Thank you for making this video because you are not alone! I had my first baby back in October and motherhood has been the most rewarding and hardest thing I’ve ever done in my life. I’m currently relactating at 5 months after going through an inconsistent pumping schedule due to postpartum complications. It is not easy and every day I want to quit, but I remember who I’m doing it for!! You’re doing great and remember motherhood doesn’t have a manual so give yourself grace! ❤❤❤
Oh, sweetheart!!!! Definitely talk to your doctor. You are not alone but as a mom with severe adhd and anxiety as well as depression and had postpartum depression with all 5, I know that feeling is so empty. A proper latch will never hurt. I had the latch rejection disorder with my first bc no one helped me and I was in pain and I was scared I might actually throw her when I nursed. We made it to 3mo before I broke down and supplemented and made it to 6mo. But it really did get so much easier but! With my 4 boys, I had help getting them to latch as soon after birth as humanly possible and continued to get help and I will say it was still really hard the first few weeks , especially having all preemies, it became so easy I didn’t have to help them and I was able to nurse them in my labor lying down and still have my hands to use! 🤣 I’m really proud of you for seeing a lactation counselor!!!! Don’t hesitate to find an IBCLC. They basically have a masters degree in breastfeeding. WIC always has one! Keep doing what works for you. I just want you to remember that him even getting one feeding at the breast gives you both so many lifelong benefits! It sounds like your counselor is my kind of gal!!! And you just got 3oz??? Yay!!!!!!!!
Congratulations! I’ve been so busy opening a nursery that I haven’t seen a video in over a year! I’m so proud of you, mama!!!!! So proud of you!!!!!! The longer baby is on the boobie the more sleep you get! Mom of 5, birth doula and lactation counselor of 17 years
I wanna say that I'm all for the postpartum content. I started following you with plants as I love plants too. I got pregnant unexpectedly (thought I was done) & now have a 6 month old baby girl & it's been a journey. I lost so many of my plants this postpartum cuz they took the back seat to caring for my 2 kids. Anyways, my postpartum hasn't been easy either so thank you for being so raw & real. Btw I've always been a silent follower so I just wanted to let you know I'm here & I'm here for the mom life vlogs!!!
It's an adjustment for sure. I love being a mom and I love my two boys but once you have your first baby you really find out who your real friends are. I've never felt more lost and alone after having my first . It's such an odd feeling because I love my boys and my husband is amazing but the loneliness and the missing of your social life is real. Some days I only talk to toddlers I feel (besides my husband when he gets home from work) . I've gotten more use to it now that my oldest is 3 but I still get sad sometimes that I feel I have no friends or no where to go to just have a coffee and bullshit woth another human as my bestfriend lives 12 hrs from me. You're doing great mama. Your hubby loves you and your little boy loves you 💙
I acknowledge both your struggles and your great fullness. This is something I look forward to. The clips with Chris specifically give me hope that there are men out there that will cherish a baby I make with them. So much fear in the unknown. It’s so beautiful to see this all play out from you thinking you wouldn’t be having any kids to this little handsome bean coming around! So happy for you and sending strength and patience to your little family
Oh, my goodness! Yes! There really are real fathers out there. More than you’d think! Don’t put this stress on yourself. 🤗 Stick to your morals and when you find the person who respects them and shares them and loves you back? Bingo!
Oh Ashley thank you so much for sharing this video with us. I am a Grandmother of two. My daughter had her children 13 months apart. I am happy you guys have had help cause life with a newborn isn’t always easy and very stressful at times. Days without sleep definitely is NO fun. Your son is adorable. Enjoy!😅
Oh Ashley, your baby is honestly the most adorable, gorgeous cutest baby ever. Seriously though ❤ Please don't listen to other people. Listen to your own intuition and your baby My mother told me to nap while baby sleeps. I found that very helpful and don't feel guilty. They are only little for a very tiny time
This is great info. We are still trying to get pregnant but I know already I will have a hard time PP. Watching these vlogs helps me feel better about the tough times ahead so I know how to handle things. Please keep us updated !!
I’m having a baby boy next week. Kai is so adorable 😭 I also have pcos and I’ve heard that can cause issues with supply. I’m hoping that metformin will help 🤞🏽
Right now I am pregnant. I am almost 8 weeks tomorrow. I will be eight weeks with my rainbow baby. I am so excited. I can’t wait to get through this and get to hold my baby in through the whole pregnancy and all that I’m so happy for you I’m here for you if you need anything.
Oh sweet girl I am crying for you.. I am so sorry you are feeling so alone. Breast feeding can be very difficult. I know. It was difficult with my first son. May each day get a little bit brighter. Kai is so precious and you and Chris are doing incredible. 🎈🎈🎈🎈🎈👍
My little girl just turned 5months. I feel your struggles with breastfeeding. I know how stressful it is. I always thought I wasn’t producing enough, I’d get 2-3oz from one side & thought that wasn’t enough. But she’s healthy & gaining weight! Even though it doesn’t seem like a lot your milk is constantly changing its nutrients to give baby what they need. As long as he’s full & gaining weight! You got this mama! 💚
I'm all for the lifestyle, postpartum vlog content. My baby girl is 3 1/2 and I miss those sweet newborn days with the sleepy snuggling and the curled up legs, and rolling over for thefirst time. I hope to have another soon if circumstances allow. But I also want to say don't feel pressured to stick to any deadlines with RU-vid. I know for me I was so incredibly exhausted it was near impossible for me to do anything aside from caring for the baby. Don't feel guilty if you can't do daily vlogs, just do what works for you and have fun with it!
Oh Ashley, I am here for your postpartum daily vlogs. Postpartum was so hard on me and even now two years later I am still recovering from having kids. Anyways.... you rock, it's so damm hard
You’re not alone! My baby is 8 months now! I went through ppd and anxiety and the ups and downs of breastfeeding! I kept going to therapy and reluctantly started Zoloft and I feel like myself again!! I did all the same things to increase my supply. The most effective thing I did was pumping every 2 hours (while I was awake. I did not wake up in the night anymore than my baby did) and that worked wonders! You got this mama! He’s adorable btw!
omg this is exactly the content I was hoping to see you make! I am in the throws of baby fever and I cant start trying until I am in a more stable living situation, so I am just channeling that energy into pregnancy/motherhood content. I have IBS and I am a similar age to you and we have similar social/political views so I really trust/identify with your story more than random people on the internet and its so nice to feel like im chatting with a friend (that might be the most parasocial comment ive ever written 😂)
Congratulations! One thing I wish someone told me early one was to keep good posture during breastfeeding and holding your baby! Make sure you tuck your pelvis under because we have been used to having a posterior tilt from the belly! It will save you lots of pain and chiropractor and physical therapy visits!
My doctor put me on a medication called Reglan and green tea pills to increase my milk. I had bad post partum with my first. You are not alone. My cousin had her baby 2 months before i did and she was doing great. Breastfeeding is an art. It hurts and i struggled. I finally got it and I cried when i quit. Try not to be so hard on yourself. It is hard. I am glad Chris is helping.
You're doing great! My third child was 10.6 at birth! I decided that I would nurse him, and not give up after 4-6 weeks like I did my other children before him. I actually ended up putting him on my breast every hour. This I found to be "key" in me producing more than a sufficient amount of milk. I also took Fenugreek, it's a vitamin that supposedly helps with milk production. Give it a try! I had so much milk that I could be taking a walk outside, and both my breasts would leak so much so, that my shirt would be soaked from the nipples to halfway down my shirt! Try the Fenugreek, and put him on your breast hourly. If it is still doesn't help, don't stress out, the formula works! My mom raised 5 of us on formula! Good luck to you, and God bless you and your beautiful baby boy! 💙💙💙
Also, if you are wanting to increase your supply I highly highly recommended power pumping or cluster pumping. GAME changer. And make sure you’re sized correctly for your shields. And another thing make sure to watch out for fennel. In some it reduces your supply. And my IBS was hard core postpartum. I went on a low to medium fodmap diet and it changed my life. Supplementing with Brewers yeast is amazing for increasing supply too
Hi, I had my gall bladder removed in my 20's which gave me dumping syndrome also called IBS where you body dumps on high fat foods so like Milk, cheese, sour cream, ice cream, mayo, salad dressings, any kinda fast food really. So it was a real struggle getting sick after anything I really ate and trying to work and so forth. I saw my Doctor about it and he gave me a script for Questran powder also known as Cholestyramine Light Powder which you have to take in small dose cause it can cause constipation if taken too much. It's a powder you stir into water and it prevents you from getting sick after eating. I don't take it every day but like if I'm going out somewhere or working or going to a event or something and I wanna avoid having to run to find a bathroom --- especially if you have a little one to care for and you are out on your own. I can eat the night before and get up and have a bottle of water and can get sick from what I ate from last night. Like I said take it in small amount of the scoop to figure out what is best for you but it's a life saver not getting sick every day.
