The issue is that many men DO want women to work like men so that they don’t have the responsibility of providing for a family. the guilt Kelli mentions is so real! The men either don’t realize or care about the burden they place on wives by having us work and THEN come home to do all our duties at home too.
This is something my husband struggled with when I got pregnant and started being a full-time homemaker (even though it was something we both agreed on before we tried to have kids). But God really illuminated His Word to my husband about the biblical role of a wife and husband. It also helped when I actually showed my husband actual dollar amounts of what we would be saving with my staying home versus working part time or full time.
Bad men. I wouldn't say that there are many. A lot of this generation is being taught that providing for women has no benefit whatsoever. They cant even get a moments peace in their own home. So these lazy guys who want women to do bring home the bacon and provide for them, they're a few step beyond an angry misogynist.
As a husband, I have never heard of a one single Christian man who wants that (maybe one). I would fall over dead if my wife decided to let me 100% provide. That’s all I want, but the comforts of the American life/dream/feminist has tainted her God given roles. Money is more important to her. Although within our struggles God is still faithful, prayer is the deciding factor.
Exactly! My "Christian" husband insists I 'pull my weight financially via an out of the home job AND take care of the house, errands, shopping, appointments, cleaning, cooking, the list goes on. I fail constantly.
Yes homemaking has become so monetized. I watched a few homemaking videos and felt so guilty, like dang I don't bring an income, maybe I need a job? Maybe that's the right way to be a homemaker? I like that he said, making him better at his job. Because my husband had said the same thing, when I asked him if maybe I should go work to "help" him out. And he said him being able to come home to a clean, organised home and home cooked meals is actually making him better at his job (he recently won an excellence in work award too!). So I'm thankful I found you guys because I remember having so many doubts, and feeling guilt for not working.
Yesss, that is so good! Thank you so much for sharing this, it really is the most valuable work. And it's also sadly common for guilt about money making to come in or this feeling of needing to go out and work, thankful so many of us homemakers are not folding to this pressure!
I quit my part time job making 11 an hour… I started my Etsy shop and now I’m making double. I bake all of our baked goods, cook all of our meals, and now have a full schedule of homeschooling and creating for my business. It set me free and made me so confident. All of my hopes and dreams could not be possible without my husband. I feel for single moms, I can’t imagine doing it alone.
Man, when he said "if this stuff stresses you out, you should probably avoid it. You don't want to do stuff that stresses you out and takes you away from your FIRST DUTIES to your household and your husband" I had to pause the video to just go, "YEEEEEEEESSSSSSSS. AMEN!"👏👏👏 I am so thankful that there are people like you out there sharing the truth! I admire that you are pushing the truth that it is OKAY for mothers and wife's to work as long as it is not distracting them from their God given role as a wife and mother❤❤
I am getting married this December and I haver a part time job but my deepest desire is to be a house wife and mother and have a homestead! Same with my Fiancee! I have had soooooo many people say, "wHaT If YouR. HuSbanD DiEs!??" So when he said that it just warmed my heart and I sure got a good laugh😂 God bless the two of you!
@@Baileyt22 Hahaha yess, isn't it so sad THAT is what people immediately ask! So excited for your marriage and what a blessing to go into marriage already with these values. God bless you both!!
Beautifully said! This is my first year as a stay at home mama and homemaker and sometimes I start to compare myself with all the other homemakers who are monetizing through RU-vid. I get overwhelmed and start thinking I need to get a job. Thank you again for being here and spreading lovely messages! 😭
Yes!!! AND, in times gone by, the homemakers who did have extra time on their hands and/or desire to make a difference in the wider community served as volunteers. Through the church, they fed the needy, cared for the infirm, and lifted up the downtrodden. Within the community, they started and ran libraries, humane societies, painting clubs, and women's clubs that hosted festivals and did fundraising. Our society is suffering from the dwindling numbers of energetic and caring volunteers. Everything is monetized now, and so everything that is actually important is devalued. There are fewer groups of women allied together over beneficial projects, and so there is less bonding and love among friends. I appreciate the expansion of choice and freewill that our modern society has fostered, but I hope that we are seeing a turnaround in the choices we make, leading us back to the old ways but with a greater appreciation for them.
Yes, this is something most people don't realize Proverbs 31 mentions a wife does, which I talk about in detail in my Excellent Woman series on my channel.
This is why I left my job as an EMS dispatcher. I missed so much of my kids lives and time with my husband. After 7 years, my marriage hit a breaking point. It was my job or my marriage. We are still not in a financial place for me to stay home but we are working towards it (lots of superficial "keeping up with the Jonses types spending debt to pay off) but my new job is 5 min from our home, my schedule is the same every week and I get many holidays off. It's not where I want to be but it's a step in the right direction.
Thank you for this topic! I am on my second year of being a housewife and still feel very anxious about not helping my husband bring an income. Thank you for explaining both sides and can’t wait for him to get home and show him this episode. 👍🏼💕. This was truly a God sent video for me.
Right now, I'm working on the soap. I am trying to figure out how to keep the soap out of the drip of the water. Why buy more bars of soap, when we can more fully utilize the soap we have? So I ordered a soap dish that will screw into the wall above the shower surround. And another towel rack, to be able to hang the washcloth up. To me, this is the quintessential things that a wife is supposed to do to help her husband. It takes up time, but it is the details. That is just an example. There are many others, such as the light in our house. My husband was raised to always turn lights off, but sometimes you need lights. Our house was wired opposite of the order we move now. Now, we don't hardly ever use the front door, so we enter rooms from the opposite side, and so you have to stumble over everything in the room to get to the one light switch. He could totally rework that, but I can't, and he doesn't have time because he's working. So I ordered a light that plugs in, and I can screw it to the wall. And I ordered a light bulb that has a motion detector in it. This is so the light doesn't have to stay on, so we can save electricity when its not in use. There are so many details that a housewife takes are of. I am actually building out a closet. Then I will move to reworking the kitchen cabinets. I am so busy, but I am helping the home economy, because I am saving money and making life easier. I work very hard, but it is unseen by most people.
This was just so lovely!!! Thank you so much for the encouragement. I very much enjoy following you and hearing to speak to important topics. So, so good. I actually just had the conversation with my husband about feeling guilty about not making money as a stay at home wife and mom. He told me it wasn’t my job to bring $$ home and that I need to focus on my job as a homemaker, mama, and wife. I’m thankful that we are on the same page!! 😀
Thank you! Not many understand this. It took time to sink in for me! I grew up the only girl in my family, all my cousins are boys so I grew up doing manly tasks. I was raised in construction and the hospitality business. It was really hard to go from loving working construction to staying home. It took me many years to get settled. Now I love it, praise Jesus for opening my eyes with Proverbs 31 and many other verses. I use a lot of time to learn more skills to care for my family without relying on society. Doing my best to live in Gods word and having biblical accountability gives me more peace in being a homemaker than I could have ever imagined. Now I love sharing and helping other moms in doing the same. 🙏 Bless you all
This is such a great testimony Starr! Thank you so much for sharing this, I pray that those who need encouragement see this!! God is so faithful in helping us!
Being wife and mom really should be priority, without the stress of a side hustle. Some women really do have so much extra energy to do both well, but I'm not one of them. I think you would like the book Eve in Exile. She speaks to these things as well.
Agreed, I willingly clean 2 properties weekly for my "want to" expenses. Though, this isn't required as my partner loves my purpose as a homemaker. We do not yet have children as we're waiting for his promotion in 6-12 months. Then, we'll begin to plan for the development of a family and he'll allow for me to homeschool our child/ children. In the meantime, I'm a homemaker for he and I, our dogs... and I only "clock-in" at 7:30am and "clock-our" at 7pm-ish... but there is always something to be done in our home. I'm always on my feet. Being a homemaker is busy yet relaxing work. I'm super blessed to be a traditional homemaker. And I love the fact that my partner appreciates my purpose as a homemaker. This being stated, us as homemakers are always busy from completing laundry, cooking, baking, cleaning, folding laundry to gardening, running errands, organizing our homes... etc. I'm so glad that many other homemakers embrace biblical lifestyles.
I'm actually a Muslim And i have been watching your amazing videos and i realized how similar the two religions are !!(islam-Christianity) Anyways i love you guys and i wish the piece and the happiness for you and for all the Christians Brothers and sisters ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️
Yes and Amen! "Homemaking is trending". It sure is and it's channels like this one that help with that. Thank you! Women have been LIED to for so long and we're done with the lies. There CAN be fulfillment (rich fulfillment) in homemaking and caring for our families. Keep on with these great videos guys! Many blessings and happy Thanksgiving!
First time seeing you and Wow, am so thankful for what you hold true and are sharing! Subscribed and am sending right away to my son and new daughter in law who are setting up their homestead and desire to follow this awesome Christian perspective as well!
You guys speak the words that my heart loves to hear! My husband says these exact things to me, but it can be so hard to believe it's what God WANTS me to do, that He really takes pleasure in my being a homemaker. But allowing myself to believe that has opened me up to so much joy and satisfaction. We were made to be different!!! And it is so amazing and fulfilling and makes me feel so cherished and valued!!!! Thanks again for your amazing videos! ❤
Unfortunately my family is under my medical insurance. It’s the only reason I work. My husband works a trade where there’s no medical insurance. I’m continuing to pray for the blessing of being home and providing for my family in such a way I know I’m called for. I’m trying to balance full time work and full time homemaker because I have to, it’s tough but there’s joy in the home.
You guys are my new favorite RU-vidrs. I really feel like I was led to you! I agree with everything said in this video, AND (and I mentioned this on Kelli's channel), my mom is American and she also married a South African man. Dad passed in Oct. 2021. Thanks so much for your channel, guys.
So many nuggets of wisdom here. I also love what you said about social media! Its awesome when you follow people that inspire you to get off of social media rather than stay on! Going to take that advice for sure :) Take care and God bless!
This was so needed. I made the decision to shut down my business and focus on keeping my home and focus on raising our children. I see the trending thing and realized a lot of these women may be "home" but not be present with her family. I started watching homemaking videos and started feeling that pressure too like I should be doing SOMETHING. Thank you for this video. I enjoy you guys' content.
I can’t understand how women can scream and fight about content like that. When you listen to Scott how loving and understanding he speaks about the needs of his wife you must accept that’s the only way to live a marriage. How can they always come up with the „what if the husband abuses the woman“-argument? And to you Kelli: You speak directly from my heart. I can’t believe that someone else had the exact same anxious thoughts as I have. Your videos are so helpful! My husband and I enjoy your content very much.
The Marxists of the world want to indoctrinate us to fight the roles of men and women, to constantly fight and argue with each other. How can you fully love your partner if you're constantly looking at them as an adversary??
Yes, praise God that being a homemaker is becoming the norm, but with it comes people who are trying to make a profit on it... ie "take my course on how to be a homemaker"
We push women so hard in the corporate world to do it all, have kids, take care of the husband, pick kids up from daycare… but they weren’t built for it. We push women so much to their breaking point that they are the ones that initiate majority of divorces because they are so stressed and contentious..
Ah thats great! Yes, here is the recipe I followed, and I did the crock pot and salt thing 3 times, and added frankencense essential oil to our tallow and made it a whipped tallow! I used 2 containers and it made a lot!! ru-vid.com/video/%D0%B2%D0%B8%D0%B4%D0%B5%D0%BE-M4UiZe4mjmg.html
@@ScottandKelli , Perfect! I got the Frankincense Essential Oil last month. I can’t wait to try it. Thank you! I hope you two are loving your new home. I miss my home state ( The one I think you moved back to). Indianapolis doesn’t come close to it.
We had a lovely evening watching this as a couple. 😇😍👍 You both have such interesting perspectives to a topic that honestly 5 yeas ago, probably would have "triggered" us, even though we are conservative. Mainly because of how media has trained with the "boss babe" character. We each have leaned heavily into our gender roles the past few years and it has brought such happiness and purpose to each of us. Our household is now in balance and there is harmony. We switched from duel incomes to a single income and it's something we thought to never be possible. We are thriving more on a single income than we ever did when we both worked outside of the home. We love these videos and topics. Thank you for making these videos!
I’m curious on Scott’s thoughts on y’all’s retirement planning, do you guys want to make passive income from being landlords and renting out your properties? What would be your ideal retirement plan?
It's funny bc I am not religious at all. Notta drop. But supporting each other equally is so important. Each half of the relationship brings something the other half does have (or isn't nearly as good as). I LOVE those differences! My husband works FT and is in grad school FT. I work FT from home and do relief nursing on the side. But as his school and work level have intensified I have intentionally stepped forward to make sure I can carve out an easier path for him. Because that's my gift right now, the availability and deciding to give our household the dedication for being a clean and comforting space full of delicious food, making sure the bills are paid, managing the budget and the chaos of life. Why would I make it harder on him when he is in the thick of it? Giving is easy if you are married to your best friend.
If i were to move out of California or if my husband made more then 20/hr I would love to do this. Unfortunately rent is way more then what i would save by making my own stuff. 🥺 I'm so glad you guys were able to do this! Goals!
I've only watched you all since the beginning of the year, but I love that God has blessed your page with growth since then because MORE people need to listen to stuff like this. I said something along the lines of this a while back and it was alarming how much backlash I got from my husbands family because of it. We see things very differently than they do, and that's okay but I know God wants families to get back to putting their family first and having order in the home.
Thank you so so much for this video!! It was very very timely for me and my husband in our current season as we (actually he) decides if/when/how/where I should return to work (I am currently on disability through my employer due to illness...which is partially work-stress-induced). Grace and peace to you both. 🙏❤
I would love to hear what y'all have to say to young women who aren't married that are still being supported by their parents. I've been struggling to know where my place is, as it doesn't feel right to work full time, but it also feels kind of irresponsible to just expect my parents to support me. I just don't know what biblically applies to my circumstance
I'm amazed how you manage to sum up exactly what I've always thought and felt. For a long time I felt judged and misunderstood. You are so balanced and that is desirable. Luckily my husband and I think like you and we are loving hearing every word.
Thank you so much for sharing these important truths about Biblical roles. We are so often given the ways of the world that we may not realize the way of the Father. It is so straight forward and burden relieving. May God bless you both for sharing. ❤
For me , wanting to make money is not just fir spas. I still have parents, elderly. They spent a lot Educating me. I desire to help them have a better life in their later years without having to depend on hubby with all the needs in the current family. Its not all about the wife. Sometimes there are people whose lives are tied to the wife's.
I've just recently found your accounts and have been very inspired by them. This is very helpful info especially for those of us who have known Jesus even from childhood but have been indoctrinated by areas of the world, praise God for His protection against this and opening our eyes to it and also praising Him for using people like y'all, who are unapologetically trying to help, teach and inspire us to boldly live according to His will and Word. Thank you. I will be watching this video again this evening with my husband. 🙌 🙌❤️🙏❤️🙌🙌
You're right. It's become trendy and the focus seems to be on monetizing it. It becoming trendy has the benefit of more women discovering it but the secret messages about monetizing it is a bit sad, I agree.
We appreciate your informative content. My partner provides me w/ a $500.00 monthly allowance to grocery shop ($250.00 - $300.00), gas ($100.00... I rarely use this much for gas), and remaining amount is for doggie toys and decor to enhance our home since we just relocated and moved into our new house. Essentially, I'd love have pedicures and massage therapy sessions every so often and can reap the benefits of both as long as I receive my partner's permission as he usually is fine w/ this being paid for from w/ my monthly allowance. This being mentioned, I love to retail shop... hence, I have a small cleaning freelance business of my own. I clean 2 properties weekly which provides $340.00 (or more varied upon tips) monthly into my pocket for "my want to buy" expenses. Honestly, 99% of my money from cleanings is spent toward decor for our home... like, small items. And I place the remaining amount toward accumulating my savings. I rarely have sufficient time to retail shop as I'm always busy completing homemaking tasks throughout the days especially now that we have 2 adorable puppies. I don't take my man for granted and he doesn't take me for granted. We're a team. And I always search for coupons, applicable discounts, and compare prices to get us the best deals for all essential purchases.
Something you two often talk about is building the home economy. Can you recommend some additional resources to dove further into this concept? I am a homemaker and am very interested in building up my family's home economy.
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I work for Trader Joe's. Haha! Yeah, I'm tired at the end of the day with nothing left. And I spend so much of the money I earn there on things I don't need.
Hey Anna! Here is our video we go into full detail on our scoreboard and we have the link in the video description where you can save the google doc and make it your own! I hope this is helpful! ru-vid.com/video/%D0%B2%D0%B8%D0%B4%D0%B5%D0%BE-E37XcCUGkAM.html
Wow I just unsubscribed and unfollowed a lot of people for this very reason. God is getting me knee deep into Homemaking and right now most of who I need to follows needs to be either faith-filled, Homemaking or homesteading. It really does keep you productive! Glad I found y’all! 🤍
Hey Guys . Thank you for the encouragement. I got married 3 years ago. Leaning as well now. For how long you have been married guys? For how long did it take to balance the roles?
Respectfully, if you think most women are working to get massages and facials, you're out of touch with reality. An average mortgage payment in my area is $3,000 a month. We couldnt even afford to relocate without my income.
I’m more traditional. Me making money is not favoring God as a wife. Work in the home still takes her away from her husband and family. Stop feeling like you need to make money to be valuable.
Hi! I make it. I slice open 3 organic vanilla beans, place in a pint jar, cover with organic jojoba oil and infuse for at least 3 months (although I forgot about mine and infused it for a year and oh it smells divine and my face loves it!) Hope this was helpful!
