There is no need to apologize for not posting. Everyone has moments. Suggestions for work life balance: *During your vacation time ask a co-worker to back you up during that time so that you can truly unplug if possible. *When you feel yourself getting overwhelmed step away so that you can decompress and partially rejuvenate yourself. It might not seem like much but it definitely helps. That’s just a couple.
Depression sucks! When I go through my episodes, I actually look forward to work because I’m able to focus on something else other than my feelings . I unfortunately don’t have advice on maintaining a work / life balance because I work from home and my job requires little human interaction so whenever I need a break I just take it. But I’m glad you are feeling better and best of luck with the apartment hunting.
Me too. It hit me hard this last weekend and when journaling there’s a prompt that asks “what are you excited about” and I literally wrote ‘going to work tomorrow.’
I am very overworked for YEARS! Work used to be able to be something to fixate on with depression, but likely being overworked is causing her depression, so more work causes more issue.
What is your job if you don’t mind sharing? It’s literally impossible for me to find a WFH job with little to no interaction. I hate talking/helping to the general public it makes me have low energy. I work on-site in office 5 days per week. It annoys the crap out of me when coworkers randomly say hi and interject me when I’m trying to focus. I work as a receptionist/admin assistant in the lobby so I don’t get the privilege to shut a door
I had this same issue because I work for myself and would never get a break. Here are some Worklife balance tips: 1. Set boundaries w/ your job: maybe create a window of time that you beg-stop work, have a time where you’re really out of office, or give yourself time slots to get work done and then be done when time is up 2. ask for help or support from your team when you go on vacay. Maybe they can look after your patients while you’re gone for 3 days or have someone else be the primary contact 3. Plan relaxing trips. Since you know you’ll be working. Do more relaxing activities like going to the spa, laying at the beach, get a massage etc. so you’re reallly spending time relaxing. It even helps me to space out activities on diff days when I’m on vacation. 4. Prioritize your days on vacation: get up early to knock out work for 1-2 hours then you can spend the whole day having fun. Then maybe have a 15-30 min check in time after lunch and before bed
I maintain a work life balance by not working, checking emails, nor responding to my coworkers while I’m on vacation. When I’m using PTO, no one is hearing from me until I come back! in your situation I’m not sure if you were using PTO while in the UK. Set boundaries with coworkers too that when you’re on vacation or sick, you’re not responding to anything. Make sure to set up automatic replies on your email saying “hey, I’m out of the office until this date”. “I will have NO ACCESS to my phone/email.” Set your voicemail like that too. Patients should respect that and if they get upset that’s on them not YOU!
Love the hair. I hope I'm not overstepping my boundaries in any way shape or form, but if things get too overwhelming, it might be a good idea to seek professional help. But all in all, I hope you feel better!! Sending love and positivity your way 😁
I echo this so much! I too had no work life balance and my partner was concerned because they couldn’t help me when I didn’t know what I needed. I got myself a BLACK FEMALE therapist and it’s been instrumental in my healing. It’s been almost 2 years and I’ve learned to set boundaries, understand myself, and be more authentic in the spaces I move in. I know not everyone has access to therapy but having an unbiased person you trust be there for you, find that person and work with them. I know you’ll find the right balance for you girl!
I'm currently a manager at Amazon and I work 4, 12-hour days. I'm also a business owner and influencer. It's hard to have a good work-life balance. You have to take a day to clean up and get your rest. You can't answer emails or do anything work related. Sounds easier then done but you really have to force yourself to rest! Praying for you and lastly stay active, gym, cook, write, vlog etc. Hope this helps!
For work life balance I highly recommend automating being COMPLETELY unavailable. This means putting on a vacation away message for work emails with a de-facto backup colleague, putting your phone on do not disturb to all contacts except for your favorites list on your iPhone (or even having a separate cell all together for work which you turn off or leave at home on trips), and deleting ALL apps from your devices that you use for work communications (slack, outlook, Zoom, anything really). You have to train people on knowing that when you are away you are away away lol. And take your time with uploads! ❤
You are gorgeous. Manifest a softer life. Your life is already beautiful but you deserve to be spiritually peaceful and relaxed queen. Boundaries with your job
It's good to see you on RU-vid! The best advice I can give when it comes to work life balance, is set strict times for when you clock in and clock out. Set a vacation message on your gmail and say that you're OOO and will answer emails when you come back the next day. Turn it on/off everyday. Do the same thing when you go on vacation and ask your coworkers if you can add their email in there for people to reach out to if its urgent.. Also, give yourself a three day weekend every now and again to reset. I hope you feel 100% better soon.
Stress leave! I had to go on stress leave 3 x in 7 years due to my patients and me being such an empath! Put yourself first!!! Your job will survive w out you. Trust. I got rid of my depression and anxiety by manifesting. It literally was the only thing that worked and I could proudly say I have been the happiest ever since I quit and worked on myself! You got this mama!
Maintaining a healthy sleep schedule honestly helps me maintain a good work balance. The schedule keeps me disciplined enough and in tune w my energy to know when work is draining me too much. I do Epsom salt baths too and that helps me stay in touch w my bodies energies/Chakras. And meditate, sit for 15min everyday and just be present within your body. Don't think, don't talk, don't move, just be.
I've decided to speak for everyone. We love you girl and some of us ( myself included) know exactly what you're going through as depression plagues more of us than is acknowledge. ❤️
Don't speak for me. I did it myself. I have 4 siblings suffering mental illness and 1 is confined to a psych ward. I'm in the middle, but my therapist hasn't diagnosed me with any mental illness thus far, but I stay in talks with a counselor and meditation. Depression is from hell and should be addressed with prayer and medication. Has she done either? I don't know because I don't follow her. I'm not sure why this is in my RU-vid feed, but I felt I should share.
Best advice is to to prioritize yourself. At work, at home, when it comes to how you care for yourself and taking the wigs off and eating right, working out, schedule that PTO! That job will replace you in a second if something happens to you, so your best bet is to put you first and get to them when you can. Hoping you feel better soon ❤️ we all have moments like this, you’re not alone
Sounds like you know exactly where your current depression stems from. Lack of sleep, work overload, and, living situation to add to it. It seems like you’re just overwhelmed sis and don’t have a moment to unwind and that in itself can be difficult. I know the feeling all to well and currently working on cutting back. You are dedicated to your patients and I commend you so much, I just want you to come first❤️ I’m praying for you ❤️❤️ God got you… continue to stay focused. You got this sis! Take a moment to catch your breath..
Definitely talk to your boss about being overwhelmed and that you need to have a person on the team that can cover you when off. Working part-time should be considered too. You are in a blessed position where you may not HAVE to work if you dont want. So please take advantage of having a candid conversation with your boss about a manageable workload. You got this job for your mental health and now its taking away from it. Time to set boundaries love ❤
I'm praying for you sister girl. Your such a sweet person. I am so glad your back missed you. It's very important that we take care of our mental well being. Thank you for sharing. Our community doesn't believe in therapy. It's vital that we seek the help we and never be ashamed of it. I myself get stuck at times and seek an impartial mediator. I don't care how anyone feels about. This is my life and I'm responsible for my mental safety. I know you can do this!!! Peace and blessings 💕
No apologies required. Take care of YOU FIRST!! Sending prayers, positive energies and love to you❤❤❤. When you are on vacay…shut everything off both physically and mentally. Give yourself two days when returning from a vacay to decompress BEFORE returning to work. It gives you separation physically from travel anxiety and allows you to reset for work/home life. It takes time dear don’t beat yourself up just stay vigilant in developing the separation. Peace and 💕. Try Mielle Rosemary oil for the bald spots and try Olaplex line to strengthen your bonds within your strands. It does wonders and will prevent breakage of any kind.
I'm in my 50's, I have been saying for decades that one of the most depressing aspects of Depression is when there is no 'reason' per se, no identifiable trigger. It makes you feel even more depressed because of the randomness of it. We know it don't make no sense! And of course the first thing people say to you is 'Oh, you have nothing to be depressed about, think about how blessed you are!' I know they may mean well but I always want to say 'Thank you for your help, now GO F*#K A COW!'
I had a job in property management and it's customer service based 24/7. It was overwhelming. And I helped managed three different properties. I did this for 5 years and i finally had enough and got a new job. Nothing customer service related. I was depressed, angry. I feel totally different now. So thankful I left. Work life balance is hard to achieve but it's possible. And if your job can't respect boundaries, dueces
I feel you girl! I managed graveyard shift at a mental facility and that job is already mentally taxing but then during covid my kid wasn’t in school and I had to take care of her and do school stuff all day until I took a 3-4 hour nap to go to work again. I felt like a dead zombie human and I still had horrific financial issues so I felt I couldn’t keep my head above water. It’s so hard, I hope your situation gets better.
TIPS: I am also struggling with this love so these are things i’m also struggling with. College has me in a choke hold and it never ever ends with emails. Even on Saturdays and Sundays theres emails and assignments. 1. Put yourself on a schedule. a tight one. For example, I dont know exactly what time you go to work but wake up super early like 5 or 6 , and dedicate the 1st hour or 30 minutes of your day to you. Whether that be sleeping extra or sitting outside for a little to get some fresh air , whatever tf you want to do. When you clock out and leave work if you dont work from home, leave work at work. maybe you can dedicate the first 1hr at home to answering your emails for work but thats it. in other words? dedicate your alotted to time for work, and for you. Write down a schedule. There should be no place for work at home
You are seriously so relatable. I have the same bald spot for like 2 years and hair stylists keep telling me about it. Ive finally decided that im gonna go see someone about it. Its annoying actually. And same with a depression. It is on and off for me. Happy early and belated birthday btw. Fellow capricorn 🎉
It is very hard balancing a full time job and life, rest is definitely needed for your sanity. I’m taking ashwagandha gummies to help with the stress. Also, try organicgrow hairco products and buy products for your hair porosity. They have a really nice scalp oil, stay strong sis! You got this. Peace and blessings ✨🌸
I'm glad that you're coming out of your depression and getting back to yourself. I've recently just started to identify when I'm in a depressive state, and I find that I get off my routines, so making myself get back on a schedule has helped, especially since I don't work. Thanks for the update. 💜
Set boundaries for self, prioritize what's most important to least. Set hrs for work, NO work while off, focus on what needs to be completed in personal life, set rest ONLY self time...
Who knew Atlanta was so expensive. Your rent is extremely close to double my mortgage and I'm in California! I hope you find a reasonable place, get plenty of rest and take care of yourself.
You do not have to apologize!! I love you and I'm sorry you haven't been sleeping. I wish nothing but peace and prosperity for your future. These evil landlords are just wracking up their points to whatever hell they believe in.
It's the same thing with home owning. My property taxes in Wisconsin jumped from 2700 a year to 3300 a year. My mortgage as of May will go up 300.00. I am retired (1yr). Not to mention water bill, utility, car insurance, medical expenses all have skyrocketed. All on a fixed income. Crazy!!! Hang in there, things hopefully will get better ❤
Overworking, stress, and little rest can make you physically sick. You might be weakening your immune system. You might need to cut out or change one or two things just so you can catch yourself and go again. Speaking from experience and doctor’s order.
My big revelation came in therapy and was told it's impossible to everything to everybody. Also, boundaries save lives. I literally had to establish boundaries and allocate time for work and for home. It's hard but the hard part was me saying no not the work.
My advice on work life balance is if ur working a 9-5, clock in, do ur job, clock out. 🤷🏾♀️ I’m not sure what the circumstances were while u were on vacation but professional & personal life are different. U may need to set boundaries with your clients about bothering you 24/7 if ur off the clock.. work life is not everything & you need to take care of yourself & have fun. ❤️ hope you figure it out.
1 thing I always think of when deciding on if I should work during my down time is, this job would replace me in a second why am I going so hard for them?! You can love your job but remember your health is top priority! Always put that first, because god forbid you get sick or hurt, they wouldn’t hesitate to replace you. So please separate your work from your home. It’s very important. Set guidelines with your job. Your valuable to them so they will try to accommodate.
So sorry that you have been in the dumps and I am glad you feel better. For the work life balance LEAVE YOUR COMPUTER AT HOME WHILE ON VACATION! It isnt a vacation if you are working. You are allowed to take time for yourself. The patients will be there when you get back.
Good to see you back. I’m definitely praying for you. I have depression/anxiety and I know it’s hard especially when a lot of people don’t recognize how serious it is. ❤
you can try a sew in with a net to make sure there's no pressure on your weak spots... and then just focus on scalp massages with a good oil to stimulate blood circulation
If depression is kickin ur butt just kno ur not alone n least u have a support system wit money to help u. Ur dad loves u so much and ur always so critical of urself so self care n do ur best to stay sane n smile.
It's hard to have a work life balance but what I have learned is you have to listen to your body and rest. Some times you have to put your self before your job and take a day to shut it all off and rest.
Designated self care helps me with work life balance. No matter what’s going on, I take me time. You have to “force” yourself to not think about anything. It can be as simple as turning your phone on do not disturb and read a book. But turning your brain off to responsibility is helpful.
Your honesty is a huge step into the right direction. I’m currently in Europe too and I also work a lot. Sometimes even at night. You can try a life coach to set boundaries and to also acknowledge that you deserve you-time. Everything will eventually be alright. You’re on the right path!
I’m a Landlord and own many rentals. Taxes and insurance are going SKY high so owners have to raise rent to survive and make profit. If folks are in line with comparable properties then they rent quickly. Also, 60 days is a long notice period for rent raise. Notice period for rent raise is also usually comparable to notice period for move-out…for example if you have to give 30 day notice for move out then 60 day rent raise notice is really a nice amount of extra time.
I remember when I was depressed like this from work and my Husband told me that I did'nt have any problems. A year later my Daddy and my Sister died 4 months apart in 2022 and it finally hit me now I have real problems. I think you need to revaluate your life and look at your blessings and learn how to take a break from work because you deserve that time for yourself. Work will be there when your dead and gone....one day you will have real problems..we all will and their will be no way to turn the switch button off. Im praying for you boo.
Girl I just got out of that 🌑 place. I take it one day at a time. I'm almost 40 it's a up and down thing that happens during different times in life. Your not alone and your going to get through it. Regardless if it comes back again at a different time or place.
Hope you get well soon. You have to stick to your schedule, yes you want to help people but you won't be able to do that if you yourself need help. When you're off have someone cover you, and you should turn everything off and not feel guilty about it.
Set boundaries at work! If possible set office hours letting people know when you will be available and when you won't be. Especially when those hours are outside of you actually being on location.. Another thing is making things as automated as possible! Whether that's scheduled future emails automated replies really important to have self care.
First of all you are absolutely beautiful without makeup-you are beautiful with makeup. That alot of money for a penthouse. As far as balance you gonna have to be intentional about me time sis. Thank you for your transparency. Keep it real because alot of people are going though the same. Again your gonna have to be intentional about sleep trust me that will change your life. Your body is talking to you and saying SLOW DOWN AND 💤. u will get better I will be praying for you in the mean time you have to get some sleep sleep sleep!!
Hi Ayana, I’m glad to see your video. I’m happy you guys are attempting to have fun and enjoy life. I’m sorry you are experiencing such stress from work! They are out of bounds for requiring so much of your time. I liked some of the comments here that offered great ideas to create the work/life balance. The very thing I saw and highly recommend is creating boundaries. I know the job is important however so is your quality of life. Some jobs have a bad habit of taking and taking I mean I get it, they get our time and energy and we get paid however, if there are no boundaries set it can quickly get out of hand. Being deprived of sleep is an example of it getting out of hand. Sleep deprivation alone can cause depression-especially if it’s chronic. It throws your body off and can put you at risk for other things as well such as hypertension, heart disease, diabetes and other illnesses. That’s why jobs pay differentials for late shifts. So please, if they can give you a sustainable schedule or when you are off, they actually have you off with no contact. Thanks for sharing, I know things will workout for the best ❤ ps … sometimes taking melatonin can allow you to go to sleep naturally and get a deep enough sleep where you wake up feeling refreshed and back on track
You are Amazing & I appreciate your transparency regarding depression. No need to apologize always put yourself/mental health/health first. As someone that battles work/life/family depression at times never feel bad about setting boundaries (easier said than done), but it’s something that has helped me “sometimes you have to say No to everything/everyone “ in order to remember that you as a person has needs too!!!! Blessings
Girl don't you apologize for having to take care of yourself. We just want you to be good, feel good and live good. I do understand not knowing why you don't feel one hundred and not knowing how to tell others to be supportive. just make sure (and I'm sure Amy does) your loved ones know not to nag you or question you during that time . Me personally don't like to be left alone and only close loved ones know that but anyone else's first reaction is to leave me alone or think I'm coppin an attitude and gets mad at me. You have to take care of yourself. Sounds like your on call. If you are and even if you aren't you still need to set hours to be contacted and that just that. You can't be your best you for others if you don't make that time for yourself. It is and it's not selfish in the same way. Idk if you believe in a higher being of even if you meditate but that works too. It just helps center you and reminds you that you are loved beyond your understanding. So take care of yourself girl, we love you.
Hey Anaya! Happy New year! Sending you love! For your hair try boiling fresh rosemary in water, and saturating your hair with it on wash day, and the Mielle rosemary and mint hair oil, really the entire system. I’ve been using it for breakage and it’s been growing my hair back really well. For work/life balance, create boundaries, let them know before and after a certain time and certain days you’re not available. When you become too available people really take advantage of that so you have to be the one that says hey no that doesn’t work for me or my health. 💗💕
Hey love, I can relate in my own way. You asked to comment on balance. For me it was setting boundaries and even though it’s hard at times wanting to be everywhere and do everything-learn how to say no and be ok with that. Take a look at what’s going on in your schedule and see what you can rearrange or drop in your schedule to still be ok with what you need out of life. Most importantly, set time in your schedule to rest. Turn of all the screens and rest. If you don’t take care of you first, you can’t take care of anyone at your best level. Much love to you both🙏🏾
Love your channel. Suggestion for the fur baby, Angel eyes is like a beefy flavored treat that clears that pink under the eyes. Glad you’re feeling better. ❤
You seem like a sweet woman and I love the way you are so open with dealing with depression because IT IS REAL I was just inspired by your video and I'm probably your mom and dad's age....beautiful personality stay strong 💪🏾 you have a new subcriber❤️
We get it . We understand everybody has those days that we don't feel it . And you have been a busy person to try to get out of the depression . I do that sometimes but mines is more like I clean up alot and it's bad . To help with the bald spot I've used raw black castor oil on my daughter's hair when she was 9mons old and I still use it her hair is thick and healthy I also use the Mielle Rosemary oil that has been real good on the scalp and grows your hair really fast .
God will see you through this. Oil the spot and try not to stress. Take deep breaths and get some hair and nail vitamins and it will grow back. Sleep with a satin bonnet on. No heat to that area.
I usually don’t comment under videos but I truly feel I need to this time. It’s so good to see you back but it really made me sad that you would think we would unsubscribe and not support you through this moment. Girl take care of yourself and know that we will absolutely still be here when you get back!! Rooting for you!! ❤❤❤❤
Hey Girl, I am so happy that you are back, Let's not focus on the time away, Just relax and get well, We Love You, I have no recommendations, because I am retired
I'm so glad to see you back and that you are doing better! My way of maintaining a work life balance is to try to take a day off every week and just relax. No cooking, no cleaning, just a day for me. You have to designate some time for yourself because if you don't, your body will let you know and shut down because you are mentally and physically drained! Please take care of yourself! So glad you posted this video!!! May God continue to Bless you!!
I love your honesty your realness opening up it ok you don't need to say sorry you doing the best you can you are only one person all you got is you! I work so much myself I forget to rest your co works should help you while you was on vacation depression is awful get rest I will be praying for you
Absolutely NO APOLOGIES necessary! You take the time that you need off...We were under much retrograde which probably accentuate your uneasiness. -Try unplugged whenever you are on vacation and even after work. I keep a separate phone with almost no app but YT and music for whenever I am off work. It helps to not be accessible. I also have a set scheduling and teach others boundaries as to not reach out when I am unavailable. -Take your time with everything 💟.
I'm glad your episode is passing, enjoy the calm! I am grateful that you have Amy for support (and Blossom, for whatever it's worth, lol)! HAPPY NEW YEAR!!! (You are not alone! 😊)
Put yourself FIRST and see if you would be able to set up a schedule for your patients. I don't know maybe get you an assistant. Hopefully you find a resolution soon and your health can get back together.
You are Beautiful. You are Resilient. You are Bold. You are Abundant. You are special. You are Worthy. You are Wealthy. You are Important. Rest. Take care of yourself. You are Loved. You are Amazing. You are enough. Depression sucks and we will get through it together ❤
Hope all gets better it will. Prep before each week and take off when necessary our mental health is more important then any job business etc…. Blessings ❤
I think it’s about setting your boundaries. There is nothing wrong with being the best worker out there. It is your job and you’re getting paid for. But there is a moment when you need to ask yourself if you going beyond aka bending backwards is worth it.
Awwww I actually love your channel! For me, it was very hard but I had to schedule me time. And I did not under any circumstances. Allow anything to disrupt my me time. If I slept, I slept if I watched a movie I watched a movie but my me time is on Tuesdays which is today and I do not do anything. It is almost 8 o’clock at night and I’m still in my nightgown. I didn’t even shower today! 😩But in the morning is back to business as usual. I will get up starting my day with a shower (finally) and putting on real clothes. Schedule your me time…… it is crucial. You have always been blessed enough to live a soft life. And that’s an actual blessing so understand that you still need to pamper yourself and take care of your health. Also every single day schedule at least an hour for just you. If that’s taking your hair down, taking a shower or whatever. But also block out hours if not a whole day of just meantime..
I know you’re probably not gonna see this but I just wanna leave this last comment in case you do. Making yourself a daily checklist or schedule will also help with you managing your time. There were days I didn’t even eat food. I used to sleep in shifts. Maybe I will get to have a sleep here two hours of sleep there. I’m a mother and I’m entrepreneur and I’m GrubHub driver and I’m a wife, but I have some me time, so take it from me making a schedule of your day and following that is important. Saying no is important.
ayana girl! i am glad that you uploaded this bc obviosuky, depression & anxiety didn't get the best of you. i've been going thru a lot lately. i got let go from my job for reporting sexual harassment. i still have to be a daughter, gf, friend, sister, etc. at the end of the day such as yourself. it's moments like these that make you so relatable! as far as a work life balance, do what feels right in the moment. if you can justify it, do it, if not, don't. you're doing fine, sis 🤎
So glad to see you back on youtube! I appreciate how honest you are with sharing what you go through and it inspires me. I’d suggest setting hard shut off times when it comes to work and see if you can set availability boundaries with co-workers/customers.
