feel safe, and feel like they understand. I am happy that you finally found that understanding person. God bless you.
Great message, brother. Walls have gone up and years have gone by totally alone because of the conditioning that "If they can't get in, they can't hurt me." - Sadly, the walls keep out the good people, too.
I force myself to be more social, connected with a neighbour, a person from an exercise class and another at a food gathering. The neighbour ended up being unreliable and flaky, the person from the exercise class ended up expecting me to call and plan our outings even though she has more time, the last one was a reciprocal, good relationship. So I go out once a week to different events that interest me and plan for one hit out of three. Yes, there are a lot of narcs, and other cluster bs out there, but the hermit phase is over for me.
Tom, ur my hero. Discovered you2days ago. I have gone no contact, starting with blocking my mum and sisters phone number. I have messaged you on a few videos,. You are doing such good work. Your videos are the most useful information i believe i will ever receive. Many thanks.
Good for you. I went no contact about 2 years ago. Its very very hard to not say, happy birthday, happy Christmas, mothers day etc etc because that's how we are. And you're going to have weak days when you wonder why they don't try to contact you back. And days when you think maybe it wasn't all *that* bad. But ignore all that. You will get there. Its like trying to rid your body and mind of a virus.. It will take time and you'll relapse slightly but the cure is coming haha. If you're having a weak moment or day or week you can come on here for support. A lot of us are going through this and are at different stages. We keep each other going. I wish you the best of luck and just know you will NEVER regret it. X
@@jenster29 thank you for that. At the moment i feel on the verge of a whole new fantastic world mixed with confusion and heartbreak. The no contact started today after i sent her a very nice, polite letter. Let me explain, for yrs she has asked what we 3want to remember her by...my item, the only item was a diamond ring that my dad ( who commited suicide) bought for her. She has worn it every day on her wedding finger, even when she remarried. She has gone over this choosing items thing again and again and she had promised me this ring. After finding Tom and his channel and being blown away with the fact its not me...its her, its always been her, i wrote, with so much pleasure that ive had a change of heart and that the ring is too valuable for just1of us to receive and besides i LOVE my wedding rings off my husband and my 18th birthday present, a ring, off my dad so much that i dont actually even have a spare ring finger for the ring. Letter ended with, i am adamant on this and wont change my mind, too much time has been spent on this topic so wont be discussing it with her. Ive signed off with Love always. Ive come through so much, an ex is a narcissist and i ended up in hostpital having a breakdown when i was 30, now im54 and finding out about narcissm is the last piece of the puzzle and explains her horrible ways over the years. I believe i may be taking away her last chance to cause pain which i now think theres a possibility of her having not left it me, had i not first said i actually dont want it. I wont be surprised if she cuts me out the will altogether. I thank god for a supportive empathic husband and this community...i know i will be turning to both when i feel weak.
@@vanessajones9524 that's heartbreaking and yes it's likely you will be cut out and get nothing. Certainly not that ring. They like to mess with our heads even after they are gone. My husband had been my rock also and was the one subtly pointing out to me for years what wasn't right but we have to see it for ourselves and yes it's like a puzzle being complete. That's a good description. 😁 Again, good luck and don't forget we're all going through it at the same time but also always here. xx
Your videos have been so helpful to me when I went NC 3 years ago and now years later. Thank you. Can't even say how amazing it's been to learn from you. It's a rude awakening to figure this all out but relief as well. I have to constantly teach myself that the tapes are lies.
Good to see you Tom I have a hard time with this, I have gone no contact after 52 years of abuse I still miss having a loving mother which I know I will never have.
Ive tried no contact & a deceased narcissist is just as bad as a a live one......your mind will wonder with unanswered questions for the rest of your life....especially if the narcist was your so called parent ..... so i decided to fight & face the narcist with facts & faith & its a healing process that tries to make sense of decades of abuse when u couldnt make sense of it before cause your mind was young
it's true, they're still doing damage even when they're dead-my friend's mother died a long time ago and she's still tortured by her; her abuses were beyond anything I ever heard of.
When I was a teenager I withdrew .as much as possible. At night coulnt sleep, I imagined myself like a kitten curling myself up at the Lords feet, on His robe. He was all I had, and I was drowning, but clinging to Him. Today I am healed through the love of my Lord, my chidren, and all the wonderful love of the hundreds of kids I taught in the first grades of school, also my animals., looking back at my life of 70 years I am thankful
Love you too Tom. You carried me through some of my darkest days. I used to listen to your videos many times as I was recovering from a lot of Narcissistic abuse. Family and my ex. You lifted me up and gave me hope and solace. I have finally taken back my true worth from the lying projection of these evil abusers. I will be eternally grateful to you xx
This is exactly to a tee what I am going through right now word-for-word. I keep searching for the narc in every woman I meet. Thank you for giving me a new perspective on this.
Be yourself. Those who mind won't matter, those who matter won't mind. It's frustrating how the tapes play in our mind to try to prevent us from moving forward and getting accepted by others. Very important to rewrite the tapes to play "I am important" or "I am lovable".
Before discover the narcisism, I always thought that people would not like me because I was a bad person. I was always thinking that I could not have friends, because they would not trust in me. It was like: She is a bad person because she doesnt have any relation with her family, so I dont want to be her friend. I had problems to talk about my family with friends. I thought that I was the only person in the world that had a toxic family. Many times I really thought that I was not a good person. Now I know that all these terrible thinkings are not true. Yes I am a good person. Yes I can be loved for people. Yes there are many people that trust in my history with my crazy family. Yes there are good persons in the world and I can meet them. Discover the nsrcisism makes me feel free. Sorry for my english. Love you Tom. You dont know how you are important for me. Thanks
WOW. So relatable. I've missed out on so many great friendships, relationships, and professional opportunities because my parents have (very subtlety) convinced me I wasn't worthy of authentic love and kindness. Luckily, years and years of counter-dependency have been utterly exhausting. I no longer have the energy to live their lies. BRING ON THE FUN!!!
1:04 Right. I didn't do anything either! I was just be a decent person & be nice. I didn't harm anyone. And I was targeted, _because_ I am nice, not _in spite of_ I am nice. I didn't have a choice to be treated nice by them. So there's nothing else I can do, really. The only thing I can do is just by stay being me, being nice, let functional people respond to me accordingly. I cannot help dysfunctional people with their dysfunctional behaviors. That's God business. BTW you look happier & healthier, it looks like a big burden has been lifted from your shoulder. Am I right/wrong?
Your genuine niceness shines a light on their fakeness and wickedness and they don't like that, so they project their evil onto you to make themselves feel better. They are cowards.
You are amazing brother!! There are so many times I would jump up and scream yes!! Yes!!! Yess!!! That's exactly what happen, the lies, the blame, the relationships that I would look back and once I found you it came all together. Thank God 🙏 for you. I would have old relationships come back and I would laugh saying I want nothing to do with you. Then the insulting and manipulative rants from them. I would just block them and walk away. I walked away from my family at 17 and every story, every holiday, every story of the shit they pulled that you have said had happen. My greatest revenge was always being happy, it used to make them all so pissed off. I live every day grateful. Until I found you, I always carried the guilted feeling maybe I could have done something. You showed me that they are sick people and my cure was to put the guilt down and walk away. It truly allowed me to walk in peace, know what a good person I am and that I am living the best life giving to others but always putting myself first, never feeling guilty about it. Thank you
I was adopted by a narcissist who couldn’t have children, then she had a child and abused me terribly. What’s worse is that I was given away to her sister in law after, an even more pathological character. I’m 26 I’ve been no contact for about a year and it’s such a struggle. Honestly the weirdest mind game, but this video gave me some much needed confidence. Thanks again
I loved my ex more than anyone I had ever met. Not knowing I was with a narcissist. So, I gave him all I could, but it was never enough. I now feel I am not worthy of love. I know that is a total lie, but he messed my brain up. It takes long to reprogram a heart and soul. The truth does win eventually. I love Tom's talks. Love you Tom! 🐸
TOM I WOULD RATHER BE BY MYSELF THE REST OF MY LIFE. I THINK THEY HOLD YOUR LIFE UP HOPING THAT NO ONE ELSE WILL WANT YOU, BECAUSE THEY ARE SLEEPING WITH EVERYONE THEY COME INTO CONTACT WITH.
No contact works...but healing takes time and it is very hard work. The more you heal and start opening up yourself to others, the more you gain confidence and realize there are very lovely ppl in the world who like you for you. It does get easier but it takes time and patience with yourself. Love this Tom, made me weep but also gives me more hope 💜💚❤🙏
What you say Touchs me very deeply! Thank you so much ❤️ At the Moment i am exactly in that Stage you describe. I withdraw from nearly all The People i know... because i dont Trust them anymore... i Wish you all The best, Tom!
I have done exactly the same in my recovery. I felt as if I would never make friends again, this is an awesome video. Touching on points that are so imperative in life in general. thank you again.
This is the stage I am at. Scary as hell!! Ive booted all my narcissistic family AND friendships. I'm down to being very lonely but I know I'll find genuine, loving people. One step at a time.
I'm glad to hear this is "normal" part of the process. Eliminating toxic family and friends from your life and spending a lot of time figuring out who you are and are not, Without the influence of toxic people. I feel like once i find my authentic self, I'll be ready to go out into the world and make nontoxic friends. It's gonna be better the next time around
@@narcbegone1507 I was lonely at first after "detoxing" from all the toxic people in my life but after a couple of years of this loneliness and becoming a hermit of sorts, I actually enjoy the abundance of peace and don't even really want any friends anymore (except for Jesus). He is the only Friend I truly need.
Reese Detoxing is a great metaphor for this scenario! Thank you! I'm going to use that next time someone attempts to judge or question my need for no contact.
Me too. I booted out all my narc friends too and doing NC with my GC brother. He tries to provoke me by turning up uninvited etc but I stand my ground and dont get sucked into a conversation. He then acts the victim as he tells our narc mothet I wont talk to him. she then lectures me on how awful I am to my brother. She ignores all the abuse he hurls at me. It is all so headwrecking. How do I tell new friends that I have no relationship with my only sibling and my mother is a malignant narc? Most people will think I am the problem so I avoid meeting new people. But it is lonely
I’ve never really had friends until the past couple years. I’m great at being an acquaintance. I still struggle with those old tapes, that even with my few friends, “they will see what I really am.” Whatever that is even, I don’t know. But I worry about it and find myself retreating from people when those tapes play. Going to really fight against that, finally able to really start putting a finger on these things lately.
Thank you for sharing, I think so many of us have suffered the deep depression after going through the abuse. It takes awhile to heal and learn to love ourselves again. Once we realize who we really are not what the narc told us who we are. It is at that point we can finally be happy.
The more videos I watch of you, the better it feels inside to accept and implement NC. I know how NC feels -one or even 2 years after. It's terrible and that guilt feeling is not going away soon, that's why I'm postponing the decision now. Those feelings of 'I've done something wrong by leaving them' or "I've made them suffer by going NC' or "What would they say or do after I go NC" are huge stoppers but I'll break through them. Thank you, Tom.
So sorry Tom that you have disabilities. You are a good man with heart of gold. Every scapegoat survivor is my friend, much love peace and blessings to you all
I am so glad your back. I love your channel, it’s like sitting down with a friend who understands this hell. Thank u. I wish u a wonderful year ahead. All of us no contact & staying free free. Big hugs.
THANK YOU for being such an inspiration. It is important to realize that narcissists HAVE TO make their victims feel worthless and unlovable, - in order to continue the abuse, and make sure the victim is so broken, that he/ she will not pose a threat, when it comes to exposing the abuse. Many narcissistic parents will single out one child that they have the future all mapped out for. This child is to stay in the family, and take care of the parents, - especially in old age, whilst the other siblings are allowed to go off and have children, to secure the family tree. To instill in the child that noone will love him/her, is done to make sure the child does not reach out to people outside the family- unit, and expose the abuse. It really is a form of mind- control. Healing happens in it`s own sweet time... What is most important, is to interact with others ON ONE`S OWN TERMS. This will build trust WITHIN oneself, - because one will realize that it is in one`s own power to remove oneself from those who do not have one`s best interest at heart. It is also important to remember that it is NOT our job to trust others; - other people are either TRUSTWORTHY, or they are NOT. The "loner- phase", after narcissistic abuse, is NECESSARY, and A SIGN OF HEALTH, because during this time one is able to heal, get to know oneself, learn how to take proper care of oneself, and start to plan how to best interact with others. Take very good care of yourself, keep on winning, and stay happy. Kind regards. PS: You might find it helpful to look up the work of Medical medium Anthony William, in regards to your health- issues. Good luck.
OMG you are singing my song. Yes, that is what they had planned for me too, but I fought it. I realized that that is not what I was put on this earth for.
To Jane Sawyer. "Singing my song". Huh, I just learned a new, wonderful phrase. Thank you! You were put on this earth to show the rest of us WHO YOU ARE! Cheers! Take care, and thank you so much for sharing.
All of the videos that I have seen of you, Tom, have helped me. I send them to my daughter too. Like you, I have no contact with my mother. I had a restraining order put on her because she would not stop interfering. Keep on making videos.
This is so helpful. My father severely emotionally abused me as a child. My brother could do no wrong,yet he was doing everything wrong. I was the good, respectful, obedient child. But because of the name calling, belittling and blaming me for anything I literally grew up believing I was a fat stupid bitch (my given name via dad). I did pack on pounds, I acted stupid as If I was incapable of learning anything, and I did become a cranky bitch. Why?? Because if your dad says it and your mother doesn't defend you then it must be true! When I met my husband I felt he was lying when he called me sweet, smart and beautiful. However he was a different type of narcissist. He would build me up to tear me down. At least dad never sugar coated it. I now realize that they both in fact had the problem. Yet to this day, I still cannot accept compliment without doubting their (anyone's)sincerity or motives. Thank you for being the best therapist I have EVER found. Believe me I have been to several!!! You are a God send. 💜💜💜💜💜
Hi Tom, it is so immportant to me seeing you comeing back each time. I am happy to see you again. And to see you manage to look really good. You wewre missed. God bless! Bye, Iva from Croatia
While these narcs stand in the limelight with thier polished exterior, seeking admiration from people and apparantly getting it. You are working to help repair the soles of the damaged people they have used to achieve thier sick goals. Yet i know you are not seeking any admiration for what you are doing, just the comfort in knowing that you are helping broken soles. When i have a fraction of the strength that you have, i will send you my story. Thank you
Tom thank you you really don’t know how much I needed to hear this today I’m at no contact but ran into a flying monkey 2 days ago. I was so angry my stomach sick definitely a relapse. I couldn’t believe all of the different horrible feelings I was feeling at the same time. I needed to be reminded of this beautiful message. You look and sound great. Thank you ♥️
Hi Tom you saved me a heap of grief with your videos about family (which I keep posting) STAYING NC with my female parental unit and weird silences with other family. I think I smell smear campaigns.
I'm glad you are feeling well enough to put out videos again. This one hits me hard as I am married to the main Narc in my life. He also kept my original Narc ( my Mother) in my life. As much as I would like to follow your tips in this video I sadly have tried and been punished for it many times over.
@@andromedan3648 I thank you for your concern. I chose to leave 4 years into the marriage and was foolish enough to go back. It has been 36 years together and I don't know how to live any other way now. Jesus walks with me every day. I am thankful for my Savoir. This world is only temporary until I can be with God.
Nora M I understand... You can get out if you want to. Gather all the info you can and plan well. There are a lot of survivors of narc abuse who got out of the devastating situation and you can make it. Don‘t give up. It will not be easy but only you can do this. Don‘t let him destroy you. 🕊
Your understanding of this has been so helpful to me. I went no contact and then broke that by engaging with her vile text messages. I am stronger now and can handle her with an understanding that she will never change. I have accepted that and am at peace finally. She stopped contacting me in October of 2018. I sent her a birthday card and a mothers day gift for my own benefit... To say to myself that I am in control of my own life and decisions and she doesn't scare me anymore. Why do you suppose she has gone silent for nearly 8 months? Has she given up? Has she softened? No reaction to my contact with her is very strange. Normally she would jump at the opportunity to connect with me so she can belittle.me.
You are Blessed to find out early what you were dealing with.I had been gone for 15 years before i found out what he was. I had never heard of the word before.
Thank you Tom, it is so good to have you back! I was crying watching this video. Yes, I feel completely alone. My narc mother always said, “there’s something wrong with you” Never gave me the time of day. Was married to the meanest narc for 21 years, divorced for 1 1/2 years. I have been in therapy for 3 1/2 years. Some days I feel like I am getting better but I still fall into episodes of such deep despair. Hanging in, but some days the pain is so intense. I only go to work,therapy and run errands. It is very hard carrying this alone. Thank God for You Tube - it is how I discovered what my ex was but more - knowing there are others like me out there helps me not feel so completely alone. Thank you, just the right video.
I like you have shut myself down from forming relationships after a series of narcissistic relationships after, in each one, declaring " enough is enough" and walking away, often losing a lot monetarily and emotionally. I was confused that I was attracting these relationships that I must be " projecting" therefore I was the problem and I must be NARC. Its only in the last year I had a deep insight of the relationship with my mother after a sickness and oncoming Dementia and result on my brother the " golden child" and watching him break down, but unfortunately becoming NARC as defence, and starting to gaslight me. I'm losing my relationship with bro which is a grieving process. Despite the difference in how we were treated I was close to him, I said I would support him but I can't carry him now he's taken to an addiction to crack, which I see as an inner manifestation of his addiction to her approval. In the last year I've started a new job in a new country,joined groups in book club and writers group, and working on project building my home. When you said you been in bed for 5 yrs nearly fell off my chair, I was in bed for 6 months and guilty every day of those by being incapacitated. My mother gave me her deathbed confession, but didn't die, and I had to carry that and it did my head in till I fell off a ladder summoning myself to do some work, but at least it gave me the courage to ask new friends for help, even if it was just to foot a ladder. I read a book recently that perfectly reflected relationship between mother and son like my mum and brother, and feel so bloody lucky for my humble starting again.
Wow I've been by myself with my yougest son since leaving my ex narcissist. My oldest son who's 18 is in the army. I have spent the last year healing from 12 yrs of abuse. When I first left and as time went on, my body went through changes. It was like I was stuck in fight or flight for 12 yrs and now my body was actually able to relax and have peace. I've gotten close to God my creator and I can't help but think that God let that happen to me for a reason. Still to this day my ex will call and message me through out the night drunk and crying asking me to come back and he loves me. It's been 2 years and every night he drinks which is 5 out of 7 I am getting messages at 2,3,4,5 in morning. The only reason I can't block him is because my son goes over there most weekends and I can't block just in case he really needed to get in touch. .... But 12 long years of mental, physical, spiritual abuse and now I realize he was taking me away from God. I truly believe he has the Jezebel spirit. I've rambled enough but I enjoy your videos and it has really helped me through the healing process. Godbless 💜
I remember the exact moment that my soul, literally, said "I'm done with those people." Those people were my family. They had treated me, for no reason, with utter contempt my whole life, with degradation, dismissiveness, looking down at me, doubting every word I said to them. I looked over at my sister and mother in a car and I was in another car. The highway split and I was going one way, they another. They were looking at me with disgust, almost. I was actually in the middle of doing them a favor. I had done nothing to deserve this look, in fact the opposite. Most people would have thanked me, smiled and waved. They just stared like I was a piece of crap. And then I realized, in that moment, that I would always be that piece of crap in their eyes and mind, nothing more, no matter how many things I did for them, no matter how good I was, how helpful, how kind, how empathetic. My soul and mind and body said, "Enough!" I drove their dogs up to their house and said goodbye to them. The dogs knew, they sensed, I would never come back. They reacted hysterically and barked like crazy. I told them as quietly and as kindly as possible I would miss them, but had to go. That was 20 years ago. I don't regret that decision for one second.
I’m so sorry that you and others went through this at such an early age and that it s was physical, as well. I’ve been fortunate that the majority of it started last year and that I’m in my fifties. Plus, there were markers that really had nothing to do with me. At least not directly. So, while I’ve had a lot of sadness, depression and anger, there was an easy, identifiable demarcation line that let me know that I was not the problem. So, I never had low self-esteem, other than to generally look over the course of my life and wonder why 4 parents (a mother who had 3 marriages) just couldn’t seem to care about me ultimately, even if I didn’t feel and experience it until this late stage. But parents are just people - often broken, like anyone else. Often times, broken means crazy and also hating you.
Thank you, Tom. The energy and dedication that you pour into your videos leaves me speechless. Have to say, I have actually heard from my ex-NPD words to the effect that no one will want you, you are going to be alone the rest of your life, you'll be sitting in your home by yourself, etc. etc. etc. It's comical in the sense that they all read from the same book. I don't believe any of those things, fortunately, but he has implanted a HUGE RED FLAG in my mind for any future long-term relationship. I stay away from commitments... just keep it friendly (and safe).
Hello. It has been a long time since I have seen your videos on RU-vid. Just want to say Thank You so much for understanding what I have gone through all of my life. Thank You for your kindness. Thank You for saving my sanity. Thank you for the encouraging words. I also wish you peace.
i appreciate your videos so much sir. From Canada you have helped me so much over the years. i made the mistake of contacting one of my narcissists over the holidays. same song and dance. they never change.
Another really great video, Tom. Concerning online support, this Narcissism Survivor channel has been the best for me so far. I feel like I can open up here, and all my soul brothers and soul sisters here automatically know where I'm coming from, and I have never been attacked here. Not so on Facebook; I've had to leave 2 groups so far there. In these groups I got attacked, and there were actually more narcissistic qualities than not being displayed, and they were NOT the safe places they actually claimed to be. They were tainted. They did not have the balance that this channel has. I'm still looking through both media and in my personal life though, and wow it'd be an absolute miracle to have someone actually in my life that I could break the ice with and be safe.
Fake book is literally infested with narcs. I would stay far away from that mess. Fake people posting fake pictures of their fake "wonderful" lives so they can collect lots of fake friends. No thanks. I was never on Fakebook. I knew from the get go it wasn't for me.
This is how I feel right now. After months of work... I am really okay with myself but I don't want to risk my hard work by having a toxic person slip under the radar. And that's okay with me for the minute. But I hate the feeling of not having nice people in my life. I have been told that the time will come when the right people will show up. Stay strong everyone.
Once again thank you Tom, I appreciate you very much and want to tell you, JESUS is healing me and still is of all the emotional hurt my mother caused. He is the answer.
