As a woman, I walked away from an abusive relationship. I paid child support, I help to pay the mortgage on a house I was not living in... I did this because of my sons who were still in the house. It hurt for years emotionally being away from my sons. Thankfully, my younger son now lives with me. I had to fight in the courts away and pay out a lot of money. Well, God restores. I am remarried, happily and God is blessing me in many ways. I lost it all, but God Restores. After 14 years of divorce, God has restored and given me back the years that were stolen.
J espere aussi car 14 ans séparé et seul av les enfants. Que deception. Que Dieu me fasse pareil et que je trouve 1 personne bien qui me fera oublier ces années de larmes et tristesse, au nom de jesus. Amen
This is about the man being abused. But sorry for your experience. Ladies always get a chance to tell their story. This comment section should be saved for the abused men living in darkness 😢😞😔
Papa Perkins is paying the most for this divorce. Too much. Two mortgages at 75, no longer living with his wife at this stage in life, driving so much every week and probably being so tired all the time. I think he’s doing all that for his wife who wants to be close to his children and grandchildren. And without complaining? What a man, man.
I felt like crying for both of his parents! Imagine being 80 and also going through this because you want to be there to help your son and see your grandkids. Nikki was so vile to move them that far away from their support system.
Again, why should a man get married, regardless of if your right or wrong your kids get torn from you. 9/10 you cough up the financial losses. Women can leave for something as little as “we grew apart” or “boredom”. They find a more ways to make this contract sound so foolish.
I sometimes throw myself pity parties for not being in a relationship at 28 years old, but hearing this & countless other experiences with toxic relationships & marriages, I'm beginning to be grateful for being single.
same hun same. 28 and not in a relationship because of toxic ex but imagine being in a marriage with a toxic person and having to go through the legal battles omg.
No rush my dear. I was on the same timeline as you and got married at 30 and have four kids ( when l was 31...33..36 and then 38)... happily married now. Don't rush into a thing. You have the right mindset!
The ending made me cry. They were my very first RU-vid couple. I always looked up to them. I hope Nikki gets her anger issues under control for the sake of the kids. I was a part of an abusive marriage as well and it was not easy at all. I had to leave for the sake of me and my son's safety. I'm glad Jamie is out of that, he didn't deserve that.
My mum kept telling me,the most important decision you'll ever make is in the choice of partner you have kids with! I Pray you meet someone who can love you and your kids the right way!
It broke my heart to see Grandma Perkins crying. Nikki should be ashamed to use the girls against you and your parents. Jamie, I will keep you and the girls in my prayers.
Nikki have no respect and she even try to knock the camera out his hand, shame on her she didn't even apologize to his mom,neither her sister didn't say a word 😢
Absolutely disgraceful behaviour, especially when we've seen how kindly they treated her for years! I'm not a fan of my in-laws, but I can't even fathom acting that way and well as weaponising the kids to say they'll never see them again.
I agree I had the same thing done to me and grandma Perkins is an amazing woman kids do not need to hear their parents fighting this is narcissistic abuse
Damn, I can feel his pain. As someone who went thru trauma in a marriage, I totally get why you choose to be transparent now. The transparency IS a huge part of the healing process. I hope Jamie and Nikki get the happiness they deserve and eventually build a healthy relationship for the kids.
Hang in there Jamie! You’re worthy. You’re a great dad. You’re a great son. You’re a great and kind human being. It’s hard now, but it’ll be better soon. Your girls will understand when they grow up. Hope you reconnect with your friends too. Sometimes we need to make the first move to reconnect.
If Nikki posted a video like this, would you guys comment and say she shouldn't have said anything? Leave this man alone let him tell his truth. The End.
Yes I definitely would! "If" your words! But she didn't did she bc no matter what adult was wrong she's protecting her kids! Releasing that audio will have an effect on their kids mental health with all their school friends & neighbour knowing! Sometimes adults can be so selfish! This is what pees me off! And no we shouldn't leave him alone! This is an open social media platform & he's put his business out there for a reaction! He sure is gon get it!
@summerbreeze7832 you're very naive. Those children will know the truth one day. Doesn't matter how secret you keep it, the truth will always come to light. Children are alot stronger than you know. And since they've already seen Nikki be violent towards him.....Those kids know. I promise you, Those kids know and will remember those times.
@@menxce561 Far from naive! I'm a mother of a 17 yr old & a teacher! You must think you're replying to a kid! Jamie is wrong posting this...period!!! Keep that shite behind closed doors! He revealed too much private information! What real man go on social media revealing all that personal stuff about his baby mama!? People do stupid things for content when they're desperate! He should delete this damaging video!🤦🏾♀️
@@menxce561 Yes, the truth will be revealed to the girls, but some of it should have been keep out of the public eye! Why does he want the world to know? He's bitter!
Jamie the best advice I have for you is, when you speak to her, be emotionless, do not discuss anything outside the kids, don’t be nice, don’t be mean, don’t show ANY emotion! People like this feed off your emotions and use this as a way of controlling you. Please do this. It’s called stonewalling and it works! You are a kind person and deserve way better than this but don’t give her anything she doesn’t deserve. She don’t deserve ANYTHING from you.
Society needs to start listening to Men , watching this made me realize that men go through a lot of trauma due to lack of attention. I hope you heal through this painful experience Jamie 🙏🏽
It's sad that it took this video and this man to show you that men have a traumatic experience and can be abused. This isn't a jab at you at all. Its sad.
This video needed to happen. I'm a child of parent alienation, and no one talks about the damage it does to the child. I wish my father would've made a in depth/real time video of the struggles he was having attempting to co-parent.
You have so much strength. Everyone always believes when women say they’re being abused but when men try to stand up for themselves they’re shut down. Thank you for speaking up and I hope you heal and hope this shows other men they can stand up for themselves.
I'm a woman and I've been where you've been. I had to pay alimony and child support and had my child 50% of the time. You're still young enough Jamie so once the girls get older you'll be able to seek out your dreams. They are still young now. You'll see.
Jamie’s not that young lol he’s mostly in his early 40’s but I’m here for him and him starting his life over! I was excited when I saw him getting his life back together and said maybe now he’ll go back to posting videos of him and celebrity musicians
If you don’t mind me asking, why did you have to pay? I am currently going through a child custody battle with my ex, and I know it’s different jurisdictions, but what made the judge decide that?
I'm sick to my stomach. What I just saw is beyond shocking. If Jamie hadn't recorded any footage, I never would have believed it. This video was heart wrenching. I pray for healing for both parties.
Nikki was a toxic parent and that phone call he recorded was her alienating him from his kids bc of her insecurities and abandonment issues. Thats the true reason why he got 50/50 custody. Judges don't play those games anymore and he documentated everything. The drama she caused the kids, i can only imagine. I'm no longer a fan of Nikki. I hope time heals all and parents these days need to realize it took two people to get the kids here and it will take two parents to raise them. Thank you for telling us your story. It was right on time. More men should come forward with their stories.
It broke me to see your Mom upset. She helped with Ava since the day she was born. Your Dad is such a hard worker and a sweet soul. You, Jamie are just like them. You have a big heart! Hang in there Jamie! Do not let her ruin you! Look at some of the suggestions here for re-brand your RU-vid channel. We ❤ you Jamie!!
His dad is still working at 75!!! And comes home to his wife on the weekend. He is strong. This is hard. I cannot believe what this woman had done to this family
I felt so sad when he started talking about his parents. Imagine being 75, still working full-time so hard and away from your 80 year old spouse. Nikki is absolutely vile to have moved the kids so far away from what was their constant support system. His parents did so much for them!
Jamie you can continue to do RU-vid. Be yourself and do you and post what you’re doing. Post motivational talks, talk about overcoming depression, talk about what it’s like being single again, talk about what it’s like to be a single dad.
It’s mean 4 years Jamie it’s time to start dating..I love Nikki but you have to be happy and have a life ! So does nikki .Everything will be alright and you keep putting out that content I will watch and many others will watch as well . Content something like Jamie Perkins finding love again ..Jamie Perkins dating life get back out there and the rest will fall into place ❤❤❤❤❤👍🏽👍🏽👍🏽
Jamie you are an amazing father! I hope you the best. You most definitely can still do YOU TUBE! Dig deeper with the kids. Talk about healing your family and your relationship with Nikki. God will bring you the creativity.
Thank you so much for sharing this. Transparency is a huge part of healing. I pray that you will find love again and total healing in this situation. ❤
I've been following your journey for years, from the beautiful moments you shared with Nikki and your lovely daughters to the heart-wrenching struggles you've faced during this messy divorce process. It's truly disheartening to see a relationship that was once admired by so many end in such turmoil. I want you to know that I respect your decision to finally speak out and share your side of the story. It's evident that there are truths and perspectives on both sides, and as someone who believes in fairness and empathy, I won't be taking sides or assigning blame. Relationships are complex, and sometimes two people simply aren't compatible, no matter how much love there once was. It's a painful reality, but it's also a necessary one if both parties are to find peace and happiness in the long run. I want to commend you for your bravery in finally speaking out and sharing your truth. It takes immense courage to open up about the painful truths and the emotional toll this has taken on you. It's clear that you've been through a lot, both financially and emotionally, and my heart goes out to you. It's unfortunate that divorce can often bring out the worst in people, leading to hurtful accusations and using children as pawns. It's a situation no one should have to endure, especially when children are involved. I want to encourage you to stay strong and focus on moving forward, even though I know it's easier said than done. Healing from such a traumatic experience will take time, but it's important to remember that you are not alone. There are people who care about you and are here to support you every step of the way. I admire your courage in being open and honest about your experiences, and I hope that by doing so, you can find some closure and begin the healing process. It's not easy to move on from such a significant chapter of your life, but I believe that with time and self-reflection, you'll emerge stronger and wiser. It's important to remember that your daughters are watching and absorbing everything that happens, both online and offline. As they grow older, they may struggle to reconcile the public narratives with their own memories and experiences. That's why it's crucial for both you and Nikki to be mindful of the content you put out and the impact it may have on your daughters' well-being. I urge you both to prioritize open communication and cooperation when it comes to co-parenting. Your daughters deserve to have a healthy relationship with both of their parents, free from resentment and animosity. Please know that as a subscriber to your channel, I am here to offer my support and encouragement, no matter what decisions you make. You deserve happiness and peace, and I believe that with time and healing, you will find it again. Keep your heart open to love and know that brighter days are ahead. Take care of yourself, Jamie, and know that you have a community of people rooting for you.
You're right!! My mother did this to me when I was a teen. Now I'm 30 years old and we're not in contact anymore. I'm so sad about the fact that I was just a 'thing' for her.
Your present position is not your final destination. Trust that God will work it out easy to say I know but cast your cares upon him for he cares for you. God bless you.
I’m really surprise she hasn’t tried to do that already but I think the girls are old enough and he’s been in their lives long enough for them to know and feel how much he really does Love them. I hope and pray she doesn’t attack him after seeing this videos or send her fans to harass him again. He spoke his truth
OML... I feel for everyone involved. This is sad. I hope you're able to find yourself and peace again, sir. Very seldom do we get to witness what the man goes through, but this was an eye opener. Blessings and Love to you and your family, sir. Keep the strength and endurance to push forward.
I went through the same experience as you, but it was my husband who abused me, prevented me from going out, and deprived me of money and sometimes food. I encourage you to tell the truth, take care of yourself and be close to God.
There are so many women out there who wish their children’s father was half as excited to be involved in the kids lives as you are. Your girls will appreciate you for this in the future ❤
There are so many women out there who manipulate & do everything in their power to push him away as well. Both things can be true but yet we are only allowed to discuss 1 & empathize with 1 while bashing the other. Things that make you say mmmm 🤔🧐
uber content...getting ready as an uber driver, the interactions, how you start your day, the people you meet, the neighbourhoods. You get the gist...it's your lifestyle, be creative with it and we pray for views and collabs and brands. The future is bright Jamie...keep going x
Maybe even to Collab with car brands and do like a ‘come with me to be an Uber driver in a lambo’ and get people’s reactions as their Uber driver turns up in an amazing car Could even get to the point where it’s done intentionally and you find car lovers and make their dreams come true with it or something! HERE FOR THIS CONTENT 🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾
I can relate to SO much that you talked about in this video. I truly commend you for the father that you want to be and strive to be for your girls. Honestly we need more men like that! It absolutely broke my heart the last piece with your mother 💔 when she said she was not okay. Your parents have always been a great support system for you and your family, even now. I pray Nikki changes. And I pray for peace for you and your family as well 🙏🏿. Thank you for sharing ❤.
Such a horribble behaviour from Nikki... I cried when your mom cried. That's why if you love someone, it should be real love.. she's been so FAKE. Thank God you separated. I was on here begging for you both to get back together, because of what you made me see on your channel, now I am happy. Hope her anger saves her from high blood pressure. This is Violence. Work on yourself home girl!! Thank you for coming out Jammie!!!
A whole mouth full because I would’ve never thought Nikki was giving it up like this. And as a single mother with a wack ass kids father. I am disgusted by Nikki behavior.
It’s shocking that he was suffering the whole time and he hid it, continued to be strong for your kids , Jamie life changes all the time so wishing you healing, and fast happiness.
I feel sorry for ever having judged you in my own way ..in as much as I never said or wrote anything on here ,thank you for speaking out ..hearing your side of the story was an eye opener..hope men learn to talk about these hard moments and find help and guidance in whatever hard times they experience..sending hugs and hope you heal and continue being a great dad.
You don’t have any family You don’t have any friends You don’t have any kids 🤨 You’re depressed….😒 I’m shook! These words are hurtful. She pretended to be an angel all this time, I even bought her lies and thought Jamie was the bad one. The evidence does not lie. We have all seen what she truly is, and to think Jamie still wanted to work things out but she was so brutal and mean! That’s … just… crazy man! 😔 I feel so sorry for him. He seems so out of it!
When grandma started crying that did something to me. I’m proud of you for coming out and speaking up for yourself. I stand with you and whatever content you make moving forward.
I want to admit everything u we’re saying Jamie I believed. My kids are adults now but when me & their father broke up I tried to make his life miserable bc I was angry he broke up with me. I took him for child support, wrote post, tried to turn everyone against him bc my ego was broken. It took my mom may her soul rest to tell me that if I’m doing things out of spite nothing good will come out…there is a thing called karma. My kids were the ones hurting, I changed this man life. my kids father was basically homeless & couldn’t renew his driving license & jailed bc he was behind child support! I dropped the child support & we worked something out on paper. I pray things will change for u. 😮
So good of you to admit this. I have seen this over and over with women. Glad that your mom showed you that the kids were being hurt. It's good that you stepped aside for the benefit of your children. ❤
Its a pity how black women are so desperate for white men...its pathetic....and many of these marriages always end up in divorce...because you wabt to date whites for their pale skin, mixed children and nothing else
Saw through her, never believed any of the rumors. If youve watched any of her new content, she is a completely different person from the old videos, where this man has remained honorable and the same. Praying for you and that the situation gets better for the children
@@Ulriiich23maybe because she’s beautiful!? I can’t believe you called her dark, dark. I never liked Nikki but you can’t deny that she’s super model beautiful. I can tell he really loved her. You sound like you hate yourself. I hope your life gets better.
@@Ulriiich23your so unhinged. “Why would she marry a dark dark Barbie” as if it’s some flaw. Your have some sort of odd biased towards women with a darker skin complexion.
Point of correction Your career isn’t dead It is just beginning. She might take your car and your business and your joy not allowing you earn a livelihood how you are used to…but she can never take your spirit Your spirit will rise like it has always done, you’ll stand and you’ll be happy once again You’ll do well Give it a year… the algorithm will start pushing your videos to the right audience. You’ll be back better than before You’ll prosper and You’ll be fine We love you ❤
Hearing nicki telling you that you don’t have family nor friends and that you’re depressed is just cruel and rubbing it in your face, kids should never be used as pawns
I haven't watched in some time but Jamie I am shocked and heartbroken to know what the family has gone through! Obviously as viewers we don't know the things that may be happening but as a viewer for many years, I have seen the love you and your parents have for the children. They have thrived on it. I am sorry this has happened to you and the family. Your parents are such loving people. I encourage you to focus on your skills and continue evolving. You have so many talents and such a wonderful group of friends, please lean on them and be good to yourself. I know your parents will continue supporting you and the girls will always love you. I hope that you find love again and find your happiness again. The girls will grow up and have their lives and you deserve that as well. I am quite baffled that Nikki would behave this way, especially in front of her children. I hope she gets the help she needs and puts the children's happiness in the priority status it should have. God Bless you!❤
I cant believe she brought his parents into this. His parents especially his dad. He was such a sweetheart toward her(Nikki). I hope that things works out for you Jaime. And things gets better between you both for the girl's sake.
Jamie, it is so amazing you coming out of your isolation and talking about what you have been going through. That takes a lot of courage! I hope you will find resilience on your way towards healing. It will take time, but you can be a model for men in a similar situation who don't find the courage to out themselves because they think it is not "a man's thing' to do. You stood up for yourself, unmasking lies. Kudos to you! You are a warrior dad, fighting the just fight! And God will be with you every step of the way! 🙏🙏🙏 You are not alone in this.
Jamie you have been an excellent Creative Influencer for years. You still have what it takes to go to another level. I know you will make a come back as none other. You will see because God has your back!! Jamie you have a good heart and you are a great Dad. Once abuse enters a marriage or relationship you have no choice but to leave that toxic place. The sacrifices you made were the right ones. The pain you have endured is going to make you strong. Jamie God has the answers you are seeking. Just pray and listen to him. God created you to be successful. Omg!😢. Nikki took no care to showing violence in front of the baby and your mother. What a horrible way to show the girls how to demasulate and mistreat a man. Most importantly their father.😢
I'm glad you're finally speaking out, Jamie! I hated that all of the negative assumptions were about you as people speculated what happened to your marriage all these years. I always suspected it wasn't you. You deserve to say your peace! As a woman, I fully support fairness and you've shouldered being the victim, the secret keeper and the public relations representative for both of you. You've protected her and it's cost you your peace. Being silent and diplomatic has left you heartbroken and broken in so many other ways, evidently. No more. Your children are beautiful and I want them to grow up loving both their parents dearly, but fair is fair. Speak your peace! I know you love her so I won't say what she sounds like on those phone calls. Whatever Nikki is going through, I pray God change her heart and have mercy on her because she's wrong wrong wrong.
I completely agree with your statement here. I stated something similar years back when they announced they were separating. Something didn’t sit right with me and I just couldn’t side with Nikki. I felt like something was just off. I’m happy Jamie has spoken up.
I cried this whole video because there a men out there who would choose their passion instead of their kids. And he is still speaking highly of Nikki. May God make a way for you both.
Praying for your family Jamie. You did the right thing by exposing it. I am sure it helps others who are going through the same thing to see that they are not alone, and not the only ones experiencing it. As you work through it they will be encouraged to know they can too. God knew you would see it. He also knows his way through it. Praying he will show you his way and let you and your family feel his power as he carries you through it. Also, praying what was meant to harm you will be used to bring you and your family good. God is above anything we could ever face on earth. Again, thank you for being open and honest and posting this.
So sorry for what you went through. Moving on is part of your healing, find love again. You are not perfect ,but you are a good man and you deserve a good woman . You need to cut the control and abuse . Take one day at a time. Even sharing this video is great strength. Blessings
I think he came out to expose this years later because it is taking a psychological toll on him. When you’re dealing with a public humiliation and choose to never address it, it will eat you alive until you publicly deal with it. There is a reason why the saying goes, “The truth will set you free.”
No i think its because there is some truth to what Nikki is saying too....people are tooo quick to pick sides...as far as i see they both are hurting each other n the kids will ultimately get the worse of it
No it's because he's broke and looking to make a fast buck. Plus he's missing the attention. He's suffers from ADD and right now his victim mentality act is the only route he can take to make a fast buck now that nikki has stopped the kids from RU-vid
Jamie told all of us that he can't pay his rent. That's what this video is all about, views and a paycheck. I am not defending Nikki as I think they both did wrong
OMG!!! I haven't even watched half of the video, and I'm speechless already... I literally have no words. Truly, we can't ever know anyone, especially through the lens of a camera. My heart, thoughts, and prayers are you with Jamie... This too shall pass ❤❤
I am so so sorry for the amount of pain and hardship this has all caused you and your parents. It definitely sounds like you have been involved with narcissistic abuse which is tremendously hard to overcome. I wish you all the best and may you one day find real love and happiness.
This is one of the most honest videos I’ve seen on here. I hope you stay strong and I hope that things work out towards where things get better. Stay strong and keep going. I know you will for your girls because you seem like a good dad.
Jamie I will truly say wholeheartedly, I apologized, I too ran with a narrative not knowing what was going on because I thought men rarely leave or rarely got abused. I just saw Nikki as “soft spoken angel” and “she would never” type. I know everyone’s not perfect but that was my foolish perception. I wish you nothing but peace, prosperity and health for you and your beautiful girls. I’m sooooo sorry you had to deal with the trials and tribulations of difficult co parenting just to be a great providing father. God bless you my dear. 💚
I truly am sorry for what you went through but what the devil mean for harm God turns around for your good and listening to you I can tell you're being honest I red the title on some of those videos but never allowed myself to look at them also you can find so many reasons to be grateful despite all that was happening so my dear continue to be blessed
I absolutely loved your family. I just loved how beautiful your lives seemed. It is so true that no one knows what goes on behind closed doors. You are in my prayers. I am so sorry for all you're going through. I cried when your mom said she was not alright. I am a grandma also, I felt her pain as well as yours
Unfortunately, Men are abused just as much as Women! They're just taught from the time they could talk not to speak on it or ask for help because society says that A Man asking for help or being a bit venerable is a weak Man. Half a Man even. This must change!!
Listen! If this was a woman, people will be encouraging her to speak up. I am glad you are speaking up to show the kind of person she really is. Crazy!!!
He is playing victim. I'm sure he did things to provoke the frustration and then sit back and act innocent. I've dated someone like that before and stay way from people who are that
Màybe you need to just stay off youtube. Many people have gone through this. Get counseling and be a father to the best of you ability. You will get through
Thank you for your explanation even though you owe us nothing. Ive always loved your RU-vid presence Jamie and I'm happy you stood up for yourself! Maybe it's a Taurus ♉️ thing but i know you love the girls and you're genuine....Nikki has that fire in her and victim mentality...I can only imagine what you've been going through.
Jamie you are half of these kids half of you made them. Anyone that attacks you and keeps you from progressing and being apart of your kids life don’t love those kids. Love is not selfish, love is not angry, love is not revenge, love is not jealousy. Jamie there’s nothing wrong with receiving help from your subscribers. Let us help you. 😢❤
That’s what I’m saying, why would you want to stop your baby daddy’s bag?? That’s taking food out of your kids mouth, it’ll hurt them surrounded by a bunch of adults that are now just only scraping by.
It's so odd how some people can be so bitter that they make their kids suffer because they want to get back at a man so bad not realising that if one parent is suffering then the kids will too. The Disney thing shocked me...
Literallyyy like WTF 🤮 my parents our divorced and even though my mother struggled in that relationship she never wants us to think badly about our father, encouraging us to have the best relationship possible. I guess I never thought about how that is such a blessing. Most people are bitter and don’t want the other to succeed !!
What was the outcome for Disney? They did end up going with her.... I was so shocked at how bitter she was. She made it about her when she should have been thinking about the kids.
My father abused my mother growing up and to this day she still encourages me having a relationship with him which I absolutely refuse because he is still 100% narcissistic
This really sounds like absolute hell, I'm so sorry you have to go through this and your family has to go through this, no one should go through this. Stay strong
Awwww man, I watched this video so fast when it came in my feed. For years, I wanted to know what happened. I never in a million years thought it was anything like this. I am appalled, I am disappointed, I am hurt, I am confused, I am tired, I am so many things after watching this. It breaks my heart that you're hurting like this. It breaks my heart to know that she's using the kids like that. It breaks my heart to see your mum in so much pain. I truly hope you find yourself again. I truly hope the girls grow up knowing how lucky they are to have you as their dad. I truly hope you some day find true love, with someone who respects you, loves you, appreciates you, and wants to BUILD something WITH you and not just take take take. Thank you for being so honest, so transparent, and vulnerable. You've given so many people, men, especially the courage to speak their truths and the platform to stand up for what is right. PS, I usually watch your videos for you and the kids. NIKKI wasn't a "natural."
@tia7765 yes, I said nothing wrong. She wasn't as natural like Jamie as she thought this was what she was "supposed" to do. Whereas Jamie loved doing this. You can tell.
It takes real man to speak up about physical and verbal abuse. Knowing that the abuse was so bad that it literally made you sick, upsets me so much. Seeing your mother cry pisses me off even more. Her attacking you while she was holding the baby, mocking the depression, this is some sick ish. Jamie, we all have your back and love you. You could start up a go fund me to help with the legal fees, etc. We will support you with whatever you need and decide to do💕🙏
You took the words right outta my mouth about the go fund me. He should really start one and I would gladly send my love gift to help him gain an attorney or to help out with his expenses
Yeah this really sucks. My husband and I didn't make that much back then but we did have agreements such as me staying with the kids for a yr before returning to the workforce. I'm a recruiter and I know how difficult it is to get a job if you are away for more than a yr. He always worked so hard and still does. I wanted to push as much as I could for my family because I knew I didn't want him to be working construction his whole life. He always did know I had more potential of making more money because he doesn't speak English too well. It's been 10 yrs and we both set mini goals to keep us motivated. I cannot imagine his situation, it sounds like there was no love, no respect, no nothing for him and them. It's sad that people are so selfish and don't care if the other one breaks their neck.
Thank you for opening up to us. That was a lot and I cant even imagine living it. Take care of yourself so you can be the best for your daughters ❤ you’re doing a great job.
So sorry Jamie is going through this. Between the threats of parental alienation, harassment, inability to self-regulate, clear attempts to minimize your time with your children, thwarting your attempts to provide enjoyable and memorable experiences, and persistent attempts to create a hardship, this situation is in no way sustainable. It's taxing physically, emotionally and devastating to personal peace. A petition for primary custody would not be unreasonable. Prayers for strength and endurance and restoration of your familys' peace. Tremendous respect for Jamie's restraint in bearing all this in silence up until now. You can see this man's heart and it's obvious his children are his life's focus, and he seeks peace. This too shall pass.
This broke my heart to pieces. The hurt in your eyes is so evident. I'm so sorry you're going through this Jamie. Know that it's a phase and shall surely pass. Stay strong. Take it a day at a time. I don't wanna take sides but I must say that I'm highly disappointed in Nikki on how petty she's being. Didn't expect this from her at all. I honestly thought that she's the one who walked away. I'm glad you voiced your side of the story (without going in too much details) I admire you sooo much for how HARD you're fighting to be in your girls life.
I’m glad you made this video! It has really made me see the truth and I thought it was you that was the problem! I’m so sorry you and your family have to go through that. I hope it gets better and she gets what she deserves. Heartbreaking to see a mother put her kids through that!
I’m so sorry Jamie for all that you’ve been through. And what a courageous and loving move (for yourself and your kids) to share your story. I know it’s a parents job to worry about your kids wellbeing, but honestly kids are sooo resilient! As long as you are there for them and get them the support that they need they will be able to heal through these difficult years. Studies show that it’s the lack of support that truly impacts a child’s development. And it is such a blessing to have a father like you that strives to protect them. May you continue to have the strength to fight for them and for yourself 🤍.
I’m devastated watching this video, and just wanted to give you some video ideas as someone who primarily watches family/lifestyle vlogs. It’s not over Jamie! 💗 -100 days of trying new things post-divorce (long form or reels) -more q&a’s!! (Can be fun like having us submit “would you rathers”) -try-on hauls! We love your eye for style and that would be fun! -positive single dad tips (we need a lot more of that on YT) -picking hard recipes from online and trying to cook them It’s not much, but I hope those could potentially help you.
@@cindyben3089he can spread out the videos by recording it and then posting them after . The q&a’s he can do on livestream on twitch . I really hope he goes on twitch or even RU-vid live and gains a gaming audience!
Oh Jamie! 😢 My heartfelt condolences to you, Jamie, and your lovely daughters for all you've endured. I pray for your healing and that you find peace and tranquility during this difficult time. 🙏🏾 Please don’t give up on love! There’s a woman out there who is praying for the exact same love that you pray for and deserve. 🫶🏾
THAT LAST CLIP! Tells you everything. The fact that 1, her voice sounds COMPLETELY different than what we normally hear, that soft spoken, airy voice, gone. And 2, the fact that her sister just stood there while Jaime recorded and mentioned her cheating and abuse and said NOTHING. I don’t have sisters but I know if a man was lying about me on camera, they would’ve interjected. She, said, nothing. Because she knew it was true. That’s all I needed to see.
Let’s keep Jamie in prayer. She has no respect for herself and his Mother crying. Really? She’s nasty. Stop all you people who say that Africans respect their elders. Just stop. She has no self control.
Gosh Jamie I'm so sorry. This was a heartbreaking experienced and you shared it so raw. In my opinion, I think you need to stand up and fight fire with fire. The more you lay down and try to be amicable the more she will feel like she can push and step over you. Things will get better! I'm sorry
Well done Jamie for speaking your truth. No one should shut you up. Everyone has a right to speak their truth. You allowed internet to run with negative narration about you and you kept quite......Talk brother. This is the beginning of your healing space.
I lost it when grandma started crying. Everyone is in incredible pain. I hope time will heal things. Take it one day at a time and I pray for you all. ❤
Jamie… thanks for sharing this. My heart goes out to you 🥺 I don’t see complaining, I see a man that’s had enough and truly cares about his family. God’s hands are open so wide to recieve you and He is near to those who are broken hearted and are crushed in their spirit (Psalm 34:18). I pray you turn to Him and that you and your family get healed beyond your wildest imagination
I’m so sorry for all that you’ve been through Jamie. I’ve always commented what a good father you are with the sweetest father and mother. You will find a way.
Agree. I've watched them a long time and it was always difficult to believe he was the issue based on the narratives being pushed out online. You always saw the differences in attitudes.
I really can't believe you're as innocent as you portray. You putting all your business out there to draw sympathy for yourself. So what you are saying is that Nikki did everything and you did nothing, I will never believe that at all and I feel you are less of a man putting your business out like that, your children will hear this and you will hate you for putting their mother on blast like that. Mark my word!!!
I believe everything Jamie said. He could have put this out when it first happened but he didn’t. Nikki is sick and need help. I stand with Jamie and the girls
This whole thing was so SAD. As a fan of your family blogs since back in 2015, it just goes to show that you never really know what’s happening in other people’s lives. I’m glad that you are at least at a place where you can speak your truth and gain your power back. No one deserves to be prevented from seeing their children, especially in the way that you’ve detailed here. And no one deserves to be abused. I hope that you can continue to have the resolve that you displayed over the years in order to be in your babies’ lives. They WILL know what you’ve done. They WILL understand the love you have for them and they WILL love you back. CONTINUE TO BE VULNERABLE, especially if it is helping to heal you. At any rate, this content is SO necessary for others to see so that at least they know they aren’t alone.
"you've never been shit since day 1" Hearing those words being said to Jamie really cut me into pieces. You are amazing Jamie! So so amazing! Personally I've followed you even after the separation because you are incredible as a person!!!!
That I couldn't belive how vile she was being. My sis went through a divorce and while she was hurt I always admired how she never let her feelings prevent the dad from being involved. Personally I stopped following her and kept following Jamie, there was always an underlying tone jn how she treated Jamie, ppl.need to go back and watch
Violence should never come into play, especially in front of the kids. (Outside looking in.) He needs full custody, and she gets visitations. They have become a weapon to use against their father. I have this type of situation in my own family. It's just a sad situation all around. I appreciate Jamie's transparency. I pray for peace for you and your children. I pray doors begin to open for you, so you can be the provider and sanctuary for yourself and your kids. Much love to your parents for being such loving and dedicated grandparents. I pray that Nikki accepts responsibility for her actions and move on with her life. I did miss your show. But it all makes sense now. Praying for all involved.
You poor guy 🥹. I’m so glad you have told the truth. I followed you for years and never knew anything like this was going on. You can still find a way to follow your dreams. Take one day at a time. Parents should NEVER use their kids as weapons in a break up (or ever). You both love them. You Jamie deserve a better woman. It’s so hard to leave an abuser when you love them but you did and did so with incredible strength x
We will watch whatever you post Jamie. Find your niche. Don’t sell yourself short. You have a lot to offer all on your own. You are more than just a father. It will take time but you will heal and you will reach financial stability.
A lot of what Jamie said in this video was evident in the vlogs over the years. I knew that when Duckie moved to New York and started living the jet set life that Nikki would get bored with her life.
I am almost 30 years old, been married for around 9 years and have 3 sons. Everything that I am, everything that I strive to do in my marriage, motherhood and in my life personally, is largely from the impact my dad had on my life. I watched my dad go through hell and struggle in so many ways. He never said anything verbally to me because he never wanted o burden me with adult problems (or give me a negative view point about my parent) but even as a child, you can tell/observe those things. Looking back now as a adult, i have so much gratitude to what he endured. Just know that the mental, emotional hardships that you are feeling are never in vain. The love you pour into your daughters will echo for generations. A fathers love is a seed that is so potent in a young girls life. Certainly not something to be underestimated. Thank you for putting daughters first, and keeping your heart strong.
I believe you Jamie. I hear you. I think a good advice would be to follow the "grey stone" technique for situations to not escalate. I think your ex may have a PD aka Personality disorder. I have family members with PD's too. Often PD's stem from trauma so it may make sense why Nikki has developed toxic coping strategies and this is the side of her (PD episodes) that you said can be very scary.
I loved your family vlogs abd since the break up I didn't want to comment on any videos of you and Nikki or to pass judgement. But I somehow felt like you were going through a lot. Watching this video was so hard for me. I genuinely felt pain like I know you personally. Thank you for sharing this. God will see you through Jamie, I feel it in my heart. You will come out of this strong and will find success again.
