Many Women Have Trouble with True Masculinity 

If a woman DOES or SAYS ANYTHING that you "perceive" to be attempt to control you IN ANY WAY....YOU MUST CHECK HER IMMEDIATELY! You will discover her real character shortly thereafter. I learned many hard lessons from being on the Simp-side many years ago.

Too many women are used to running simps ....and don't know how to deal with real men

Woman is the storm and man is the mountain.

I feel you on the grandmother trying to mold you in the ideal man Rom. I even butted heads with my mother. It's crazy how mothers mold their sons into men they hate.

Lol. They really do hate it when you stand your ground and say no. I was dating a woman for about 5 months or so and we were having a conversation about the black community, she got emotional and said I don't want to talk about it anymore and I said ok. About an hour later she tried to bring up the conversation again and I said to her we're not going to talk about this anymore because you said you didn't want to. She kept on trying and I kept shutting her down. Long story short, about a week later she tried to bring up the same conversation and I said if you bring this up again we're done and she stopped talking to me. Moral of the story is stand your ground, hold them accountable and don't fall for the manipulation.

I've seen it with Latin and White women heavily, as well as middle eastern women who have been westernized.

Nothing but the truth. Men need to be men. Women need to be women. Growing up that's what I saw. My father taught me how to be man and think rationally.

this remind me of back when i was in school folks would try me and i physically fight em every time and my moms would be mad at me for standing up for my manhood

This is 1 of the most POWERFUL videos you've ever made OG.!!! There is no such thing as gender fluidity period, MEN and WOMEN have distinctions for a reason... I said this yesterday in the comments there's too much devaluing and under-appreciation of masculinity in our community. I completely understood your frustration and your rant yesterday Rom. SALUTE FAM!

when a young girl grows up in a house hold with a good father she wouldn't have a problem with it.

Manhood is key to be a man period. When you can't' be a men as men what are you than?

Society has divorced responsibility from authority. Which is why many men will become stoic.

I'm 38 and my parents are still married. You're right though. The problem is that in my generation allowing a woman to take the lead is guaranteed failure so I'm trying to unlearn everything that I grew up with. Part of my problems today is that my mother was definitely the dominant force in the family. I just got lucky that my mother didn't abuse that dynamic as much as 90 percent of women would.

Any strong woman is intimidated by one strong men. It doesn't work both ways. She shows respected but it's also love and i'm not sure that women get that concept.

got kicked out of so many schools and went to alternative school because i wouldnt let folks try/roast/bully me cause i was standing up for myself

One of my female friends told me out her mouth, “ever since yall men got a voice, yall don’t know how to be quiet!!” So I just looked at her. They run their mouth so much don’t even know their telling on themselves. They won’t us to just accept them for what and who they are and not hold them accountable for anything….because they’re WOMEN

This hits home. I was in an argument with my girl because I said these kids out here from single family homes with no father are causing chaos. She got upset because I didn't say "some" or "most" and she felt I was talking about all people who came from single mothers. She felt like I was personally attacking her. It wasn't the case. After 5mins of going back and forth over something trivial, I put my foot down and ended the discussion. Anything that promotes masculinity and male authority is bad. I was bit surprised she thought that way. Come to think about it, I'm not.

That’s where the term happy wife happy life stems from when a woman dont want a to be a man and just bow down to them

I struggle with masculinity in men as well. A lot of men come into your life trying to “lay down the law” too soon without earning any type of respect from that woman. Women, like myself, at one point were submissive to the wrong man which caused many women to be controlled and manipulated. Unfortunately, now some women don’t want to be submissive at all because we’re afraid to lose ourselves once again. This causes us to be controlling/demanding because we want to avoid being vulnerable and ultimately stupid. We don’t realize later that bites us in the ass because men change for the better (for the most part) when they get older and mature. Now women are told to “be his peace” and we’re like whattttt lol

I wish more black women truly undersood and fully embraced real femininity!!

Appreciate the topic. Men need to be men and women need to be women. I’ve cut back my entertainment outlet like Hulu and Netflix. Ive notice I don’t condone or watch gender fluidity television anymore. Gender roles need to be back like the old days. Stay encouraged my brother.

At work. Real brief. Lots of women worry about the more masculine the man the more he attracts lots of women like the highschool jock that broke her heart. Threatened by it cause of insecurity. What do u think.

Rom keep doing what you doing man. You bringing that WOLF back out in me. Right on time as I just turned 35. I’m glad I’m getting back to it before I get old

I’m dealing with the crying issue with my 5 year old son now the good thing about it is that his mom is cool with toughening him up but she’s still controlling and want to tell me when and how to do things . He’s still only 5 as well so I gotta be smart about it .

I'm a fairly nice brother, but let me tell you I decked a b**** for playing games with me- funny thing is, it actually turned her on (lol). For as long as I can remember, even my MOTHER can't get away with saying some of the ridiculous things she says without being checked. Men, love yourselves enough not to tolerate disrespect from ANY woman!

Sometimes you have to check out with who she hangs out, what type of female friends. As Rosebudd I think said it, "You make friends not viceversa"

“The woman shall not wear that which pertaineth unto a man, neither shall a man put on a woman's garment: for all that do so are abomination unto the Lord thy God.” ‭‭Deuteronomy‬ ‭22:5‬ ‭KJV‬‬

"A bitch say something stupid I'm gone, I don't have to spend my time with you I'm the prize your not the prize I'm the prize, I can find another one like you you'll never find somebody like me." -Rosebudd

This is one of my favorite videos from you Uncle Rom. I posted a status about femininity and modesty on my Facebook page yesterday and women were letting me have it. This video lines up with everything I was saying yesterday.

It personaly happened to me my mom try to make me a very soft guy I feeled it and moved away from her

One of the things i started doing when i was younger and dating was to lay the foundation first. I would tell a woman, "You and may get along under certain conditions. But, if you think and try to manipulate and control me, you will lose, and i will CERTAINLY see to it that you will......" Having said that, it let me know whether they were gonna stay or go, and i was prepared for either

We need more Men speaking on masculinity! This is a very important topic for our society. Thank you Brotha Rom!

Damn unc you just broke my whole life down. I’m happy I found you because you definitely helped me on journey. 💪🏾

Real talk! Powerful message brother. Give thanks!

Excellent content brother. Pure knowledge

Glad somebody talked about it!

Job 39:16 She is hardened against her young ones,( Inmasculine the boys) as though they were not hers: her labour is in vain without fear; 17Because God hath deprived her of wisdom, neither hath he imparted to her understanding. those 2 verse is your whole video subject i been saying that for years

These are the videos that are truly golden

Excellent Video Brother Rom💯✊

Mr. Rom you said a mouth full of truth.

Damn good video, Rom. I'm in a current position that I'm being alienated from my children. They're 2k miles away with their grandmother that hates me. For no reason other than the facts she feels "i stole her daughter from her 11 years ago" by bringing her from Atlanta to California and starting a family with her. The mother is very narcissistic. She has no class. And she's very spiteful to me. Now she has my kids and won't allow me to speak to them. She (my wife's mother) is a widow who couldn't keep her own husband. Now she's trying to raise my 4 kids. My resources are limited due to the fact I had a couple brain surgeries and am an epileptic. I'm living on Social security insurance money. I can't afford to get a place right now in order to get them back to me. So she knows this and is using this as an advantage. She never had a relationship with my kids bow all of a sudden they are in her custody. After 10 years she never once came to VISIT her grandkids in California. Now she feels entitled to them. It's been almost a year since I last saw them and it's eating me up everyday. This woman is very weak. And cannot in any way raise my sons OR daughters. She did a horrible job at raising her own 2 daughters. My wife's the oldest and is used as the scapegoat. While her second (youngest daughter) is held on a pedestal. A lot of what you said in here registered with me. I'm going to marinate on this as I plan my next move!

Though it’s a good video, there are also other men who fear the masculinity of younger and wilder or “older and wiser” men. I’ve seen and heard of instances where young and older men fight and it gets ugly. I’ve heard of instances where some fathers go to extremes with their sons (I know one dude who broke his sons arm for and to this day, he wonders why his son doesn’t fuck with him). I heard of younger men who go apeshit and knock out an older guy or have an older guy jumped for trying to give them “orders”. In some cases, you just have to let certain things and people be. You see, you can’t change the world, but you CAN change your involvement with it.

I find this interesting. I was told by a black man that I'm too soft, they need me to be stronger. I'm educated, live a healthy lifestyle and have a good job, but I am definitely into a man who allows me to be a woman. When I date, I show a man my femininity, and all I ever hear them say is you need to be stronger. I just don't get, I want a man to lead me, not me leading him.

I like how broke down the spirituality of the sperm and the eggs. That's some deep shit. Especially the way you explained it; it makes sense. My father wasn't much in my life and I didn't have any older brothers or cousins to explain women nature or dating to me. That's the reason why I'm here. I wish I would of learned this stuff at a younger age; maybe I would have had my share of women and had some kids by now. I haven't had a chance to look at all your older videos, but I hope you continue to break down dating, male and female nature on a deep and spiritual way. I would like to see more videos like this or know where I can find more. Peace and spiritual blessings.

Discovered you today og thank you for the knowledge! Subscribed

Great video uncle as always!

Very Interesting Video Regarding Masculinity, Brother Wills. It is really tragic that most Women today fail to realize that the Lack Of Femininity, Mutual Consideration, & Discipline is what actually turn off their Ideal Types Of Men, and ultimately drives them away. The Part About Fatherhood hits hard, too. 💯💯💯💯

thank you for standing up in truth

Thanks for sharing.

Very well done, thank you

Goes for a lot of young black women in the UK too. We are a quite reserved country which makes bold behavior more noticeable. I'm kinda in that situation now. Its "bossy queen" at work. She talks, but keeps it short. And it seems she can't be in my presence for long. She's OK, but every time we talk there's a tension like she's on her guard. I am just not gonna talk much to her anymore. I could be wrong, but we cant be platonic friends. With her "Army commander" personality and my masculinity, Its either we are just acquaintances or hooking up for a fling.

U so right unc beard game tight but these women love these emotional dudes the ones who go argue with em and be a submissive punk I don’t argue with women if u ain’t go listen I roll period this single motherhood has really fucked up everything

My opinion on the situation is that when it comes to masculinity particularly Black masculinity, this present civilization is scared to death of it. So many are used to seeing an compliant Blackman that is afraid to be a man, because during transatlantic slavery black masculinity was in essence outlawed and prohibited. This is not to say that during those times their were not black men being men, because there most certainly were many at that time. Its just that many of these black women have the mind of those who sought to subdue and erraticate black masculinity, because black masculinity was and is a threat to this current power structure.This is said with a reference to Frances Cres Welsings book titled, "The Isis Papers", which speaks about genetic annihilation. With that being said, when they see a Blackman being a man they act on autopilot to extinguish our masculinity. But as you have said my brotha, when they see you ain't going for it they either stay away from you or get in line. They'll complain but they will respect it. I for one never debate my authority as a man with any woman. I naturally assume the position of authority with any woman. Even with my mother, respect is given but in areas of masculinity it isn't even a discussion. I can thank my father for that! Great topic as always my brotha!

You should check out the "Stay in your Lane Insurance" video on RU-vid. Funny but also true.

Preachin!

Dope Man U on that real masculine shit salute...would you do a video on masculinity and femininity it seems a lot of people are lost

It’s to hard trying to be the mother and the father. There are fundamental things that children need from a man and from a woman. While I know that some of us single mom don’t have a stable support system, I’m so glad that I do to help pick up where I fall short. Especially strong male figures in their lives

Yup thats the main reason i watch so many diff videos then I hide for a while cuz I had no father.. Idk what to do sometimes.. Thanks to youtube and google im just not learning shit I shoulda been knew

Preach!

Well Thank you sir @Rom Wills

Real talk

16:46 Uncle Rom went back to that OG OG🔥

Mr. Wills. I've been thinkin the same exact thing yo. Like we're not supposed to stand up to them. But point out all our stuff.

Or the father didn't know what he was doing himself.

FACTS Rom 👍🏾👍🏾👍🏾👍🏾👍🏾👍🏾

Women is god's gift! Men is god's son!!

Truth sir.

My God Rom you hit the nail on the head with this one. Women want to try to run everything in the house and to control everything in the house too

Dead on Ank, instead of embracing masculinity as they're designed to do.. they're now threatened by, therefore they challenge it.

Shouts out for these facts

Love your videos bro,but can you turn up the sound a little bit. Maybe my hearing is bad or something because I had to use a speaker to hear you

Uncle Rom.your the best.

This video has aged so well

This video need to resurface

This is a really good video, great thoughts. But how to counteract these things, and maintain and grow in spite of it.

It is deep but it's natural. If you want to study human behavior and where we are going look at social animals behaviors. This was the issue with a woman I dated. To be honest I even started to wonder if she even liked being a woman, but that's something I am still struggling with to this day. I am all for women being ambitious, but let a man be a man. Hell even female lions are starting to do a lot of the work men usually do.

Everywhere is a Matriarchy just done in different nuances way covert power. Or back door power.

this is deep.

This vid deserves a 5 👍🏾 option to select. On Rom's vid he uploaded yesterday. I briefly commented about our dysfunctional cultural state. And why many cultures throughout history. Implemented arranged marriages and clear gender roles. The misinformed commenter stated that arranged marriages and clear gender roles were the reasons of our current dysfunctional state. I'd bet $$$ he/she is black. It's so simple to see and understand (Superior Men are well adjusted, well balanced men. Who live by codes, are disciplined, and are FAIR amongst other attributes.). BUT, common sense isn't common. And the herd mentality is STRONG... Running off a cliff smh!

I agree

That’s why I’m in my sons life so I can teach him how to be a man

Some are too strict. A man and wife can be too strict..I understand why because you need boundaries for your children. But that has to END. At some point you need to let go.. Don't be so clingy, parents that you can't let go. Now in the case of women who can't let go, that's the risk you play for giving the wrong person your heart. Men and women give their heart too wrong people and then get left.. No one seems to know how to meet the right people. And no one seems to know how to break up. They also play both ends against the middle with these multiple relationships. People are just fooling around. Their language proves it. (I fucked with this one....). Why these terms unless you are just living your life in the moment. Quite a few men and women do this. Its not okay either for neither one of them.

The irony is when a man chooses to be a punk instead of a man. A man should know how to put his woman in check meaning tell her I won’t tolerate the bs.. she can’t take his masculinity from him and I say this in the most respectful way, yes he can check his woman without putting hid hands on her or degrading her as a bitch whore etc. I can write a book right now but if he allows w her to talk to him like ..”she’s the man” he didn’t have the position in the first place it’s his insecurity A real woman will know and accept him and treat him exactly how he allows there’s no power struggle You stop playing your role No one wins but I will move the hell on. There is nothing wrong with being a stronger minded individual who will not continue to allow a husband to be what he’s better at because of the way he was raised, it’s just disrespectful bitterness Yes men become bitter jealous and have grown up in a household where the woman mother wife allowed her man if his father to be a no good SOB. I’m not trying to be controlled but I only will be with a man who is a man. If a man wants to show he can be a bigger bitch he’s weak and I don’t want any parts of it. Sorry you gave up and fighting for your manhood is going to Go beyond our home our relationship your manhood will continue to be tested but don’t call your high maintenance controlling want to be as you say a man ...wife who you have placed in that position. I love the femininity vs feminist movement 💄🧜🏾‍♀️

That's in the scriptures

You are like, the only black man on earth. That's seperated with his baby's mothers, and can see his children opon request...

glad you followed up with...NICE FLOW...fellas gotta know...its funny this could be on all your sites...this covers the whole spectrum in one swing...fellas...MEN...a man(by your ways and actions... not your mouth).....actually dictates(YOUR money..YOUR sex...YOUR culture....as ROM said stabilizes...MY GOODNESS...WHATTUP ROM....cant say PREACH because if these actually stop and listen they will see that MUTHAFUCKIN SPARK your speakin on..inside... WHATTUP ROM....again as you stated "EVERYTHING IS CONNECTED".....WHATTTUP ROM....ANOTHER DOPE ASS VIDEO....

You know Uncle Rom, I asked few guys in their early 20s ok about chicks. They all go crazy about doing one night stand cause doing "longer stuff" is too much work. What do you think about it?

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TRUE

My heart goes out to the black community

Wow, my father the my mentor my everthing. Who payed his child support in one lump sum. Thes was the in 1982, have difficulties seeing my sister and i...

bw , I go to Mexican bar once a month . Mexican women lv to be told what to do . I

Rom, do you thinks this applies to all women are just African American women's?

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13:15...Economic crash what about a Pandemic lol, Uncle Rom foresaw the future! Look at the present it's happening right now in end of 2020 - early 2021. So salute to the brothers protecting and guiding us men!

Interesting Topic. Mu male co worker's Wife is a Fitness Trainer, she's Toned and looks Masculine. He's not as Masculine as most Men. Until him I never met a Man that loves Masculine Women. What do you make of this Union brother Rom?

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What's up Big Rom, I don't get it how can a female in her right mind even won't to exchanging position but I figured it out I notice a lot of guys just to keep the female he want he'll backup and let her gain authority over him and a lot of it start at home my father didn't mess around and it rub off on me my mother called me daddy because I act like an old man when I was a youngster so that's why female's can't approve my behavior because she's use to bullshit and I want Let it fly if my mother allowed my father to be who he was what's wrong with these female's today.

When I say treated what he allows at no point am I saying push his buttons drama bussing windows yelling out or being childish and a fool...no I’m saying shutting off your emotions being petty and continuing a viscous toxic cycle... I don’t understand it yet Rom but I’m just one woman with flaws but my greatness outweighs my imperfections from the bedroom to the home children and my mouth...#sn I am a career woman who wears many hats! Some because I chose the wrong man to become 1 with but do I think all men are that dam stupid No bug infidelity unstable incapable no common sense and control or lack there of ...we need to grow our selective and separate ways!! Thank you for this platform to clear up simple but complicated confusions .., sometimes it’s a test but only to produce growth or become stagnant and you’re by your damn self! Good day all😁