Met this man 3 days ago he asked my number and i gave him..then he asked we should meet and so he came to our 1st meet with the same rough clothes and hat he had the days I first saw him , no shaving, no perfume sweat all over him he justified it as he's been working ...(why asking to meet me if you are working?) Then he turned his face away from the cashier when it was time to pay for the food and I paid . Please can someone tell what that is please I need help.
@@MarieN8959 It appears as though this man has an agenda! His interest was motive. The way you described this man's lack of effort towards himself, you, your time or generosity speaks for itself. Take the experience and learn from it. This is not the man for you. He may have just been looking for a meal. How nice of you to take care of him....that one time ❤️
@@ericacallahan3575 Thank you sooooo much Erica, sent him farewell WhatsApp yesterday and he went into a meltdown 😢 I have never seen a man so rude and angered like it before . He called me all sorts of names yet its barely few days he's met me. Deleted his number and blocked his acc on WhatsApp. I really dodged a nasty bullet 🤣 . I'm so happy I had the courage to remove him. Thanks for helping ☺️
Same goes back for a woman who cares will call you when you dont to make sure you are okay, she will ask if you want something to eat after a long day at work, she will hug and show bodily affection, smile and make him laugh. When these are neglected then men will stop showing it back.
@@user-zx5xw4yw2e nice try but no it doesn't work that way. A man with self respect will reciprocate, and one who has no dignity can just do without any value given back.
I am a regional truck driver. I contact my wife every day, whether it be via text, email, call, etc. Check in every day, no matter what. And, when things get ugly, she still remains pretty. I love that woman!
@@Dakidd-pb9zc That quote somewhere I read ,that says it’s only when you explain your story to someone that it hits you the true extent of how someone treated you.
I was talking to a guy thats in the military, and he informed me of his schedule, and I respected it. Long story short, he told me he's too busy, and he dont talk or call me at all. Before, he used to do it. Now, he doesn't. Mind you, he lives next door smh. I respectfully give his space and move on with my life.
you have to value your man in order for him to value you in return. and you have to pick the right guy.......women seem not to understand, whatever you put into a relationship is what you get out of it. relationships are 2 way streets.
@jonthomson9262 He has to see the value in me. I will NEVER try to convince him. Women don't chase, we attract. Men lead period. I am thankful that I have been blessed with my mother, having over 52 years of married life and other successful marriages in our families for generations to say different. I have never heard ANYONE in a long-term marriage mention any 50/50 mess. That's a roommate, not a soulmate. I'm good and not interested in that at all.
Just ended the courting stage on a dude that told me I had to get used to him disappearing it could be for a day it could be for 3 months. Well now it can be forever 😂
I agree with that. If he don't contact you often he don't care. My Mom told me : Find somebody that like you more than you like him. That was what women used back in my parent's time to measure interest from a man.
@@Patrick-vt8pinah bro it’s the same. Actually women usually show too much interest too fast and then end up with feelings hurt. Most women don’t mind going hard it’s just sucks when it’s not reciprocated. It’s really more, let me make sure he’s worth it and he feels the same.
your momma told you to find a Simp then. whatever you put into a relationship is what you get in return ladies. What about you contacting him???? it's all about you,huh??
I always say, there is 24 hrs in a day, and if he won't take 10 seconds out of that day to say, hello, how are you, or I'm checking on you then he really isn't that into you. A man/woman who cares about their person will give that person advance notice that they will be unavailable most of the day, so there is no guessing or assuming. But, as soon as they're free, they're going to contact you. Ladies, please find a hobby, extra stream of income, or spend more time with your family to occupy your time. If he isn't checking for you, then you find yourself harping on why he isn't contacting you.
Say it louder for the people in the back!❤️ we live 600 miles apart, and I remain busy… He gets off work at 3 AM and calls me on his drive home because I told him that I am usually up in the middle of the night. On the days that he doesn’t call is fine some days he calls on his way in to work and that’s fine but when his calls and text messages slow down, I don’t let that bother me because I am booked and busy up here! If I don’t get a call, I will usually get a text message with Kissy faces, etc. and if not I don’t spend time dwelling on why you didn’t call or text because I got things going on and I’m usually pretty busy!
I do! I try to give the same energy…don’t want to seem like I’m chasing him,but I’m truly concerned . Last time he said his tooth waskilling him,and yesterday his shoulder was hurting… Sometimes we don’t want to talk and that’s fine.but a text won’t hurtf❤️ I’m retired and he still works,so I keep busy with travel and classes.I am not self-centered. Our words and works should Aline!🏆
@@francineford-smith6264 Unless he's suffering from an injury that affects his fingers, he has no excuse. If you're only hearing about his ailments as a result of you reaching out to him, he just may not be that interested in things going further. We've all met that one person who we know is really feeling us and makes his presence felt even when he's super busy or just checking in, just because he thought about you.
I literally told my bf that I needed to work on myself and couldn't be with him and I never contacted him for a whole month but for that month he called and texted everyday to check on me. We got back together. I know he has my best interest at heart.
That it's true but the key link that we're missing is the woman that we're doing that for she's giving us a reason to want to call her to want to check on her to want to love on her to want to be invested in her it's just not a one-way street but nonetheless it is true
Facts, I dated a man once that went the whole weekend without contacting me and when we spoke about it, that relationship was over for me, he had the nerve to say what's the problem and my reply was I'm not use to this kind of conduct from a man that claims he's crazy about me. In my Donald Trump voice, "you're fired!"
Trill is NOT lying! Nobody is that "busy" that they can't take 1 - 2 minutes out of the day to call you and talk to you. Texting is not it. He must communicate and speak to you.
My fiancé who called me all the time didn't call me for two days.... Until his mom called to tell me there was a fatal accident. Even when he was gone, there was communication somehow
so your a princess??????? lol 😂 😂 😂 😂 😂........men don't owe it to a woman to chase her,and women really arent that important. whatever you put into a relationship, is what you should expect to get back. that goes for men and women equally. what value do you bring into a man's life??
@@jonthomson9262 I could care less about men hun. Sorry I forgot to send the memo. I bring value to myself. Men can kick rocks I’m not interested in being in a relationship!
@@jonthomson9262 No one hurt me hun. I just feel the same way u feel. Sorry to inform u but some of us women believe that men aren’t that important either😊Have a blessed night !
This is why is hard to believe words nowadays.. because actions speak louder 💯.. if anyone cares about you authentically they will call text smoke signal you everyday!!
I definitely needed this thank you he disappeared for two weeks and decided to pop up like nothing happened i didn’t even answer the door and put my phone on silent learning to set healthy boundaries and knowing i deserve better❤
To answer your question. I'm always checking on him whether things are going well or not. I make sure I pray for him whether his day is going well or not. Even when he needed the most. I believe in lifting him up when he is having a bad day. I listened to him the same way he listened to me. We learned to talk our problems out and communicate with one another. Thank for asking
It goes both ways if a women is really interested in you like she claims no matter the so called stage y’all are in she will reach out daily and don’t let days go by without reaching out
Or a man who will ONLY text but never offer to call, much less make arrangements to meet! Clearly he has other "interests" that he considers more valuable to him
I give credit where credit is due; and a man that can allow himself to be vulnerable enough to finally admit that he has work to do on himself, and LOVES you, VALUES you, and DESIRES your presence, but does not know how HIMSELF, to PROPERLY communicate with you at the time of a difference without possibly saying hurtful things or making matters worse until HE can come correct, is a man that has gained my understanding and respect.
My father is an over the road and long haul trucker before he would ever leave on a job....he made certain that bills were paid... groceries were stocked... mom's car is washed/serviced/gassed up. He called twice daily because he wanted to check on her and he says that he needed to hear her voice. She stopped whatever was going on to talk to him... sometimes the call was quick... sometimes they would laugh and joke the whole time. They are still the same way.
Another issue is that a lot of our elders hate doing this. Some men from the previous generations give the impression that checking in with their wife is such a burden. DO NOT mimic those relationships.
Exactly 💯 I'm retired from the Army...and you're exactly right! I believe in communication everyday with my guy. He's also a Veteran and we both understand how critical communication is... especially because of our backgrounds.
I just had to comment on this, because my ex is also An Army Veteran (honorably discharged with a Purple Heart), and her name is also spelled Teresa…no H. I clicked on the pic just to be sure it wasn’t her 😂
Fellas, this rule only applies if she's truly into you and you're past the initial talking stage. Don't go hitting a woman up every hour when you're in the talking stage. It comes off as too clingy. When you're still in the talking stage, you have to give her an opportunity to reciprocate. If you're always the one reaching out to her, that's usually a sign that she's not into like that.
I gave men sex and they are not interested in me. This is why women are advised to not be easy when it comes to sex. No amount of giving a man what he wants from you will ever get him interested. I learned my lesson. If anything i learned it makes men hate us more
that is not true if a woman don't reach out to a man that doesn't mean she don't like him or not into him some of us like the man to chase us if I see he's into me more then I'll be a little more into him I like the man to lead then I'll follow
I got the silent treatment for 13 years. I thought he was just timid and soft spoken until I realized way too late what he really was…as a matter of fact after he was gone that’s when I realized.
He Right.Nothing wrong with loving someone,that someone should love You back a quick tx or call is really Healthy for the heart..Love is a Action Word as well.. one should not Pause when Your growing and knowing the one that makes You smile at heart and puts That smile on Your face.When it's real it's right ✅️ ❤️❤️
This is true From a woman who's been through it. You can value a man even though he may not value you It's important to set the boundaries. And be respectful of his decisions. But don't let him trample over yours
Just keep dropping short, honest, loving gems like this daily for the women with no male figure to guide them....learning through trial and error ❤❤ Thank you!
The pure Truth ❤❤❤❤ Ladies, do not make excuses for him and face the truth 💯💯💯💯 If he doesn't call and he is not interested in your well being, then he doesn't love you . Point
I had to learn this the hard way... No matter how much love I showed it was never enough. He just didn't love me, and that's okay. Not everyone with receive your love or better yet, return it back to you.
