So cute, me and my second eldest brother used to fight all the time. It got to the point where I figured out if I ran into my room and put a shoe against the door, the rubber would stop him from barging in 😂😂 good memories tho, we talk about them all the time. Once he hit me with a sliotar and I put a plaster on the bruise, which made him mad for some reason lmao
Looks like you watched none of the short. Kids who are disciplined through conversation as opposed yelling and physical altercatios will learn boundaries through verbalizing their needs. Do you do that? @@sylvia7958
@@sylvia7958 yes. It’s 2024. It’s a very common income. It’s so important new moms or even older moms, see other moms discipline methods. You don’t have to share a thing hahahahhaa let them make the $$$$ 🥰
Good job mom, I like how you handled the situation and no screaming or shouting. All done with a very calm voice and making sure both children understood.
@@mrschou339yes because even though you apologised you still have to learn that you’d still get punished. I’m sorry officer I didn’t mean to kill that person. It’s okay you’re still going to jail though. Understand?
I love it when she said, " don't push people that way, instead of ' don't push your brother that way" . In this case, its not only his brother but anyone else. Waw may God bless you 🙏
Really. Is see it different it tell my nephew/nieces don't push ur brother/sister. Love an respect. Anyone else fair game take bo shit (exempt cousin's)
This is how I raised my sons. Growing up they have always just had a nice, easy going, respectful, let’s talk it out, kinda personality! Good job, mom.
This is why we’re soft as shit. My mother raised her voice my father chased me around the room. I grew up joined the military served my country now I own my own business. Brother is a cfo at successful company. The world doesn’t hug you when you fall down. I’m not saying you should hit your kids whatsoever but this coddling shit does them no good.
I love that her emphasis was not punishment, but learning, change, and reconciliation. I love that she didn’t lose her temper and speak out of anger, but spoke firmly, calmly, and lovingly. That’s great parenting.
This comment deserves far more attention and likes❤ The only thing I can see that should be different is a little bit of explanation about feelings. Explaining empathy is really important
I agree! Her voice was clear and firm, as well as calm and even toned. There was no attempt to shame or I still fear. She also maintained that with Hudson and didn't switch to an overly coddling tone, which can be confusing for children and potentially create a friction between siblings. Great job mama!
@1nf3ctedd Not all the time, some times kids develop their own personality and it could be more aggressive then another. This is why parents of many tell you all their kids have different personalities. Even if the parenting style is soft and gentle.
Oh my God, you cried?????? Really, are you ok ???? You really cried. I hope you are ok, what a rollercoaster of emotions you must have went through. These 58 second videos are to stimulating for you. Stick to portraits for awhile and see if you can handle those first. Jesus, what does the real world do to you, I can't imagine the whirlwind of emotions you have when you have contact with a real human being???? How do you get through a day??? Do you have some sort of investment in Kleenex? Or are your tear ducts all dried up by lunch time?
This simple calm discipline and awareness of teaching accountability and forgiveness is so important to the child's development of character it's wats missing in many families because we clearly see the results of it out in Public
@@MagicToenail What? Thats exactly why she is a terrible mother. The kids cant consent to being filmed and exposed to the whole world. Its an awful thing to do to children. In what world would you call someone a good mother, when the mom uses their kids to make money
Notice how the youngest boy was comforting his brother when he was crying. That is how you know they are being raised in a discipline yet loving household.❤❤❤
Yea then 5 years later we hear she’s been arrested for abuse of those same children. I don’t trust any RU-vid channel that profits from their kids anymore.
@@gabbysegura7453 She's a highly irresponsible mother. I am a single male, 39, with no kids. The reason I am boldly prefacing with that is because what I am about to say is blatantly obvious to all human beings 30 years and over: It is highly inappropriate to film, and broadcast your children like this, in general, but especially for cash. Also, they are so used to being constantly filmed they are not even looking at whoever if filming them. This broadcasting would have been unthinkable 15 years ago but the new generation can not longer distinguish trash. To her defenders, that a mother needs to make a living, how do you think mothers made a living prior to tictok 5 years ago??? The answer: a real job, not posting their children on the internet.
@@debussy842i totally agree but it’s also showing examples for a good cause it’d be nice if her kids didn’t have to be involved though to get the point across
@@debussy842 you are so right. I am male, 37, father of one Kid. Never ever would I film such a highly emotional situation and load it up. Also this is not how to eliminate narcism. This is narcism at its best. Selling the emotions of your kids on the Internet.
Wow! They finally getting it right! I remember when we used to get asked all rhe time, why our kids were so well behaved and how we disciplined them. Consistency is the key
I like how it's was calm and assertive but she didn't talk to them like babies. She talk to them like human who are going to be adults one day and need to know now how it ought to be
@ceeejay9112 yesss , goes ti show u can teach kids and discipline them without making them feel like shut abt themselves because really what does that even do. Accept your mistake apologize and move one good mama. No need to go on an on an on this will prevent alot in the future :)
I actually felt the tone to be harsh more than assertive and you can tell the child was scared and felt shamed. I believe the tone should be much lighter.
'Now give me a hug' is so important. The little child now knows his mother only rejects his behaviour he showed, but not the child as a person. Socialy smart mother.
Was searching for this comment! It's really important. In this way, the child will not be embittered against everyone. Children's psyches are very vulnerable. Therefore, it is necessary to make it clear to the older child that he is also loved, despite his mistakes.
Yes never label a child as ‘naughty’ . Focus on reprimanding his behaviour .. *You still love your child, but you don’t love his behaviour, in that moment.
Telling your 2yr old 'Give a hug’ is fine. Asking 3-5 yr old ‘What can you do to make your brother feel better?’ is appropriate also. *Encourage your child (3yrs +) to think of a solution themselves
I want you to imagine that other person standing in the room with the camera right on top of those kids and in their faces. And then tell me how the HELL this is “amazing”
I also appreciated the Mothers tone of voice. It let the child know that this was serious and Mom's not joking around. Great lesson in how to administer proper discipline with hugs all around afterwards.👍🙌
I agree with everything you said, I really do. Now what happens when the child does the same thing a bunch more times and in the same day. That's the reality.
@@juliasnow-xz4kt It's obvious the kid is aware it isn't right, he is being taught totally decent manners by a mother with a kind and honest heart and a great set of brains. The little tantrum is ignored, not criticized, as a child that age can hardly control his emotions when felt overcome by them, but mom handles everything with respect to herself and every child around her, appreciating good traits, making them aware of bad traits. Only a mother with respect and kindness in her heart and mind would do this. One without would not do any effort to raise the kid as she should, but would fall prey to any mannerisms badly taught to her in her youth.
@@TheEijkmanProject Are you speaking from theory or experience? How many kids have you raised, just curious? There's a reason you see frazzled Moms, Moms who raise their voice or Moms who ignore their screaming child in a store. None of that is good, obviously. I was lucky in that of my four kids only one of them would do things on the sly when I wasn't looking. The others would respond to discipline much like these cute kids, but I also adopted my sister's kids when she died and I also did daycare and there are kids who don't learn lessons the first time, or the second, or the third. They have a stubborn streak or get moody, are young and don't want to share. It's reality. That's all I'm saying. I thought I was such a good Mom because I genuinely didn't have a hard time with my own kids, but when I tried to apply the same rational, talking it out and explaining like this Mom did I didn't have quite the same results and was often left frazzled at the end of a long day of fits and tantrums. (both my sisters kids are ADHD). I stopped judging Moms like I used to after that. Do what works. Every child is different. Start with what the Mom in the video did, but don't be surprised if it doesn't work and you have to move to time outs, taking things away etc...
Maybe he accidently pushed in enthusiasm and I would say sonething like be careful, no pushing. But making it a huge issue creates a rejection for him. He is the bad guy and sent to his room. I think it could be handles lighter while still explaining him to be gentle with his brother.
❤❤❤So important for children to know and understand exactly why they were disaplined and ALWAYS KNOW THEIR STILL LOVED AND RESPECTED! VALIDATION OF THEIR EMOTIONS IS CRUCIAL! ❤
If only all parents were as calm and caring when it comes to discipline. Holding your children accountable for their actions is one of the best lessons to teach. Great job mom❣️
Once they go to school and outside influences start shaping their life, we’ll see if “no yelling” works. Because the bully at school who was constantly yelled at and that is the only way for them to actually change their behavior won’t care what Little Timmy says in a calm demeanor. So Timmy will have to figure out a way to stop the bully in another way that isn’t “having a civil conversation”. And Timmy will learn yelling. Greatest parent in the world, but you can’t keep your kid in a protective bubble 24/7. (Technically you could keep your kid in a protective bubble 24/7. But would you be the greatest parent in the world anymore? Releasing them at 18 or 25 or 30 into the real world after being sheltered and shielded for decades. )
This is what a strong foundation looks like. I bet she'll not need to discipline them much as they grow older because she did so well as they were younger. And don't you think they'll want to be just like mommy, someday! Some cultures the parents just scream & are out of control. So sad.
It's great seeing a parent actually disciplining their child the right way. It can be hard work at first, but they eventually learn, you have to be consistent and not use empty threats, always follow through.
And this is the reason why you guys, women, do that. I think you have the best intentions but you do it because you want to feel something and not because you want to teach the best lecture to them. I think stuff like the woman does in the video makes them weak as a man. I mean what has the other one done? He pushed him down is what she said? I tell you to shame a boy because of being a little bit aggressive makes them weak and is the best way to make them that they never can get beautiful women and make a family. It just makes toxic shame in them.
I love how you kids are so kind and respectful. I'm so happy for you because you have kind and respectful kids. I'm going too have a kid I am 8 weeks pregnant I hope my kids are just like yours. I found out my baby's ginger its going to be a baby girl. Ween I was a little kid I wanted to have kind and respectful and honest kids so I hope she is just like that. You kid are also honest. And you are sooo pretty are you are a great person and mother. And also ween I was younger I always wanted to have a baby girl but I am haveing a baby girl I would be also fine with a baby boy but I always wanted a baby girl I am coming a mother I don't have any kids yet but I just wanted to till you that and I subscribe your channel. 😊
This was plenty for this small child to think about what he had done and apologize for it. That’s all he needs at this age. Parental guidance with love.
@@bb7961 I agree.I feel pain as he runs to his room to sit on his bed. Maybe he accidently pushed in enthusiasm and I would say sonething like be careful, no pushing. But making it a huge issue creates a rejection for him. He is the bad guy and sent to his room. I think it could be handles lighter while still explaining him to be gentle with his brother.
AMEN!!! I didn’t know people these days knew how to do that!! If more parents did these things, teaching their kids right from wrong, there would be more adults that knew how to act and that would teach their children the same!! That way when the children were taken out, like to eat, they wouldn’t act like heathens!
Love this. The piece you are missing is requiring the hurt child to forgive their sibling. Practicing forgiveness is SO POWERFUL and will help them as they grow older to move on from hurts.
This is an example of authoritative parenting style, which involves having standards for children, but also explaining why you have standards. This parenting style leads to the best outcome for children. Great job mom!
This was the perfect combination of sternness and compassion. A lot of parents are way too soft today but she was very clear to him with her tone, choice of words, and eye contact that what he did was unacceptable. She made him understand that there are consequences for bad behavior when she sent him away and allowed him to reflect on his behavior. Then she reassured him that she still loves him and that he can make it up to his brother by apologizing and setting things right.
She did a great job! Explained without shouting or getting upset. Teaching respect and being kind is so much better. Gentleness is not taught, it is a blessing! I wish more mothers could see this and teach their toddlers kindness and to be caring!
And it's so cute how siblings can Forgive each other so quickly!!..Boys need very firm, but kind, boundaries, & she did it SO well for them!!- Kudos!!- :)
@@darylmorrison6598exactly what I was gonna say. That word shizz don’t work with ADHD. They need to be affected by the repercussions. It’s technically a mental illness even though they aren’t acting out 24/7 like some of the more extreme illnesses.
Nah she didn’t kid is gunna be soft as can be when he’s older he started crying more when his mom sent the other kid away your suppose to make your kids tough not little girls crying just cause a feather hit their shoulder
@@sorenludwig3978yes you can, what I wouldn't do is make them say sorry, saying sorry means nothing if you don't mean it. But the rest, especially because if the age, is amazing. When this happens with an older kid you can encourage them to think about other solutions in time out and talk with them about it afterwards, but i think that kid is too young for that.
I'm OLD and LOVE THIS! She does it all perfectly: Accountability, modest transfer of displeasure, specific about misconduct, age appropriate consequence, relationship restoration, status quo. GOOD GOOD!!!
my concern is that she never asked him why he pushed his brother. it’s possible that he was responding to something inappropriately. he could be getting the message that other people can do bad things to him, and he can’t do anything about it. if that’s the case, he also hasn’t learned an appropriate way to respond when his brother treats him badly. he also may have hugged his mom for the purpose of regaining favor, when hugs should be reserved for authentic love. that’s why i never demand a hug, i only ever ask. she also told him to apologize instead of asking if he wants to apologize, which is bypassing his own moral compass and forcing him to abide by hers instead of his own. if he didn’t want to apologize, she could have explained to him why she would apologize if she were in his shoes, or she can explain how he and his brother will feel if he doesn’t apologize so he can have a better understanding of how to apply the skill in the future. there’s nothing inherently wrong about what happened here, especially when you’re busy, but there are many opportunities for teaching and connection that were missed here.
There's no universal textbook. Case by case. Family by family. Individual by individual. What works for her, might not work for others. Also, this is a montage. We don't see what happened between cuts.
@@trrulieeeeeI used this method with my kids and they are all adults now. They are emotionally stable and know how to treat people as well as how they expect to be treated by others. I guarantee that this mom addresses both sides before making a final judgement.
@@dreamchaser7177no you didn’t, if they’re all adults then you’re a liar. Look at how confused this kid is when they have a camera recording the situation. They did this for views and it’s disgusting.
That’s awesome parenting! I taught 10 years of Parent/Child classes and I am happy to say, this momma is doing an amazing job! Good parenting takes your time and your awareness . ❤
No, she is growing CASTRATED GUYS, who in the future will not know how to act like the real men. NO BALLS, CRYING LIKE BABIES when they are adults. She is deeply indoctrinated by this stupid propaganda which is running around nowadays and which is PLANNED...
Kids can be very happy to play in front of camera and watch themselves again. Let everyone live their own life. Fpr this stupid privacy reason one day in the UK they will arrest you if you take a picture of a kid that's not yours! Not everyone does things for bad reasons
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Ffs, it's common sense. THIS IS SUPPOSED TO BE NORMAL, not some outlier
Great parenting! We need more people like you to make sure our next generation is good, sensible, and descent humans. Thank you for sharing ❤. All the best for you guys.
Hudson saying “you’re ok” was just so precious. Huddy loves his big bro no matter what? This is amazing parenting and the children are just so sweet. Good job mom and dad!
I love how people these days are seeing parenting as a important thing. Much love to everyone who is working on themselves to make the next generation better.❤
Give me a break. All she did is sent a kid to his room while blasting him in front of everyone for show and likes at his expense. Yea grate mother she is. SMH
@@3pleSss You obviously don't have children or shouldn't have a child be in your care! This was amazing from a mom of 3 to achieve such respectable results means so much in the moment not for the camera ...you jackass!
Best way to teach your child. Let them tell you what they did wrong. Then you know they have learned. I do the same thing. Love it. Your a great mom and your kids are amazing. ❤
@@tur74d56 this is different, the situation happened in front of the parent so they know that their mom knows and they cannot lie. why would they? also this gives them a chance to explain if something else was bothering them like "he pushed me first!' or "I didn't push, he tripped!" clears up the situation. always give kids a chance to talk
@@megv7481the punishment was reflecting and reviewing.... She almost had it.... Everything she did was great except there were no actual consequences. It'll be a rude awakening in society for him when there are still consequences after reflection and apologizing
It's the best example of loving-kindness and patience. And making the time teach in such a way that their children are not damaged by it. I saw the video and I started crying. It's so wonderful to see someone actually take the time. To love on their kids
Exactly. I never had to strike my children. Little ones can understand consequences and time outs and then corrective experiences. Really sweet little brothers. Boys can get super aggressive and it’s sweet to see a Mama take time to patiently teach her children how to be better humans.
Good parenting ❤ One amendment I would make (from experience) is instead of ‘I want you to say sorry’ you could ask ‘What can you do to make Hudson feel better?’ .. Otherwise ‘sorry’ will just become a word that ‘gets me out of more trouble’ . Encourage him to think of a solution himself - some children ask ‘Are you ok?’ Others go get a toy for the hurt child or ask if they could play a game together.. Otherwise spot on 👍🏼
@@Tanorolife You're welcome 😉 I was 'Behaviour Management Coordinator' for over 2 decades. Was very challenging at times, but also very enjoyable.. especially when you see chidren learning to deal with their emotions in a positive way.
@@camillelamb7377 Happy to help 😃 Some children may struggle with this at first. So you could help by offering sugestions. Also if a child just wants to say 'sorry'. you can ask .. 'Ok, what are you sorry for?' - After some discussion the child may say someting like 'I'm sorry for throwing sand in your eye.. are you ok now?’
That was so excellent. You covered everything perfectly. You explained things beautifully and gently, you were down at their eye level, you sent him to his room for an age appropriate amount of time as a reasonable punishment, you had positive, loving reinforcement, you had him explain to you the reason for the punishment to ensure his understanding, you had him apologise to and hug his brother, and you gave him the choice to continue playing on his own or come out & play. Everyone was happy, no hard feelings by anyone, including your viewers. I highly commend you and your life-teaching methods. You're outstanding. I can't think of how you could have done better. You're raising some wonderful kids who will go on to bring your teachings to their children, friends and/or coworkers to help bring about a beautiful future. Thank you.
He did not show the least smidgen of remorse. He would not look her in the eyes. He knows from prior experience that his misbehaviour is easily dealt with by 5 minutes of sitting in his own room, which is no punishment at all.
Very good❤ Talking to the kids every time they commit mistakes will eventually lead to become a better person.This will be instill in their minds and in their hearts ❤Good job to a you mom❤❤
I miss these days. My daughters are in their 20’s. It makes you realize how much influence you have over their lives and shaping their character in these teaching moments. ❤️
Just wait until your daughters start mimicking YOUR parenting! That's what I'm seeing as my kids are in their 30s & raising their own kids. Its awesome! I love it!! However, my own parents couldn't say this because they were physically & verbally abusive, but I was determined to never ever be like them.
YES!!! Finally! I see some good parenting. Communicating with him and telling him why he got punished. And explaining to him what he did wrong. Then encouraging him after. THIS IS GOOD PARENTING!! And I can already hear all the idiots out there saying, “Ow! You where to harsh with him.” “Why did you feel the need to explain it if he already knew what he did wrong?” “Sending him to his room accomplishes nothing for his mental health.” I’m sitting over here rolling my eyes and shaking my head. 😅
A breath of fresh air to see how compassionate discipline is a win win all round. Without resorting to the scary, impatient, aggression I see in so many parents. We need a licence to drive a car, but NO licence to be a parent. But this is the most important role in the world. People need to be taught, shown, and to have standards, if there is to be hope for the future.
What an amazing mom! She's teaching her little boys really well, no yelling or screaming made them understand the meaning of love for one another..great job mom! Happy mother's day to you! ❤❤❤❤
