AD | Go to expressvpn.com/jammidodger and find out how you can get 3 months free! Apparently LGBT+ erasure is still rampant, I react to some funny examples
When I was little I had that gay girl clichè “friendship” that was very dramatic and lowkey relationship roleplaying with my bff (girl). I recently talked to her after years and asked “do you listen to girl in red?” And she was like “what’s that? Is it a tv show?” AND IM AN OBLIVIOUS GAY SO I DONT KNOW IF SHES STRAIGHT AND DOESNT KNOW OR GAY AND DOESNT KNOW OR JUST DOESNT FEEL COMFORTABLE TELLING ME AAAAA
I’ve been traumatised by this thing bc I dated a girl who was more affectionate to her male best friend than me, and she claimed it was bc “she’d always be more affectionate to friends than whoever she’s dating” but now they’re dating and just as affectionate....
my mom does that with literally everyone tho. "oh who's this? *smirk* do u like him?" "oh who's this? *smirk* do u like her?" "oh who's this? *smirk* do u like them?"
When you realize that you’re actually bi, and not all women are extremely attracted to other women...after you already are with the person you’re gonna marry and he’s a guy... like I adore him, but I am sad that I’ll never be with a girl.
*My parents: “you aren’t bi, you’re either lesbian or straight”* *Me: has boyfriend* *My parents: you’re straight* *Me: also likes girls* *My parents: no* btw we broke up last month :/
Back when I thought I was bi (I'm actually ace, but I'm panromantic) my mom always told me I couldn't be because I was only ever in relationships with guys. Well, joke's on her, now I don't date anyone so she can't erase my ace-ness.
my grandmother/legal guardian growing up has recently made up her mind on that. pretty much that idea. that its a phase. i have not opened about the fact i have transmasc insecurities because i was told by a cis gay dude who was only a few years older than me that untill i fully tranistion, im just fetishizing- being trans i think(?) but my soul is beautiful and even did that heart shape with his fingers when he did so. I have NO idea how she would react to the majority of my LGBTQA+ problems such as -where i am on the aroace spec? -am i bi or pan? neither? -i swear im trans but am i r e a l l y through? -as someone who is 100% preop can i really allow myself to claim that im Achillic? Or use the male gay flag? -mom thinks im actually cis and has already tried talking me out of transitioning
Guys: literally kissing- living together- had an adopted kid- decorated with rainbows- literally screamed “damn bro we are so gay” *kisses husband* everyday Historians: Yea they were really good friends
Achilles: literally goes on a murdering rampage after Patroclus was killed, requests that when he dies his ashes are mixed with Patroclus’s, is depicted as lovers in literally every work Everyone,even Shakespeare: yeah they’re lovers Historians, literary people: NOPE but look at this friends, comrades, almost brother like
@@jordanmohn4824 Laurens was actually a prisoner of war at the time and he wasn’t allowed to leave Pennsylvania, so he couldn’t make it to the wedding, which was in New York.
@@elyseking2566 Thanks for the information! From what I had seen was that he was freed in November of 1780, a month before Hamiltons wedding. I of course do not live in America so I am not too familiar with the geography, and I do not know the speed of travel at the time, though there are other possible reasons it could not have happened, but if you look at the letters between Laurens and Hamilton they were pretty raunchy.
@@lauraguthoff6474 I think emisor's comment was meant to be a joke as that statement is still correct even though the bisexual boyfriend checks all the boxes
Coming out to my parents: What I said : “I’m bi!” What they heard : “I’m a lesbian!” Years later I’ve got a boyfriend and my dad just thinks I’ve gotten over a “lesbian phase” and.... no I definitely still like girls, thanks.
I feel demis must be the most frustrated with that, because when someone tells them the " aw,you just haven't found the right person" , they can't entirely rebate it, cause it is technically true.
My Mum *cried* and said she felt like I had been lying to her because I had only dated guys... I've still only dated guys... But I'm still pan... This is why I don't talk about my sexuality to anyone and just let people assume I'm straight 🤷♀️
@@nessyness5447 Yes thanks that is precisely what happened. But it's so infuriating, because it carries with it the sentiment of "you're not demi, just unlucky" subsequently invalidating you. Thing is, most of the time it's not done with bad intent, but it still hurts.
Achilles: when I die mix my ashes with Patroclus. I want to be together with him even after death. Historians: There is a perfectly straight explanation for this, I swear.
my bro: "If you keep doing that you wont get a boyfriend." me: "then ill just get a girlfriend i guess" my bro: "But they're a girl?" me: "Just coz you cant get a girlfriend doesnt mean i cant bro"
Me: *comes out as lesbian due to my internalised biphobia* Me a couple years later: *accepts it and comes out as bi* Everyone: oh thank god you're straight now
Sidenote but I'm really happy to hear someone else use the term "internalised biphobia" because I think so many if us bisexuals have it and no-one ever talks about it
@@rorolilred Right??? How many bisexuals do you think go through life never realising they're bisexual? I reckon that's where a LOT of these people assuming that sexuality's a "choice" are coming from. They just never realised that the reason they perceive it as a "choice" is because they're actually not straight and never were.
Sometimes in my sixth grade history class if we found a passage in a biography where someone was described as having "a good friend/being lifelong friends" we would yell out "gay erasure" and our teacher turned it into a competition of getting candy for each "lifelong friend" we could find. 10/10 would recommend
Reminds me of a comedian I saw. "I'm not gay, but I'm very pro gay. And it's because of my brother. He's never said anything to us, he never came out, but I'm pretty sure he's gay. And it took me longer than it should have to figure that out. He's lived with the same guy in the same apartment for 5 years. It's a two bedroom apartment, one bedroom is an office. And for like 3 years I was like 'Maybe Dan sleeps on the couch?'"
Emily Dickinson: scorns men and marriage and writes countless passionate love letters to her girlfriend Susan for 40 years History: a saintly poet recluse who just never found the right man
@USCAN14 I'll be honest, my "historical proof" is "that's the way they told it in Wild Nights with Emily." I think they met at a party that both Emily and William were throwing? Maybe? (Also sourced from the movie. And likely misremebered.)
@@tressamccoy plot twist: the brother knew everything and he married susan so she and emily could be closer, he was actually gay so it served him as a cover too, it was all planned.
Ancient greek history class: achiles and patroclus were just very close friends. I only had one teacher who ever acknowledged how gay ancient greek was.
history class: *reading a book about Aristotle and his life* teacher: *skips the entire section where Aristotle and his acquiantances talk about having sex with boys*
The "People should stop erasing gay people" VS "We should normalise friends showing affection" resonates so much to me. I'm gay and my best friend is a straight guy and we're very affectionate to each other. That confuses people on so many levels (including my boyfriends, his girlfriends, people we're hitting on when we're together...)
Yeah, society has a big problem of sexualizing almost all forms of affection which is why it has taken me until 27 to find out i'm ace. Because my mind went " ok i like this guy( romantically) and i like hugs, cuddles , caresses, and i want that from him...and everyone seems to think that has to lead to sex...so maybe that is sexual attraction?"but when i actualy have engaged into sex( i am generally neutral to it)7 it was like.. " meh" you know , like " yeah, this tv show is entertaining but i would not be up for a marathon or to watch daily( maybe monthly at much)". So i was super confused as to why i liked and craved what " leads to sex" but not so much the act in itself. And then after getting more informed in the ace spectrum and finding about aesthetic and sensorial attractions, realizing where i fit in the aces. I realized to that really i never craved sexual contact, is just that i craved non sexual physical affection...but any kind of physical afffection is so sexualized that i too, thought it was sexual. Had a friend who also thought he was hetero for a while because he liked to be very affectionate with female friends and found shakira to be pretty, spoiler, he is gay. Seriously, let's normalize and stop sexualizing all forms of physical affection , it confuses people.
@@nessyness5447 I think I may've been mistaking platonic feelings towards friends for either romantic or sexual attraction, largely due to the fact that I was very much in denial of the possibility I could be aroace (I pretty much knew that I had to be one and just didn't know which) and laos feeling like I couldn' be ace because I'd had wet dreams before. I'm honestly still unsure because I don't know if what i felt was platonic or not because I don' know what attraction feels like. If not, I'm either greyromantic or greysexual. Also, people really need to realize that there are tons of different kinds of attraction, and those kinds of attractions then get grouped up into subcategories like romantic, sexual, platonic, or aesthetic attraction.
My parents used to tell me that my aunt lived with her female best friend in a one bedroom house. A few years later when I was a teenager I realized my aunt was married to her “best friend”. I was so annoyed at my parents. Why didn’t they just tell me? They said they wanted to “protect” me and I was just like “from WHAT exactly?”
pearl: (literally sings several songs about how much she loved rose) people: she just misses her as a friend steven: (sings a song about how he wants greg and pearl to get along better) people: omg are they dating now
Sorry but I can't agree. Shapire and Ruby are lesbians. The case of Pearl it's just pansexual erasure. She's based on David Bowie, and was meant to be pan. But, they just don't, and I was so annoyed. At least Sadie was pan.
@@eldron29-a54 i never said that pearl was a lesbian. im just stating that its obvious how pearl doesnt feel any romantic/sexual attraction towards greg, and people still thought that them making up with each other meant they were in a romantic relationship, and when pearl sang about how much she loved and missed rose multiple times, people said it was platonic.
Omfg there was absolutely nothing platonic about how Pearl saw Rose. That show is very 🌈 and whoever says otherwise has either not watched it, is blind, or is in denial.
My cousin is a bit clueless but so adorable when it comes to the community. The other day he asked me what the gender neutral term for king or queen was. He said, “is it supreme leader?” And honestly, now I can’t get supreme leader Elizabeth out of my head 😂
Power Move: Ask a straight couple if they’re roommates or friends. Call their wedding a “friendship ceremony”. Disclaimer: This is just a joke. Don’t actually do this.
A person on the internet: I love this female character from a show, I wish I could marry her Me: yeah me too A person on the internet: bUT YOU'RE A GIRL?!?!?!?!?! Me: uhh thanks for letting me know, I was aware of that actually
5:35 Me with the entire concept of non-canon gay shipping. On one hand, representation matters, and you should totally headcanon any representation you want to. On the other hand, we need more representation of healthy, affectionate friendships, especially between two men, that isn't immediately labeled as gay.
right. I sometimes think misogyny affects the way society often views sexuality. if two guys even get 'too close' in some instances, that's often labeled as 'gay' but if two girls literally fuck people think 'oh damn they're good friends'. it's why I think male bisexuals often get labeled as "gay but saying they're bi" while bi women are called "experimenting" and I'm sure this also plays somehow into the lives of bi nonbinary people as well. through the gaze of society, everything has to revolve around men, apparently, is what I'm saying.
IceFire are you being satirical or offensive. I am thinking you are being satirical but I have a hard time with that so if you could clarify that be great.
i was watching this next to my mum and she looked over and said 'is that jamie?' and i said 'yeah' and she said 'i recognised his yellow chair' edit: this happened again just now lmao
Yeah I thought that too. We have family friends who are white parents and (adopted) Samoan kids. While they didn't have any bio kids, if they had, the Palangi/ Pakeha child would have been siblings to their parents' Samoan children.
the title reminding me of the teacher at my school who said gay ppl don’t exist, so me and my gay friend got up and left. the teacher got in trouble 🙈🙈
“LGBT+ people do not exist” Me: “mr stark, I don’t feel so good...” Edit: uhhh I hate to be “that person” but wow, the most likes I’ve ever gotten on a comment is like 50...
*sees two people of one gender kissing* Yeah, they're just friends. Yup. Not gay. Really really straight. *sees two people of opposite genders existing near each other for like five seconds, if even that long* COUPLE! BOYFRIEND AND GIRLFRIEND! OH MY GOD, ITS A SUPER ROMANTIC DATE!
my dad literally said it's not gay for women (not really a girl, closeted enby, but AFAB) to be attracted to women?? I can't even... what??? This idea of "women aren't bi, they're just experimenting or bicurious but will ALWAYS turn out straight" really fucking pisses me off.
Blu Cherries I imagine the human manifestation of a sunny day that is jammidodger makes our types crawl out the woodwork to bask in the wholesomeness and positivity.
Me: *reads title* _Slowly disappears_ My parents: wHAT My brother: Oh so uh, yea she was bi- she told me a while ago My sister: *Why did Sammy disappear is that a magic trick?*
Fun fact about the Lesbos thing: I'm greek so when I was a kid I thought being lesbian just meant being from Lesbos and because I'd heard a lot of my classmates use lesbian as a derogatory term I just thought that for some reason we didn't like women from Lesbos. I'm now out as bi and looking back on those days is very weird.
I am a 13yo trans male and When I came out to my family most of them all excepted me and even my 5yo cousin has learned that I am a boy now and he calls me by my name and pronouns.
When I came out to my dad, he literally told me to stop lying, because gay/trans people don't exist. My mom on the other hand, purposefully misgenders both me and my boyfriend, and also said i just have to choose to be cis and straight, just like she did and I am concerned about just how deep my mom seems to be in the closet... Also, my boyfriend might read this because I'm early, so............. Hi. Edit: my bf saw it, he just sent me a screenshot ^^
I told my mom I was bisexual and she just said I was in a phase. "You didn't do anything did you?" I didn't but like that doesn't matter. Not telling any of them that In trans guy though. Make sure you and your boyfriend take care of yourselves, by the way.
@@icantplaythepiano6396 Nope, it hasn't... I stopped talking to my dad altogether and my mom... still misgenders both of us and well, I value my bf over my family, because he doesn't just stick with me because he has to.
Me: Mom, I’m a lesbian, I have a girlfriend My mom: no, you’re just really good friends. I’ve been there. I had a friend that I thought I liked and she thought she liked me, but we were just really good friends :) Me later that night:......is my mom a repressed bisexual???
This is exactly what an aunt said when she found out one of my cousins is bisexual "you don't like girls, you just admire their beauty very much. The same hapoened to me, blah blah"
@@saymon4751 sorry you’re right, honestly did think much of my comment cause I didn’t think anyone would see it😅 By the way, I’ve never heard the term polysexual, can you further explain? Is it similar to polyamory?
Having to explain to my sisters what a lesbian is every five minutes, and every other five minutes theyre asking if I have a boyfriend yet. I love them
I clicked so fast my mother couldn’t name one reason why I’m not trans. Any how are you Jamie hope you have/ had an awesome day stay safe x Edit: thank you for so many likes ❤️
Katie thank you it’s the way she was brought up weren’t it so it’s hard to put something new in her mind. I am thank you I have my supportive sister and my mates there for me using my correct pronouns and prefer name. Thank you for you virtual hug. Passing on right back 🥺😊
Before you read this, I just want to say, yes I am a trans girl. My parents check my youtube account frequently, so I can't show it on here or else they'll see. I can only watch this because I removed it from my watch history. They do know I'm trans, and they are super transphobic. Anyway, now to the point of this reply. One day, my parents gave me an EXTREMELY transphobic talk. I don't want to get into what they said, because none of you would want to hear it. After the talk, I was cracking my knuckles. Then my mom came in and she literally said "Cracking your knuckles is a manly thing to do." That was so infuriating to hear. Girls can crack their knuckles, too! She only said that as an attempt to prove why she thinks I'm a boy! After that, I was so freaking mad. It was around lunchtime, so I had to eat despite how angry I was. I got out a leftover pizza box. While I was doing that I was moving very quick and hard, to show how I was feeling. My mom said, "Oh, totally feminine movements there!" Sure those weren't feminine movements, but they weren't masculine either. They were angry movements. I was moving just how anyone who was angry would. They look for every tiny reason they can to try to be transphobic. I can't even crack my knuckles without them being transphobic! I hate it here. (Edit: Just to clarify, my pronouns are she/her.)
@@nerdlyone8539 it's true. Alan Turning was the man who had a large hand in helping create part of the technology we have today as a mathmatician and computer scientist, and he also helped crack many codes that enabled the allies to gain information about and defeat the nazis. He was openly gay, but because of the rampant homophobia and criminalization of homosexuality in his home country of england he was put on trial and forced to undergo chemical sterilization using a synthetic estrogen, and was fired from his job in the government. He was also denied entry into the united states after the conviction and his work was made highly classified. Eventually he was found dead from what is believed to be suicide with cyanide poisoning.
@@snakewithapen5489 why are people so. . And.. GAH. ISN'T GODS WHOLE FUCKING THING LOVE THY NEIGHBOR, NOT KILL THY NEIGHBOR WITH THY RIDICULOUS LEVELS OF MICRO PP HYPOCRISY?!?!
2:13 I feel like the person making that comment was purposefully making those jokes. Like, with that "Seriously though" bit after that sentence, I can't see them as being anything but that.
One of my stepsiblings is such good friends with a lesbian couple that her children call them Aunt Such & Such and Aunt So & So (I'm not posting actual ames here). My stepsister and her husband tell the kids their (honorary) aunts are roommates because the children are "too young to understand." :/
El hopefully they will eventually tell them at least. I don’t agree that they are too young but at least the parents are not in denial. It’s honestly ridiculous to be at a family function with all adults and have people be so dense. I casually mentioned something about them being a couple to one family member and they got all huffy and said I was being rude and just because they have been roommates for 20+ years doesn’t mean anything. They have a house full of cats and one has a partially shaved head of colorful hair for crying out loud (not saying straight people can’t do those things) but it’s literally like every single stereotype and yet nobody bats an eye. Ugh I’m going crazy trying to pretend to play along so I just vent on the internet
So... I'd like to suggest something if y'all are adults. Don't lay down and accept this, set limits and if they're being aggressivley homophobic or whatever the LGBT+-phobic word is, be aggressivley LGBT+. I'm sorry I uh I don't have a roomate. Do you mean my girlfriend/wife/S/O? No? Well then I have no idea what roomate you're talking about. This also works for names and pronoun changes. I'm sorry I didn't realize you were talking to me, I'm not a man/woman, I'm a [gender identity]. Also, I don't know a Patrick/Penelope, I only know [name]. Next time you need me I do respond to my name! You know, the one that I know you know. Instant regret edit: Tl;dr: GET MAD!! MAKE LIFE TAKE THE HETERONORMATY BACK!!! I DON'T WANT YOUR DAMN PREJUDICE- [you get the idea] Not-So-Instant regret edit: THIS IS ONLY FOR YERSELF GUYS, YOU DON'T TALK OVER OTHER PEOPLE MKAY
@@kiwibuddy5341 i think it’s up to the people in that relationship to make the call on what they are comfortable with. I don’t think it’s appropriate to “out” people who are telling people they are roommates, nor intervene when it’s not your situation (though I would support the aunties saying they would not like to be called roommates).
@@kokopuppy57342 Oh gosh XD No I mean if you've already come out to people and they won't respect you. Like never ever do this in someone else's place, it's not "He/she/they don't want to be called that" it has to be "I" or you're just being weird lol. I've got friends who did this, and it eventually broke relatives down enough to be open minded, which is AMAZING for them! Again, use with caution but if they're putting up a wall, don't be afraid to get a hammer.
That plus "I'm ace. I'm not attracted to men OR women." "OH. So you're a lesbian?" *headdesk* That and all the historical figures that are like... *Dresses in men's clothes from the moment they are able, long career referred to only as a man and always presenting male, retired, lived 20 more years in obscurity always using a male name, tries to take legal action so they can only be buried in a suit under their common name "Manny McGuysname"* "She was such a feminist icon! Fighting for women's inclusion! What a woman!"
and another thing, it was a literal headache trying to get my family to understand that i like girls, but, not sexually. shouts from the back: BECAUSE ASEXUALITY anygay, my parents were just being really annoying about that (talking about all the stuff about how it "isn't natural" or "you exist to have a child") like, b r u h. i don't have sexual attraction to *anyone* and i'm not waiting until marriage, and i don't *really* like the whole thought of me having that "thing" but, yeah, anyway, i hope my rant served you well. CRABITY AWAYYYYY
@@BreadCat-qj9jt You'll have to come to terms with the fact that you should stop trying to explain yourself to people that willingly deny and invalidate your feelings. I have gone through that "I don't want to have children / go through pregnancy" and MEN always tell me I'll change my mind. All I do is roll my eyes and downgrade my consideration of their opinion, because clearly they don't have enough braincells. Sometimes, some people, aren't worth the trouble, specially with asexuality... somehow people can't wrap their brains around the fact that we don't get horny for anyone. It's like they live thinking through their sex organs lmao, society is extremely obsessed with sex nowadays so I think it makes sense that they can't understand some of us don't care about it.
My mom and I recently watched Anne With An E (the new Anne of Green Gables) At the very start Aunt Josephine is visiting Diana, Anne's best friend, because her "best friend" of many years that she lived with had just passed away and she was grieving. I immediately looked at my mom and was like "that's old-time code for her being gay" and my mom didn't believe it. A few episodes later they made it explicitly clear she WAS a lesbian and I was like "See? Told you"
as a bisexual with immense anxiety couches can be the most comfortable thing when im exhausted and just plop down and sleep but they are the most uncomfortable thing when i have to wake back up lmao
Last year in six grade we had a history project, I was bisexual, and was still in the closest. My dad liked Alan Turings work and what he did so I decided to go as him I soon learned when I researched the topic and watched a movie on him with my dad he was gay,and how he died. it made me cry so much. At the end of six grade I made a scavenger hunt that ended in the closet with me standing it it with a sign saying that I was bisexual. I love them more then anything 🥺❤
My neighbor growing up was a elderly woman who had never married, when I was about 8 she met a 'good friend' who moved in with her and the two women were 'roommates' until my neighbor died years later. We were over at their house frequently and knew they only had one bedroom. I am now gay and trans (ftm) and thinking back on this told my parents they must've been lesbians and it literally blew my parents minds hahaha somehow they never figured it out. I'm just glad she finally fell in love and had a partner before she died.
My sister once said "you gotta walk straight" and I was like "but I'm not" and we just stopped, stared at each other for a good 5 seconds and then bursted into laughter.
That's reminds me of a time I was watching TV with my aunt and a commercial for some dating app came up, I don't exactly remember what she said but it was something like "blah blah blah gay agenda blah" but the thing is the ad didnt even have a gay couple in it, the girl just had short hair
I once had it the other way around. When I was 14, me and my best friend would hold hands, run through the halls of the school together and joke about being gay and being married. One time, during a weekend, this “popular” girl from our school made up a rumour about us being lesbians and girlfriends. On the next Monday we got asked by (we counted it) 32 people if we were in a relationship! (This was a lot, because our school had only 300 people on it or so) every time they asked it, also during the rest of the week, we felt very uncomfortable and (of course) said that we were just friends. They didn’t believe us and apparently they were all a bunch of homophobes, because they started to bully us and call us the f-slur for the rest of the year. :( Now, 4 years later, I came to the conclusion that I am bi. I was never in love with my friend, but still I think about that year every now and then and it still hurts. :(
Same. In high school, I pretended to be heterosexual not to get ✨hate-crimed✨ but I was still hate-crimed!!!!!!!!!!!! A guy pointed a gun at me and threatened to kill me because I was gay. Bunch of girls wrote a fake love letter where some mysterious guy wanted to date me (I knew it was 100% BS, the only thing that shocked me were the number of ppl involved). Cishet ppl would also publicly ask me if I were gay and then make homophobic jokes about me behind my back, even though I said no.
To you, your friend, and the person who replied to you, I’m very sorry that happened; none of you deserved it at all. I hope for the best, including a brighter and more fair present and future 🥺
Similar experience. And the homophobes really got to my best friend, who is a lovely person but would end up crying in the toilets. We were patient and reasonable for a few weeks, but they didn't give up hounding us, especially her. My tether ran out at that point, and the bullying stopped the moment I slammed the ringleader up against a wall during break, in front of her cronies, and asked her in all seriousness which hospital she'd like to visit... I still smile remembering the terror on that little shit's face. 😈 Some people only learn respect the hard way. Years later, my friend and I are still bffs -- she is proudly pan and I am proudly trans.
@@user-bq6lc1hk7e the f slur is f*ggot, which is also slang for cigarettes. Gay people were called that because there was once a period of time where homophobes would wrap them in rugs and set it on fire. The straights are not okay.
Greetings from italy, where we're currently studying poet Giacomo Leopardi and his "very close friend" Antonio Ranieri with whom he shared a bed, exchanged passionate letters, and in whose arms he eventually died while Ranieri kissed him on the lips. Just dudes being bros.
Girls: literally married, adopted kids, pride flag in front of house, kisses in public everyday whist screaming “WE ARE SO LESBIAN”, love each other very much Everyone: frens Guys: hug Everyone: HA! GAYY
I'm pretty sure the first post -- the wedding at Mount Rainer one -- is just somebody *making fun* of people who think lesbians are just "best friends", and the joke didn't land, because tone is hard to discern over text.
Honestly, I think it landed just fine, especially when the the next line is "But seriously though". I have no clue how it went over whoever took the screenshot and Jamie's heads.
Hey jammi, I watched you as I started to accept myself in highschool at a time where there was so much pressure on trans men to physically and medically transition. My own gas was stand of Kevin garrah and it was inescapable even in mental hospitals how bad the pressure for trans men was to medically transition. Thanks jammi, for through that time be one of the few reliable sources that gave me the education of transitioning medically without pressure I already had enough of so early into understanding myself. It's helped prevent a lot of dysphoria for myself and gave such a safe space to learn and feel understood in our community that was even against itself!
Me and my little cousin: *seeing a couple of the same sex* My cousin: are those two people best friends? Me: yes in a way, but they also love eachother a lot! So they became a couple! My cousin: oh ok, :) Me: yup :)
I like that sub, but it's far from perfect, it's often guilty of bisexual and asexual erasure, and half the posts concerning erasure turn out not to be erasure. Like, in several countries it's normal for friends to hold hands in public, and there's atleast 3 posts a week of photos of friends from those countries holding hands. The worst case I remember, was a photo of a bride and her bridesmaid (who turned out to be her sister) being posted on there, and got a tone of upvotes until people pointed out that it wasn't erasure since they weren't a couple and they were related.
@@Fanofanime111 They keep on sending images of the excerpt from Anne Frank (a literal 12 year old)'s diary, about her wanting to do nsfw things with her female friends. These posts get tens of thousands of upvotes, and several awards each time they are posted.
@@amadeobordiga8464 Anne Frank was 15, and that excerpt is only nsfw in that it non-explicitly talks about Anne's attraction to other women. All it says is that she wanted to kiss her friend, that she thinks women are beautiful, and that she wanted to 'feel' her friend. That's as non-sexual a way to address a teenager's exploration of her sexual orientation as it gets. Such passages wouldn't be out of place in any given novel about growing up/puberty. In addition, it's the diary of a teenage girl who has historical significance and those passages were censored out for a very long time. You clearly don't understand what sexualizing a minor actually means.
Yeah, people point out that people always assume a guy and a girl are a couple whenever they’re shown together in real life or fiction. But people in the community are guilty of this as well. I’ve seen many instances where gays will claim two people of the same sex are together through a photograph, or in history, or in fiction because of hand holding, living together, declarations of love, etc. they need to keep in mind that some people’s extent of platonic affection may cross with your definition of romantic affection. All of these things can be considered platonic, even love. I love my best friend, there’s nothing romantic about it. I know they’re desperate for representation, it makes sense, but being caught making things up to prove a point is not going to help our cause.
The other day, I was in the elevator at mine and my girlfriend’s new apartment and introduced myself to a new neighbor saying “my partner and I just moved in!” She then asked, “oh, so you work from home?” ... does she think I’m living with like... my law partner? And working from an apartment building ... where we live... together ... as coworkers???
rorolilred it’s unlikely because we were not talking about work or covid at all. Just mentioned my partner with she/her pronouns and saw her face do the confused thing 😂
My sexuality went : Straight Bisexual preference to males Bisexual no preference Bisexual preference to women Fake bi?just straight? Bisexual for sure. Lesbian? Nope bisexual preference to girls :) Edit: Jesus I was so wrong lol I’m omnisexual and bigender now :)
Mine like: straight .... .... .... wait why is there noth.. oh wait my friend is pretty hot nah it's gone .... .... .... Oh demisexuality is a thing? Well then. (still straight tho i guess?)
This reminds me of my teenage years. My best friends mom thought we were a couple, because I would often sleep over. She would have been supportive, but we really were just friends. Some 10+ years later I finally realised and accepted that I am bi. It's fun to think the mom somehow knew before I did :D.
It's normal and okay to have a brain fart and forget that everything in life is a spectrum. It's not okay to insist that diversity isn't a thing. You're okay.
As a bisexual I wish people would stop erasing bisexuals. Whenever someone were in a straight relationships and then are in a gay relationship people assume that they are gay which is not always true and I see this happening a lot and it kinda is really rude. No hate though and sorry if I made spelling mistakes English isn't my first language ♥️
My favorite one is where Apollo and Hyacinthus were best friends. Pfffft! Such great friends that when the fair man was struck by a discuss, Apollo put every ounce of his power to heal him. When that did not work, Apollo pleaded with his father Zeus to turn him mortal so he may die with Hyacinthus. Weren't they just the greatest of friends?
and achilles and patroclus who totally definitely were not in love and hercules who abandoned the rest of the argonauts (i think?) to search for hylas and was heartbroken when he couldn’t find him i love greek mythology and the greeks were surprisingly accepting but unfortunately for very wrong reasons. they were just really sexist and thought it was lucky to not have to be in a relationship with a woman
Emalee Schaming Not only that, but he’s okay with him *actively dating another boy.* And that boy is freaking *Nico Di Angelo.* (Love him, would hug him if I could because he’s fricking awesome. Tbh would hug most of RR’s characters) After book 4 he is officially stanned.
For context: I am aro, but spent most of life thinking I was straight So, when I was younger, I was very close friends with this boy. At this time, I was not on the internet, and I didn’t know anything about lgbtq+. I also had been exposed to a lot of media that had all relationships between a boy and a girl be romantic. So, when I became very close friends with this boy, I thought I had to have a crush on him, because that was what all my favorite cartoons showed. Later on down the road, when I started questioning my sexuality, this moment was the strongest bit that made me think I was straight. Of course, I eventually realized that there was nothing romantic between us, and if it was, then it was one sided, because I never thought of him as more than a friend
Straight people 5 years ago: "ha spongebob said he likes squidward, that means he's gay" Gay people now: nickelodeon says that spongebob is part of the lgbtq community, and the show points him being gay. Straight people: "stop coming up with stupid theories to make characters gay"
When i saw this title I just screamed WHAT! In the highest voice and started ranting about the fact that everyone exists I don’t even know if I’m part of that community but I got me so mad just by the title and I’m dying about how I reacted just by the title
It's so strange when this happens in conversation, I never know how to react. When I moved into uni halls, I had roommates who knew that I had a bf at the time. One time we were talking about exes and I casually mentioned "oh my ex girlfriend..' They looked so puzzled and one of them asked "why did you fall out?" Of course then I was confused like "what do you mean?" He said "I mean why are you not friends any more??" He really thought it was my EX friend who was a girl... you know bc bi ppl don't exist lmao
@@Meerkat628 yeah I know what you mean, this was in a conversation all about ex partners tho. We were talking about insane things our ex partners had done and I said something along the lines of “yeah one time my ex girlfriend did something similar”. Also, I feel like where I’m from (UK) saying girlfriend for your friends isn’t that much of a thing. They weren’t jerks but they acted uncomfortable afterwards and stopped the conversation. I’m not saying they had any issues with same-sex couples but they were really awkward about it when I brought it up. I don’t hold that one time against them tho! They weren’t bad guys I just wish they handled it a bit better because I was finally coming to terms with being ‘out’ openly and this was one of the first convos where I’d mentioned it casually. I was hoping they’d just accept it like the other stories everyone was telling and not think too much about what it means
alexander hamilton, in a letter to john laurens: "Cold in my professions, warm in my friendships, I wish, my Dear Laurens, it might be in my power, by action rather than words to convince you that I love you. I shall only tell you that 'til you bade us Adieu, I hardly knew the value you had taught my heart to set upon you. Indeed, my friend, it was not well done. You know the opinion I entertain of mankind, and how much it is my desire to preserve myself free from particular attachments, and to keep my happiness independent of the caprice of others. You should not have taken advantage of my sensibility to steal into my affections without my consent. But as you have done it,and as we are generally indulgent to those we love, I shall not scruple to pardon the fraud you have committed, on condition that for my sake, if not for your own, you will always continue to merit the partiality, which you have artfully instilled into me." homophobic historians: ah yes what a nice heterosexual friendship
Well to be honest, guys back then we’re far more in touch with their feminine side. I agree that historians shouldn’t ignore that,. But since we most likely will never know they should say that’s it’s within reason to believe that Alexander Hamilton was bisexual. But since there’s no real proof we just make our own judgments about it. I believe him to be bisexual (not that it really matters one way or the other who the fuck cares about some historic figure 200 years ago) but there’s no definitive proof that he is or isn’t, and as I’ve already said, men back then we’re far more in touch with their feminine side and treated their friends like they actually loved them (instead of the way we do things now were we kind of just rag on each other). Again this conversation doesn’t really matter, so have a nice day.
@@TsdsxSansTSSunStone it does matter because if we hide all the homosexual people in history children will grow up thinking that there are no importand homosexual people and some might thing they themselves cant succeed because no other bi person has ever succeeded in history
