This Guy RUINED Valentines Day! 

I’m not understanding why some people are trying to insist I want the girl in the last story to be PUNISHED… that was never said one time lol. Being worried about her insulting his disability when the mom pointed out that even she was worried the boy might not get it, and wishing the mom just talked to her about pointed insults like that, is not the same as wanting the girl to be grounded for rejecting a boy… lol no idea where you guys are getting that from 😂 The fact is we don’t know where this kid is on the spectrum. I think it’s valid to be worried about such a pointed insult when we don’t have all the info. You might not agree with me and that’s fine! I am always going to be overly cautious about insulting autistic kids because I saw such issues as a teacher. I’m allowed to not like her insult choice while also hyping her up for standing her ground and saying no to unwanted advances 😂 There are reasons and results. She had a fine reason for insulting him! I am all for not coddling men who can't take no for an answer! BUT the result was she picked an insult that is all too often geared towards individuals with autism and other disabilities, and i don't see why it would be crazy to just make her aware of that.... ALSO... I don't know why this needs to be said... if you did not specifically say in your comments that you thought I wanted the girl to be punished... then I am clearly not referring to you LOL. No, I am not misunderstanding people's desire to have me listen to your perspective, I am quite literally addressing the people who have explicitly said they do not like that I want the girl punished. Once again if that is not you... then its not you hahahahaha idk what else to say about that

Regarding the last story: I read it as the daughter calling the boy a freak because he wouldn’t leave her alone. This is coming from someone who has quite a few friends on the autism spectrum, but isn’t on the spectrum herself.

I think the biggest issue with apple #3 is how he words everything is just *gross*. Like saying emotional cheating is made up be women on twitter to be victimized and his girlfriend “overreacts” “gets too emotional” and “is too insecure and gets too jealous” Yikes. I hope that girl RUNS

25:45 autism is not relevant here, I’m autistic and struggle greatly with social cues but there’s a difference between not understanding that “maybe another time” followed by a polite smile means “no” and understanding that “no” means “no” Teaching kids consent is IMPERATIVE for them to grow up understanding and respecting others.

For story one, I definitely wouldn’t talk to the daughter as if she’s a cheater. She’s seven years old! She doesn’t even know what a real relationship is. However, I probably would talk to her about how it made her friend feel a little upset, and that maybe she should go talk to him. But I definitely wouldn’t force her to do anything or punish her.

That brother in the second story is a walking, talking red flag! The sister absolutely did the right thing!

Story 1 I might be reading too much into this, but I find it interesting that her husband thinks it's her job to teach their daughter not to "cheat." They are both her parents, so it's both their jobs. I can't help but feel like the dad is projecting insecurities on to this seven year old. "Oh my wife and daughter think cheating is ok then maybe my wife is cheating on me." Instead of his wife knowing a seven year old is too young to understand what a relationship even means, and it's very different than an adult relationship.

Third story icks - work wife, sent her flowers, kept it from his girlfriend, called his coworker “a ten”, called his girlfriend overdramatic, doesn’t “believe” in emotional cheating…. Ick ick ick ick

The 3rd story can’t be real I refuse to believe this guy can’t hear himself. “She’s a solid 10, I got her flowers for valentines, and I can’t believe nobody went for her in high school” all said about someone other than his girlfriend, gross, terrible apple.

The last story almost happened exactly to my friend. She got made out to be a bully because some mean kids tried to egg him on. I think when she's pushed that far calling him a "freak" might be warranted. He's not a freak for having autism he's a freak for not taking no for an answer. Thats predatory behavior and she was pushed to a breaking point.

“$500 bill.” Oh my gosh . How do you go to a restaurant with two people and have the total cost be $500 no judgment intended but wow that’s prettyexcessive and uncalled for. He sounds crazy. I go bad apple, all the wayyy.

My jaw dropped at the third story. That was the most delulu manipulative thing. I was thinking that no one thinks like this way like truly. Calling her a 10, work wife, and texting her good morning. Please no. And if your gf is uncomfortable with it, it is up to you to decide how much that matters to you. If you proceed, it’s giving that you don’t care about her feelings and he’s invalidating them

Story 2 Is the kind of social situations that I have nightmares about.

You nailed it on the first one! Also, it's a great opportunity to teach about clarifying wants and expectations when you BEGIN a relationship.

I didn't get a vibe of "calling him a freak because of his diagnosis" for that last story, to me it felt more "I'm angry and scared at this person blasting through my boundaries over and over, what is a word I can use to finally shock my point into his brain?" I could be wrong, but that was my impression having once been a preteen girl myself.

The 2nd story: The guy sounds very myopic. I hope no one else falls for his nonsense.

The big problem I have the fourth story is the fact that the school is cuddling this boy. They refused to do anything with the goals being harassed, but when his feelings got hurt, they had a hissy fit. When he was told no, the first time they should have taught him boundaries and to leave her alone. I blame the school for cuddling him and allowing him to continue his behavior. I also think the mother could also be coddling him from consequences of his actions. This is not gonna go well for him as he gets older. he does this as an adult the consequences could be more severe as in he could do jail time for what he is doing if he were to harass someone as an adult. Someone needs to take him aside to this behavior is absolutely unacceptable, and the consequences that come with it. I do apologize for calling him a freak however, I also think the school owes the girl apology for not stopping the situation to begin with. perspective I am on the spectrum and I am glad I have people in my life that taught me boundaries. And what was appropriate was not appropriate in relationships.

For apple #3, a red flag I noticed right away is how he called the coworker a solid 10, and seemed to say really nice things about her while doing nothing but criticizing his own girlfriend. Seemed a bit fishy to me, idk. I also find it really cringey and weird to call someone else your work wife/husband while you’re already in a relationship with someone else.

Apple 4- Hi we’re on the spectrum! To us we heard “freak” as using it in terms of him keeping to harass her and not taking no. I don’t think autism had anything to do with it. Also- it sounds like she HAS let him down very gently before. I don’t think any part of this was wrong. She’s a young girl under a lot of pressure and harassment, and this guy was using typical “nice guy” and incel quotes from Reddit.

That fact that he was trying to get the flowers to come in when his girlfriend wasn't home means he knew he was wrong

Personally I don’t see an issue with calling the kid a freak, she’s tried everything else to get him to leave her alone. She probably could have used a better word but I really don’t think that’s the issue here. She told him point blank “I don’t want to date you” and he didn’t listen. It’s not necessarily even related to his neurodivergence.

My brother is autistic, and eh likes to run to the bus stop on school days. The other day I happened to walk in the same direction as my brother, only to see him booking it in his steel toe caped boots down the road... RIGHT BEHIND A FEAMLE JOGGER!!!! I had to call him back. He shouted at me because he thought I thought that he was going to run headfirst into the jogger when he was going to run around her. I had to explain that it can be very scary to hear heavy am footsteps hurtling towards you when your back is turned. It had never occurred to him and he is 21. He now looks out for women when he runs to the bus stop. The girl used the word freak became he was being a freak in not leaving her alone, she isn't socially aware enough to think of autistic people as freaks, but will use her limited vocabulary to call out inappropriate behaviour. If you would say it to a neurotypical child for the same behaviour, then there is nothing wrong with it. If he is socially aware enough to think that she just needs to get to know him, then he is socially aware enough to understand that she has said no, he might not understand why, but he isn't asking why, he is assuming the why.

15:39 you putting it out there that your brother is single if anyone is interested is pure gold, i laughed

Story 2. Sounds like he's behaving like what he accuses her of being. That's incredibly sad. So sorry for her. And kinda sorry for him for being that blind the holes in his picture of it all

Story 4. For me, the question is what is going to cause the most harm in the long run. Yes, his feelings are hurt. Yes, he is going to lose some self-esteem. But that is a lot less harmful than him growing up, thinking that it is ok to harass women.

Story number 3, for me, the big red flag was not that he did it in the first place, but that he felt that he needed to sneak around behind his girlfriend's back to do it. I don't want to speculate on the emotional boundaries of the relationship, whether or not he's a dirtbag, whether or not she actually is emotional, etc. (and I'm not even touching the landmine that is that whole phrasing about "Twitter buzzwords") but at the end of the day, he decided that his relationship with this woman needed to be kept secret from his significant other. And that makes him a bad apple in my book

Number one, I think that’s a good opportunity to open the door about talking about other peoples feelings. Wouldn’t take it too seriously, but a good way to start that conversation.

Story 4.... I think when she called him a freak she was referring to the fact that he could not take no for an answer, not anything to do with his autism. I've experienced something like this myself, and my thoughts and words had nothing to do with the person's disability, it was completely about their inability to accept no.

Story 1: Oh my god, she's seven. Good apple for OP. I think you should absolutely talk about feelings and hurt feelings, but no punishment is needed. They're seven. That's not cheating.

I agree with your apples. Also this week we have Chinese/Lunar New Year, Lent, and Valentine's day! wooo

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So with story #3, I’m somebody who wouldn’t at all be bothered by the whole work husband/wife/spouse thing. Honestly I also wouldn’t mind if a partner of mine sent flowers to a friend. But even having totally different personal boundaries, this guy is in the wrong. For me it’s the fact that he CHOSE to not communicate. If he’d just asked his gf if she was comfortable with this, or even explained what he was planning BEFORE doing it, I would be way more sympathetic but he is actively choosing to not communicate and to hide things from his partner. The way he talk about her being emotional, overreacting, etc is also really gross. This guy is definitely a walking red flag, and imo just the fact that he went behind his gf’s back to do this and intentionally hid it from her makes him the bad apple even if the gf had different boundaries.

Your take one the 3rd story was a masterpiece of clarity. I was trying to think of how that might have been acceptable. Thanks for setting me straight!

Story #3, the moment he lost me is when he admitted that he knew it would upset his girlfriend and went behind her back. If he had gotten ahead of it and talked to his girlfriend, she may have been okay with it. If she wasn't then he would have had to respect her wishes. He doesn't respect his girlfriends opinion, he intentionally went behind her back. That's the cheating!

In the fourth story, the girl showed the boy incredible patience. She was going to snap at some point, and few people can contain themselves after that happens. Were her choice of words appropriate? No. Do I understand why she chose those specific words? Absolutely.

Hi I’m on the spectrum! So, from my understanding, this boy is in a regular classroom and is clearly able to speak. That leads me to believe he is a level 1 or 2 on the spectrum. I totally understand being hesitant because you’re not sure if just genuinely doesn’t understand, but imo if he is in a regular classroom and is most likely a level 2 or 1, he should have the cognitive ability to understand the word “no”. In which case, I do not see an issue with calling him a freak because he’s acting like one of those “nice guys” who thinks he’s entitled to her.

I love listening to your videos while at the gym. Tuesdays and Thursdays are my favorite days of the week 😊 As for the last story, I think she just said the first word that came to her mind. When you're upset you don't think sometimes about the words you're saying. And she's 12, but I do think the mom should have a talk about words you use in standing up for yourself.

I honestly think in the first story the father is pushing his insecurity of being cheated on onto his little girl and that's disgusting it's the deranged to think that you would ever do that to a child

I mean if you wanna see if someone’s out for your money is just don’t flaunt your wealth in the early stages. Go on budget dates, dress modestly etc.

For the first two stories, I agree with you 100% I have a 7-year-old and I would never imagine taking any relationship she could be in seriously even middle school, and a lot of high school relationships I don't take too seriously. Story #3, I was originally thinking good apple, but you convinced me of bad apple. My first thought was it was meant as a nice thing to a friend and still has romantic plans for her, but the more I listened I saw where he was wrong. You can't undermine your partner's feelings and you have to respect them and the whole workwife workhusband thing is ridiculous. You also convinced me on the last one, would have originally gone good apple, but with the freak comment you are right about that. My 6 six year old is nonverbal autustic and if anyone called him a freak. I would be hurt and I would be scared that it would hurt my son's feelings too. He is one of the most loving and happy kids I know and I know for him he wouldn't understand the situation.

I feel really bad for the girl in story 4. I feel like she can’t win, she’s been harassed for years and when she finally snapped it’s you can’t do that because he’s “different”. You can be autistic and still be a freak, they’re not mutually exclusive.

Story 4: I didn’t take the word “freak” as an insult to his disability BUT I can understand your reasoning as well. We really don’t know the context of her calling him a freak either. For me, I would call it a crab apple as well. And I would talk to my daughter about not insulting someone but still being firm when saying no. Like, yelling is fine, name calling not so much. And like you I would like the additional context before changing from crap to good apple

Story 3 - as soon as he said “she’s a straight 10” I was like nope and it kept going down from there lol

I love this series! Its always so fun to watch it after a long day.

For one: work spouses are not okay!! For two: IF YOU HAVE TO HIDE SOMETHING FROM YOUR PARTNER YOU IMMEDIATELY ARE IN THE WRONG

It makes me smile how you find a way to love on Avery in every video 😂

I'm on the autism spectrum and I'm 15, and I want to say about the last story that she is absolutely right. I absolutely suck at social cues, and only 6 months ago, I acted exactly like the kid in the last story. I've changed alot since then and I can't even expressed how ashamed I am that I acted remotely like that. I didn't understand boundaries at all, but bad things happened and I got the memo. I'm so sorry that that girl had to go through that crap, it's absolutely disgusting. Good apple.

#4 I agree with you about crabapple. I think the boy needs to apologize for not taking No for an answer. But the girl needs to apologize for her choice of insult for him. The boy needs to be taught that No is an acceptable response to his question. As you said, No means No (as a date-rape victim, it makes my skin crawl when men don't listen and respect women's voice). It's quite possible that the girl didn't mean to bully the boy. But she needs to learn that words matter. Don't say something to verbally attack someone with an insult in general. I know she was speaking in anger but that's something she needs to learn not to do.

Here's another story of those crazy unicorn couples who met really early. They met when he was 11 and she was 9. Married the day after her 18th birthday, had 2 kids, and they celebrated their 50th Anniversary last July. Still happy, still each other's best friend. We should all be so lucky to find "The One" and be as happy as they are, whether we meet them in elementary school, college or later in life. ❤

Yeahhh I forgot it was Tuesday 😂

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My jaw dropped on number 3 lmaooooooooooooo no way were those words said with so much conviction from him!

The boy in the last story is FULLY aware that shes been telling him no the whole time. "You only need to get to know me!" Says it all.

In regards to story #4, I went through something very very similar. I had an autistic guy who wanted to go out with me in high school. I told him no and he just was not understanding that. It got to the point where he started to stalk me. He found my phone number, he found out what classes I was taking the following year so that he could take the same classes, waiting for me outside of my classes, threatening to unalive himself if I didn’t go out with him, and (same thing as the girl) the school and his parents did nothing. His parents just suggested that I block him (I already did that). We ended up going to community college together and there was a day where he was waiting for me outside of the building where my class was, and preceded to run after me while I was walking to my class. Now, I completely agree with what you said that calling him a “freak” was not the best choice, but I think she may have been frustrated with the fact that nobody was doing anything and he was just allowed to pursue her. And of course, she may not have gone through the same thing I did (we don’t know from the story) but it is possible.

First story: I would absolutely talk to the child about hurting the child’s feelings but never would I “punish” her. That’s just strange

#3) Jealousy isn’t part of my relationship & never has been. The things I get stuck on is him not telling gf that he was doing flowers for the coworker & then saying emotional cheating isn’t a thing. He needs to stop lying to the gf & take a closer look at the “buzz words” he’s speaking of. #4) The daughter who’s being love-bombed and insulted him I don’t think needs to be punished as the school and mother want, but sure, she can apologize for the insult - “I shouldn’t have called you names, and I’m sorry for that. I need you to really understand that I have no interest in being anyone’s girlfriend. Period.”

The second girl needs to stay away from her ex, he is controlling. After the first test, she should have dumped him. Knowing she lived on a lower income and ringing up the high cost is insulting and demanding. Especially, when he didn't get her any thing is very self centered.

I love watching this channel grow because I’ve been watching for a while and Rebecca is so amazing. ❤

I 100% agreed with all of these points and had the exact same points in mind to bring up as each response was given. The last 1 I also would have asked the mom exclusively to discuss the use of the word 'freak', but feel thats the only reason to go crab, the rest was amazing parenting. May everyone have a safe and enjoyable week .

You're not a parent, but you've been a teacher for years, last I checked. Based on that, your opinion is just as valid as any parent or adult who specializes in child-care or learning.

I love how so many of these stories end up taking complete 180s Like of course the title “Am I the Bad Apple for not punishing my daughter for cheating?” Is an immediate bad or at least crab apple Then we find out they’re literally seven years old

As for story #3, he isn’t the bad apple for getting his friend white flowers for valentines. HOWEVER he is 100% the bad apple for literally everything else he does

“She never got Valentine’s Day Grams.” When I was in school every year in my classpass pass out Valentine’s Day cramps and it was so much fun. They had so many different types of grams at Meijdrs and it was something to look forward to. That’s sad that she never had that though.

To be honest, I'm most disappointed in the school for story #4. I peer tutored for a spec ed kid in junior high and one of the things the supervisor/teacher brought up in orientation is that it's very common for the spec ed boys to have crushes on their female tutors, or they'll make comments about how pretty their tutors are. They told me that if the boy I was helping ever said anything like that, I could respectfully take care of it myself and shut it down (which i did, and it was never an issue again) or I could bring it to them and they would make sure it was taken care of and that he understood it wasn't okay to talk to me like that. Given that this has been enough of an issue to report to the school, they should ABSOLUTELY have made it clear to him that this behavior is unacceptable. One thing Ive noticed is that spec ed programs often place a heavy emphasis on SEL and if he is in one of these programs, his education is being done a disservice as they clearly have not made sure he understands this lesson. If he's not in one of these programs, I find it highly likely that he can understand social cues enough to get that his affections are unwanted and he needs to move on or at least leave her alone. I think that given her age, the frustration may have overwhelmed her so much the the mental inhibition, that would stop her from using a word that is often pointed and choosing a different one, may just not have been there. It doesn't seem pointed to me, just like a young girl who got fed up and isn't emotionally mature enough to retain that awareness yet. Still an important discussion to have, but it's something that will probably come with time.

Happy apple picking day everyone😁🎉

Thing is freak can also be used for someone who is creepy and continually not taking an answer and still trying for something

Omg finally!!!! Yayy!!!

When you said the first post, I thought the kid must have cheated on a test😂

Also they are mad she called him a freak, but no one is mad that this young man has continue to harass her. It was not the first time he asked her out. He had been doing it for a while.

For story 3 me personally I don’t have a problem with sending your friends flowers on Valentine’s Day as like a cute friendship gesture and that would go both ways. But this guy went about everything completely wrong he hid it from his girlfriend it was sent to a work bestie not one of his closest friends that he would hang out with outside of work as it sounds like they see each other at work and send the occasional good morning text. But just the way he talks about his girlfriend compared to his “work wife” which is a whole other thing just sounds like he doesn’t like his girlfriend and he likes his co worker. However although I wouldnt see a problem with the flowers his girlfriend clearly has a problem with it and if she doesn’t like that then he just shouldn’t do it end of no questions asked. Just a rotten apple from the way he talks about his GIRLFRIEND compared to his co worker is just absolutely revolting and I can’t understand why he is still with her if this is how he feels and sees his girlfriend. Ps I’m not an expert in relationships I’ve only been in one in my entire life so I might have a different mindset if I had more experience but this is how I feel at the moment.

For story 2 she is a good apple. She save that woman from a toxic relationship. People need stop mistreating there spouses. If you don't trust your partner than don't get with them. I hope her brother treats his next girlfriend with the respect she deserves.

Okay... I think I disagree with you on the idea that the 12 year old girl should be punished for the manner in which she refused the boy after he continually refused to take no for an answer. Here's the thing. Saying a gentle "No thank you." Is appropriate once or twice. After the third or fourth time, however, I understand the frustration and the annoyance that the young girl felt. I doubt her use of "freak" was meant to address the young man's autism, it was more likely a bubbling up of her frustration in the moment. I would not punish her at all. I would explain to her that the word she used could be extra hurtful to someone on the spectrum, and that ir might be nice if she apologized for using it. But that she was within her rights to say no and that I support her in that. I would also try to be there for the apology and insist that his mother be there too, so that a conversation about no longer asking the girl out was had with the boy and the adults. I might even, bring the school in on it, and insist that they school take appropriate action so as to prevent the necessity for girls to defend themselves so vociferously.

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Treating a child like a cheater would scar that child. There is a difference between a child a Valentine's crush at 7 vs a child of 14. I would explain to her that Lucas was hurt and why but don't make her feel guilty or punish her.

Story 3 dude is such a jerk. Buy flowers dont buy flowers not the point. The fact that he tried to do it behind his gfs back and got caught, then got mad when she was upset is a major red flag. I hope she leaves him she deserves better.

Story number two, I leaked out of my chair and enjoy whenever Rebecca said what money. Because yeah, you can’t accuse them of being a gold digger, when you’re not giving any gold. You’re not doing anything for her. What money? You’re not spending anything on her

OMG, that second story is crazy. I get that the brother might need to be cautious but he took it too far and is a walking 🚩! OP is totally the good apple

3rd apple story!! When i used to work in office my coworkers was saying i had my real bf and my work bf and i had to stop the jokes since my bf work in the same place! And it was with my then bestfriend.... my bf found out and got angry that ppl didnt respect our relationship and me too! So HE is the ROTTEN bad apple!

You know, that's a great point about boundaries. My boundary that I've had for about ten years is I don't allow someone to tell me to shut up. Interesting that my most recent post, wherein I got in trouble for oversharing, someone writes STFU. Literally anything else I would have allowed, but that made me delete it. And I feel like a baby for doing that.

Man..I feel like it's gonna be hard as a teacher noticing a student is being played and not being able to say anything about it..

Rebecca oh my god, every week in these episodes I'm getting more frustrated with your opinions. SHE IS CLEARLY NOT CALLING HIM A FREAK BECAUSE HE IS AUSITIC. SHE IS CALLING HIM A FREAK FOR BEING A PERSSISTANT CREEP. (And I am Autistic)

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Story #4 is literally happening to me right now at school. A boy at school keeps asking me out and harassing me and I’ve told him to stop and I’ve reported him to the school and they did nothing. Today i found out he’s been taking pictures of me while im on the bus and I’ve been really paranoid since. We used to be friends but I told him we weren’t friends anymore this summer because he crossed one of my boundaries and he wasn’t a good friend anyway because he physically and emotionally hurt me almost everyday. I dont know what to do since Valentine’s Day is tomorrow and in 2 weeks we have a dance at our school, any advice is very much appreciated.

Yellow flowers are for friendship 💛 not white

Story 2 - your partner can’t be a gold digger if there is no gold

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on the last one, i feel like she was frustrated and blew up and said things. I vote good apple. We all say things in moments of frustrations and anger. She is in middle school and probably wasn't thinking about the particular words she was using.

Story #3, that guy is definitely the bad apple. I wanted to say that it might be innocent, but the bad kept building up. The good morning texts, calling her a 10/10, saying she is your work wife. It’s giving that he wants her and the only reason they are friends is that the girl isn’t interested in him.

While I was in the military, I developed wonderful work relationships with both men & women. I NEVER referred to a male colleague as “husband” of any kind. In my last job, I had a male coworker I became REALLY good work-friends with. I called him my “work brother” 😂😂😂 Cant say I ever bought him gifts (Christmas, Valentine’s Day, etc) but I WOULD make sure to check if he wanted a po-boy, if I was doing a lunch po-boy run. 🤪🤪🤪

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My wife's only rule when it comes to gifts is that Christmas gifts have to be under 100$, and other gifts should be 50 or under, and if im over, she always remains. Me that I didn't marry you for the money your love is all I need

As the mom of an autistic kid, I’m 💯 with you on this one. I think her calling him a freak was said in a moment of frustration bleeding through. It was inappropriate but it was an emotional reaction in a young lady who is already in an emotionally fragile place. If she told the boy, “I’m sorry for calling you a freak. That was mean and uncalled for. But I’m not sorry for telling you no. If I ever want to have a romantic relationship, that’s MY business. I told you no, and have repeatedly told you no. Please respect my boundaries.” You know? As much as it’s important for neurotypical people to find it in their hearts to be aware and accepting, it’s up to the parents and caregivers of neurodivergent people to give them examples and guidance with respecting boundaries.

So for the last story I think she could’ve meant the insult “freak” as the fact that he was being creepy / freaky bc he was being so persistent so I personally would go good apple

Story 4: so true! Almost every guy I’ve dated didn’t take no as an answer and kept asking till I said yes. Heck some guys wouldn’t let me end things with them until I gave it a few tries. I wish someone taught me how to have boundaries. But I agree. She has the right to say no but not to make fun of someone’s disability. Additionally story 3 was close to home. And I agreed he’s a bad Apple.

I've seen a creepy boys parents use the "but, he's autistic" at me and I'm autistic, too. I met him in an autism class in high school, they taught us how to read facial expressions and stuff. Then it's "but, you're not a boy, so, it's different". You can't win with those people.

As the guy in the last story was explaining his friendship and how he bonded with the coworker I thought he was talking about his gf 👁👄👁

There should be an undecided apple for stories like the last one. Maybe a grey apple with a question mark in the middle?

The one about emotional cheating. This kind of platonic relationship is how affairs usually start. I would have thought that it was an innocent mistake until he said that before he even sent the flowers he was planning on hiding them from his girlfriend. He knew it was wrong and would hurt his girlfriend or he wouldn't need to hide them. Then when she was upset he doesn't even care and doesn't even consider her feelings, he immediately dismisses her. Huge red flag

You covered a lot of what I was thinking with story 3 about boundaries, but I definitely see some other red flags as well. Like... the concept of a "work spouse" is so weird to me. Like...I get that some couples are totally fine with it, so do you, I guess...my husband and I have an open marriage so he has a girlfriend and that's OK with me. But most marriages aren't "open" and how are you gonna call someone your "work wife" or "work husband" and not expect it to bother your actual spouse? Again... that's just me. If you have a work spouse and your real spouse knows and is cool with it, do you. But if you're spouse doesn't know about your "work spouse" or they do know and aren't okay with it... then just don't go down that road. Anyway, that got rambly, so I'm gonna move on to my next point, which is the way he talks about his wife. How he didn't tell her because she's so "insecure" and "emotional." Those words are big red flags to me because they're some of THE most common words that some men use to gaslight women into accepting poor behavior. "Why can't you take a joke?" "You're so emotional." "Why are you so insecure?" It takes his bad behavior and puts the blame on her. This is the language that someone who doesn't respect women (or at least not this particular woman) uses. Now, assuming for the sake of argument that his relationship with his "work wife" is actually strictly platonic and he's just sending her flowers to cheer her up, but he did this KNOWING it would hurt his wife because he knows she's insecure. Now...if he knows that about her, he could either A-Not do the thing that he knows will hurt her, or B-Communicate with her beforehand and tell the wife what he intends to do and why, and if she's not cool with it, see option A: Don't do it. O.P. #3 knows he's the bad apple or he would not have felt the need to hide it.