child psychologist here: we use this method called ACT; Acknowledge the feeling, Communicate the limit, Target alternatives (very similar to what she uses in this video)! When your child has big feelings it’s important to label that feeling so they can learn. “i know you are feeling frustrated, but we cannot watch tv all day, we can find another fun activity to do instead”! Then offer time for emotion regulation. Also some children 0-17 do not have emotional self regulation skills yet! It’s extremely important that you offer co-regulation if your child cannot seem to calm down on their own! It looks like this mama had modeled self regulation skills and used co-regulation with her kiddo before, so he now has the skill to calm himself down! Just know not all kiddos can do this yet, some adults can’t either so it’s important to teach regulation too!
Co-regulation can look like modeling emotion regulation to your child/doing emotion regulation with them! So using grounding techniques (i.e. tight hugs, progressive muscle relaxation, holding something cold and laying down), coping skills, or breathing methods (i.e. rainbow breathing) with your child. It can look like “i know you are feeling *name emotion*, when we feel *emotion* we can calm our bodies by *coping skill* (i.e. hugs, walking away, laying down, or taking time for ourselves).
Agree. And we should explain, WHY it makes sense, not to watch TV all day long. Otherwise the kid won't understand the decision and will only take it as an order.
Kind of interested in what you think about her filming these vulnerable moments and sharing them without consent? Kind of cancels the good out, imo. She is making money by filming and sharing this so she can sell to parents. Pretty gross really.
Hopefully you're more ethical and don't plaster children all over RU-vid...professional ethical standards shape how psychologists work, but not exploitative parental behaviour. I feel you shouldn't be endorsing this video.
I know no one exists yet but us three our kid knows this I know u need to take it easy baby it's fine ur talking to me I know this fo u hunny? Ok then make sure u watch these vids husband hunnyok I will lead u , u will be fine don't be nervous it's not for a long time u will be a natural don't worry we have practice with our kid and everything ok great job hunny 😂🎉❤😘😘
@@pagejames8754. But so many more do! Look where society is today with all the non self regulated teens out stealing vandalizing and shooting each other and innocent bystanders as well!
No it's not those aren't gods words 😂😂😂 nothing is an emotional rollercoaster just lessons I did mine who are these fake videos for a husband u watch them then if u neef to children don't exist yet but u know this don't u are u relearning bc I do not have to i know this already 😂😂😂😂
I do everything right I don't appreciate u using me anymore lying I'm finished ok I want my life back with or without u u do it then I don't want a biblical life style either it doesn't feel right bc it's not my truth I'm god im sorry leave us alone and give me my life back then we will talk in person about everything like we agreed thx god the real.god a woman Mary this is taking to long I'm done or no nothing period sorry but I don't want to pretend to wait im bored everything is lies I don't want anything thank u im always good thx it's not about u kids all the time thx I don't want children it's a program anyway one is enough this one here in Jesus name amen accept my truth thx my choice in jesus name amen work isn't life u know u lied about everything to us still not pretending to know nothing.not doing a movie book anything in person maybe a Bible bc I'm.busy not giving my time sweat fake tears blood i take everything i dud back its done in Jesus name amen Hi makle Jesus, I have to say this I know u turned off the fake sanctification fire suffering pain switch on me with ur clicker, it's not about u the children who don't exist yet it's about me to and I don't want to pretend to go through fake pain fire fake birth for children who don't exist yet u lied to me for 46 yrs , stall and four years about everything u cheat daily using fake prayers and a Bible that's not proper and ur not father god yet, I'm god I have to be included not later a fake Bible I want my life back I waited long enough living in a fake world fake dad idiot u played abuser, u play a theatre play whatever title excuse u use to get off the hook with me when it's all lies acting I waited long enough not pretending to be a savior sacrifice anymore nothing exists yet u always take too long I don't want to bc of it and break otof characters I'm sorry I said no consent from the beginning it's not just about u and children who don't exist yet I lied about everything I do
I’m a 25 year old single father that works full time, some days over time and your videos help so much. My parents weren’t very healthy but I’m trying my best to be the parent I never had to my 4 year old son, so thank you for this info. I try to manage screen time but some days I just wanna lay down and not do anything when I get home from work😅 Interacting and spending time with your child is so important though
No parent is perfect and that’s ok, as long as you’re truly doing your best, like continuing to learn, like you are here, then your child will feel that. Being raised by a single parent, I adored my mother. She was so empathetic and talked to me with respect and patience. It was wonderful and really helped me when I needed her guidance.
Your love for your child is what's most important. I pray that GOD would strengthen you and help you in every area of your life and bless and protect your child from every evil, in JESUS Name, Amen. 😊
This takes a lot of patience and love. Salute to parents who do their best to give their kids a healthy childhood; even though it's foreign to them and not the way they're brought up ❤
Aw, this little guy is making me emotional 😭 You're such a great mom, giving your child a chance to cry it out, reflect in his room, and spend time doing drawings outside together 🥰
What is perceived now and what the factual outcome is he wasn't factory reset and taught its not appropriate behavior and a grown man playing out his tantrum on others because he was coddled can and will be dangerous for society.
I love this! A child is a human being who just needs to learn effective communication . Well done for teaching us how to relate with our kids. Very good. I am learning!
I respect. This may be all true and achievable, but there are kids who just don't listen like the way your son listened in this video. All kids are totally different
Your channel is such a relief. Every other channel I turn tells you that you've got to be patient, distract and engage with something else, but no one tells you exactly how to do it.
Here is how you do it.....baby is watching TV, it's time to stop, baby says he wants to watch TV, you say, "let's go outside!" Baby is happy.....it's not hard to think....you don't need a video!
@@Pufflelover2684 😂thank you for your prematurely "wise" opinion....babies don't understand lectures, they live in the moment. You reroute a child to the new activity by making it sound fun or more fun. You don't make a big deal about behavior day to day. Your reasoning is not merited. I can talk any kid into moving on in a few seconds, you plan to waste fifteen minutes to pretend you're somehow wise, explaining nonsense to a baby. Someone who believes in the tooth fairy, has no idea what point you're trying to make. Practice this activity on your dog, he won't understand it either. Thank you for the levity this post presented😅
@@user-ly1bi3qi3plol you clearly don’t have kids. Many kids will have tantrums for 30+ minutes over something and distraction does not work. Kids are not stupid. My 1 and a half year old knows exactly what I’m doing if I try to placate him with a toy or something fun or food (food is literally is love language lmao). He gets more angry if I treat him like a baby and don’t acknowledge or give his feelings the time of day. Though, I never do it while he’s having a tantrum. He hates it when I talk over his crying. I’d also hate it if someone was trying to shut me up while I cried.
I am definitely taking notes, I feel as though I’m learning my toddler all over again. Whewww he definitely tests my patience and is helping me to self regulate/check my emotions on a daily basis. 😂❤ thank you ma’am for your commitment in being the best parent to the kiddos and sharing your journey with the world!
LOL. Some of the most incredible people I will ever know are from past generations. They had courage and perseverance can't even hold a candle to..@@user-ly1bi3qi3p
This helps show that the chemicals are in screens that make them addictive do to us..the minute a screen is on, at extended family’s houses, or at restaurants, my eyes are staring right at it. I know I don’t like it, but it’s like I can’t help it. It affects my husband and kids the same way. I know that when I take time off of the screens I actually feel smarter. I know this sounds weird. Good job Momma..on this channel!! God bless!! Thank you!!
Heres the thing, kids need to know basic ways to express themselves like she's actually doing amazing.. i have a girl, 12 month old. And I'm watching for some experience but fr like ur like the patience i swear is amazing and i think already i am but this helps my parenting style. 💕
This is gentle parenting, it’s teaching in a calm soft way. Why Ruby Franke got popular for her parenting is beyond me, because this is how you do it. Kids don’t need to be embarrassed or shamed by their parent because they made a mistake. They’re learning how to be people, and if they have reactions you don’t like, it’s probably observed behavior. Yelling at kids when they are learning to navigate life is harboring such an unhealthy environment where they won’t be able to call you when something is wrong as they get a little older. You’re doing the dang thing mama!
Hardly. Actually gentle and respectful parents don't film everything their kids do, all of their vulnerable moments included, and share it online for all to see. She also has a video where she put him in time out because he can't be "happy and nice," and he was only allowed out once he felt "happy and nice" again. She's a terrible parent.
This is soo hard as it's so easy to cave in and say ok, 5 more minutes. I'm having a hard time with managing time limits with screen time like my phone w/one of our grandsons and he gets angry also. You handled the situation so well that he finally smiled not to long after engaging talking with him. Thank you for sharing, definitley needed this today.🙏🏼♥️
Thank you for thank kind words and your support! I know daycare work can be tough, maybe even harder than parenting 🤣 so good luck! You're doing good work 😊
amazing self-control and regulation that you're teaching and showing him !! this is so awesome to see real examples of, it seems so simple but can be so difficult with children. im pursuing childrens mental health bc of my 2yo and almost 1yo nephews and videos like this helps with coping with the 2yos tantrums 100%. i wish my own parents would have taken the time to do this and taught my siblings and me these skills when we were younger, but we're breaking cycles now! keep up what you're doing, you're doing awesome !!
Yes, it sounds like your parents were the worst.... Better you had them explain everything rather than just redirect your interest. It's so important to make kids cry, so helpful.
@@user-ly1bi3qi3pi was primarily raised by a single mother w 3 kids who struggled after our excuse of a father left. she did amazing for what she could. she just didn't have the right tools or help at the time to teach us the proper regulation skills growing up so we've each had our struggles, but she's been an amazing mother and grandmother who's doing better now n that's what matters. and it's not important to make kids cry, but rather to sit with the feeling and use grounding and regulation techniques to overcome it to get through it the next time.
@@febrieze you don't need these idiot techniques to raise a child. Be a person, love your kids, stop regulating them, like a bowel movement! Whatever issues you have now, is YOUR fault, stop blaming your mother. Unless she abused you, you have complete control of your life!
@@febrieze I literally hate the sheep people who pretend some you tube video is your savior. If you don't want to just spend time with your children, don't have them! They aren't robots.
This is SO CORRECT❤👏👏👏..Mom, you did right & you need to do lots of videos similar as a visual manual in parenting👌😉 l trust many of mothers out there could benefit your teaching method👏👏👏good job Madame❤ & thank you for sharing this with the world. God bless your family.
You can go outside and play… create a whole bunch of fun activities! ❤❤❤ this was always my favorite part of parenting! I made gigantic bubbles!!! String and a long skinny stick from the yard!! We spent hours out there… letting them run and slide and play in the mud!!❤❤❤ my daughter still remembers that! ❤❤ good job momma!!