My wife and I had a period of the so-called "bed death". It lasted about 6 or 7 months where none of us where into it, none of us initiated anything, and about 2 months in I was freaked out. I was so scared that I wasn't gonna want sex with her again or that she didn't want me. We talked about it after about 3 months, and we where just in a place where sex was not a thing. We still loved each other and we still wanted to be togehter, but our "sex-drive" was just not present at that time. After a while it just clicked. We casually had sex one night without any build-up or anything, it just happened. Just give it a bit of time, talk about it, and most of all; don't put ANY pressure on it or on each other. It happens to many couples, especially in long-term relationships. After 12 years together (12 year aniversary on May 1st❤), we are still going strong!
Thanks for sharing that!! It’s sooo important to talk about stuff like this bc it’s so normal and we don’t need to worry so much about it! :) ALSO CONGRATS ON 12 YEARS!!!!🎉 ahhhh!
In a realm of heterosexual relationships I've also heard of this. I've heard of couples who rarely have sexual intercourse but other than that have a very intimate, physical relationship. Sex doesn't define the quality of a relationship.
Being a lesbian woman myslef that is not really experienced anything sexual at all and having problems with thinking intimately because i have a suspition that may be neurodivergent in some way.These videos are really helpful for me , me and my girlfriend thank you xx
hey may i ask what do you mean by being neurodivergent in some way? cause i have also trouble allowing myself to be sexual. Always thought it was because of things that have happened but idk. Sorry im not english so i hope you understood my message. I just kind of want to now why my sexuality is so fucked up sometimes and maybe your experience can help me. Thank u xxx
i am a SA survivor (tho i am with a man), but he always makes me feel safe and makes sure im comfortable with everything he's doing and it means so much, bc my ex did not take any of that into consideration, at least not really, whenever i'd say no he would just ask again the next time to the point i gave up saying no, but my husband never forces anything on me, if i don't feel like doing anything he's fine with that. he's the sweetest thing ever.
As a fellow lesbian the men have always made me feel like my body should look a certain way especially in my you know (regions), and ever since iv'e been watching your channel I've felt so much better about my body and self confidence. Thank you both so much!
As someone who is scared of intimacy from personality disorder and like also just scared cuz I don’t know how to do anything related to sex, THANK YOU ❤
I thought I read somewhere that this "bed death" expression was invented by a lesbophobic doctor... Keara you made me laugh with the deadpan way you said "I don't think you need to do finger push-ups". ^^ Anyway, thanks for the video! :)
Lauren indeed has arms. Also, despite edging being a simple enough concept, you are the first people to explain *why* it would be helpful. So thank you. The why is equally important to the how.
13:30 I love that you kept this clip, it’s great to see couples checking in when taking about their intimate/personal lives and making sure both parties are comfortable with sharing. You two are always an awesome example of great communication in a relationship 💜
I just recently came out and this chanel has been super helpful in accepting who I am. Also i haven't seen you since lost and found and its awesome to see where you are now❤
Thank you for sharing about dirty talk. I know I'm lesbian now but I didn't always know that. I was in a situationship with a guy and he wanted me to send him voice notes of dirty talk and moanes and it was all *FAKE ASF!* not once did I ever moan naturally for him. 😬 Edit: Thanks for the reminder of surgeries. I remember as a teen when my toxic boyfriend at the time wanted me to send him pics of my private (even tho I f*cking told him I don't want to and he kept pushing me to do it) along with beong uncomfortable one of my reasons for not wanting to send anything is because I knew that mines didn't look like cornstars own. At the time I thought I just didn't develop properly yet since I was a teen but thankfully now I know that we come in all shapes, sizes, and colors, we don't all look the same there and corn is fake as f*ck and it's made for the male gaze.
This wa just amazing as a young closeted queer who lives in a very religious/homophobic county this helps me alot for the futer and gives me hope that one day i ca be as a hapoy ss you two , thanks for the awesome advice it was queerific lots of love
Hi, Keara and Lauren! Happy Tuesday!😊😊😊😊😊😎☀💙💙💙💙💙💙🇺🇸🌷💖💖💖💖💖💖💖🎇🎇🎇🎇🎇🎇👍. You two are the greatest couple in the world. And I love Lauren's reaction on the episode called "Queerantine." She said, "Is it too late to go back to Ohio?" And she did an "Eye Stare" pose! Now that's...a funny scary stare. Love it!😊💙💙💙💙💙💙💙💙😂😂🎇🎇🎇🎇🎇👍
This was legit helpful cause ive only been with one girl but im hoping to talk to my gym crush soon...btw you guys are perfect for eachother, you match eachothers energy perfectly💖
I had a lot of trauma around sex and when I met my wife, I was only then able to orgasm with someone else. It's about trust, feeling safe, and getting out of your head
Top and Bottom isn't a heteronormative dynamic. In fact, I would go so far as to say they emerged from queer spaces (e.g. the leather scene). They're about power exchange; sexual identity and gender are irrelevant when performing these roles. Conflating these roles with gender performance (e.g. equating tops with masculinity, and submission or subjugation with femininity) overlooks the diverse ways people experience top/bottom or dom/sub relationships. The scope is a lot wider than that, take femdom for example or sissy boys. If anything, kink/bdsm subverts heteronormativity. However, I absolutely agree that subs/bottoms have a form of power. Spot on with that comment.
I need SERIOUS HELP!!!!! So there is this girl I am not sure is she is straight or queer! now ima rant lol. So one of my friends asked her and he was like r u gay E? She looked at me in panic kinda blushing and said ummmm not sure then said uhhhh no to get out of the conversation. Another time I asked her she just was like ummmm and changed the topic. ( she said she definitely supported!) So could be questioning! And she ALWAYS texts me and she has a whole friend group but hangs around me a lot for example we are all in a math class and she sits with me! :) And she texted me wanting to call like on random.( does this all the time ) to note I just moved to her school so its a newer friendship (like 5 months! ) We also both are really flirty and of course I try to notice if she is the same with others and it doesn't seem like it! For example we are on the same softball team and always asks to catch with me ( We have loads of other friends on the team) and its always me!!!!!! And today in our Spanish class I was like its really cold and she was like yeah! And she was like ( the sweater she is wearing) do you want to use my sweater and she was like dang it ima get dressed coded so sorry and looked kinda disappointed! There are defiantly other things but the last thing ima say is we talk alot about deeper things and she is always trying to get to know me! For example we talked about how these boys had crushes on us and I made it very clear I am gay and she seemed not interested at all about boys ( this is supposedly the "cutest/coolest" boy ) And we kept talking a lot! Anyway anyone please please help!!! if you see this I NEED HELP!! thanks for reading my rant
Yep seems pretty obvious that she's into you, but she might not be ready to admit her feelings yet. Give her some time and I'm sure she'll come around :)
man I first came out as a lesbian like 3 years ago and when I imagine dating/having a crush on someone who is questioning it feels really difficult. good luck w ur girl tho
Respectfully, the first thing i thought when i opened this video was "omg Keera looks so hot today" and the second thing was "omg Lauren looks so hot today"
Y’all are so cute and fucking HILARIOUS 😆 I was in a mood but as soon as I pressed play I was cracking up so I poured a glass of wine and laughed along with you guys and suddenly my depressions cured wow ❤
I love you guys' attitude, chillness and stuff, and even though I am with a cis guy, these tips are very useful, because they work with any pairing where at least one set of female genitals are present. Also that 'pleasure is the measure' bit made me very happy, because it shows that you get your advice from good places. Anyway, keep being the awesome, happy and cute couple that you are!
does anyone know if keara's been speaking out about palestine? i know they're usually pretty vocal about things pertaining to rights for the oppressed, but i haven't been able to find anything online indicating they've been speaking about palestinian rights, which is a little disappointing...
@@catrasbestgal i just checked it and wow that's a little disappointing.. it looks like an ai generated image too. i wish keara would've shared resources that are actually beneficial, and that can help people, instead of just a photo that's going to disappear once the story expires...
@@moontobinsmom why are you that extremely disappointed though? Keara’s channel is specifically about queer and lesbian things and answering queer lesbian questions for her audiences. It would be pretty odd if she decided to move to a more political matter. Most of the time, she doesn’t speak out about too much else at least on RU-vid. I understand that big figure should speak up about the Palestine thing, but she’s not that big of a celebrity and it’s just not her job to do that. Not everyone has to speak out, it’s seriously not that big of a deal. If she hasn’t spoken about anything yet, then she probably just doesn’t want to have controversy by telling her political opinion
@@TheImagineQueen i don't know if you're new here or not, or just haven't watched any vlogs, but keara has been outspoken about "politics". it's also EVERYONE's responsibility to speak out about palestine, no matter how "big" of a celebrity they are in order to educate as many people as possible. your viewpoint is so ignorant. it ABSOLUTELY IS a "big deal" because there's a genocide and ethnic cleansing currently going on. please do better. i'm also not the only person who was disappointed they haven't been speaking out, especially since they have a track record of speaking out and raising awareness about people who are oppressed. get out of my face.
@@TheImagineQueenif we start making the deaths of humans political then we have lost our humanity. It isn’t political to speak up about people dying, it’s basic humanity🤷🏽♀️😊
Guys, please help me find a song in which Keara and her girlfriend were part of the video. I don't remember the name of the artist or the song, but I know they are in the video clip. Please, anyone who knows, send it here. Thanks!!
Hiiiii!!! ❤❤❤ I js found this channel today and I’m in love :). I’ve watched like 10 of your vids already hahahaha and your by far my fav RU-vidr on RU-vid ❤❤❤. But I really need help: I’m 13 and gay and idfk how tf to come out to ppl (the only two ppl I’m out to is my bi and gay friend). I really don’t know how to come out to other people and could really use some tips ❤!! Also ik this isn’t your most recent vid but I thought to comment on this video would be more fitting:))) please please can you help I’m desperate 😭😭😭 also I wish I found this channel sooner but better late than never ;))) ❤
I need help, but i don't have Instagram, so..... I am bi, but i have the most homafodic parents/family i have only told my pan friend, and now they are forcing me to be genders fluid i also have a boyfriend but i don't love him anymore heeeelp ❤❤❤
Is it they're trying to make your tank if you don't want to do something that exactly what the bullies wants train to keep you apart from each other so do do it
These men are talking about you behind your backs and that is what's going on in Upton stories eat the believe it believe that to tell you the wrong way around to mixie up and confusing
Be very very careful it's dangerous men trying to make queer people think things and say things you don't want to say or think so just be careful what is the bottom line
My mom is all "talk to me if you have questions about sex" (she's straight and knows I'm gay) and I'm like no thanks I'll go listen to the sex fairies thx
