Me too. 

it is so strange that I made a video two weeks ago....on what I went through in the industry after the movement momentum picked on...but I didn't have the courage yet to upload... to tell my story..my horrifying experience with a well known man in the film industry...something...i have been too embarrassed to disclose.... it still hurts and I support all the women who gave their story...full power to them...and seeing you talk with courage might inspire me to do the same...someday... much love...

Victim shaming is like a trend, especially in India. That's the sad truth. And v wonder y tanushree dutta or chinmayi didn't speak up decades back. Like seriously!!!! 😢 It's so frustrating when the victims r not given the benefit of doubt.

The worst thing is girls like me who still live under their parents roof are scared to tell their parents whom they trust the most. why? its simple, i live in India and if i open up about this probably it will affect my freedom. Probably i wont be allowed to go out with my male friends any more. Probably they will be scared everytime i have stay out late at night. People may say its immature of me to think like this, but i know how difficult was it for me to fight for my freedom, and i really dont wanna lose it.

The most saddening fact is that my own father talking cheaply of the #Metoo movement and I couldn't tell him that I was abused too twice in my life! People around me talking that this is just attention seeking and she wants to make money out of it angers me. My relative came and gave it a political angle to this whole movement which is happening in the Kannada cinema industry!!

*I volunteer for an NGO and I get to go to schools and teach the kids about inappropriate touching. We teach them with teddy bears and a series cartoon illustrations. Changing the world, one step at a time.* I believe Tanushree and it's a shame that she was treated the way she was treated. No man/woman/girl/boy/animals deserve abuse. Live and let live

Every gal has been molested. Every single word you have mentioned about relatives molesting n stuff was like me speaking up finally. I was shut n threatened for not mentioning.. I still get goosebumps thinking about it.

you go girl, you hit the nail on the head! We still live in a day and time where the victims are further abused and the rapist walks freely. Disgusting! All i all, so glad that people have started to open up and fight back, time's up for the gropers and predators. Thanks for this video!

I want to share my #metoo story with you in short. Well, I was in 4th standard and after school I was heading towards my school bus and I was walking alone and then suddenly I felt a stranger man touching my chest at first I couldn't understand what happened but as I tried to figure it out it immediately happened again and I ran into my school bus and I was in complete shock! I couldn't react I didn't know what to do. I still get chills when I think about that particular incident. Since then I kind of became shy and someone who's scared of men. But gladly I'm out of that stage now and a grown up individual.

Great to see that women are speaking up. And thanks for addressing sexual abuse of children by family members. This topic is so taboo that many Indian folks still refuse to discuss it openly and as a result, many children continue to be abused. Raise your children to have complete faith in you. Tell them that they should tell mommy and daddy if anyone touches them inappropriately. That mommy and daddy will love them no matter what. If anything happens to the child, it is not the child's fault. It is so important to take your child into confidence and assure them that they're safe. Have frank conversations with your children. I wish my parents did. I wish I could have told my parents that my uncle was abusive. But I did not. Because I knew my father would have somehow concluded that it was my fault.

its unfortunate how our first instinct is to sweep our shocking experience under the rug and try to forget about it. i wouldnt have remembered/realised what happened to me was wrong and against my will unless i stared watching all the interviews of victims explaining their moments. its a sad sad time and i hope this fire that has started now doesnt die down and return to the same old world, i hope we will see some strict actions and see some change.

I was 16 n I was at a park where guys who were around 12-14 passed lewd comments.. N I created a scene.. But none amongst the elders took any action bcoz I had worn shorts n dats was my mistake 😓.. Came home to tell my parents n my dad said .. Wars the point of going there n shouting at those guys .. They r from slums "unke muhh mat lago"... I haven't forgiven him for that yet ..kids see their parents as their role models..n I felt heartbroken.. Thanks for making this a platform for people to share their stories💙.. Hope more people accepted the reality n take steps to change it

I think as women, we have to take a bolder stand in supporting our fellow women, regardless of their social standing or status. It seems that every time a seemingly "decent" guy is accused of inappropriate behavior against a woman who isn't nearly as prominent or successful or famous, there are other women who come out to defend the guy saying things like "I've known this guy for x number of years and he has never been inappropriate with me" blah blah blah, as if that should deem him innocent. Ladies, just coz a guy has never behaved badly with you, it doesn't mean he hasn't ever done so. Especially in the film and media industries, these guys go after young, impressionable girls who are just starting out or who are in no position to speak out against their much more famous and powerful attackers. Look at Farah Khan's response to the Tanushree-Nana Patekar episode or girls like Jacqueline Fernandes with people like Sajid Khan. And just recently again, Khushboo defending Arjun Sarja against Shruti Hariharan's allegations. A lot of these women preach about equality and feminism but rarely practise it when it comes to actually taking a stand. Women are slut-shamed and their character assassinated for daring to speak out and then people ask why they didn't do so earlier. By all means, verify the accusations but let's not attack the victims. Totally agree with everything you said, Jovita

There is a lot of hypocricy in our society. Traditional mindsets want women to accept things and bow down in shame!! Nonsense!! We should condition growin children to think about opp gender in a respectful fashion. Education, knowledge, information should be inculcated about these things as they grow up.

I went to a very famous temple during navratri...there was a huge crowd...i got groped by a man... . . . . . I SLAPPED HIM IN FRONT OF EVERYONE.. gud thing: i feel good now! Bad thing: nobody even asked me if i was okay or ANYTHING ELSE! . . . . . P.S, i really dont share these things but ur video made me do it❤ . . . . . GIRLS PLEASE STAND FOR YOURSELF, "NOBODY" ELSE WILL!!!

Beautifully summed up. Parents children communication is so important. I'm from pakistan It's common here too and talking with parents about it is just another difficult stage to cross. I never did. I still can't. But now that I have a daughter, I would break myself rather her if anything happens to her.

Agreed. Why would somebody not believe Tanushree? - makes no sense to me. Men just want to sweep molestation under the carpet. I was molested too, in a water park with a man touching my private parts between my thighs. I was a child and didn't realise what was happening but now thinking about the incident makes me so angry. I don't even know my molester.. If I knew him, I would do what Tanushree Dutta did.

Right in the face 👊 Self defense techniques should be taught to both the genders by schools. At least it should be made a compulsory subject.

Ya Jovi what you have said is true. Every single girl under the sun has went through such a bad thing. This happens in all field but I cloud not understand when a girl speaks about this why do they keep on targeting her rather than questioning the concerned male n asking the girl a proof for it is totally hilarious. I have 2year old son n going to become a mother of two kid soon n thinking over these issues n praying God to give me knowledge to protect my children.

U r so right! Suffered the same thing back in the school days, told my mother, she told me just to avoid the person. Not good, not good at all!!!!😤

you are my new favorite youtuber! your content is really genuine, keep doing what you are doing

I’m so glad you spoke about this, you making this video shows that you are brave!!

Frankly speaking most of the parents in India especially mothers feel ashamed to discuss about periods with their daughter. I feel at least from now, this generation everything must change for good. Parents should be accepting the beauty of their children as they are instead of changing them. Frankly speaking I think each and every girl have been through this molestation. As you have said "Communication" is the key and people have to aware of all of this. I wonder if well educated people are behaving like this(molesting, abusing etc), what can we expect from other people? I really appreciate that you being open and discussing about this topic. Lots and lots of love to you

thank you so much for talking about this. i’m so sorry for what happened to you and every person you know. you’re so right about having to lift the shame and openly talk about this. i had the talk with my son when he was 3 and could understand and i’ve had it every year since and i’ll continue having it. thanks again Jovita. you’re amazing ❤️

Growing up fortunately i never experienced any such things and i thank god and my mom for it immensely. I remember she was like a hawk around my sister and i. Our father was abroad and she was in fear to raise two girls. But she put on a brave face and taught us as well. She taught us how to speak up if any such thing happens. I never realized the emotion or sickening or frightening aftermath of any such things because it was all hunky dory for us . Now that i am a mother of a girl, I understand the price my mom paid to keep us safe. She must have always been under immense pressure. I say to my daughter what my mom taught me. Girls have to have a million eyes around her. Always be cautious of everyone around us. Speak up . Its not your fault its their fault. Its unfortunate that we have to live like this hopefully atleast for next generation things become easy and there will be a society which is not full of Bs. My heart goes for all women who have to go through such horrible experiences.

Girls are always taught to “be a lady, sit properly, dress modestly” etc. But much more importantly boys MUST be taught to be respectful of girls, don’t say rude/inappropriate things, don’t touch a girl without her permission, etc.That also is soooo important! I will make sure to teach my son to be respectful to girls.

Hi Jovi. I just wanted to say. Can we also teach our kids , the future generation to not abuse or molest or touch someone in inappropriate places right from childhood along with raising awareness about they should not ne touched? Just an opinion. I always felt action should be initiated from ones end. Abusing, molesting, rapes have happened and are happening but to prevent it from happening is equally important as creating awareness about discussing it and opening up.

Mrjovita This was an awesome message and brave too. I wish everyone who has a large power like you will be brave and stand up for all the women who are voicing their opinion. Pleas continue to influence the generation of today and in good ways. This is a strong way to move forward and to change the youth. Victim shaming is the worst thing that we Indians and generally anyone can do. Rape, Molesting and other indecent acts is shame on the person doing the act and not the victim. When we can change our minds to think like that we can be stronger and more united to be against this disgusting acts. Together we can and we will make a difference. Jai Hind!

Here in United States we go annual physical for kids and doctors tell them what is an inappropriate touch. India should have something like that. We do have good friendly conversation with our son all the time so that if he needs to say something he will not have to think twice.

I was touched inappropriately...never spoke about it to anybody..but can't forget it either...it's a pain...it was an army . Person ...and .my friend told me about her experience .. close family friend touched her ... inappropriately..we can't talk about this and share ...it demands so much strength ....hats off to all those ladies coming out and speaking about this thing ..

I appreciate your honesty dear...Proud of you.

Hi Jovita I have been binge watching your channel for the last 3 days and I was wondering when you will be talking about this and here you are ...well I have been having this discussion with my husband... he believes that this #me too movement has become more like a gender war rather than the focus being on the sexual harassment. Also I am happy that at least you mentioned that it is not women against men but can be other way round or just same gender molestation and I empathise more with those men because they can’t even say it even now.....real pity.... why can’t we be open about the fact that it is both ways .....I don’t know if what I am trying to say is getting across but I just wanna say I agree with you that men have an even tougher time coming out with such things......

Thankyou for this my sweetheart! It is so true!! Xx

Just seeing this video when going through your older videos. Thank you for doing this.

Thank you, Jovita! You are so right, these conversations MUST start at a young age. And parents must set an example.

I feel the more this topic is a taboo, the more difficult it is for people to open up with their experiences..the more we talk about it and listen to others the more open minded people will get and It will stop being a point for judgement and character assassination of the victim and people will actually start taking action against the perpetrator.. love you jovi.. you are the best 😘😘

Jovitaaa I LOVE YOU FOR UR WORK😍😍😍

U r absolutely right Jovi! It's appalling how some people are responding to tanushree's situation. Most ridiculous being Rakhi Sawant obviously. I recently sat down my 4 yr old niece (my sister's daughter) and taught her about the good touch/bad touch. My sister was also present there . We made sure she understood that she must come up to either me or my sister if there is anything to talk about and not just brush it aside.

Thank you for talking about this.. this makes me so so sad. So so SOO many of us has been in this position because of the toxic personalities of some people in the world. I’ve never told any adult about my abuse but I live with it every day, and I’m glad that your addressing the problem of bottling it up

Thank you for this video. I feel the exact same way. Having gone through expenses myself my heart goes out to all who endured same. And like you said this must be stopped so our sisters, daughters , friends and all precious children and innocent people are not subject to this. Love you Jovita! 💕❤️

Well said Jovi! It is high time the social stigma surrounding abuse of any kind be broken down. Parenting has a lot to with it but at the same time our educational standards too need a drastic upgrade with regards to self defense and appropriation of touch. Thank you for using your reach to in this topic. I wish more and more popular RU-vidrs speak about this.

Awesome video..point by point! Honestly ..you will be an awesome mom in future!

This was needed. Someone had to speak the truth. Thank you ❤️

This is such a beautiful video Jovi!it just goes on to show,how you dont want to influence just in the beauty aspect,but also want to be an influencer in a more broader aspect!Was so happy you planned on doing this..and even happier to read the comments of how strong women are,that inspite of facing the worst of situations,not knowing what’s happening and not having anyone to talk to about it..they still managed to come out strong and be the best versions of themselves! Cheers to you and all the women here and around,who are fighting their demons and plan on continuing to do so,love all♥️

Just started watching your videos a few days ago and I found your content to be so lovely, relevant, funny and sensible... What you are saying is totally true... Every girl has gone through this shit and one of the ways to change this situation is to be strong enough fight and give it back to the people doing this... People talk about society being so and so and forget that they too are the part of the same society so they are society... Nobody else cares if you don't... High time people get some sense to face these unknown people they fear of...

I remember being kissed and hugged inappropriately by a newly married neighbour when I was 6, groped multiple times when I was 12 by strangers, family friends, school teachers till I realized that I was being abused. When I learnt about stuff happening to my sibling, I broke out and then finally talked about my sibling's encounter to the higher authority. Then My mom passed away. Countless encounters I had, even after an awareness. I was touched by my external guide of my project, who was also a family-friend, when I was in college and God, I was a bright student. (Eventually, I stopped approaching for help). After this incident, I was tried up on by my dad in a subtle way, but somehow I had the courage to resist, then I left for a new place and became independent and arrogant and never got into such situations. My arrogance was my defence against people and now I have become stronger and non-vulnerable. I think, children under 14, mentally less strong people are targeted by these predators in family. Thankfully, It was just a phase for me.

Thank you for using your voice to speak about sexual abuse/molestation - it's never a comfortable conversation to start but I think you did this subject justice, especially about how victims should not feel ashamed to talk about their experience. The way you spoke also felt like a real conversation instead of a PSA and left me with a sense of hope. Thank you

what u said is very relatable in my case too..

We should have more people who talk about these important things openly then only it'll make a difference one day. You did your part just great and we all gotta do ours.

It's so amazing you made this video. Every word you spoke is true and meaningful. It's great you took an initiative to speak about this!

Parents of this generation has a lot more to do to care and safeguard their children; only solution is communication communication communication... What your friend is doing is the right thing. And thanks for speaking up on this platform Jo! 💖

Bravo...Jovita!!!! U speak our hearts ❤

Greaaat great greaaaaat videoo!! And i totally agree with u

Jovita grt that u took up this topic. Even i was harassed by my relative but i did tell my mother and she gave a good class to him and from that day he was not even had the guts to have an eye contact with me or with my mother.👍

This couldn't be a easy video to make I like alot of RU-vidrs but I LOVE you Jovi ... This is a hard subject for us Desi girls thank you

Which lip shade Ur using?? It's a lovely shade..looks good on you..

I think you are absolutely right about parents being more supportive. Its also important that we are given a chance to speak, if not at home then at school in the form of counselling etc... the goverment and the people with power need to make awereness of this problem as well in a way.

As a girl from Europe coming to live in India next year, I'm glad India is starting the me too movement and starting to make India a safer place for women. I'd love to help and see India grow and change. The movie industry sleeping with influential people to move up to fame thing makes me really sad and it's one of the reasons I'm deciding to not go down a media route but to study economics instead. Honestly the amount of abuse going on in India amongst both men and women is shocking and I hope within my lifetime I will see that change with education and people like you, talking about things like this. Education is key.

So much truth in this jovi. Love this video xx

Omg. You just spoke my heart. I love you!

I feel we need to introduce/re-introduce educating our kids about 'good' and 'bad' touch at an early age of nursery if not earlier.. by the time, something unfortunate happens we'd be either too shocked or unsure to share our experiemce to an elder. It flips my stomach, each time I hear another sharing of such incidents at a young age.. thank you for sharing Jovita! Really unfortunate when it happens in the family and nothing is done about it.

I love you to bits Jovita. Thank you for sharing that with us. You're a brave soul for doing so. Blessings, A fellow Kuwait-based vlogger.

Awesome of you for doing this

U have summarised life of almost every women/ girl of India.... Very glad that this #Metoo movement is gaining momentum....but still there are lots and lots of stories that r buried underneath.... hope a day will come when everybody could come up with their stories......(including me).....🤞

Which lipshade u r wearing....

Seriously dude! You spoke my mind.

U r truly right😊

Grt inspirational video jovita

I can't agree more!! Whatever you said is true to every girl in our society. To overcome this more awareness needs to be introduced in modes of self defense and all, but mostly the comfort level should be there between the child and the parents. As a victim myself I know that I could speak about it to my Mom and thank God for that, she then took care of the situation. However, the majority of the kids (of either gender) are still in two minds about bringing up the topic, let alone speaking! Hopefully the new generation of parenting will be different from the way it has been all this past years!!

Girlllll, I need to get my child ready for school and I'm listening and watching your vid ... No tea yet! Lol. Thank you for this video. All around the world society on a hold blame women for every problem, we need to teach boys responsibility for their damn actions and respect towards women( well everyone) they need to know that only Yes means Yes and even Yes can turn into a damn NO!!!

You have such a big heart and m such a huge fan of yours! The world needs more RU-vidr's like you. And I almost cried watching this video! Thanks for this video Jovita 💕💯❤. Ilysm 💛💕💯

This is soo brave of you Jovita. women need to come forward and share their experience women don't come foward clearly because of the reason for being shunned #strongwomen

This is the best video. I request everyone to share this video everywhere. Let the whole world know about this and learn from it. This is to save the future generation the change has to start and has to start now.

Wow so much truth. Straight on the face!!! #metoo

I love you for this. Soo soo proud

I have never been molested, and personally don't know anyone who has, but my heart breaks for everyone that has gone through such horrible experiences. Thank you so much for using your platform to speak about this subject and to encourage others. You are an inspiration! May God bless you ❤️

This look is so lovely! The top is cute, the makeup looks great.

I dont mean to be insentive given the topic your talking about but what's the name of the lip gloss you have on? @jovita

Nice one Mr JoviG...

The lipstick shade you have applied please reply

Oh boy... you let or all out!!!! And it's awesome!!!

So true jovi....

True. "Awareness is the key " sad to know we are in this day & time & still dealing w every type of sexual abuse, molestation especially for women in any industry. It is totally bad in every aspect. Thanks for mentioning it & bringing attention to this & yes, awareness is the key

Im glad u addressed it.

I am so proud to be a part of your RU-vid followers, jovita, for making this video. I mean it was almost well known that this happens, isn't it? So many women with potential stay away from the film industry because of this. So, why are people having this disbelief at the #metoo movement? I am so glad it is happening. I mean even the standards of what counts as "courting" in the Indian movies makes me cringe. And we were so conditioned to that, that we thought it was ok. I think it is time we as a country, grow up!

You said it so correctly and you’re brave darling 🙌

Well said hun💋❤

I'm so sorry that happened to you. I can really understand not being able to speak about what happened to anyone. #metoo changed my life and I think many other women, no one ever talked about how common sexual abuse is before that.

u are so strong, to everyone that is a victim, you are strong, we see u and we believe u. keep fighting!

............beautifully done!😇

It is astonishing how many how been touched/assaulted! It seems every female I know has experienced some form of this; being grabbed at a club, a relative, a ‘family friend’, child minder .. Agree with wholeheartedly! Covering great topics in a honest, respectful and delicate manner - thank you !

You are very brave and right! This also happened to me and everyone of my relatives and I am not Indian..

Lots of respect for you. 💓

Thank you Jovita. I'm so sick of the "Don't tell anyone" attitude of Indians. THIS ATTITUDE is the a shameful thing! Not the victim talking about it. People really don't get the #metoo movement. Like you, me and most of my female friends have experienced some sort of sexual harassment. But it all comes out much later when nothing can be done. So then the thoughts of others are, "Why bring it up now?" explaining that takes so much patience because really... you just want to punch them in the face. Anyway, thank you for talking about this. It was nice to hear a fellow Malayalee woman understanding our point of view. Sending you lots of love and I'm sorry you also had bad experiences

Jovita absolutely well said

It's sajid khan.. I agree it happened to me when I was 5.

Well said......parents teaches their children to not be touched. Yet still when you are a victim the said parents keep quiet and not do or say anything further damaging the child......thank you for speaking.

I am so proud that somebody in the beauty industry is talking about it.

Great. U r correct .👍

Can you give us examples of how you've managed to implement that openness within your own family or with relatives, or maybe direct us to resources for how to approach these discussions and not lose track when we meet resistance? It is hard to imagine having an open conversation about something so sensitive without a few guidelines or facilitated starting points.

thank you for sharing. this topic in the indian community feels really overwhelming for me :(