Love & Dating Advice with Jonathan Van Ness 

Yes Love School! Did I miss any questions? Leave them in the comments below 👇 I’ll use them for another session of Love School!

I'm a therapist and I LOVE your responses, especially the validation of that beautiful soul who hasn't dated yet at 27. Thank you for being the sweet, lovely, compassionate human you are! ❤️

as a 24 year old who hasn’t dated or been in a relationship, it feels so good to know that there are others my age or older who are in the same boat! :)

Jonathan, I laughed. 🤣I cried. 😭I questioned my vulnerability 🤔 you nailed every question, Queen! Thank you for saving me $100 for a half hour of therapy. You nailed it in 11 minutes😘

"A lot of times I think I have feelings for someone, but then once we hook up I'm like oh, ew. ..So maybe you don't have feelings for him." LMAO love it

To that lovely question about still being single at 27: I'm in the exact same boat. I'm 27 too, and I've never even been kissed, I was never asked to school dances, and as far as I know, I've never even been crushed on. Usually I'm happy to be single, but sometimes I do feel very lonely. Just know that it's not a reflection on you or your worth, and that you are so beautiful and wonderful and loveable, and the right person just hasn't come along yet. (I know, I'm tired of hearing that too, but I really also believe it.) This was a great video, JVN!! P.S. I hope you had the most amazing birthday!!! xoxoxox

Self love is not just working on your flaws and shortcomings, but it is also learning to accept those flaws and love them just as much as your strengths

I get a rush of oxytocin when I see a new video from JVN

Question 1 : invest your time in doing things that you are truly passionate about, and that are social , chances are you may meet someone doing those things and know that you already something great in common ! ❤️🥰😘

My husband and I must be unicorns because we started dating when we were 19, moved in together after 1 month of dating, married on our 2 year anniversary. Now we have two kids and have been together for 13 years and married for 11! Lol 🥰

Okay as a lesbian, to that girl asking how to get over a crush with your straight friend: I FEEL YOU, I think it happens so often because straight women are so comfortable being emotionally and physically close with other women and it becomes hard to differentiate between platonic and romantic love... In my experience I would analyze it, like: are you actually into them or do you just love the idealized idea of who you could be as a couple? Do you actually love them or are you just craving connection and your brain got confused between friendship and romance? Also maybe go talk to queer women on a dating app to remind yourself they exist and will give you way more satisfaction than hopeless crushes on straight girls (Also personally I would steer clear of all "lesbian-in-love-with-bestie" art and content for a while cause they only feed your predicament and kinda romanticize the suffering)

I dated the greatest guy I’ve known for six years, but I, finally, decided to admit I was a lesbian. So, now, I’m in a whole new world. I’m in a world that seems so much harder than the straight world. I laugh because my boyfriend used to say how confusing women are. He was SOOO right! 🤣

My husband and I got together at 16 and we're still together 38 years later.

Honey that SWEATER IS EVERYTHING...the COMBO of the I Dream of Jeannie hair is DELICIOUS. The best way to meet a QUALITY GUY is to VOLUNTEER.

Love the “fearless communication” advice, love the blue of that open shoulder sweater, and I always love your energy 😊💕

The peach story had me ROLLING 🤣😭 JVN you are such a gift to this world, thank you!!! ❤️

We need MORE of these!

Here celebrating your 'open shoulder'. Thanks for always providing a few good laughs, and some sensible logic. Hug.

Thank you for existing!!

JVN you speak the truth and you are fearless. Total love to you. Thank you for this

Living for this snatched scrunchie ponytail, you've inspired me to wear this to work tomorrow! xoxo

I wish these were 30 mins long. They really are so much fun. As a compromise I'd settle for bloopers so you didn't have to do too much more work ♥

This advice is spot on! Don’t move in with anyone at 19!

"Make like Taylor Swift and be fearless." This is my new motto. Loved the video, can't wait to see more from this series. I'm in a new relationship so this is so helpful!

Needed this today soooo much.

Best place to find love is at places you love! Into reading? Go to book clubs! Into gaming? Scour your raid party! Into soccer? Join a local team! You're much more likely to find someone like-minded who will enjoy the same hobbies and passions you enjoy. Moreover: you are the most attractive you when you are having fun and being passionate about something! :)

Why do I get so excited when I see a video from you?! Love!!🥰

JVN seems like the coworker that chimes in when I talk about relationship problems and then I'm immediately like "omg what a guru I will listen and take notes" 🤣

YAAAASSSS I’m so excited and I just started watching. I needed this elder sibling type advice.

I LOVE YOU JVN, CANT WAIT FOR THE BOOOKK!! 💕💓💗💖💕🌷

Thank you Johnathan for all of your videos. You are the ray of sun that brightens every day. Much love from Canada ❤

Love your vibe!! Great video!!

Loved this episode! Thanks for sharing all the sage advice :) Your peach dream story killed me 😅

Thank you for your love and honesty. xo

Good morning. Perfect way to start my day ❤️

This was so great!!!! Love JVN!!!!😀💞

That last advice is so important for me to hear from you. I am feeling embarrassed and ashamed for speaking my truth and realizing that the other person didn’t feel the same way or was unable to access the feelings in the same way. But I know it is not shameful to love and care for someone, even if they can’t love you back. Yes, it means I need to take time for myself and work on loving myself again instead of focusing on someone else, but it is not shameful! It is beautiful to spread love in this world when it is so hard for people to feel connected and seen. But it’s hard to accept this about myself.

Heyy JVN !! You're literally one of the best human being on this planet!! Your body positivity gives me ssooo much confidence and lovee. Over the top is just soo youu!! Love you always queen keep slayingg!!❤️

Ahhhh love this! You’re so funny and insightful 🥳

Beautiful questions answered with beautiful wisdom-filled answers from a beautiful person ❤

You are a gift from Queen Mother Nature, Jonathan ♥️

I LOVE the last episode of Queer Eye in Japan. THE TEARS were streaming down my face because that was incredibly touching and the motivational advice each of the Fab 5 gave. The advice is priceless. That season hit home for me. When I was in high school I became best friends with an exchange student from Japan. Her name is Akiko. She is a brilliant artist. We planned for me to go live with her in Tokyo for 1 year but it was demolished due to her family arranging her marriage. She wasn’t into it. My rose colored glasses forever broken. The reality that people may live with in Japan can be harsh. Thank you a million times over for that season. Plus I store my tomatoes properly now thanks to Anthony. Forever a fan (and my cat children too). 🤟❤️🐈‍⬛🐈‍⬛🐈❤️❤️❤️❤️

Love you bestie! This video was so fun 🌸

Please make more of these, life school & am I the asshole! Your videos always make me smile. Right now I’m on my lunch break, having the worst day in Quincy,IL, and I’m in my car watching your old videos and just vibing 😂

We need more JVN's in the world! I love how he is himself and dresses so fun! 😍

I love you! You’re beautiful, funny, honest. I’ve enjoyed everything you’ve done, especially the “Curiosity” series.

Your energy always brightens up my day 😊 sending you love from Greece 💖

Best advice ever. Love this for me. Love this for everyone.

Love your honesty - you just say the things as they should be - no sugar coating 😊 especially the part around self love is so important ♥️

Good morning 🌞 seeing you first thing in the morning makes my day 🌸🌸

You're fabulous, thank you!!💜💜

I loved this too! Such great advice and again you made me smile.

We soooo need a live stream Q&A from you. Great advice.

I for sure did it wrong when i let someone move in too fast but was 20 instead of 19. Was a long term abusive relationship but definitely listening to your instincts and learning from past experiences can help. I adore you to bits, JVN, and when you asked in “Over the Top” if we would still love you 💗I can say i only loved you more after reading it! 🥰

That top is everything 💙 celebrating that open shoulder for sure 💙 also wonderful advice xx tk

More of this, plz! You’re so wise, kind, and funny that you instantly make my day brighter. 💖

My kid came out. You are an awesome role-model to my child. Thank you.

I love you, Jonathan! 🤩

YES NEW RULES! That was so my mantra when I went through my last breakup! Works like a charm. Came out at the perfect time, honestly. Thank you, Dula Peep!

I love starting my morning with JVN! It’s healthy for me 💕

thanks for being a inspiration to me and thanks for tips on relationship.

Love this series!!! Hilarious!!!

I love you so much Jonathan, thank you!!!😻❤️😻

I watch these on my lunch break and you make me happy 😃

Omg i love you so much Jonathan

Loved your answer to question 9. Me and my husband have been together for 15 years, married for 13, thanks for the tip on long term love.

You are such a sweet brother/BFF that we all need in our lives. Also, your scrunchie is everything. ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️💋

Your smile makes my entire world JVN ❤ Thank you for just being 🎉🌈

JVN !! I can’t stress enough how much I’m obsessed with you 😭. I can’t stop laughing, the advice you gave omg hilarious 😂😂😂 love you xoxo 😚

My husband and I are/were both jealous and possessive ( ♉️ & ♉️ ). We just acknowledged that it was a thing in both of us, and that it was completely about personal insecurity vs actual trust of the other, and that we could and would discuss these feelings when they came up knowing that, as a symptom of insecurity of some sort, it would be met with a deep dive discussion over how we both could help one another feel less insecure in the relationship. It wasn’t perfect and we both had “flare-ups” from time to time, but it also gave us the occasional opportunity to grow closer and open more vulnerability to one another, which was incredible. Amazing. We both could recognize that it was a weird “love language” in that we deeply did not want to lose one another. I admire people who don’t feel possessive towards their partners, and I see it as more “evolved” than feeling possessive, but we neither my husband nor I could manage to pull that off. Instead, we could interpret one another’s possessiveness (never abuse or manipulation) as a valuing of one another in the context of insecurity. It worked very well for us. We were true soul mates in every sense.

So glad I waited til the end of this video. The ending so good 😂

The truthfulness for me

You are my inspiration ❤ on the worst days!!!!

We NEED a pt 2!!!!❤❤❤

I started dating my husband at 14, I just turned 40 and we are still going strong. 💖 Sometimes it is your person! 🥰 Love your videos and vibe so much!

Such great advice and laughs. Love you. Love your shirt.

You are such a lovely bright light. I enjoy you so much.

Okay - I am a fan! Loving that ponytail 💜

I couldn't love this video more!❤

Best 13 min of my life

The single cold shoulder turtleneck top needs to be in everybody's life. Especially with a perfect high ponytail like that 🤘💙

yaaaaaaaassss more of this please

I love JVN, I sincerely do. Great tips for keeping my heart balance 🥰

Hi!! 27 y.o. who hasn't dated (in the questions), Honey, I have a bff who is 31 and a virgin and I think that is so beautiful!!!! Why compromise for happiness, being alone doesn't equal loneliness. "We compare and we get all sad bc we're comparing, that's the tea tho" -JVN

I freakin love you and you bring so much joy into my day.

Jonathan you are such a beautiful soul and you’re 5 friends are amazing . Your given me Reason for smile . I love you very much Blessings 🤍

Thank you Jonathan for making this because you already KNOW i need some help

So real. Love you boi

I could watch hours of jvn advice 😊

This is my favourite video on the internet! 😂😂😂😂

HYSTERICAL!!!

The sweater is life!

I wish one day I can see your advice on how to pull yourself out from a very dark place. I remember I saw your life story and was very impressed how you turned out to be so powerful and full of love. I am not much younger than you but when I see you I feel like I want to be like you one day, just like a kid looking at her hero🤣

as a pubesent teen. i really need this. also loving the open shoulder johnathan ! x

Move in with your SO. You learn so much about them, yourself, and your relationship. ❤️

The ballet story made my week!!

Crabs from the towels ?? Lmao oh JVN I’m A nurse home with Covid and you are making it bearable. Love you!!! 🤗

Johnathan you came at the exact right time

Great advice (especially to the 19 year old) and you looked gorgeous in that color blue!

Present! 9 hrsss later….good ❤️🍑tips ☺️🥰 thanks JVN …never heard “cruising at the grocery store” before…learning everyday for life!