you've seen that mac, and iphone 11 pro? Seems like lifestyle inflation to me lmao. But in seriousness he probably uses his mac to edit and maybe his iphone as a on the go camera or sumn
She's doing pretty good. Her student loan wasn't massive. She found a program that paid off a big chunk, then paid off the rest. She was willing to relocate for a better salary & lower cost of living. Drives a cheap car, owns her home, saves $1K a month, invests... She just has to work on her boyfriend.
She comes home, from work, everyday and has to cook her own meals. Meanwhile her boyfriend is unemployed, living in the same house, not looking after children, and not looking for work. Tense is probably the polite way to put their relationship.
@@travisricherson6406 Not trolling. Women wanted equality. Women are graduating from college at higher rates than men. Women are qualified for more scholarships than men. A Women doesn't WANT to date down. They shot themselves in the foot. Have fun with all that freedom.
Going to be honest here: that relationship has some foundation issues. I worked as a manger full time while going to college and just graduated (11 years) debt free. My wife (girlfriend back then) had a full ride and I wanted to make sure she graduated without worrying about housing. We loved in a 700 square foot apartment for $650. She worked at Toy R US overnights and helped with utilities. We both grew up in the ghetto but knew the debt wasn’t the way to go and being teachers was our way out. For me I make as much as I did as a store manager as I do teaching but with better work life. It takes communication and supporting others when they have nothing. I try to better our future and give the world to my wife. She supported me through my darkest hours. We will have our first home in 2021 with 20% down. Again communication and goals. This relationship seems odd to me.
@@ps31871 mortgage insurance 5000$-15000$ a year for course off loan till you get 20% down is not worth it to just save up and get that knocked off one less cost
Maybe he was getting too comfortable and taking advantage of her. It’s exhausting being in a relationship with someone you’re not even married to that isn’t contributing anything financially whilst you’re going to work every day to keep a roof over both of your heads and get food on the table particularly when you didn’t even discuss that dynamic beforehand. It’s one thing when you agree to one person leaving work to take over labour at home, it’s another thing entirely for someone to become unemployed and not make gainful steps towards getting another job
This woman is working, teaching MIDDLE SCHOOLERS, half of which she can't see in person and connect with, which is incredibly stressful, paying for a house, and fully financially supporting herself AND her boyfriend during a pandemic when her mental health is affected by all this too. She's juggling a lot, so everyone should cut her some slack if she lets out a little frustration.
They probably asked her tons of questions and just edited in the boyfriend part to make the episode more exciting. She may have been caught off guard when she answered.
I'm giving her the benefit of the doubt, that she's a little stressed and frustrated and spoke out a little too much. I also feel for the boyfriend because he's likely been depressed from this awful year. 2020 has put a lot relationships into new obstacles and this one just happens to be on camera.
Agreed. I do think that this was sort of a passive-aggressive ultimatum. She has a full time job and two side hustles. She probably wants him to get creative and think outside the box...
@@Carlos-sh6iu I agree. In the very worst of cases I'd get a job at Walmart if I had to since they're always hiring, but some people have too much pride or something so they'd rather get paid stimulus money to binge watch Netflix
@@Lak3rsfolife66 to be fair, working retail after college is depressing and soul sucking. people want to look for the job in their career. and once you start working corporate, its hard to work elsewhere. but that being said i always suggest security after hours. and then keep applying and if called for an interview, you can deal with it. and once you get a job, keep the security gig as a side job.
If you're a grown man allowing your significant other to take care of you while you stay home all day.... in the italian American community, you're not a real man.
@@TheGrahamStephanShow just so you know, Oklahoma is known as having the 3rd worst education system in the US, so that could be a reason the salary is soo low:)
@@animerocks2468 that bum needs to get a job. Indeed has thousands of jobs in the Dallas area for 15 bucks an hour and above. That's 31k a year starting. Hes just being lazy
@@SekaiiWorld2121 That was all i saw in the comments was about the boyfriend on the original video. I wonder if they asked her ab it or if she just went in on a rant.
As a husband that lost his job(and rehired again very recently), I can relate to the boyfriend. I applied to hundreds of places and barely heard back from a handful of places and the interviews were very competitive with so many candidates. With federal $600 unemployment, I was making less than what I used to, but still made more than my wife and without $600, I still made a decent amount, but not something you could survive on in this area. But of course, that didn't stop my wife from occasionally thinking I'm a bum despite the number of applications, reaching out to recruiters, network and so on. So I'll give the benefit of the doubt to the boyfriend to find a decent job when this whole thing is over. In the meanwhile, he should do his best to do some education or possibly work from home part time for supplemental income.
Yea women are quick to think men are bums if they arent employed within a month or so. If roles were reversed if they expect you to provide for them. However, we gotta be honest here he wasnt even helping that much around the house for an unemployed partner.
It really depends on the location. Like florida is 45k for an average, however that includes a health insurance. I understand tho, I have an entry level lvl job and wish I made more
Even in Dallas, $155k for a house is super uncommon unless you’re buying a major fixer upper or away from the city. Homes start more at $200k (1 hour away from the city) and are usually about $300k+
I feel like this really highlights the the fact that our teachers are so focused on stressing about finances. We should support them so they can focus on making our next generation smart!
@@razormonkey5000 right😂 It's the initiative to look for a job is what counts. He might be jobless for now but that doesn't mean you think he'll start to get lazy and think he will give up on his life.
@@gabeperez7565 Yeah, when she said that, it rubbed me the wrong way. Their relationship problems should be a family conversation. The fact she talked about him like that on national television is messed up.
@@gabeperez7565 She mentioned she meal preps, and I stopped supporting him. There was no need to air it but he doesn’t even cook? She’s got her job and some side hustles and this dude doesn’t work yet he can’t even cook? Those are the people we were always told to avoid...
Damn. That boyfriend is setting off red flags. lol EDIT: if he has a car, there's work for him in the gig economy. Even if he doesn't there's work. There's more work out there than some realise.
Especially in Texas where most places have reopened and are staying open. It’s not like California or Illinois who are under a total lockdown for the most part
@@GodofDisco As someone in Dallas, nothing is locked down, everything is open. :) Edit: techniqually most restaurants are closed, at least inside, you can still order from them.
Her intentions by not having him be complacent, I can agree with. There's just no need to put it on video, out there for everyone to see. She should've kept it personal. That was dirty! Shaking my head!
those were my thoughts, and I wonder if the interviewer asked her point blank if she felt like he was complacent and why he wasn't paying half that would explain why she answered the way she did
Money is definitely one of the biggest problems in a relationship. Another big thing is anxiety and being able to recognize anxiety. My husband and I would fight all the time about money and to pay portion of it turned out to be he had undiagnosed anxiety that didn't click for any of us. Finally realized that this year and he's calmed down a lot. It's really hard to manage money and communicate better when you're flipping out every time.
@@TheGrahamStephanShow My wife was bad at spending, but now after watching a bunch of Dave Ramsay, Gail Vax-Oxlade, and Graham Stephan episodes, she's on board with finding good deals on stuff she needs and saving the rest for investments.
There is one thing to tell someone in confidence. It is another thing to tell the whole world that he wasn't pulling his weight. It wasn't tasteful at all in my opinion but I'm glad it isn't my battle. lol
Why is she talking about her boyfriend that way so publicly? I’m totally for people making sure they aren’t taken advantage of but damn. She could’ve said “he lost his job and was unemployed until recently so I was paying for all of our stuff - I’m hoping he keeps pushing himself and gets more opportunity so that we can get back to a half and half situation and I’ll be able to save more” It gets the same point across without harping on the fact that you think your boyfriend is lazy and complacent. yikes.
Maybe she genuinely wanted to breakup and thought it would be a good idea to break up through Millennial Money. I mean come on that would be a first and probably the most remarkable way to break up lol
I agree that what she said wasn't any of our business or her place to share. If he's not collecting unemployment he prob quit his job or hasn't had one in a while.
In the old days all our ancestors needed was health, strength and food and a place to stay and they were happily married. Now it's a pissing contest Men vs women
I actually like that she said that. I think it's important for people to know that relationships do have their ups and downs. Issues like that do need to be addressed if not it causes even more tension between both parties.
Our utilities here in Texas are extremely high. We run the AC 95% of the year. If you have pets you need it running all day for their comfort too because it’s SO hot
As a teacher, it all comes from the state. Based on teacher salaries in Texas (was considering moving there), they’re doing a lot better than other states. Texas cost of living is much lower and it also helps that there’s no state income tax
@@ChrisW228 this is only in certain school districts in Texas. Some school districts will give you a bigger pay bump based on testing but you still increase salary from year to year no matter what’s
I watched this MM episode when it first came out and had the exact same reaction as Graham towards the boyfriend...She was trying to word the situation more nice than she wanted to. "Complacent", yeah I've experienced that and got out. I dont like people messing with my money and putting in little to no effort.
I was so shocked at her attitude to her partner right in an interview. no one wants a partner to be complacent and stop trying, don't know the details but I'm guessing it was a stressful time for him and in a situation where it could be difficult to find work then the added stress of his partner saying wellllp don't get comfortable...
Teacher here! There’s a lot of reasons we get paid so little but the main ones are 1. It’s a field that’s predominantly women (esp elementary) 2. Education pay has not caught up to the cost of living in large cities because it simply can’t. I’m in atlanta and it’s dismal. I make the same as her but homes here start at 250/275k very easily.
I enjoyed the "Mad Minute!" We had something similar in grade school. 100 problems in I believe 1 or 2 minutes. If you finished the whole test in time (and accurately), you didn't have to participate in the next test, or at least it didn't count against you if you didn't get it perfect. I love math, so it was super enjoyable!
@@Asphyxia72gaming oh, no! Are you a teacher in California? Before leaving that state I couldn't break $36 as a teacher. Really sad! The moment that I left, I jumped $20k.
My aunt let her boyfriend move in with her when he didnt have a job. Years later he was making more than she was and wasnt contributing anything to the living expenses. She ended up kicking him out because he wouldnt contribute. I don't blame her at all for what she said to him.
The most infuriating thing about teacher salaries is that most are Masters trained educators. With the expectation that you're child's teacher have a graduate degree to provide the best education they should be paid accordingly. Graduate degrees are expensive and a lot of hard work.
@@joyaustin6581 I suspect moving states meant he couldn't claim unemployment when his job start date was pushed back to October because he would have no work history in Texas.
I am currently a teacher in Oklahoma, so I can actually offer a little bit of perspective on teacher wages in this scenario: Before the teacher walkouts, the $34,000 salary WAS pretty much unlivable for the vast majority of working teachers. Even though the cost of living is extremely cheap here, I can tell you that most teachers I knew were either living with parents or with multiple roommates. Between the student loan debt and the low wages, we ALL had multiple jobs in order to keep a roof over our heads. At the time, moving to Dallas ensured that many of us could just... teach and have our own apartments. I will say that after the walkouts, teachers in the state got a raise between $8-10,000. Things are MUCH better here now, and many teachers I know are now living a better existence.
"Anything above 7th grade math, no idea how to do that. I can calculate real estate cashflow and commissions, though" Yeah, i mean, you are the perfect example of what kind of math actually is useful :)
@@honestiguana Yeah, i can tell you engineers don't have more "difficult" math. They just have more of the same. Maybe a bit more difficult but it's more about knowing what to calculate. The main reason why engineers are well payed is the fact that they are responsible. (I'm studying architecture and we have one engineering class)
As an engineer... lmao what? You’re not even an engineer you’re an architect STUDENT who took ONE engineering class and you’re generalising like this? Ridiculous
@@sv-bd5em Yeah no mate, half my week is physics and construction only (i don't know how it is in the rest of the world but in Switzerland those are very advanced). We also have BIM and digital planing and simulations on one day. I worked in construction bureaus for 5 years and worked for 4 years as an draftsman. I generalize it because...it is true, isn't it? The math itself is basic but not WHAT you calculate, that is difficult, i know. I meant higher dimensions, irrational numbers, quantum physics, etc. Sorry if i offended you :(
Speaking generally, $60k per year (often with a full pension in many states) is hardly a raw deal in the vast majority of the country, not to mention powerful tenure agreements in many cases
The difference is that many of these teachers don't have the same advancement opportunities for their salaries that many other people in their "corporate" professions.
@@thehomeless_trucker and they take 6.7 ish percent of your income to contribute to it which is MANDATORY and will pay out nothing near what kind of gains a teacher will have from contributing that amount to a 401k ROTH
@@thehomeless_trucker Definitely true, it's definitely not sustainable (I'm from Illinois where it is startlingly out of control) but that doesn't mean many teachers won't enjoy it in the short run.
bro, love the wine glass coffee! I do the $1 latte or less prob at home so im def with ya on that. I need to make a video actually about how cheap my home lattes are
I own a 2001 Ford Lazer and the three mechanics I know all love it. Runs well, decent power, cheep to run and sturdy. Managed to get it from a friend who was moving to Tasmania for 2500 including the road worthy check and rego.
I know how she feels during quarantine my girlfriend was milking unemployment and I went from paying 50% of the bills to 100% the moment I Felt she was getting complacent I told her to get a job couple months I was unable to buy tesla stock
For context, Dallas teacher pay is higher than smaller cities around Dallas. Just saying if you decide to go this route, check out the specific isd salaries. Higher salary is because size of the isd
Ok! So in Texas during the summer your utility bill is going to be super super high (at least where I live in Texas), because it gets to 110 degrees outside usually. In my tiny apartment utilities are normally $60 a month, but then during the summer it's like $150 because you have to run the AC all the time. Once my AC broke and within an hour my apartment was 90 degrees inside. AC is life or death during the summer in Texas. If I'm out in that 110 degree weather for more than 2 hours I start to get a massive migraine. And heat stroke is very real threat in Texas.
She ripped her boyfriend a new one during this segment. If he's been unemployed until October this year, how long were they together? What was he doing before? Maybe she shouldn't let him move in with her, or maybe she shouldn't have had him for a boyfriend. We don't know enough about him only her perspective. We're in no position to judge this man. She had to see something special in him if she let him move in her home. Utilities are high probably because the boyfriend is home most of the time.
Imagine if the roles were flipped and the boyfriend called the girlfriend “too complacent” - that segment of millennial money would’ve gotten torn to shreds.
@Mug_Tea_Coffee either way that relationship is tainted. No sane minded individual would just put their significant other on blast for the world to see regardless if the roles were switched or not.
I was so distracted by what she said about her boyfriend that I couldn't really focus on whether or not her finances were okay or not. If she really felt the need to say that then she should've just dumped his ass and moved on with life. Feel sorry for that man.
Interviewers probably asked a directed question. She should dump him if she felt strongly about it though. Maybe he will be motivated to work after that.
I have 25 years of teaching experience and make less than $58K at a district near Dallas, Tx. There are rarely houses that come up in town for less than $200k.
The unemployment you get is based off of how much you have contributed to the unemployment insurance. In Nevada the max weekly benefit is 469, but some people make as low as 145$ a week depending on what their specific benefit is, and the extra 600 was only for a short period of time. I have a lot of coworkers who didn’t qualify even though we have the same position because of many other factors. That’s not to mention that because it’s an insurance you only have a certain amount of money in your benefit, my partners money ran out in September. Also, Nevada has one of the highest max benefit numbers, in some states the max is as low as 250$.
I watched that episode and though I agree with her I found it distasteful to share it publicly with the whole world. She sounded brutally honest and utilized this platform to air out her frustrations. Some things should be kept private. I couldn't be in a relationship if I or my partner wasn't putting forth effort to keep us afloat but also its not something I'd personally share with the world.
I would be horrified if my partner said something like that about me for the world to hear. Why is she not concerned about helping her significant other back on his feet.
She‘s working to teach kids in school und to pay the bills why does she have to help him get on his feet? I mean he‘s a grown man its not to much to ask that he at least looks for a new job what ever that may be in a pandemic. Maybe he doesn‘t really look for a new job and blames the pandemic ?
@@MK-is4xm Your right that could be a factor, it wasnt specified. What i had understood was that he lost his job and was having trouble finding a new one due to covid, not that he had no standing beforehand. There is never a reason to speak like that about your partner on public platform. If she was confiding in her friend or relative that she found his position irksome that would be different. If we can't depend on our significant others to build us up and support us (in more ways than just financially) at times like then we live in a very sad world indeed.
She resents him. The part where she bring ups when people ask her whether her and the boyfriend bought the house together, says a lot about her. But the good news is that they aren’t married because if they were.🤔
