I agree entirely it ruins ur life its awful and i freakin loved this video i cried because i thought that know one knew anything about it but now i can show this to my parents and mabye i wont get grounded for acting out
Yup, you basically can't live with anyone, or live near people. The only safe place to be would be a completely isolated room a few hundred feet under the surface that is made out of concrete so it wouldn't make expanding/heat popping sounds.
Peppermint very well put, nice to speak with people who understand, it drains your energy all the adrenalin produced though unwanted noise. I wish Estate agents and builders would build proper sound proof flats , with thick concrete between the flats.
It actually renders you susceptible to other disorders. I'm sleeping at the beach as from month end February 2019. It's nicely quiet there. And the sound of the waves smashing against the rocks would actually rock me to sleep.
@@JudgeMarmianWiZard 😢 they couldn't ve bothered! I was told that I'm the trouble maker as no one has ever complained about noise in this apartment block.
Whenever I am at the dinner table with my family and hold back any rage or tears to politly ask them to please stop chewing, breathing, clicking, tapping or even clicking their mouth while speaking, they either get mad at me or they tortur me by doing it again louder, then continuing to do whatever they're doing that triggered my miso. I dont eat with my family anymore.
My mom talks with her mouth full and I snap at her. She gets angry and tells me I'm bullying her, which I can't totally deny, but I also know that I'm not doing it on purpose and that she refuses to listen to me when I try to explain it to her. I haven't eaten with my family without headphones in my ears for 8 years.
I hate it when people in videos click with their mouth when they talk, or when people eat it makes me so so so so mad D:.. A lot of RU-vid videos I give up watching because of the mouth clicking thing. UUAAREHHGHGHGH
Mateo Hernandez Same things happens to me, if im talking with friends over the internet and one of them is eating, and i politely ask them to mute their mic they just become mad at be. Same thing in real life.
My mom snores, my dad chews loudly, students tap, people breathe to loudly. I'm glad I'm not the only one that feels strong emotion towards these noises.
Sneezing!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! My grandma won't just sneeze once...twice..three times.. or even four times. It goes on for like 20-30 minutes. I feel like I'm going to lose my mind. I've even gone outside of her house and stood in the driveway and when I could hear her through the wall I really thought I was going to lose my shit. I used to smoke cigarettes and when I hear that sound it makes me so tense I want to start smoking again to somehow feel better. But I don't...
Had same thing.. Parents were loud in just about every single way.. Had to wait 8 years for my own house.. It was a dam hell and I had to control my rage but many times I had to unleash it.. I explained it many times but they never bothered to adapt.. Pretty fcked up having nowhere to go except outside in the rain
i still live with my parents and due to us having to live in a small house, i have to share a room with my mom. she snores and heavily breathes S O badly and it just makes me want to throw something at the wall, at her, and then throw myself out of our room.
I had a weird response to this video. I laughed at many of the parts where he was explaining what it was like. I suppose it was just pure joy that finally someone understands what I go through. People who don’t know about misophonia typically tell you to just deal with it, quit being dramatic, calm down crazy. It is never acceptable to discriminate against someone for something the cannot choose. I can’t choose not to react, as a matter of fact, holding in my reaction adds a multiplier to the reaction that increases with the continuance of the noise. Excellent video.
I've had the same reaction recently to posts on miso. I laughed uproariously! Couldn't stop. Someone was saying that just thinking about a certain sound made them nauseous. Then they said getting nauseous right now. That set me off for 3 or 4 minutes of over-the-top laughing, It must be some kind wierd way of getting relief.
I had the same reaction when my sister described the video telling me the story how she found out of it. And just ab amazing sense of relief came over me for just hearing that there's a reason for these extreme rages iv gone thru my entire life. It's not just the type of noises he's referring to tho there's definitely many more noises that does it to me like I enjoy all sorts of music but some stuff it litterally makes me feel a total rage build up like I'm ready to slaughter anything that moves. But the thing is that's not me at all and I don't do anything to harm anyone but something triggers me to feel this nasty just straight raging hatred for anything to do with whatever the trigger is at that moment
I'm wishing all of you watching this video a good, quiet misophonia free day, I'm so sorry you have to deal with this horrible condition, it's not your fault, you're not being "irrational" and you are so amazing and strong, 💖
I just wish people could understand how unbelievably debilitating this problem is. I have been dealing with extreme levels of this for 20+ years now. "Don't let it get to you." is what I hear all the time. It's infuriating. I have had to move many times due to the noise of neighbors in joining apartments. Try explaining the reason why you can't live there anymore to your landlord who's human trash. Or why there's fist shaped holes in the drywall. I can't focus in college classes, I can hardly hold a job. So many sounds cause physical pain to me, the adrenaline starts pumping and it makes me want to run or become violent. Thank God I have never hurt anyone but myself, even though the thoughts in my head are awful. I even dropped out of the military because of it. Try explaining to them why I couldn't do my duties... this condition has wrecked my life. I watched all of my friends grow up, move on, advance, and leave me behind because of this problem. My RU-vid name is what it is for a reason. Anyway, Thanks for this, Tom. It's good to know, finally, what my problem is after all these years. And good to know I'm not alone, that others out there understand how horrid this is.
Anxiety - associated with Noise - I suffer with PTSD , now this Disorder has Spilled into a Noise Disorder , I realise as I write here that One can have Many Disordersat any given time , I also live with TERRIBLE neighbours , both Upstars and to the left of me , JUST a Continuous Slamming of Objects and Hurling of different types of objects as well , Complained dozens of times , went face to face with face with this ArseHole neighbour , Best part is this , THEY TOTALLY DENY IT is THEM ,
@@manipadayachee981 😢oh my God!!!! I got that from my downstairs neighbour about two days ago! They drag furniture on tiling, and it's been going on for quite sometime. And when I went downstairs to talk to him about it, he steadfastly denied it was them! Meanwhile it looked like they moving house, with everyone there holding a broom or a peace of furniture or something! I must say I lost a little respect for him for denying it. Denial is a form of lying.
Well, in a sense she's not wrong. Speaking as a person whose heart starts pounding due to the eating noises at the dinner table, I know that the way she puts it implies that it's easy to do... that's a misunderstanding that needs remedying. The correct response to people like your grandma is "I'll take all the help I can get with that".
a brilliant breakdown of what misophonia is! I have suffered for 30years so, since I was about 9, and only found out 1yr ago that I wasn't alone in my struggle. i have tried to explain to people close to me what i am going through each day and the huge amount of anxiety it causes but often people would bring it down to their level ie - my worst trigger is eating and mouth movement..if i mention chewing to be a trigger they would say things like 'thats normal- i dont like noisy eaters' - but far from understanding the extreme emotional and physical reaction my body was going through. i can show them this video and i know it will make more sense to them - thankyou
You just perfectly described my situation. The last year it has been getting worse and worse, but it has been present since i was 12 years old. It is affection my daily mood, my relationships, and just generally making my life miserable. Most of thw people i know cant understand it and will even kinda mock me, or say things like "stop being so picky".
Hazel Pritchard Pritchard I also suffer from Misophonia by loud breathing, pen clicking and when people chew, like the noise of it just makes me want to punch them in the face.
I have so many triggers, and i agree. With severe anxiety, it makes misophonia so much worse. Its not irritating, it causes a crazy reaction to my body. I start to jerk, bite down, shake, and get the chills. It takes me like 30 minutes, or more to overcome what i just went through. I absolutely knew something was odd with it, but didnt realize it was a real diagnosed thing. Thankful for this.
I found this through Shane, and i can't believe this is a real thing. I have always thought I was being unnecessarily bitchy and crazy in my head. I see a lot of comments of people saying it causes them serious anxiety, but for me I get absolutely enraged, for what I always thought was no reason at all. I can't say I'm happy that so many others deal with this too, but I am relieved that I'm not alone in this.
People always think I'm over reacting when I say enraged. But I have literally ripped a bag of chips out of someone's hand, thrown it across the room, and cussed them out. I totally understand what you mean.
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I have been struggling with this for my entire life, but not many people understand. Some rude kids in elementary school would make my trigger sounds on purpose and I would jerk and almost cry. Two of my friends even faked having the same thing so I would not feel alone. I just hate it when people are like "Well, yeah, that sound is distracting for me too". It is not just distracting, it can be *painful!*
My triggers are rough surfaces like sand paper and the noise of pencils scratching against paper. I have to write with one hand plugging my ear and the other hand being plugged by my shoulder. It is also the texture, just touching these things triggers me.
I was heavily bullied too! Luckly in highschool some students defend me But in 6th grade i hated myself. i worthless because the bullying was too much....school was Truely hell for me....and it still is.... I hated myself.....i hated the noises....i wanted it to stop.....but it didnt..
Me too. I live in India. And there were some horrible people. who, just made that ( a certain sound ) sound, on purpose. It was not an easy time for the then, I even called the police. They have stopped now. But I still get scared when I see them. In my opinion. ( and i am a bit hot tempered ) I feel such insensitive people, should be punished - if they are doing it on purpose.
Thank you for this video it's VERY informative and I might show my family as they don't understand what I'm going through at all. People tell us with misophonia that it's "fake" or we can just "get over it" but that's exactly like telling someone suffering with OCD to just "get over it". It's very sad and heartbreaking that people who don't suffer from this actually have a really hard time understanding what it's like.
wow didnt know this was a thing. I thought I was just wierd for the past 32years. I hate it when my mom would tell me to "Get over it". There have been points where I wanted to just poke my eyes out rather to keep hearing the smacking, chewing, crunching coming from people in my life.
ChildofGod wow, sorry you had to live with it so long, it must be such a relief to be able to know it IS something now. i've only had it for 3-4 years from what i can remember, im not sure if i've always had it since the earliest memories of it was when i was 12 and it's only gotten worse, i can't imagine how i'd cope without the internet and with support from others who have it online. i have the same feeling, sometimes it drives me so crazy ill pinch myself i'm so angry, if i'm stuck in a situation where i cant get up and leave. it really is an awful thing to deal with, and it's only worse because so many people cant udnerstand. my worst sounds are heavy breathing, chewing and especially crunching. i have weird sounds too, like the sound of someone pacing or walking heavily sometimes (certain people doing it make the sounds a lot worse), and the sound of certain people typing on a keyboard, a lot of repitive sounds actually affect me, same with reptitive movements like someone shaking their foot or spinning on an office chair. it's weird, but i'm so glad there's these videos to help me see how many others deal with it too. :)
Thanks for using ocd as an example, as I have cod and may have his but I haven't been prescribed with it, I just hate the sounds eating it makes me feel really mad and like punching some one, my mum is annoying as she does it purposely just to annoy me, she doesn't know about this disorder.
Stella Mightytree funny thing is, last month i was actually diagnosed with OCD and last year when i wrote this i had no idea! sounds like eating also make me sooo uncomfortable, and makes me VERY angry and feel violent. my mom is the same!! she is so annoying and i FEEL like she does it on purpose, but thats part of my OCD.. shes not ACTUALLY doing it on purpose, thats just how i percieve it. i feel like shes a threat, when really she isnt doing anything on purpose. though my mom is informed about misophonia she doesnt care much, though she trys to respect it, she thinks i can just "get over it" which is annoying because just like ocd, you cant just "get over it" lol!!!! it took me a lot to tell my mom about this disorder..... but i did it and i feel better, but at the same time since she knows i feel like she does things on purpose... because she KNOWS and thinksi can "get over it" or "deal with it" but all in all, telling her was good, because now she knows its real atleast, i hope she does lol! dont worry though, it gets easier.... kind of... i just usually eat with my headphones in, or wait and eat after everyone!! i kind of work with my disorder - headphones and music and white noise and ASMR are my best friend.
Wow! This explains how I feel down to a tee! I've always wondered this about myself and often feel embarrassed to speak up. I can *clearly* see I am not alone with this at all! I always thought I had some weird condition no one else had! Thank you for this video sir!
Noise cancelling headphones are my heros. Often they just can soften the noise but it helps so much. Sadly I cant use them too much bc my ear hurts with time.
Yesss me too, but mine are low-quality and really hurt my ears, but my family always tells me to just put them on if I'm bothered- but I can't, I can't.
It's important here to note that not everyone including myself, will act upon thoughts they have when trigger noises are present. Also, not all visual triggers are related to audio triggers. As a coping mechanism, I found that imitating people in reaction to what they were doing was more satisfying than saying nothing. I have lost my temper, shouted, sweared, cried, ran out of rooms, left restaurants so there isn't just ONE way to react and I say react cause as you say, it really isn't a choice I can not physically help it.
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Thank you so much for this! I'm 52 and have dealt with this my whole life. What's more, my eight-year old son (I was a late bloomer!) has it, too. It's been both maddening and eye-opening. Now that my husband and I know there is a name for this AND others who share in the daily stresses of having it, things don't seem so dismal. I wish there was a "cure" but at least there's awareness. Thanks again!
@@Arunava_Sar shut the fuck up. My whole family thinks im psychotic and has never looked at me the same. I have to live with the guilt of not being normal everyday.
I am 52, I suffer of this condition since age 10 and I have an explanation for my case. I had a deficient relation with my mother (she gave me no affection, although she loved me ....in her style). And when she was heating her meal, she was very focused on her food, in a manner that made me feel that the eats were more important to her than me, her son. And hence, inside me, all her chewing and slurping sounds became converted into an immense hate and rage. Moreover, she was an apple eater, the apple biting sounds is horrendous. My job nowadays in an office together with 4 persons which chew, drink, slurp, eat apples. Fortunately the toilet and a scanner outside on a hall is a good pretext to live the office. But I would take easier a 7M earthquake than this apple eating.
Aw man 🥺 I’m sorry you had to go through all that buddy. Misophonia is not easy by itself, let alone trauma, I truly hope that you have a happy life where you don’t have to be around these noises 🥺🥺🥺 I suffer from misophonia, specifically wishpering, and it sends me into a panic attack to the point I just start tearing up and beg the person to stop in my head. It’s really unpleasant, and suffering in silence really doesn’t help 🥺 but I truly hope you’re doing much better now buddy.
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Hearing the sound of people eating, like the smacking the chewing makes me feel so so so angry that I could cry, like I could almost explode. So now my family and I always watch Netflix during dinner (together) so that overpowers the sound of eating.
Just learned about this yesterday and am so glad to know I'm not alone. Certain chewing bothers me, but my biggest triggers are low bass sounds (worse when further away), bagpipes, digaredoo and large machine noises. Amazing that others experience this as well!
I would give anything ~anything~ for my family to see this video and really try to understand. They've been convinced that I'm just a controlling bitch since I was a kid because of this disorder. Don't you think I would have stopped trying to control everything after 30+ years? Do you really think anyone in the UNIVERSE would choose to be this bothered by tiny little sounds and actions all of the time? I am miserable and exhausted and about at my wit's end. All I do anymore is run. I'm tired of running.
Randi Poet I was told if I got snappy about certain sounds that I was being bitchy because I wasn't taking my thyroid medication. Eventually as I got older my mom understood its a condition. My sound hatred isn't as bad but I do have a friend who chews so obnoxiously.. especially with chips or popcorn I get so irritated that I come off as a jerk when she chews its a big trigger.
Ik, it is horrible because I have misophonia to and it is the worst my grandma chews VERY loud and she thinks that I can control it and out grow it and it is annoying
Sparkling Glittercat Same with my mother. It's like someone has no limbs and another person with super strength, and the one with the super power expects them to work.
We need a support group y'all Just showed my mum a video on misophonia and she was surprised that its a real thing,all along she thought I was just being bossy and we used to argue so much during dinner But now she says she finally understands
I have all sorts of triggers that I’ve recently been taking steps to identify. I guess while we’re on the family dinner topic, here are some of mine: - scooting chairs - blowing on food to cool it off - when people punch the fork through their food and it hits the plate real hard - when people put down their forks and spoons on the table - biting down on a spoon and scraping their teeth while pulling it back out My biggest question about this whole thing is why is it the absolute worst with family members? I love them more than anyone in the world Unfortunately, I’ve discovered that alcohol is a good treatment to numb the senses....
Thank you so much for making this video. I'm sending this to my parents. You might have just helped me fix my relationship with them. I can't thank you enough.
julianna mistovich l know I want to cry when my mom makes ya his one certain mouth sound and the way she says her g just makes me want to cry I love her so much! I just can’t say anything to her.
People whispering is the worse for me, keyboard tapping, women filing their nails, chewing, swallowing, drinking, blowing bubbles with gum.. I fill with rage. It's hard to explain the feeling, my body hurts inside, I can't go to the cinema, I want to kill people. I want to pick my chair up and throw it at them, but when my kids eat it doesn't trigger it. I cover my ears, my legs start shaking, my insides shake. It's unbearable. Nobody that has never felt it can know what it's like. It physically destroys you inside, your body is full of rage and you need to escape from the hell! Sounds stupid, I know
I hear all those sounds almost on a daily basis to & from work. Sometimes I'm that mad woman shouting at them to shut up or crying and screaming inside till i get a headache. The extreme thoughts of angry i get upsets me as I'm a caring person, but at that moment i want them to choke or have their mouths sown shut. Just greatful there's no availbilty of guns in the U.K😭🥀
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I've found that my misophonia triggers have developed into certain visual triggers too. When people shake or swing their legs when they're sitting in a chair especially. Repetitive movements. Which is extremely odd because in high school I played on the drumline which is essentially repetitive sounds and movements. But maybe because I was creating music I didn't have problem with it. I knew I had misophonia since the age of 12, I'm 23 now.
I emailed this to my husband because he really thinks I'm just picking on him. I didn't always have 4s this severe, but over the 35 yrs we've been married, I just want to SCREAM at times, but usually just go in another room and do something away for the sound or movement. Thank you SO much for such an honest, true description of this disorder. I have a hard time trying to figure out how to tell people other than, "its driving me nuts"! Lots of useful information you have for us here. Thank you Tom.
This is really helping. I always thought that I have a weird situation since I was a kid. I can't stand the sound of opening and banging doors, it grows to become anxiety to any rhythmic sound and visuals that related to it that I can't control. I can't stay in a restaurant or office where the doors become a trigger. I can't concentrate in class where the door can't close properly and keep swinging, and how people using that door with such at ease. And many things such as door between carriages on trains. I always thought "this is getting worse and I need help to at least identify what is happening with me" and I found this video. I realized the initial sound was actually related with a figure in my family which consistently causing the sound. And his existence for me related with fear when I was a kid. It is all i know now, but this is helping so much for me to understand my anxiety. I keep checking everydoor around me, I prop any table leg which making trigger sounds, but most of the time, I bring headset everywhere, when there is a condition which I really can't control (example, on the train) I just listen to the loudest music and read a book so that I can't hear and see the triggers. Thank you for this video. I really appreciate the knowledge you have shared
Suffer in silence is it for me. I can change some things around if I can modify my life, which is to move to a location where I can be around like-minded people. People who love peace and quiet. Explain this to anyone that does not have this condition and they will never understand. No one understands.
Mouth noises. Chewing. Wet kissing. That sound when people like suck their spoon, sipping from a glass or bottle. Generally wet sloppy sounds. It’s fcking infuriating. My head gets light/floaty and my face gets hot. My automatic response is to internally scream while holding back the burning need to punch the source of the sound in the throat. I wear earbuds like earplugs to get through grocery shopping. It’s embarrassing to say that, as a 29 year old adult, I’ve fled from family parties in tears. Holding back the rage only forces it out in the form of sobbing and guilt.
I actually clicked on this video to drown out the sound of my neighbor's vacuum sound that is driving me crazy. This person runs it for hours! I can hear it through my windows. I can so relate to this video. Many thanks for the education.
By far the most accurate and concise summary of this condition I've ever heard--including an explanation of what misophonia is NOT. Thanks for this--I'll share it with those who want to better understand what I have to deal with every day.
I have been in fights, lost friends and hid from people and situations caused by this disorder. Thank you for the video. There are so many people that think I am just an A-hole. They don't understand they I didn't create this and I can't just make it go away.
Thank you for this video, I have never heard of Misophonia. It's caused all kinds of problems for me. When I'm in the supermarket, I feel tense if there are small children in there as they can unexpectedly SCREAM or shout or cry and if i have a basket in my hands I can't stick my fingers in my ears and if i do the parents often give you dirty and threatening looks like I'm suppost to enjoy it. When i look at the other shoppers in supermarket if a child is screaming they dont seem so bothered, this is how i know its obviously not affecting them as much as me.Teenage girls who get excited with shreaky voices is also horrible, I've often caused offence by wincing or putting my fingers in my ears but it literally feels like a stab in the brain to me my heart races and get a headache, it's also same with building work, traffic police and ambulance noises trigger lots of headaches and adrenalin, I am always pressing mute on my T.V as certain people's voices just irritate the he'll out of me. I hardly ever go to the theatre or cinema as I can hear people's noises or feet shuffling and it's just too loud, new cinema surround sound is just really bad for me .at train stations I find it unbearable the announcers on the tannoy. When I'm in resteraunts I often can clearly hear a conversation across the room more clearly than the person I'm with who's in front of me and find it very distracting. When I visit other people's houses I always find the tv is way too loud for me and sometimes avoid going because they get irritated by me asking to lower the volume. I often have earplugs in as it takes the edge off the noise but they can feel irritating if you have them in all day. The only sounds that calm me is cats purring, walking in snow, the wind in the trees and streams or rain and thunder also I like 1960s lounge music. Sorry for long rant (if you've bothered to read it) BUT I feel like I've suffered with this alone and have often been made to feel like I'm just a fussy awquard person. Not to mention that I have moved several times because of neighbour noises. I'm not a fan of the summer as it's the noisiest season , I have considered moving from UK to a country with less people and traffic in it. Anyone who suffers like me with this feel free to moan to me as I totally understand. It can be very depressing 50% is due to misunderstandings or people simply having no sympathy for the daily ear rape endured.
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Thank you so much for making this video! I have Misophonia since I can remember but found out a month ago what the name is for what I'm experiencing. It helped my parents alot to understand me better! =D
Misophonia is HELL. I would do almost anything not to have to deal with it every single day. And trying to explain my physical/emotional reactions to someone who doesn't suffer from it is pointless. They don't understand why I get so upset over something they see as trivial. I scare myself sometimes because of the hate & rage I feel. Whenever possible I leave, get the heck out of there, but sometimes that's impossible to do. I've lost jobs before because I got triggered to the point where I ended up going off on a person-yelling, cussing, threatening them. I wouldn't wish this on anyone.
I’ve been dealing with this since junior high school. When I found out what it was 10 years ago I started hypnosis for sound sensitivity. It has helped dramatically. Along with EFT Tapping and QiGong.
The best explanatory Misophonia video I have found (esp explaining the separation from sound sensitivity.) Thank you. Mine has progressed to anger over hearing my parents simply enter the kitchen, complete disgust to rage to the need to flee.
Thank you Dr.T dozier I have in the past year realized I have been dealing with this illness for 60 years..Over the years I have really disliked and dissociated myself from family,friends and my loving wife..... The way I deal with this issue is to realize that every one around me at one time has to sneeze,cough,eat loudly etc.....so in my mind I use this as a tool to try and coup with each time I'm triggered and this seems to work for me.....Peter G
Triggers: * people smacking lips loudly,chewing w/ mouth open *snapping popping gum * certain women's voices: nasally, whiney, popping pPpP's and sSsSs's etc. *yes we do want to bash someone's head in for being a slob... it's a real condition. I just end up giving them dirty looks and sometimes I smack my lips very loudly to imitate them... MOCK them back. * wrinkling bags, * yes movies * whispering voices etc... hate being around people mainly
omg my family has always thought I was so weird and now I know it's a real condition! chewing food, chip bags, any kind of wrapper, continued coughing or nose sniffing, burping, all of those are really big ones for me.
Ditto but teeth sucking as in GRAB SOME DENTAL FLOSS is one of my tops followed by wrapper folding or bag crinkling, however, my friends think I'm prenopausing 😐
Wow! Thank you for this. I’ve suffered with this my whole life. I’m surprised I still have a hair left on my head. It’s nice knowing there is some understanding.
I found out 2 years ago that I had this and realized I wasn't just a brat for freaking out at the "shh" sound and lips. I've loved school for so long, but it gets harder and harder each day, especially after dealing with it since kindergarten. This video is just a life saver to me. thank you
Thank you, very informative, after 40 years, I finally know what's wrong with me. With me, it's sniffing and having a rasp when speaking. I was on a 9 hour flight, the person next to me was sniffing constantly, I stood for most of the time near the toilet, could not stand sitting next to this person! I never leave the house without earplugs!
Tom thank you so much for making this video and your other misophonia videos!!! I've struggled with this since i was about 10. Started with my dads chewing and has gotten worse over time. Ive learned to use earbuds with music when i know triggers are coming. But the rage i feel sometimes is totally out of my control. It's awful. Kinda bothers me how now that misophonia is all the sudden well known- people keep saying oh yea i don't like hearing people chewing either. It's waaaaay more then not liking it. Its a feeling you get. It's unbearable! Thanks tom!!
I suspect that me and my sister have misophonia. She gets really annoyed off of snoring sounds. We both get extremely frustrated when we hear chewing and swallowing. I hate the sound of cutlery being scraped on a plate, cutlery and plates being sorted, also when people drag their slippers around on the floor. keys rattling breathing through the nose But that is about it, clicking sounds do not annoy me. All of the things you said fit in to how I feel, I get very angry, but I suffer in silence mostly, because I don't want to be such a pain to others, a lot of fights have been started in the past because of it. But if it's somewhat appropriate, I will leave the situation. I get especially angry when my family members are making the sounds. So, what do you think? Do I have misophonia?
Thank you so much, for staying polite and just leaving. I honestly think anyone who starts to call others out on their sounds deserves having misophonia in the first place and even worse.
Same thing I grew up in a tiny house and my mother was so extremely loud with the dishes.. The crazy thing is that my mother and father were both extremely irritating.. My mother is one of the loudest eaters ever,, my father breaths like crazy.. And the foot dragging,.. But yes those dishes sounds were dam annoying.. Nowhere in the house it was silent.. Maybe if I had a big house with 2 floors I had a place to escape too but I was litarly under attack 24 7 cause of course even the snorting was heard through 2 doors and 15 meters away.. All I can say is I hope you got your own place now
Being educated , Those people suffer for this Keep patience .. It's just an allergy made by Our body.. it's being controlled with its..u can overcome it by meditation hope.. it's an allergy , just chill and meditation hope it all will be well..
Woah. As someone who has suffered with misophonia for the past 6 years, this is the best description I've found in a video that's I've seen. It's hard for me to explain this to my peers without them making comments that are just simply not true including it being the "fear of sounds". I will be saving this link to send to some people who want to know more.
My triggers are my mum's ANNOYING gum pop and my grandma's ANNOYING AS HELL mouth sounds (don't even ask me what they are). I'm nearing 18 and it's worsening
With my Grandma's sounds it can make me quite distressed but I often blast my earphones or leave the room. As she is staying in the same room as me, I may also put my fingers in my ears because I don't have ear plugs that are strong enough to fully block out noises. I can't bring myself to say anything to her because I know it's just a habit she has (which may actually be a vocal tic) so I just try not to make my reactions obvious. When I complain to my mum about her noises she thinks I'm a diva but I'd rather she think that than think that I'm trying to diagnose myself with something. She already thinks I overeact all the time. Plate scraping is another thing but that doesn't always last too long so it's more manageable.
Thank you for this video! It helped me to understand my issue with certain sounds and its triggers. I couldn't explain it better than you did! This helps me deal with it better. I also understand that it is a real 'thing' that Ive been dealing with most of my life. ♡
Wow.... I can’t believe I’ve finally found what’s been going on. Sending this to all of my loved ones. Hopefully I can be more comfortable with my loved ones now. I’ve been suffering for so long. I could just cry right now. Thank you for this video. I’ve been ridiculed my whole life over this
Growing up I always had the luck that my mom has Misophonia too and knew what it felt like but never knew there was a word for it. My dad also accepted it because he already knew it's a thing. But it just kinda makes me so f*cking happy to really understand whats going on in my brain and whats like for others. Thank you so much for this video
For me, it's the sound of crunching food (apples, chips, granola, etc.), chewing with an open mouth, someone constantly reaching into a bag of chips and rustling the bag, opening a wrapper slowly, ice clinging against a glass constantly, the sound of a spoon clinging against a mug or glass when someone is stirring his or her coffee or tea longer than usual, someone shaking a shaker cup to mix a protein shake or pre-workout drink longer than needed, scraping the bottom of a bowl or cup of yogurt to get every last bit onto a spoon...
I have been living with it for 3 years and it is so hard. Whenever my mom rubs her hands together, my dad chews loud, my friend taps her foot, or my sister whistles,etc, I feel like crying or yelling. I leave the room because I know if I say something my mom makes fun of me for it. I don't know how to deal with it, it's everything every noise hurts. My friend breaths and I feel like puking. I don't know how to cope
I get really bad misophonia and this video helps me a lot because I usually hate when my sister breathes and she tells me that how is she going to stop breathing. This video helps them actually see what I go through. When it happens I threaten them and sometimes start breaking down. This explains it all.
Seriously, just hearing that this affects other people and I'm not insane has already helped immensely. It's selfish for me to say, but it makes me feel comforted to see other people get up and leave the room when they hear chewing. My family has always thought I was just an asshole.
Great video. For someone who has Misophonia it took me a long time to actually nail down what really was wrong. My trigger sounds are eating and the sound of jandals/sandals clapping on the feet (weird I know) and I naturally thought I just hated those sounds. I could not look at my partner or anyone at the dining table when eating dinner, I would angle my body away from the sound, avoiding those visual and sound triggers of the person eating. And yes the sounds were generally worse if I knew the person well. The sounds were very minimal in terms of effects it had if it was a stranger or someone I barely knew eating around me. A specific visual trigger for example was that if I was sitting on the couch at home and someone walks up to the pantry to get something to eat, it would immediately attract my attention and I would look at the person badly or angrily. Another thing I noticed was that the pain that you get from these triggers was a lot worse if I was concentrating on something i.e. working on my laptop or watching a movie. I'm a relatively quiet/reserved person that rarely goes out and socialise and I feel this may have had a big effect on my entire character/personality/habits etc. The internal pain is very stressful and triggers involuntary emotions of anger, rage, disgust etc. I'm a much happier person now that I know what I'm dealing with. Luckily I have a supportive partner who handles it well. I just have to cope with it for now, keeping the radio on while eating is a huge help as it blocks the sound of anyone eating which is my main and primary trigger. Fixing the primary trigger halves the problem. :) Thanks Blake - New Zealand
This is the best video I have seen on the topic because the trigger sounds are not demonstrated, as they are in the other videos I have seen. I have this for sure and have been dealing with it for a very long time. So many things that I wish my family understood were presented in this video. I relate so much to all of this, that many times I knew exactly what you were going to say next. One thing I would like to know, because my dad always says I don't have this because I haven't been to a doctor, is if it still okay to say I have it without being "formally" diagnosed. I would also like to know how common misophonia is. Often it feels like I'm in this alone. How many other people are suffering in silence? And not people that like to say they have this because they are "sensitive" to one sound an have no reaction at all-they just simply don't like it. I recently won a bunch of awards in a state writing competition for a fictional story I wrote about a girl living with misophonia. Once the story started circulating, people began telling me that they definitely have it too. But many of them described it an it was nothing near the pain I feel when I hear a trigger sound. I don't know if they are experiencing it in a less painful way or if they're being dramatic. I just don't know, but it seems like the latter. Anyway, I really appreciate these videos being put out there. The more awareness there is, the more people start to realize I'm not crazy or obnoxious or dramatic, things people think of me on a daily basis. I'm in favor of an official misophonia awareness day, if anyone is with me. Thank you for working towards helping people like me.
The worst part about Misophonia is that the trigger sounds only increase in number. I'm 25, but remember about 12 years ago recognizing my first trigger sound--my mom chewing gum and popping bubbles. I knew it wasn't normal to feel internal rage and a desperate desire to avoid the noise/react in unproportional anger or by mimicking the noise in a cartoonish manner to help ease my mind. Of course, only the stopping of the trigger sound works to calm me down. The most recent trigger I've noticed that I have is when someone bites their nails and it makes a little clicking noise. I wish there were studies to show WHY we have these reactions to certain sounds. I thought I was psychotic when I was younger for this but have learned over the years I'm not alone, and thank God for that!
Holy shit thanks to Shane Dawson I now know I have another problem 🤦♀️ I get so angry when people breathe loudly. Like I have yelled at people to just stop breathing because it drives me crazy.
Wow this is very reassuring and comforting to hear... now I know that it will only get worse with time... And in 10 years, with the speed this is escalating, I will be living inside a tiny box with ear plugs and blind folds...
I did not know until recently that I had Misophonia. I have struggled with it since I was a young child and now in my 40's. I can't go to restaurants as my trigger is cutlery on plates. I cope by avoiding any situation that involves food, other than where you eat with your hands. My response is a very heavy dull pain in my head and feeling that they are all eating like animals, alongside pure anger and rage. Then i get the fight or flight feeling. I find that the more emotionally close I am to a person the more it affects me. It cost me a 15 year marriage. For years I have been told "It's all in your Head. Stop being stupid."
This is the one thing that's destroying my life right now. I hate it so damn much and I'd give anything to not get hardcore anxiety over specific noises!
My life has been absolute hell because i am both bipolar and have Misophonia. And you can't tell anyone they irritate you because they think it is funny . I lived with abuse over something i just couldn't stop. What could be the real reason behind this condition? It kind of helps to know the dolphins and whales beach themselves and die because of noise from military experiments. A strange correlation?
I first noticed this when this kid in my class at school had an autonomic issue where he kept clearing this throat at this lower frequency that I feel like nobody else could hear - but it happened like 6 times a minute, for 80 minutes a class, two classes a day, and it was a feeling of pure rage flooding through my body every time (and I couldn't leave). The guy wasn't a bad person, but that noise, wanted to just claw his throat out for it to stop. I thought I forgot it until my last housemate did it, and those same thoughts and responses instantly flooded back.
For being 8 years old this is a very good explanation of what’s been happening to me for the past 40 years. I would probably want to show this video to my family to help explain the problem though I would clarify that I absolutely never feel violent towards my family members. If I ever did feel violent towards a trigger sound it’s been wrung out of me a lot time ago. I’m like the lady that runs to her room and cries.
It is so helpful to have a vocabulary for explaining this to people. At 58, I have tried various ways of explaining it to people and always start with an acknowledgment that it's my own unique weird problem and relied on them being really, really kind, which is rare. It's a game-changer to have some back-up and clarity.
Omgoodness! This is me in a nutshell. My daughter, bless her, started a new job and her new trainer told her last week, to please be patient, she had a condition... And went on to describe Misophonia. My daughter who is 31 had watched me suffer from this her whole life and was happy to be able to text me the name of what I've been suffering from. Seriously, if people don't think people with Misophonia (noise issues or annoyances) are suffering, I'm here to let you know otherwise. Mine began as a child with my mom's gum snapping. It wasn't a pop every now and again, it was a snap every time her teeth connected. I felt like I was going to pee my 5 year old pants because I couldn't get out of the car and she refused to stop. She thought I was being picky and trying to control her at that age, so she snapped away. I felt as if I was going insane. Even thinking about it now, hurts. I can't describe the feeling. Anxious maybe. That was the beginning and it progressed over time. Chewing. Chewing with open mouth. I hardly ever eat with my family. I'll eat separately in my room. Cracking knuckles is a big no no. I like that there's a name for my disorder. I'm also hyper sensitive to noise as well, but I forget the name of that one. I can't stand loud TV's. For example, my husband I always thought he needed a hearing test, now I'm not so sure. It's probably only me. When he's watching TV it sounds like we're in a movie screening, it's so loud in my ears. But not to everyone else. When I go in my room to watch TV, if I can still hear the living room TV I get that same visceral reaction I get from Misophonia. I have my ceiling fan going, my tower fan going and my TV going. Sometimes I have earplugs in too. They hurt, so I can't always wear them. I can't stand the people in cars who blare their radios into oblivion. I'm too sensitive to live with other people. I'm grateful to know there's a name for it now. I'm 56 tomorrow, it's about time, right?
So I have had misophonia for about 8 years now (since I was a child) It started out really bad, like to the point of feeling that certain sounds would be echoing inside my head, but as the years have gone by, it's only a mild irritation for me. I don't know if this would work for anyone but what's helped for me was making those sounds myself and slowly getting used to it. And also trying to put focus on other sounds such as music
