I knew a woman that actually would listen to me, never threw my vulnerabilities in my face (no matter how heated the argument got), and she never looked at me as less of a man for crying around her. She passed not too long ago. She was a rare gem! I was so fortunate to have a woman like that in my life! I miss her so much! 🥺
I would have loved a woman like that. I have a wife that likes to put me down. If I cry I'm soft. I have to be a man at all times. I have been married to her for 26 years. I finally realized let me be me. IT TOOK YEARS FOR ME TO LEARN THIS. I love me and I will do me and allow me to be vulnerable, thanks to my therapist. If your spouse loves you she will be there for you 💯. She will cry with you because men hurt too. This is deep..
@@Sh00ta5kbecause what she saying yes it has some truth but it doesn't apply to every man.. it might seem to some like she's speaking from a personal experience..in other words maybe she went through an experience with her man or a male figure.
Like my ex would she would see me so weak when I tell her what's in my mind and heart...She would later tell me sth hurtful to my soul and ever since am always hurt
Anyone - man or woman - would not continue talking to you if you used what they told you in confidence against them. Why do we make it as if men as specially more hurt by this than women????
Because women have fewer barriers to receiving emotional supporthan men do. Women aren't charged with being 'weak' for opening up, like men often are. @@marjorymsuku9312
And that no woman is not always right. She’s not the only one. Trust we exist. I’m fallible as hell, but I also don’t want to be discarded because I am.
The only to avoid this is to never give a woman your heart. You can care about them but keep them wayyyyy down the list of your priorities. This keeps your mind at ease and unbothered...lol
What did she say that was right not all men are the same and she grouped every man which shows her ignorance a man will open up when he ready u don’t have to create a vulnerable state etheir wait til she ready to talk or leave him because he won’t communicate
WHO IS THIS WOMAN. Every word she speaks, resonates with me..I shut down emotionally after my divorce. I was hurt the exact way she explains. I brought everything to the table and shared everything about me. These things were used against me. I will not do that again with just anybody again. Maybe some day I will meet someone mature with the mentality like this beautiful lady.
I’m sorry, I know how that feels. I hope you keep your heart open for the right one and remember you opening up was never the problem. Peace be with you 😇
Women are supposed to be a Man's Emotional resting place. Men are Trees and Women are the SOIL. Men Produce Fruit that contain seeds. Every Seed is impotent until it enters the Right Soil. Soil quality determines whether or not the Tree Lives or Dies. Bear in mind that certain Trees only Flourish in their Native SOIL Therefore, when something or someone is placed into your care....... Do they grow, do they Flourish or do they Die? Women Worship Men that are Strong enough to be weak. Look at JESUS. Whereas Men adore Women that Celebrate them with their WORDS. Jesus Anointed by a Sinful Woman 36One of the Pharisees asked Jesus to have dinner with him, so Jesus went to his home and sat down to eat.h 37When a certain immoral woman from that city heard he was eating there, she brought a beautiful alabaster jar filled with expensive perfume. 38Then she knelt behind him at his feet, weeping. Her tears fell on his feet, and she wiped them off with her hair. Then she kept kissing his feet and putting perfume on them. 39When the Pharisee who had invited him saw this, he said to himself, “If this man were a prophet, he would know what kind of woman is touching him. She’s a sinner!” 40Then Jesus answered his thoughts. “Simon,” he said to the Pharisee, “I have something to say to you.” “Go ahead, Teacher,” Simon replied. 41Then Jesus told him this story: “A man loaned money to two people-500 pieces of silveri to one and 50 pieces to the other. 42But neither of them could repay him, so he kindly forgave them both, canceling their debts. Who do you suppose loved him more after that?” 43Simon answered, “I suppose the one for whom he canceled the larger debt.” “That’s right,” Jesus said. 44Then he turned to the woman and said to Simon, “Look at this woman kneeling here. When I entered your home, you didn’t offer me water to wash the dust from my feet, but she has washed them with her tears and wiped them with her hair. 45You didn’t greet me with a kiss, but from the time I first came in, she has not stopped kissing my feet. 46You neglected the courtesy of olive oil to anoint my head, but she has anointed my feet with rare perfume. 47“I tell you, her sins-and they are many-have been forgiven, so she has shown me much love. But a person who is forgiven little shows only little love.” 48Then Jesus said to the woman, “Your sins are forgiven.” 49The men at the table said among themselves, “Who is this man, that he goes around forgiving sins?” 50And Jesus said to the woman, “Your faith has saved you; go in peace.” LUKE 7: 36-50 NLT.
My man, I get it! As much as it hurts saying this, but all women are not the same, so keep showing love and affection to the ones that deserves it! I mean, like this sister here! Who is she???
Let me give you the real advice. Never do that with any woman. Take those problems to your homies. Your own life proved that ish doesn't work. Try it again if you want to. You are her rock not the other way around.
Same here bro, it was a run of 3 years, i told her i don't love her, she dumped me. i loved her a lot, she was the first person receiving so much love from me. But when things happened, i got closed off. i received a lot of stress, my love for her faded away, i didn't want to talk anymore because i was too tired. I think you will be okay, yeah it's tough , but take in mind, you do deserve better!
@@adhdrockets Same here my man! 3-year run. I did everything for her, I even moved to another country for her, bought a home for us, became the best I could at my new job and got promoted to a top position. Gave it all for her and for us, because all I wanted was peace and to create a family but she could never see the good things... only the bad. Now at 37 years old I have never felt so lonely with no friends around me or anyone to care for myself. It will get better for sure cos time heals everything. And you´re right, me and you and whoever is in this situation deserve better. Keep it strong brother!
@@acmmentorship5040 now its the time to give it all to yourself, i gave her a lot too but not so much as you did. Instinctively i knew that i shouldnt do that. Your case may be less subtle, but for now you have to give it all to yourself. You can even attract something better
@acmmentorship5040 dude the same exact thing with me bro exept her and i have kids together I know what you're going through it's tough bro, keep your head up.
As a man, I love talking and I will communicate extensively. Talking about issues does many things for me: It helps to lay down burdens and not carry unnecessary stress that can make me angry or bitter. Talking also helps me to understand those around me who may be harming my energy and causing unwanted anxiety. Talking also helps me to enliven my conversations instead of holding my thoughts inside which allows others to experience my joy as well as my pain. I can go on and on about why I talk as a man and the healing process that occurs in doing so is absolutely necessary for my mental wellbeing and spiritual health.
Biologically speaking women are just repulsed by a man who talks about his feelings to them. That’s what your brother, cousin or friends are for. Express your feelings to your girl and I promise you she won’t be sleeping with you
Dont fall for this shit. Problem is, 99% of women agree with this Lady. They are very aware. They just arent hardwired that way. It is what it is. Dont open up and keep being a man.
Why the word “beautiful” to describe it when opening up is usually used against us? Makes me assume u find beauty in sadism behind it cuz you’re malicious. Corrent me if I’m wrong n elaborate
😂 And the carelessness of "men in power" is why this ENTIRE WORLD is severely screwed up! Women were NEVER in charge men were in charge and look at the mess we're in as a society!🤣
That is so very sad to here😟 I don't know if my kids remember but, I be always said,pick ur words very carefully, U can never take them back;!! No matter what? I can apologize, u didn't mean it, u were just upset, etc.,etc., U still cannot undo the ugly horrible damage that words can do! I'm sure there's a few of us out here that can STILL here some of the worst words ever said to us just like it just happened!! I try so hard every day to make sure I don't say ugly things to any one!! Friend or foe! To see someone's eyes with nothing but pain cause what u just said to hurt them,il is oh,omg, is something I can't live with!;it's like grabbing there soul and looking into there eyes to see how bad u hurt them...........what is that? Who won ?? Sure wasn't me!! Even thought that's what I started off to do. To it's the most ugliest evil,scariest thing I've ever done. I'm crying right now . And the worst part is ......... ......I COULDN'T TAKE THOSE WORDS BACK!! Doesn't matter how hard u try.The DAMAGE is done, the words will always echo in the head. What ever u two both together at one time, is gone! Just like that, it only took seconds to destroy what took, months,years to build!,🥹😬🫥🙄🥶🥶💀🙄🫢😶🌫️😾🙊🙊❤💀👹🤡💔
You aren't alone brother I am still feeling idiotic and unmanly to have done that. I see every woman is a LIAR not potential but a LIAR and DECEIVER 😢😢
you can't ask someone to speak then ignore then when they do. it's just that simple. me talking doesn't count ONLY when I'm saying what you want to hear.
I learned to listen to my husband by watching. Basically, I’m already a thoughtful respectful and quiet person myself. He and I were a perfect match. He’s with Christ now.🕊🙏🏾
Say Allah , it's better Because some other religions they start using GOD a lot lately You know how they be , they need to talk like Muslim and do what Muslim does Because the truth is coming up fast
That's what we are taught, talk only when it's necessary. Hear this from a man we have a way of talking to our selves in silence,in case you don't know we cry 😢 too.
I love the sincerity in this queens eyes and voice. Wise woman. A woman is more powerful than a nuclear missile. A woman can make or break a guy. A woman can cause two great empires to go to war and have massive casualties. To all the women out there, know this and handle yourself responsibly and respectfully. Men do everything in life just to see their queen and children happy and safe. A lot of pressure is placed on the woman just giving birth which has got to be the craziest experience ever to have a human grow inside of oneself. Love you ladies but know how to respect yourself and how to respect your man so that he can perform at his best giving you the life that you deserve
No woman can make or break any man who has worked on himself. Women are breaking themselves over why their alone. Its simple. Modern men aren't putting up with bullshit anymore from women who complain constantly don't appreciate men who make less than six figures dont listen want to compete with men and stupidly think we need them to survive
@@steelesharpensteele6252I don’t know this lady/ wife but brother you can’t and shouldn’t throw those words into the universe. Best and wisest thing that can be done is accept she won’t, she’s possibly the exception, and if so god bless there marriage.
"Speak your mind" "What's bothering you" As soon as I start to talk I'd get cut off and somehow whatever was said was flipped back to me on top of not being heard Silence became one of my greatest friends
I don't have any one to talk to. Now I'm a single dad with a 2yo daughter and I have to figure out how to show my daughter she can talk to me. Her mother left us and is dying and there's nothing more I can do about it. Although I tried so hard obviously not hard enough. We don't always get second chances. Sometimes there is nothing left to do but to watch destruction take place. I can't protect my daughter from watching her mother die. I had to protect her from her mother and it has taken time to not feel guilty even though I wasn't the one at fault. Anyway ill just keep moving along, thanks for hearing Mr out I guess.
Most men in relationships plead the fifth for the same reasons as the so called “Miranda rights”: anything that you say can be used against you…think about it 🤔
@@E3litecompanyuntrue, unhealed, self centered females don't care. The same with unhealed men making statements like the one you just made. The woman in the clip is the type of woman who understands that men are human too and we as women can shut them up for good by not handling our own emotions and projecting or getting angry at the man for opening up. Those of us who have some sense about us allow our partners to be human and open up without weaponizing their emotions against them, something a lot of the time gets weaponized against us and yet we still open up. So heal and mature before making those blanket statements.
@@E3litecompanyBecause It's A Belief They Have Growing Up That's Normalized. It's Key To Learn About Each Other's Nature So We Can Cater To Each Other Better. Not Over Or Under Doing It.
I am a 55 year old guy and Its perfectly okay for me to embrace both my femininity and masculinity. My super power is LOVE. I find it very hard to hurt,harm or hate another My life, my path is different to another. I don't normally talk about this BUT THIS BEAUTIFUL WOMEN'S WORDS HAS BROUGHT ME TO TEARS AND TRIGGERED ME TO SAY A FEW WORDS. ❤❤
🌬️💨💨💨 WE NEED MORE MEN IN THE WORLD LIKE YOU...I Respect your honesty! You are not "too macho" to embrace all sides and a man who can do that is a man that deserves RESPECT because he's SECURE with his masculinity.
Creating a a safe place has to be reciprocated on both ends in order for a relationship to truly flourish. Everyone soul deserves to be nourished in the right atmosphere and I pray we all find that sacred place ❤
So true. My ex and I used to take road trips and I would turn the music off, just to have conversations with her. She would reject it. Once we broke up, years later, all she wanted to do was talk to me. Time has passed and I have moved on with my life. There has to be a safe space, for both men and women to be vulnerable to each other, in order to grow as one.
What a wonderful thing to hear this great understanding these days I think you are a real woman who really want to match the needs of a man. I admire you n appreciate your wisdom .
Sometimes, silence is golden; especially doing a potential argument, that's your partner is trying to draw you into an argument, for an unjustifiable purpose.
Only a man understands this it hits home so deep. It's not easy to be a man sometimes this is what makes us monsters because of the things we internalize and every time we open up we are considered weaklings. Thank you for helping spread a man's mind in a pure way without degrading women.🇿🇲
She’s a part of the 0.1% of sisters that know this, bless her heart. The other 99.9% would say something along the lines of “ugh omg, just SPEAK, is it really that hard?”
As a man I can say that every woman I've been around from my mom to my girlfriends to friends talking about issues always do this. They hijack the conversation. Either with tears or by saying, yeah but what about....there is very rarely the space where I get support from women. I am terrified to share what I really think and feel about what I need because I will always end up having to comfort instead of being comforted.
N they say women are the most empathetic n understanding yea right dumb people think women are kinder cause they're softer n more emotional but being soft n emotional doesn't equate to being empathetic they say women are more loving even tho it's men who throughout history have sacrificed themselves for women especially their woman real love is sacrifice not coddling I believe more men understand wat love is n are more selfless compared to women not to say there aren't selfless living women out there I'm no misogynist but I can't ignore wat I've noticed
Spoken “light” (truth)right there, utilizing both masculine and feminine qualities in speech , demeanor and expression ✨ stand in conviction of who you are. Peace love and light ✨
Well, I don't do this to him, but he very well does this to me. Everything I open up to him about, and be vulnerable. He throws it right in my face when we are arguing. 😔
I honestly think they have a lot of coached individuals on here. No I do not know this woman. But I know God. I know what a woman of God looks like. True followers do not conform to things of this world such as fake lashes, make up and face piercings. Vanity is not of God. A true woman of God will respect God and God's creations. They will love their natural state of being. They do not change God's creation to appease themselves and or other people of this world. True beauty is skin deep. I prefer a person to be able to accept their own truth 1st and have the confidence to show up as their true self.. Before trying to speak the truth.. Although what she is saying is true. I do not believe it to be her truth. I find it a little difficult for a woman wearing make up and fake lashes trying to keep it all the way real🤷🏽
