Welcome back to school! Professor Van Ness is here! Should we vote on what our next classroom session should be? Let me know. Is it Love School? Is it Business School? Is it Hair School?
Read your book and I can honestly say that you are one of the very few people whose life advice I would actually listen to. You say you are a hot mess, but guess what, eveybody is one way or another! We just have to acknowledge it and deal with our issues as best as we can. Happy new year JVN!
Honestly, I loved your book hunny! Everything about you is perfection, hot mess and all! Love! On an unrelated note... Could you please, please, do a yoga class on here?! As a yoga teacher I would love to practice with you! Xo
Is there any way we can get you and Katya talking about how much you both love Olympic gymnastics? I just think that would be so fun! Either way, I adore these classes! Thank you
I'm finishing my Ph.D in cultural anthropology and your cheer really lifted my spirits. I'll be playing it on repeat :) Thank you for all of the incredible work you do
"I don't know why you ask me".....seriously, JVN?! Don't you doubt your abilities - these answers were the BEST!! They were the most positive, relatable, REAL answers ever. I felt like I could follow your advice and be a better person because of it. Making friends in new cities.......totally sucks. Hell, making friends as an adult PERIOD is difficult. Like, "Hey! We're both adults struggling to make our way in the world but, do you wanna hit up the swings with me?!" Don't take those childhood friends for granted. EVER. Also, KUDOS to the people who asked all those questions!! They were PERFECT!!
For other folks dealing with fur babies passing - you are not a bad pet owner. your baby felt loved and safe. they may be with us for a short time, but we are with them the majority of their lives. you gave them a great life. your grief is valid
JVN I needed this video in my life. I just moved to a new city for my double masters and your gorgeous advice and energy have made me feel so much more grounded. Thank you 🙏🏻 I’m going to be chanting P! H! D! To myself every morning 🙌🏻 (Edit: I can’t believe trans nb icon JVN has liked my comment 😭 I’ll make you proud and reach academic success queen!)
100% agree it takes 2 years. I have also moved so many times. You also have to remember that the cool people you meet may have "enough" friends and not need to develop that aspect of their lives...their lives are full and they may not be able to add you in. It isn't you, it's busy life.
Stopping at 11:58: I now have 11 cats! And I work professionally with 🐶🐶🐶! I’ve adopted 2 to take the place of one soulmate. Either littermates or that extra one who looks scared. I kept it at 10 for a long time. Because more than 10 would be weird, right? But in Austin just before the last couple of rounds of freezing temperatures, there was a little black and white kitty eating scraps around the neighborhood. Not on my watch! Borrowed a safe trap, got out a can of tuna, now she’s part of the family, purring on a cushion while there is ice outside. We may not need them but they need us! Carry-on, JVN.
I've been following JVN's YT channel since the beginning and I can honestly say this is their best video, it's perfect! He's a certified RU-vidr for me now. And he IS good giving advice!! (well except about pets haha). Also, props to the camera man, sound and image (and even that background) are amazing!
Therapist here: your answers are SPOT ON. Thank you for all these authentic, beautiful answers. And YASSS, I moved 11, ELEVEN!, times in 6 years. Like yes think hard about moving. It's hard!! And 2 years to adjust: yes! P.S. So much love to you and what you add to the world.
I moved to a new city for just 6 months (thank god) for study purposes and I'm in a really bad place, but watching your video made me feel so much better. Your energy is infectious and it's so amazing to hear someone be so positive even through and after the painful things in life. Your channel and Queer Eye has kept me above waters so much, thank you!
I'm going back in time to when I was slogging through my PhD and listening to this every day. Now I need a cheer to help me raise a Questioning tween who just got diagnosed with autism. Needless to say, the PhD hasn't gotten a lot of use while I attempt to help my baby navigate life. But tuning in for the good JVN vibes does help!
You are an incredible human JVN your advise is second to known - thank you for who you are the world - I am completely grateful for your transparency- I would love to meet you some day x
Thanks for all you do to promote mental wellness! As a therapist, I appreciate you being so open in sharing your own mental health struggles and helping to end the stigma.🌞
Sometimes home is a person and yes i agree because you make me feel so happy, you inspire me so much and i am forever grateful for that. My heart feels so warm and safe just watching this video. So i want to hug you and support you always because you support me❤️
Jonathan…. I want to say that you are a very special person. I don’t know you personally or really even that much about you. But your energy and kindness and uniqueness is something that is just super unique. I just think you’re so cool dude. God bless you man. ☀️✌️🎉💕
Okay, I AM EXACTLY THE SAME as JVN when he talked about adopting more cats when he’s grieving from the loss of a cat. I do the same thing, not because I want to replace my loved one but because I’m never done giving my love out, I still have an overwhelming amount of love to give, which makes grieving really really tough but being able to give my love to another kitty does help ease the pain. It does not mean that I miss my ghost kitty any less.
I am the same with my doggo's! My partner and I have always adopted dogs from shelters and when one of ours passes away, it is painfully sad, but it means there is now room in our home for another dog in need of a loving home. So yes, we go to shelters while we are grieving, but we are filling the cracks in our broken hearts with hope and newfound joy 🥰
Jonathan, you are LIFE. My Father passed away two weeks ago, Queer Eye got me out of my funk. And YOU gave me my groove back. You are an Angel, and I Love You!
@@jvn The fact that you actually replied to me makes me feel like I just met Beyonce. And Thank You, Really. Cannot express how much you have influenced how I look at myself, life, and even grief.
Jonathan, telling people that what they see on social media is people showing the best version of themselves, is priceless advice. I wish more people knew this. Love you and your cats. Hi from Ireland 🇮🇪
Johnathan, for a reason, I cannot write here : you fill an older-sibling bond in my heart, I've been carrying with me painfully since I was 5. I'll be 30 this year, and finding you, your channel and your virtual presence, has been very reassuring to me. I just wanted you to know, even if this comment never reaches you. It feels good to put it out here and not just feel it, as someone struggling (and slaying through☺️) a lot of childhood and post adolescent trauma myself, in regards to poor one-sided biological bonds, that I don't have the luxury to break. You, make me happy. Thanks for that. 🤗
I want to say that the advice for finding happiness and a single adult is great advice, even for a married person with a family. We should not only find join with the people in our lives, but with ourselves too. I have been married my entire adult life, I have 3 children who are almost out of the house. If I only found joy in them I would still be very alone. I do find great joy in caring for them and for my husband, but I find my personal joy in Photography, and theater and being an active member of the community that I live in. These are all so important to me and to my happiness! I strongly agree that finding joy in my Fur children is very important too! I love those beautiful little beasts!!
Okay, I'm totally going to watch this whole video but I just had to pause because I'm like 10 seconds in and I'm already loving it. JVN, you make me smile. I know you say you're not always happy, but the vibe/energy I get from you is so cheerful and so loving and so wonderful. You are such a light, and you bring the world SO MUCH JOY!! I could really go on for hours but I need to finish this video. Okay, love you, thanks!
Ummmm... Can I get a life school WEEKLY please?! Even when you don't *quite* know, you still KNOW and dispense amazing advice that everyone of all ages can resonate with! I am a 36 year-old from a traumatic childhood, and I approve your message(s). (Saluting as I said that)
@jonathanvanness I love you! You being you has pulled me through some dark times. I would binge on the first few seasons of Queer Eye and cry my heart out. Seeing all the love and encouragement to heal you put out there made all the difference. Thank you also for the PhD cheer! I'm doing mine in sociolinguistics and will be playing your cheer on repeat so I can finish this year.
Thank you for being you. Watching you on QE has helped me come to terms with a lot of things, mainly helping me accept that I’m Non-Binary… The world is much brighter and better because of you.
I can sense your stress when you talk about moving. The moving + being happy alone with yourself are overlapping skills. In my many cities, I have found that making plans and sticking to them - regardless of people flaking out - has helped so much. Exploring that event/park/museum on my own and getting familiar gives me something to talk about in small talk, and helps me know myself. And making friends takes time - people are busy and have full and difficult lives outside of you coming in.
I'm late to this party, just stumbled upon this video tonight 3-28-2022 and I'm so glad I did! Thank you JVN HUGS to you coffee morning lover person :)
I’ve been in a depressive funk for the last few months and this video honestly gave me warm little rays of sunshine. Thank you for your honesty and for your beautiful energy ❤
Ugh I just adore you. Please continue to just give me pure joy:thank you for literally just speaking. Need more videos, don’t care what just need more of your amazing self so I can get through my day. The amount of people that would literally do anything just to be around you for a day. Like the energy that is you is so absolutely amazing. Thank you. It is what is missing in this world. 😚❤️
I’ve been showing everyone the cats I want to adopt but no one cares. I have so much in common with you and it makes me feel FABULOUS for the both of us. Cheers love, you’re an icon.
I feel like I need a cheer for my career after my PhD 😅. But seriously, it's nice and affirming to focus on what I did achieve (the PhD) for once instead of on all the publications in haven't written in the years since.
I just finished (binge) watching Season 6 of QE! All I can say, I ugly cried every single episode! I'm sure you already know this, but you have a way about you at putting people at ease when you are ready to take on their grooming transformations! They are comfortable opening up to you and then you actually listen when they share their fears! You never tell them what to do, but lovingly suggest what you think! Thank you for continuing to use this platform as a way to selflessly show others they matter, you care and along with your honest answers, you make us laugh! As someone also in recovery, you are a true example of "out of self into others"! Keep on keeping on with your gorgeous self! Much love!
You are an amazing, authentic person. Yes, we all have ups and downs but you're such a wonderful, positive influence. I'm thankful for you. Also, you really do give good advice. And have really good hair. Always be you! 💗 Happy New Year!
Sign me up for more JVN classes!! As a small business owner, I would love to hear how you continue to build and successfully run your business. I'm an allergy-friendly baker and some days I get discouraged about choosing this path with such an unclear future. Thank you JVN and team ❤
@Priti Singer thank you so much for your kind words! You make an excellent point about reaching out to people I've served and using their words to then serve/motivate me. Love this idea ❤
Yes, yes, yes!!!! Totally agree about adopting fur-babies immediately after losing a fur-baby!!!! Save as many as you can!!!.....also, love the cheerleading moves! I danced and was on drill team and do my drill team moves constantly!!! Luv u Jonathan!!!!
Just wanted to say that I love how big your heart is for rescue animals. I saw on your Instagram that you ended up adopting one of the pups from Safe in Austin. He’s such a cutie and is so lucky to have such a warm and loving home.
I still haven’t made good good friends after moving. But many things added to this. Like Covid. But good advice to say a couple years. 🤣🤣🤣💀 I’m the same way about adopting cats 🐈⬛. I just want to adopt them all. 🤣🤣
I love your advice on how to deal with kitty loss lol! When I lost my baby I spent weeks gathering every photo and video I had of her to make sure I had every memory locked down. Then I had an indiscriminate amount of hook-ups where I would get intimate with a new person, and then I'd trauma dump my grief on these poor men who were then forced to cuddle me. Life is messy 😅
The tea cup poodle thing is so relatable. We adopted 2 siamese mix kittens and when we lost one, we adopted another one that looked just like her. We didn't use the same name, we called her Phoenix, as she had risen from the ashes.
My cat, my love, my soul, my soulmate, Thomas, died in 2017. He was 18. I cried for MONTHS and, tbh, I still cry over him. BUT my son adopted a tiny little kitten after 2 weeks of losing Thomas and it DID help. Orville is 4.5 now and just the light of our lives....he's perfect and I truly, truly, believe Thomas sent him to us, to me. Also, Jonathan? I hate to tell you this sweetheart but I need ANOTHER season of QE because I'm done with this one and the withdrawals are PAIN! I AM IN PAIN! I NEED MORE!!!
Jonathan you’re not alone I love you with all my heart and nothin will change that. I can’t count how many times you’ve given. Me to move on in life but I still feel like I need u in my life. Our life stories are similar
Traumatic life events that I've experienced in the last 10 months. Loss of parent, loss of favorite pet, change of job and change of city. God bless all my friends that have been in my path during all of this. Some new some old friends.
YES YES YES 1000 TIMES YEEEEESSSSS ❤❤❤ Your videos bring so much joy to my soul. My Fiance and I love watching you! Side note. I am loving my new JVN hair products.
Hi Jonathan, I just wanted to say, thank you so much for making this wonderful creative content. I came home from work which was particularly taxing (emotionally and physically) today, and then I watched this video and it helped ease my tornado or emotions. I loved this video please make a part 2! It was comforting knowing that other people out there had similar questions or concerns about life and that we can address these concerns with some genuine "realness" but also with some humor. :)
3:40 This one made me legit cry, Queen... I struggle with this one SO much because of my disabilities, struggling with accepting them while feeling like I'm losing my own identity being a wife and mother. Like... "Angela (my real first name) is gone." I honestly felt like my life was devoid and the only thing keeping me going was my video games. But... like... wtf is wrong with that?? I always wanted to be an actress, but that never panned out. But I thought: maybe someday, I can combine the 2 together like other Let's Players and do charity work! I need to keep working hard, though!! I just need to be more confident in myself, which... that's a struggle-and-a-half. But if you can survive your trauma and have all that confidence, then I can too!! ❤❤
Def agree w the loss of parent traumatic experience… lost my dad on a family vacation due to an accident in 2021. I’m 25, and it’s been the hardest thing so far I’ve ever faced ❤️
I just want to emphasize the fact that i noted everytime you speak to one of the people you help in your show about an issue they have,you re always kind and gentle.you systematically know how to find the right words , so that your message is conveyed to them with kindness and smartness and in a way that allow them to hear and get it.you really have good communication skills.♥️
I recommend keeping a gratitude journal to the person who asked about keeping positive! If you go to bed writing five things you’re grateful for, you go to bed feeling positive of those things. You can start the morning by writing 5 more things, and you start day of with gratitude! It sounds not fun or easy, but in doing it, I’ve noticed a change.
I second a gratitude journal! Although if possible get one with a gratitude prompt a day. Studies show that your brain benefits even more when you can write 2-3 sentences about a thing you're grateful for once a day rather than repeatedly writing 5 things in list format. Supposedly the 5 things list works in the beginning but then your brain gets used to it and the neural pathway development stalls around 2 months in.
