Men Will Avoid DEEP Feelings For You Show THESE Signs 

If you sincerely like the guy, then it may be worth being transparent with him and tactfully let him know that you feel like another event on his busy calendar and discuss possible solutions that work for both of you. He may be totally clueless about his workaholic nature.

Agreed. Also, it doesn’t hurt for things to build slowly three dates is not that much think about the 100 hours Jonathan‘s talking about just say listen. I don’t prefer false into me. See through text if you can only see me once a week that’s fine. I can deal with that for about 90 days. Then after that, you need to make a decision on if I’m gonna be in your life more than that, we can text one night a week and we can call one night a week in addition to that. Just something that is standards for the.

@@alessandrachavesphotograph3857 …..sounds like he’s in a relationship, very common. He’s setting you up to be a ‘side chick, possibly one of several. Go for boundaries, huge boundaries.

I wonder if he was trying to schedule more than one date per day. Also texting is a way to keep track of each person (written record of whose who). Regardless, it sounds like a really busy person isn't your kind of person. Maybe some women would like that -- looks like a relationship without the work of a relationship. I'm with you: texting is fake intimacy.

After 10 years, who decided to leave those wonderful relationships? I’m super curious since men don’t often talk about their feelings so it’s hard to ever know. There you are, emotionally connected, capable of communication with your partner, and then what happened??!!

​@@cecilang9721 ......if your question is a genuine one well here's a genuine answer.....relationships can come to a natural conclusion for all sorts of reasons. The fact that I am still close to both of these women says something in itself. Not everybody is attached to the idea of staying together 'till death do us part'. I mean, how many people do we know who are in relationships of 20 and 30 or more years and they live separate lives or just plain loathe each other yet for some strange reason they stay together or eventually leave anyway when he trades her in for a younger model or she goes into Real Estate and becomes a serial cheater, or whatever. I can tell you that in both of those relationship there was never a single cross word. There comes a time when people are growing constantly, as do my partners, that you start to want different things. It's not easy to part company but better to do so with love than to stick around letting stuff fester, do you not agree ?

@@cecilang9721 ....tried to reply, comments get deleted all the time for no good reason

Wow, thank you

Yes

@@JonathonAslay awesome THANK YOU

Yes romance scams and identity theft have become common.

Yes lots of scams on all dating sites. As soon as I ask” have you come across any scams on this site?” They are gone. Try that early on the chatting lol 😂 less waste of time.

My pleasure

That must be hard

Yes

He's fake

After I tried to explain this to him, that I need emotional connection too, deep talks, including having the hard conversations, he said: 'Well maybe you should date a woman then.' :( Now he's angry because I said I need someone who's emotionally grown up enough to walk this path together with me. And he said I have a victim mindset...? Because it goes well, untill I start to talk about a need I have, or want to discuss a problem.

Most women do NOT approach a conversation with men in the right way, so the man feels attacked and defensive and that she’s looking to change him. You’re not sharing details so it’s hard to tell if he’s closed down or if the approach is off.

@@michellecremers361 hmmm but he’s happy when you’re serving him right ? selfish ?

usually men with small dicks act like this.

Yes

My ex would pat me on the fkin back 😅

Amen 🙏

OK, but many women do the same & more. (I work w many women veterans. They birth & raise children as well--sometimes single-handedly.)

To your point, both women and men need appreciation. A woman being a housewife and mother full-time is just as important as a husband working a full-time job. Appreciation goes a long way to motivate both women and men to nurture relationships.

Key word "healthy"

WHO ARE YOU - BEN SHAPIRO. THAT IS HIS SLOGAN. HE IS A SHORT NARCISSIST.

Feelings are expressions of emotions

As I’ve heard it said, emotions may not be facts but emotions are valid. It’s how we all choose to address one’s emotions is key. It’s getting down to peeling back the onions to discover where the source of the emotions are coming from. This is where healing and self love comes in because learning to understand and know yourself well is key to having the ability to know and understand others.

Me too. I watched all the Love is Blind shows: Love is Blind… in Mexico, in UK, in Sweden, in Japan They’re all fascinating and interesting to watch. 😊 I also like all the matchmaking shows too: Indian Matchmaking, Jewish Matchmaking, The Millionaire Matchmaker

Ditto, the same

You are very welcome

Yes

That's a self-limiting belief. Ideally, one to be gotten over since it's anti-empathy. On this channel, it's a trope. However, it's not a reality. It reflects very personal & highly indidualized characterization of a specific behavior--the context of which we do not know. It's repeated here as though it's a fact, but I've never seen it. I never interpret emotions as vomiting--even when men do it or beat their chests.

Glad you think so!

@@JonathonAslay yes I do👍

The motives behind the ask...

Requesting to get your needs met is the preferred direct way of dealing with your significant other. Manipulation is using deceptive measures (lying, cheating, playing games, gaslighting, etc.) in effort to control someone. Requesting is coming from a place of honesty versus dishonesty with manipulation.

Thank you​@@JRLM-e8m

​@JonathonAslay Thank you

Manipulation happens when we want the others to guess what we need and want without us asking directly about it. I think we do this all the time, men or women. To think about what your intention of saying what you want to say and doing what you do is a great way to stay in the present moment and say and do what you really mean.

Holding space simply means giving someone the space to be who they are to feel the way they feel, and moving towards them with open arms & empathy without judgement. It’s much easier said than done. But when you love & care for someone and you’re in a mutual healthy relationship, there’s more motivation to do that but hopefully without sacrificing your own truth. Sometimes for a moment, people just need comfort and a big hug, just allowing them to be human without any judgment. There’s a time and place for serious discussions but sometimes people just need that “space” to be human. And being “attuned” with someone is paying attention to their feelings and caring enough to hold space for them at that moment to show that you care while setting aside your own personal needs for that moment. That’s the difference between good friends and casual acquaintances.

@JRLM-e8m TY Why not empathize if someone is going through something? Isn't that better? Or is that what you're saying?

Yes. Holding space for someone is showing empathy.

@@JRLM-e8m TY So why is that abstract phrase used?

​@@mariad1151 if you read Non Violent Communication book recommended by Jonathon, you'll know what holding space and being truly empathetic means. It's completely different than what we know and we were taught! It's an eye opening process! Highly recommend!!

Trust is when you know someone has your back and is your biggest fan. He/she will fiercely protect the relationship and has proven it by actions. Actions speak louder than words. Trust is not intangible. If trust is there, there is no second guessing its existence. It is given and received reciprocally. And there’s no doubt, just feelings of peace. If a person fails to show loyalty and trust in a relationship, then a tough discussion needs to take place and that’s where self love is crucial to make the hard decisions needed for both parties to seek counseling to improve the relationship or end the relationship. Without trust, the relationship will not serve in the best interest for anyone. Trust requires total vulnerability and inner wounds need healing in order to be able to healthily give and receive love to build trust & intimacy.

@JRLM-e8m TY I assume it's never stable. No one trusts anyone 24/7 every day, right?

Exactly