LET YOURSELF BE HAPPY! | STOP SABOTAGING YOUR RELATIONSHIPS |Stephanie Lyn Coaching 

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I’m creating red flags that aren’t there. I am so traumatized from my past that I don’t know how to be in a healthy relationship so I just bring the toxicity from my past with me. I hate this. Thank you for this video

Things we do to self-sabotage the relationship: 1. Over-thinking 2. Imagining fear-based scenarios 3. Failing to differentiate between fear and intuition 4. Failing to resolve unhealed wounds 5. Unessecarily picking fights 6. Nitpicking 7. Picking at your partner's flaws 8. Withdrawing from your partner/relationship 9. Not knowing what you want

Yes over thinking is the death of relationships

Definitely needed this!!! I've been over thinking and over analyzing EVERYTHING lately. I'm learning to trust again and it's been hard.

I feel like this is a turning point in my life. I've done this in EVERY relationship ive ever had and could never explain it. I finally found "the one" for me and i still do it, but now I know what's going on and I am going to get rid of it... once and for all.

I am in the best relationship of my life with an incredibly loving man. The attraction, the banter, everything is there, but I still find myself nitpicking and letting fear take hold. This video helps so much! Thank you!

I am such a huge overthinker and I think it comes from emotional neglect. I was often left alone to sort my own feelings out so I coped by exploring as many scenarios as I could. I don't know how to not overthink, so it helps for me to tell a trusted friend and ask them to point out when I'm overthinking. I've been diving deep into attachment theory this year and it feels like every wound is finally coming up to the surface to be healed. I really hope that one day soon, I'll finally feel more secure and open to an emotionally available partner.

Great topic! This is a struggle for many people today. As an empath I tend to overthink a lot.

I am literally crying in my office. This described so much of me that I never realized existed. Thank you because now that I know the issue I can work to fix it

i needed this. it’s hard to let yourself be happy with things that have proven themselves to be good things, when you’ve been hurt in the past, etc. it’s a process. thank you for this.

"is this someone I can learn about love with?" and "what is this thought, or what are these thoughts protecting me from feeling?"

Yes I have associated relationships with pain. I nitpick and pick fights a lot. I notice I do it when the relationship progresses, and the relationship falls apart.

If something doesnt make sense, I will overthink it UNTIL it makes sense. And usually it will put the pieces together.

This definitely describes whats been going on with me. I'll get the girl, she falls head over heels, and then I find a way to push her away. In my last relationship, I created an environment where she didn't feel comfortable enough to be vulnerable with me because I displayed behavior that didn't allow her to feel safe expressing her inner most thoughts and she would shut down. Although I loved her, I didn't put those feelings on full display the way that I should've. I was afraid of getting real close and over time it pushed her out the door

You literally saved my relationship and saved me thank you so much

I'm in tears. I see my fears and overthinking. Your videos helped me leave a narcissist. Now I've met someone who I feel so good with...but I'm scared and overthinking. I don't want to push away a good thing. You are helping me so much. You're helping me see how I sabotage. Thank you from the bottom of my heart. You're changing the world ♥️

This sounds like exactly what I am doing right now in my current relationship. Sometimes I feel so out of control.

I fell into this trap and ended up pushing my partner away. I’ve recognized these issues and am actively working to live a life of trust and grace which has helped my anxiety a lot. I just hope we can have another chance to really let our relationship play out without these barriers.

You just cleared up the difference between fear and intuition so perfectly for me. I used to have such clear intuition, and then all of the pain I've experienced got jumbled up in it, and it's been heartbreaking and confusing and lonely not knowing which is which. Thank you so much. Thank you so, so much.

I got married and ( was in the safest stable relationship in my life) and did this the first 3 years of our marriage. This is incredibly real. I love how you differentiated fear based thoughts vs intuition.

*People come and go, even families are often toxic. Everyone disappoints everyone on some level, in a point. There's always me and my spirit that gets myself back on track. I can't say I'm happy but I know I can survive no matter who hurts my emotions. And that is SOMETHING!*

Damn, i really needed this. I‘ve been feeling lots of these things in my current relationship and I was wondering what the hell was going on inside of me, because there wasn‘t any „reason“. Especially the part about the relationship evolving and the withdrawing. wow

I’m literally in tears I’ve been doing this for the past year! I want to get better so we decided to put things on pause to become more secure with ourselves. I can’t imagine my life without him but I’m so scared of committing out of fear of something going wrong. This really helped me identify a lot of my behaviors that I couldn’t quite explain

It's absolutely insane that you're talking about this this week! ... Thank you a million times. I fall into the fearful avoidant attachment and I just met an amazing man but im terrify and he kinda notice how I was trying to sabotage everything, and I don't know how to stop panicking when he is not around bc im afraid that any second he will break up with me.

I keep watching this video to remind myself to stop sabotaging relationships and i realized that this video was posted on my birthday, wow God sent

I don't believe my overthinking sabotages me I think it actually protects me. I feel joy happiness and peace by myself✌️ 💛😁‼️

You called me out within the first few minutes. So true. I’ve literally been like “maybe I should break up with him” simply over things I’ve thought about from anxious overthinking. My brain is my worst enemy

I am succhhhhhhh an overthinker and I find that I do it a lot at work and in reference to my new relationship. I was in a really toxic relationship for over 11 years and now that I'm in a happy, healthy relationship, my mind really tries to pick it apart, which in turn leads to doubts that have no warrant. My Mom suggested I focus on something that's "easy" to think about instead. For instance, she will visualize going to a familiar place (a store in her town she knows every isle to) and it helps her. For me, I picked the first time I hung out with my significant other after not seeing him for years. It was just an easy, fun filled day. We fished, laughed and bonded and this technique REALLY helps me. Hope it helps some of you guys too!

Codependency and needing approval was on the nail for me. Thank you

Self love is important and ingore him back

Oh my goodness. I feel like you just summed up in 15 mins what I've tried to understand about myself over decades. I feel like I owe you a lifetime of gratitude for this information! Thank you so much for sharing your knowledge!

So grateful I found your channel. I was married to Narcissist for 5 years separated for 3 years before the divorce was final 8 years total. This channel is amazing and totally inspires me to want to help others see what is going on in their relationships too. Thank you so much for your time.

I do all of this and more; know I do it, and continue to, while hating myself for it afterwards. I wish you would do a video on how to heal one's inner wounds.

Very nice explanation about fear versus intuition. I always had doubt whether I was feeling intuition or fear and I was mostly confused about my next action to that situation. When I stand near to a Toxic person I feel all my energy drained out and something inside warns me to take a step back. That's my intuition speaking and I always obey that. And Fear is a natural thing which comes from our own over thinking which stunts our growth. So Intuition is a knowing deep inside and Fear is a result of a thinking. Now my doubts got cleared by you. Thanks alot Stephanie🌷

WOW! This is exactly what I am dealing with. I thank you so much for this video! Just wish I came across your video before I let my self sabotaging destroy a good relationship

I am an overthinker. Your knowledge and ability to identify my vulnerability amazes me.

Thank you for this video. I'm starting to feel happy in my first healthy relationship, and I had processing dreams all night last night. I needed this reminder against self-sabotage. So, thank you!

Absolutely went through this with someone I truly unconditionally loved. From what felt like nowhere, she would self sabotage and overthink and rely on incorrect intuition in what was a beautiful relationship. She would fear scenarios which would not happen, which would lead to her stonewalling me which then actually lead to me to become distressed and desperate for an ounce of affection or emotion in return. Ended in a pathetic row. Broke my heart :(

I am shaking while watching this. From start to finish you are NAILING me! I am so thankful I stumbled across this today. I am desperately trying to heal myself so I stop self sabotaging. Thank you! 💗

I am a Man here. I suffered these abuses from family members, mother, sister, brother in law. I was the scapegoat child so pretty much had no-one to go to for direction. No one listened. I eventually developed anger issues and I let it take over. It was like an awakening realizing I was being used as a punching bag. such a powerful energy I allowed to take over. I exploded on family, developed trust issues, became defensive at them whenever they wanted to play dictator as they were narcissistic. That explosion gave me back my power, however at times, whenever I feel some kind of disrespect at a degree, I get upset. Even though now they're all trying their best. Their controlling nature just irritates me. The worst thing that could've happened to me was being raise d with out a male figure, but ive figured it out myself. I must surrender the emotions and be happy. find a good tribe of men if you're a man and a good tribe of women of you're a women.

Just broke up with my boyfriend because of fear *sigh* I think I ruined it with him....I caused him so much pain and headache and all I feel is regret but the only thing I can do is be better for myself and hopefully for the next relationship....

It's so sad but recently it happened to me. I was so afraid, and I'm regretting it

Thank you for spending your time helping thousands of pplz you are truly a blessing.

Yes this was me after i finally got bk with this man after 4 plus apart ..all kind of fears pop up ..picking fights ..or i haven't heard from everyday ..my brain wonders negatively ..i needed this message thank u

So positive! Such a necessary message for people who want to move beyond the belief that all relationships and marriages are toxic or bad!!

I watch this video every few weeks. I’ll get into a rut and watch this and be reminded to just make my brain chill lol. Super thankful.

I just met a woman and I started to overthink and sabotage. I got past that hurdle, how can I show her I am serious and how can I maintain that bbn positive outlook?

I love this ..Im actually in a relationship and I think I am sabotaging it...excatly what you said..and I think I know what I want ..however fear is taking over..my partner keeps telling me not to over think..Im tginking he hasn't gone thru what I went thru so ..he doesn't really understand what I'm feeling...I love him so much just the thought of loosing him kills me

Woooow!! I am an empath...I can't begin to explain how much good I feel when I listen to you....you are a breath of fresh air....thank you... I am also an over thinker,I can't tell how many times I have sabotaged myself...but I have learned so much from you.i will play all your videos...I know I will learnt alot

This was the most helpful video I have ever watched.

Oh my gosh! You have no idea how much these videos have been helping me! My girlfriend introduced me to your vids and I swear they are the best thing that could’ve ever happened to me. I was all of these things, and I never seen it! I was an emotional abuser! But now that I see what I was and still am I am working hard now to make changes based on the knowledge from your videos! Thank you so much for sharing your knowledge this way, I would’ve never known and I definitely would’ve sabotaged my relationship! Once again thank you so much!!

I’m sending you infinite blessing you angel you!

Always a pleasure seeing a new video from you. So insightful!

Very good. I forgot all about how much overthinking can affect my stress level and skew my perception. Very good. Thank you for reminding me of that ugly monster that clogs my reason. Really good presentation

Your videos help me out everyday! You are so amazing! Keep up the good work lady! 🖤🖤🖤

This is exactly what I needed to hear! Thank you!!! :)

Needed this. Thank you so so much!

YOU ARE SO GOOD AT WHAT YOU DO!!! I WISH I COULD PAY YOU TO BE MY THERAPIST.

Congratulations!!!! 🎉 excited about your next 100K! I think it has been 4 years with you and still you help me see better each time I watch you. Thanks 🙏🏽🦋

This hit home so much. I'm literally crying

You deserve so many more subs. This is the most help I’ve ever had

Can't stress how much your videos have opened my eyes...

I love your videos! I can’t thank you enough for making them!

Thank you Stephanie! ❤ Much needed reminders!

Love your videos. You always hit the nail on the head. You have a good understanding of people, lives and situations. Thank you!

I can’t even begin to explain how much this resonated with me. I NEEDED to hear this! Thank you for that!

this is the greatest explanation of this I've ever heard

I love this , so helpful to hear on my self love journey!

this video was awesome! she described this struggle sooo well

Thank you so much for this, this literally opened my eyes in so many ways.

Probably the most accurate and helpful video I've seen in helping me with my relationship issues. I'm learning so much about myself, Thank you Stephanie. I'm enjoying all your videos.

I needed this more than ever. Thank you for putting this nugget of truth out there.

Best channel on you tube for personal growth. Thanks Steph

Lol. You made me giggle when you said “can I deal with this person’s toe 🤔”. I love and appreciate your insight! 🙂

Thank you so much!!! You helped me deal with hard a relationship I got myself into and how to move on with my life. You really helped me thank you very much.

That was exactly what I needed to hear right now. Amazing! Thank you so much!

I don't know how you do that but you almost always talk about the subjects that I need to hear about on that week! Thank you so much! I would love to have a free section with you!

I’ve honestly never found such a video that I’ve related to. Thank you so much for making me understand myself and what I’m going through.

Loved this video. Have a much better understanding of why I was so hurtful in previous relationships! Thank you Stephanie, you’re wonderful, and I appreciate you so much. 🌺

Thank you, Ms Lyn to share all with us!

There’s literally no other video like this one. Super helpful thank you!!

Omgosh!! There is my answer! Scaring how much that applies to the way I’ve been behaving or living or thinking!! Thank you for this message! 🌺🌺🌺🌺🌺

This is exactly what I’ve been experiencing, and I’ve never been able to explain it - thank you so much 💙

I really enjoy watching your videos. Fascinating how you can describe these things so well. You have really helped me to come forward in my therapy. Good work.

Thank you!! Your coaching came in to my life when I needed it most!! You are speaking exactly what I go through!

how are you so good in every topic you talk about! you are truly gifted! I watch your videos over and over again and I always get so much out of it. when ever im going through something I go back to certain videos that help me to cope with that specific thing im dealing with. I even recommended your videos to my therapist and told her how amazing you are! lots of love

I had NO IDEA how much I needed this video. THANK YOU SO MUCH 🙏

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your videos are so helpful! I feel like you are so knowledgeable and you explain things so well.

Thank You!!!! All of your videos are amazing! Thanks for helping to heal me. Means the world to me ❤️

Great video, fear is a bummer! Overcoming is essential to healing!

You’re sooo good for my thoughts and feelings. Simple and straightforward without all the theory, just instruction for getting things DONE!!! 👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼💕

Love this and so true. In my 50s now and my sister and I both did this with relationships in younger years. I see my daughter doing it now and ao I shared with her. 🤞🏼Hoping she really listens and takes action for self healing before she totally pushes her wonderful bf away.

Whoa Whoa Whoa. This video is beyond spot on. Recently ruined my relationship due to this. Praying one day it will all work our as I feel so bad ❤️

This was so helpful! The way you broke it down really resonated with me. Thank you so much.

I've always had a rough relationship with food and my body. The thing that really helped me was Forwago. Now I workout three times a week, and I started to eat much healthier. And the best thing about it is that I don't hate doing it but actually enjoy it.

Your videos have saved my relationships and life! Thank you so much, i wish i could tell you this in person and hug you. Thank you thank you Stephanie

What an amazing site. Stephanie, you are so real, your videos and topics are bang on. Thank you!

Thank you so much for this Stephanie 🌹