Hi. Are you alright? 2:10

Really hope you're ok ❤️

The question is; how many of them are actually on the dark side, and you're not even aware of it?

Thank you for the straight forward and real message. I been bullied years from my narassist sister . I didht realize hiw dangerous she is but she us very dangerous. I am going limited contact as my very elderly mother lives with me and she can see my mother but i am taking many strategies in place and much more awareness now

I'm usually really nice to people but when somebody sends me some crazy scary messageI didn't mean it I'll let God deal with it but I got so angry and wished all kinds of things cuz some weirdo I don't even know who it was sent me a junk mail in the email threatening me and completely inappropriate stuff and I just start thinking horrible thoughts how about them why would somebody send someone an email like that for no reason it was junk mail God please forgive me I was mad

The ONLY thing missing in this video was my famiLIE’S name👍👌🤣🤦🏻‍♀️🤮

And to think of all the people who've told me to forgive and forget.

In our family the Golden Child’s children were treated as extra-special heirs compared to the rest of the grandchildren and great-grandchildren.

Money, recognition, power...describes my Golden Child brother perfectly.

Thanks

That book is right here on RU-vid, audiobook. It's wonderful! Thank you!

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It's very difficult for me to feel any sympathy for my Golden Child older sister. Especially when she sucked up all of the resources. Especially she when she piled on. I was getting beaten and neglected and she loved it. As an adult, she told me that I was the reason why our father was an alcoholic. I was the reason why our mom struggled with her weight. Me. If I'd just been a better kid, our family would have been happy. She is an entitled, spoiled-rotten, demanding, controlling, competitive rage-a-holic now. Just like our alcoholic father.

Thanks Tom much love.

A kernel of truth wrapped around a popcorn of lies. That’s how they move. Thank you. 💖

Narcisstic mother father and now brither. The golden child. I'm so so done! Its made me so sick and deeply unwell. I can't take any of it anymore. Goodbye family forever and looking forward to seeing the funerals.... Not in a evil way.... I need this evil gone from my life! Forever gone!

Theirs often a religious element that these narcissists use as well

Thank you for this video. Was business partners with a narcissist for 15 years. Stole everything from me. Millions and millions of dollars. Had to start over. I walked away. With nothing and was the best thing ever happened to me. Took a few years but I rebuilt and most of all found happiness. Your words are true they are thiefs. They rob you of anything they can. Including your own confidence. They are empty inside

Informative advice.

A lot of us go through this. You're not alone!

Sorry I didn't see this sooner. Let us know how you are doing. Several years ago your videos helped me a lot.

I’m the eldest = scapegoat/slave. Younger bro = GC

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This is exactly what happened to me. My ex husband was a covert narcissist who drove me to a state of such despair and hopelessness with his abuse, that I attempted suicide. Fortunately I survived, but then I had to endure four month of a custody battle as my ex husband claimed I was “crazy” and an “unfit” mother. The whole ordeal was torture and he used our son to punish me. He is a very dangerous person who should be in prison. The extent of his abuse was horrific and unconscionable.

My grandparents were narcissists. They triangulated my mom and her brother. They left 2/3 of the estate to my uncle and 1/3 to my mom. They made my uncle the executor. He hated my mom due to triangulation so he kept her part for my sister and I. I stood up to my uncle telling him he's enmeshed. That upset him so he gave me less than my sister. My mom, a cluster b borderline ( my uncle was the golden child narcissist), married my father a narcissist ( borderline attract narcissists) and had my sister and I. My parents got divorced and my sister became the golden child and myself the scapegoat. My narcissist father married another narcissist accountant woman who is malignant and very cheap and hoards money. She has my dad on a tight leash. Now my father is dying and because I'm the scapegoat I was written out of the will and my sister is inheriting half a million dollars. Lol😂

I broke off contact with my mother over 20 years ago. I'm the family scapegoat and she's an emotional sadist. She is now 74 and probably quite lonely. I never received an apology or remorse from her, or any sign that she was really warmly interested in my life and would like to be involved. Two years ago, I suddenly received a Christmas card saying that I should come and visit her on Christmas Eve and there would be potato salad and sausages. Nothing more. She made a comment to my grown-up daughter implying that she had written me a letter of reconciliation. That was a lie.

They are demons

You have to live it to understand it. I will never take any opinion on narcissism from someone who did not live it or experienced it, period.

The narc mother will bait me when we are alone, never in front of my siblings. She will only abuse me in private .

Why does nobody else see how devious and downright evil they are?? My mom is the most toxic person I have ever met yet she is there at church each morning and does a lot of volunteer work. Makes me sooo angry that most sees her real self

Wish I saw this 7 years ago...

Went no contact on my sister then found out she has pancreatic cancer. I just felt relief. Then guilt for feeling relief. Apparently she had a successful operation so now I don’t know what I feel.

I subbed you. That was fantabulous ☺️💯

It felt like hot gas entered my chest. It was pragmatic. Resources. Time: energy. Emotion. Brutal. They steal a moment in time. An emotion. They smuggle and traffic in false information. They play angles, look past facts, and ignore concerns and needs.

You are a handsome, well spoken man. Thank you for sharing because you just laid out 56 years of terror at the hands of my family. The way you described the triangulation and how they control information (which to them is lying).

Thank you. I feel better.

Tom, how are you doing? You've helped me sooo much, and I have been praying for you! 🙏 🕊🕊💜💜💜

You must hear this all the time, but here we go again. "Its as if youre telling my story"

I’m the scapegoat…oldest of 2f followed by 2m, GC was 1st born male. The whole thing was a nightmare… I left London when I was 21 in 1989, and still live in Perth, Western Australia in 2024.

My dad gave me “gifts” from the pantry one year as “punishment” for not using the gift card he gave me the previous year to a crappy store I’ve never once expressed interest in. The gifting is real weird, man.

💔 facts.

I am absolutely cemented in my decision to never reconnect with my lunatic mother figure.

You’re 1000% right. Thank you for this!

Now there are videos on RU-vid of narcissists telling psychologist that narcissist are being stigmatized by society all because society is waking up to these monsters.

My older sister was a golden child of my widowed Narc mom, but she also could not escape the wrong decision of her and now she is Narc to me

The same point holds for reconnecting with narcissistic fathers. Just saying...

Satan is evil to the grave. My mother won't stop breathing and being evil😮

Many thanks for sharing with us. It makes a lot of senses.

You are amazing!

Thanks again