Pandemic of Single Women, Hallmark SMV, Biblical Gender Roles, Dating and Marriage 

I said to my husband that I wish I would have met him when I was 18 and he replied " you would have been arrested " I'm almost 4 years older than him. Thankfully he's an old soul and we have been together 21 years with 3 kids.

"You don't have to submit when you agree, you submit when you disagree." 👍

Love this video! I'm a 43yr old single female, who has yearned for a husband and family. I am a Christian, and was raised to be a housewife and helpmate to my future husband. I didn't attend college. However, by my mid-20's, I hadn't met anyone. Coincidentally, I became ill with a chronic illness, and had to have surgery in 2007, and 2009. Suddenly, I realized...what would I do, how would I support myself if I didn't meet my helpmate. So, I put myself through Nursing school, and have cultivated a lucrative career for myself. But, now I am 43, and still single. While I believe in traditional marriage, and traditional gender roles, I do feel strongly that a young woman needs to prepare herself not only for marriage, but for a career should marriage not be God's plan. This is where I think modern society runs-a-muck, in addition to feeding women the idea that women only need themselves to succeed in life. They need to realize that God's plan and his timeing is perfect.

My wife's words to me when signing on to RU-vid "Yes! a new Scott & Kelli video is up!" 😮 We love watching these videos as a couple. Nobody ever sat us down and explained what the actual purpose of dating was when we were young. In modern dating, if you bring up "marriage" early in the relationship, that's seen as a major red flag when in all honesty, that's the entire purpose of the act, or at least it should be. It makes so much sense that for young men, you shouldn't be dating if you aren't in a position to support a wife. If you have the urge to date and aren't ready, use that as motivation to get into the proper position where you can date. It's so great hearing the male and female perspective on these topics. We are recent refugees from normal society and have hope that others can change their views to what seems so obviously right and godly! 😇

This is so good. I talk about this all the time with friends. The church isn’t preparing men and women for marriage enough. Everyone just floats and single ministry has often been for lack of a better term weak. You’re right no one explained the dynamics the just let us all be “friends.”😂They’ve prepared women in other ways but not practical ways which is why I’m now on a Homemaking journey as a 36 year old wife. As long as I’ve been in church when people talk about Proverbs 31 they never mentioned Homemaking. Young men don’t have a lot of older men really teaching them biblical values that apply to marriage. Whether it’s emotional intelligence and dwelling in understanding or Christian men falling into “happy wife, happy life” culture. Feminism. Libertarianism. Sexual Market Value. Real life marital issues. This is sooo counter cultural. Women especially hate this talk 😩 Spot on 👌🏽👏🏽

I laughed so hard about the hallmark guys since I love watching those hallmark movies 😂😂

I love how you talked about how often times it is better for the husband to be older than the wife, as it allows for the husband to be more established. My husband is 7 years older than I am, and i do not regret marrying someone older! He was established when we got married, and it allowed me to go right into being a full-time homemaker as soon as we were married. My husband and I talk often about how the man being older was common in biblical times, as it was expected that men needed to be able to support a household before getting married. Thank you for continuing to put out videos! God bless you guys!

"Waiting around for Captain America to Hallmark you off your feet" haha! Scotts random blurbs are always so funny! I enjoyed this video guys 💕 We are raising 3 sons and a daughter and it is an overwhelming weight to raise them in this culture. I so deeply want to raise them well but definitely feel like we are alone on the journey and this perspective. We are praying for you guys, thanks for sharing what you do!

Greetings from the U.K. I have just found your channel and am binge-watching. My heart fills with joy when I hear you talk and go about your life. I don’t know if you are aware of how incredible you are and how inspirational your channel is. Sometimes when I watch Kelli I want to cry with awe and happiness, just seeing her work with love makes my heart sing. I love you both so much ❤️❤️❤️

🤣🤣🤣With Scott's accent I thought he kept saying "the Spirit of the Sage" & thinking who in the world is the 'sage'????....ooooohhhhh. The spirit of THIS AGE. Now I got it

This is one of your best video's. At 56 I wish I knew this when I was in my 20's

I wish my sons would watch these relationship videos.

Great video. My husband and I talk about wishing we had met in high school too lol. God brought us together at 22 years old and we only dated for marriage for 6 months. If you know, you know. Praise God, find someone that you are equally yoked with, and marry.

Really enjoyed this, thank you for your effort! Love it and please continue with this kind of videos 👍

Well done!

I'm 53. I've lived through a massive cultural shift in how women present themselves. It has always been the case that sometimes, very insecure, fearful girls/women would show signs, outwardly, that they didn't want male attention, for a variety of reasons. They would dress in a way to not draw attention to themselves; unconsciously gain weight to hide their bodies, not wear any make-up, be very quiet or alternatively, very aggressive or independent in personality. All to send the message, "not interested. Not ready." What I'm seeing now is that even confident, well adjusted young ladies go around all day in grey/black sweatpants or jeans, dark hoodies, short hair, no make-up, overweight, very, very independent, etc. It's the norm to be more androgynous looking. Maybe, I'm wrong, but, if you want to attract male attention, you need to look like you want male attention. Not in a vain, peacock kind of way, or a sexualized way, but in a "yes, I want a boyfriend, I want a husband, I care about that for my future, I'm open to that." Humans do pick up on nonverbal cues and men are visual and like being needed. Women have to accept that and respond accordingly. If you wear a pretty (but not immodest) outfit, and style your hair, the message is, "I want men to notice me and I'm open to dating and marriage.

So so SO good!!! Your children will be so blessed to have you as parents. My husband and I have been married for 3 years and love watching y’all’s videos together. We are so grateful for your channel and your heart. Thank you!

Wow. I wish someone would have laid it out like that when I was a kid. Thank you. I feel it is good timing, my son is able to start comprehending this type of information now. This is solid. Plus one subscriber!

You two are a beautiful couple! Thank you for these wonderful videos

You both make a beautiful family 😍

Wow, thank you for sharing that David Pawson quote / idea. That’s an immensely helpful perspective: it doesn’t quite matter who/what/where, but how.

Excellent thoughts guys!

Being single is a gift its in the bible

Very good video! I love when y’alls talks on marriage, they are so very good! I was married very young (and poor!) in college and though it has been hard, it was a clear calling from God and it’s been amazing to grow with someone ❤

WHEW...I stepped in "it" last night at my in laws house! I got involved in a conversation where my adopted MIL was telling how she encouraged someone's niece to go be a lineman for the power co. and she wanted to know my opinion. I said, "absolutely not! I would never encourage a woman to do that." I would never want my daughter to work with a full crew of power company line-MEN. That atmosphere is no where for women (my granddad was a lineman & my husband works for the power co. as a fleet mechanic - I hear all sorts of stories about the 'man' atmosphere at their job). Unless it was a 100% female crew, I would never advocate for that. My MIL is a 'liberated' woman of the 1970s & she didn't like it. I told her that I didn't say that a woman is NOT capable of doing the job, I just didn't think it was a wise choice. We are mixing the genders too much. My FIL agreed with me & my husband who is usually very conservative tried to argue the point that there are quite a few women on the gas line crew. I was surprised by his response. Just because it is going on already doesn't make it right. Women have abandoned other women, & our support system (women helping women) has completly disintegrated, because women are trying too hard to compete with men, including stepping over the top of other women.

I took so much value from this conversation. Thank you for leading the way for women and men out of libertarianism and feminism and into the harmony of god’s kingdom ❤

I agree. Marriage takes work and its not going to be perfect. Nowadays people expect everything to be perfect and if not they want divorce and on to the next. Its sad

Maturity is one thing, but I have two highly responsible, college educated young straight white male children who can't even get an interview since graduation college, much less afford to move out and throw away money on rent! They live at home and are saving every penny in hopes of a house one day, but the discouragement as far as getting anywhere in the world is a heavy burden. They feel things are almost hopeless for them - they're ambitious, and work hard, but just can't find an opportunity, are stuck in their college jobs, and no one will give them an opportunity. Our culture is giving jobs to foreign workers and favoring every gay, woman, or colored person. The discouragement is so heavy.

Brilliant discussion. Thank you, guys.

Is there any possibility of doing a video on how men express their relationship with God, and what to look for? Unfortunately, it seems that many of us women have been looking for a man who expresses his faith in the same way as we do.

Scott and Kelli, I appreciate you so much. Thank you for having the courage and integrity to speak truthfully regarding difficult and unpopular subjects. May the Lord Jesus Christ bless you as you follow Him. It is interesting that the Bible always defines adultery as a man having relations with another man's wife (both the man and the woman commit the sin). At the same time, the Bible consistently treats polygamy as marriage (and not a sin). This is clearly seen with king David. David's relationship with another man's wife (Bathsheba) is adultery (2nd Samuel 12) and brings death and horror. On the other hand, David's relationship with Michal, Abigail, Ahinoam and a few more is treated as marriage, and is blessed by God. The Bible is ALWAYS consistent in the way it handles this issue. Do a deep dive into Genesis, Leviticus, Deuteronomy, the Proverbs, the Prophets, and even the New Testament (Romans 7:1-3 for example). I''m not arguing that polygamy is advisable. I'm just saying that it is marriage and not adultery or sexual immorality. "...David did what was right in the eyes of the Lord, and had not turned aside from anything that He commanded him all the days of his life, except in the matter of Uriah the Hittite." (1 Kings 15:5 NKJV) David was a lifelong polygamist with more than ten wives, yet God said that David did what was right and did not turn aside. Some morally upright and financially stable married Christian men would probably consider adding an additional wife if they understood that the God of the Bible regards it as marriage. It goes back to the Creation itself. God gave specific marital roles and functions to the man and the woman. The man is to lead, protect, and provide. It is logically possible to do that for more than one woman. The wife was created as a helper (Genesis 2) She is to submit to, and follow her husband. She can only submit to, and follow one man. Likewise the man can only submit to and follow one Head, the Lord Jesus Christ (while Christ leads, protects, and provides for many followers, 1st Corinthians 11:3). For anyone that is curious, I'd suggest visiting Biblicalfamilies.org

Can you describe more of what your really mean when you quote St Paul’s “burning with lust”? I don’t think anyone should enter marriage with the literal vice of lust running rampant in their heart. In marriage there will still be times of self control and there should always be a heart of purity and whole self gift for the other. I don’t think “lust” is that.

I am wondering what all of y'all reading this would see the role of the relationship between the married couple....vs the children? Not to be offensive, but I have a teenager and my husband and I completely disagree on the handling of our oldest child. Now, my husband is an imperfect man, and I am an imperfect woman, but how to treat an almost grown young man is something that we completely disagree on.... My husband is looking to me and I want to lean on my husband, but the determination on how soft and how hard to be on our oldest... We are at a complete standstill. My sister once told me that I am not capable of stewarding the salvation of my children's souls... But shouldn't I be? What greater role could I have than that?! And what is greater? The right-now outcome or the eventual outcome? I don't know how to facilitate my children in conjugation with my husband's ideas and ideals

I got vaccinated (married) lol

Love this message and channel! Christendom needs to renounce the pagan doctrine of monogamy only and embrace Biblical Marriage rather than Traditional (the last 600 years) marriage. Exodus 21:10 If he take him another wife; her food, her raiment, and her duty of marriage, shall he not diminish. The prophet Nathan told David that God would have given him many more wives if he had only asked. The good men are often taken. But they’re only taken and off the market because the world rejects the truth in God’s word. God never calls it sin for a man to have more than one wife. Keep up the wonderful message and ministry you two! Love you guys!

Do you guys think women should work outside the home.

Isaiah 4:1 is your answer... wives and concubines cleaving to a man, submitted to his vision. Women staying virgins and staying in their fathers home until a husband is found.... problem of the whore culture taken care of. Patriarchal families as scriptures teach is your answer...... Biblically there is no such thing as single, you are covered by your father until your husband takes the covering. BIBLICALLY a woman was covered from cradle to grave.... This isn't about BIBLICAL Marriage or families, this is pushing the narrative of western religion.