Relationship coach, Greta Beresaite asserts that men fall in love with uncertainty. That's one of the reasons they enjoy sports. She says men like a certain amount of stress and risk. I did a video with her a while back on RU-vid about my recent book, A Season Called Lonely: Managing it; finding its gifts.
Vulnerability is key. Without vulnerability there is no proper expression of emotions to the woman and therefore the woman will feel insecure….. if a man is not feeling secure he will not get vulnerable - so it is like an insecure man will repel a woman as she starts to feel insecure because he has not shared his feelings which means being vulnerable. Vulnerability is therefore a strength rather than a weakness. Great video thanks!
Maybe for men they need a pain whatever but for me if a man shows me any pain it pushes and I’ll never talk to u again 🤣😩🤷🏻♀️ If your text to short, cut off If your being a serial liker on Insta, cut off
You have no idea how much you are helping me to overcome hard time by letting us know how our psychology works sensitively during falling in love with someone. Makes me feel like I’m not the only one and its just human nature, hormones and psychology. Makes me help to heal.
This reminds me of the video I saw with Manifest with Persis talking about detachment and how if we have a healthy self concept then things like someone leaving or not texting doesn’t effect you whatsoever because you still know your worth etc.
The death information and the reality of losing a person, is a reality I fully came into when I lost my first husband who was the love of my life. Now I love harder and deeper and recognize LOVE -just as you describe it -Possibility of LOSS - right away. It is completely different outlook on life. The intensity I feel & show is NOT for the average man. ❤
@@MissBluebirddays I know it's mostly Robert Greene's content, but I'm pretty sure part of it isn't 🤔 Correct me if I'm wrong. The part that struck me was about death
That's attachment Father Alex. Not love. Love is stable. It's knowing. You might have been very misguided by your own feelings because you were emotionally vulnerable at the time and you were inlove with the feeling she gave you
@@MindfulAttractionDear father Alex, I agree with her because I read the book ‚attached‘ written by two psychologists and they mention that when we are for example in this dynamic of the anxious+avoidant couple, what we often perceive as intense love and passion is in fact an activated attachment system, meaning your instincts feel your relationship is threatened, which is a danger (and was even more in history), and therefore it comes up with so called protest behaviors like jealousy, or distancing yourself, or feeling passion to be more willing to get extremely close, all depending on the situation and the attachment styles of the people involved. They also said people who don’t have secure attachment or who often were in insecurely (anxious or avoidant) attached relationships often believe that the feeling of an activated attachment system is love, and so when they meet a secure person, they often feel like ‚there is no spark, no chemistry‘, not because they are not attractive but because they don’t activate your attachment system. In a secure relationship, we feel we can rely on them to be there for us, so we don’t feel these intense emergency feelings (or very rarely if we screwed up a bit). It’s nothing wrong with the feeling that a love can last forever (or until death…), that feeling can help people to be more secure and to build the relationship further because if you always feel scared to lose the other one, it’s hard to buy a house together for example. Activated attachment systems take up quite some energy and mental capacity so if that is ‚love‘, it’s not healthy in the long term. Secure attachment helps us focus on other things like sports and hobbies and self development because we don’t have to spend time thinking if they are distant or not. Can recommend this book, by the way love your growth especially in psychology and relationship dynamics as well as kindness ❤❤❤
Ps These days I believe love is more about caring about the other persons feelings and wellbeing mixed with some sexual and romantic feelings. More about building and investing than this intense feeling of passion
Rosann you are a woman. He is a man speaking from the male perspective. This is our issue as women. We.think men are women, but they arent!!! Id listen to father Alex
it might mean he is attached to you but is immature and selfish, or impulsive, or all of it, and therefore puts his needs for external validation before your feelings and relationship. Might not be a horrible person but maybe not ready to be a non cheating partner yet.
Then don't start ti give lessons ti others if are in that state , sorry for you ! God is the only truth love and he is in every persson ! Love is only at the soul level not at the underware level or joky mind level and is for building a real life !
Youre describining love as a low complexity trauma bond. ...thats not love, at least not for women. Eitherway. Thank you for your strength in being able to share that vulnerable time in your life so we can learn
Sorry but you are imature .... Untill you will not know what real love it is and Untill you will not love a woman in God for all your life then you will remain just a little Boy !
