Gotta be honest it really sounds like the boyfriend drugged her. He didn't call an ambulance that didn't come, give me a break. The forty dollar complaint sounds like a way to guilt trip, gaslight and make the lie convincing--honestly I'm not convinced he got a cab at all. Something very fishy there.
My kid in 1st grade said a racist thing. We took away her birthday, including gifts. We bought needed items for a womens shelter, learned about Black hair and bought the Black haircare products that were on top of the requested list for the shelter. I love the approach of the commenter on the last story
the quince story is nuts, they should’ve spoken to the daughter bc yeah she “lol’d and agreed” to her mother but how do we know that isn’t just what she says to get her mom to shut up and drop it?? like how when i’m talking to my dad and i know he’s being a boomer but i “agree” so the convo can be done.
It's pretty unforgivable that the father didn't even talk to his daughter, let alone skipped her birthday and uninvited half her family. The mom sucks but the kid is 15. 14 at the time of the texts. How can he ever justify blowing her off like that? OP isn't the AH but she's going to regret her decision I think.
I think all the adults are ta because once the mom started talking shit it kinda sounded like OP didn’t continue to put her feelings aside for the daughter and pulled out kind of out of spite Plus, the tone for the messages could’ve easily been misread as the daughter being like “aha… uh.. yeah” instead of just agreeing with them They should’ve talked to the mom abt it instead of just pulling out like that, the poor daughter got caught in the crossfire
Story #3: That's not OP's roommate, that's his TENANT, hence the lease agreement between the two of them. OP's friends are idiots, because ALL renters are paying their landlord's mortgage--That's why property owners *become* landlords. OP should *not* renew the guy's lease.
I’m probably gonna give an unpopular opinion BUT: with the the last AITA-- I don’t think the parents are wrong. I disagree with you guys. In life, there isn’t always a “redemption path” sometimes you just HAVE to eat it. And deal with it. You have to go through the fact that there is nothing you can do about it. She bullied someone to the point that they had to leave school. That means this was happening for MONTHS. And this personals mental health and safety was at risk. I don’t think she should be allowed to go to homecoming or prom. And she should be steered in the direction of community service and education because if she sees that “oh yeah I did something bad but I can get out of it and not deal with it by doing _____” she’ll never learn. She’ll always think there is a loophole in life and there isn’t one. Sometimes, there’s only consequences. Deleting social media was a bit of a stretch. But prom and homecoming. Yea I agree
I guess the only risk there is that without the redemption path, bitterness and resentment will grow which might feed into her mentality. Resentment over "woke" parents "cancelling" her and perceiving that this girl ruined her life driving her into right wing racist circles.
I don't disagree with you but why is social media too far but prom and hoco isn't? Social Media is always going to be there, it's nothing. Prom and homecoming are once in a lifetime (small ones and not that important but yes once in a life time). What pictures on social media could she possibly have that are so important she just CAN'T delete them? I agree tho, she shouldn't be allowed at those events, who would even want her there anyways?
@@enough2715 because in the video she said there are pictures on there that she can’t get back because she hasn’t stored them anywhere. Them saying they didn’t care about it was too far 🙃🙃🙃
@@lllamalamoa5072 she’s already there. There’s no driving her anywhere. Because there was a racial element to the bullying. That’s the problem that people are missing. If she’s already doing that and didnt care imagine what would’ve happened if her parents never found out
This is exactly my thoughts on it she would just pretend to learn her lesson to get what she wants and in the end she got no lasting consequences and the poor girl who got bullied is the only one suffering for doing nothing wrong
Ahh, I'd really love for Sam to realize that abuse isn't just physical, and to have a little more tact when discussing it. He tends to say things like "as long as they're not beating them..." which 1. can be jarring for those of us who have been through physical abuse (I have actually been branded by my former abuser and didn't expect to be reminded of that on a generally lighthearted podcast) and 2. really makes it sound like he only thinks abuse is legitimate if it causes physical harm. Emotional abuse is *incredibly* traumatic, and pretty much all physical abuse starts as emotional abuse. You really shouldn't assume that as long as a parent/partner isn't doing the most extreme physical thing you can imagine, that they're not doing serious harm. It's okay to be uneducated about abuse, but if you're going to talk about it, please at least acknowledge that you don't understand it.
Yo, that dude totally drugged her. That’s crazy! That’s wild!! It was either him or his friends. I think the only reason she ended up getting out of there was because other people at the bar were concerned. Scary to think what could have happened. Nope!
To the mortgage one, OP can tell him “if you have a problem with it, you can find a new place” because OP is right. He is getting an affordable place, with full utilities. He isn’t paying for utilities according to the story, OP is. So of course the room mate will pay most of the mortgage- and it’s cheaper than most places you get for rent. So they’re pretty much mad for no reason.
If the rent he's paying is less than what he'd pay somewhere else for a comparable space, then it doesn't matter if it's the WHOLE mortgage payment, all the utilities, *and* OP's car note--he's getting a deal. So, what, if OP's house were paid for, would that mean he couldn't charge rent at all? Gimme a break.
1st story ESH- the step mom should have been the adult and moved past it for the girls quinceanera but the mom also shouldn’t have been talking smack. Also the dad should have sided with his daughter. I believe as a parent your child is above all else and you need to do what’s best for them. Honestly even if the girl said lol I feel she’s blameless in this situation. She’s 15 navigating what’s clearly a difficult situation where both parents are not being cooperative. I’ve been there and honestly from my experience she might have just been brushing off moms comments by agreeing so she wouldn’t have to talk about it anymore. It’s unfortunate such a big milestone in her life was ruined because not a single adult could be cooperative. They just needed to shut up and attend, all of them, yet not a single one of them could do that
The stepmom likely would've gotten harassed by the biomom and her family, if y'all are really so invested in the "nuance" then you should've caught onto that considering it's a nobrainer, i mean the only things we hear about the biomom doing is talk crap about the stepmom. I honestly can't blame the stepmom for not going and she even told the dad that he could still go and stuff, im not saying stepmom is an angel but what else was she supposed to do? take the same flack from biomom and her fam right there in the middle of the party? c'mon
I'm surprised no one is talking about the privacy violation of reading her texts between her and her mom. They gave a vague reason that they read them, but unless they thought her safety was in question (which I think would've been mentioned, if they thought her mom was an unsafe person), that's unacceptable.
Aaaah i was looking for a comment like this, all the adults acted like children and I felt so bad that the daughter took the fall for it As a child w separated parents who didn’t get along, I also felt uncomfortable with them bickering/ranting to me and I just went Ahaha yeah ig because I didn’t know what else to say
Hi all, thanks for the feedback about the episode. It was a one time thing with the accents but just wanted to post in in case some people would like it. We'll see you Tuesday with a normal video!❤
The rental story: The amount should be area market value and then plus or minus based on condition and what the person wants. If the person wants to go under area market, then consider yourself lucky and be happy. His mortgage amount isn't relevant....
The parents are NTA. I like the idea of introducing a "redemption" system to educate their kid. That is important, but I also agree that dangling the promo carrot might not allow the kid to really absorb the lesson. But, that would depend on the kid. As parents, they would know if that will and won't work for their child in this case.
1st story I feel like a lot of problem do this in toxic families, they take it out on the children because it’s much easier to “confront” them apposed to confronting the adult.
The landlord story: You are not entitled to someone’s space for little to no money just because they already own it. That’s not how life works. He wanted to rent out HIS space in HIS environment. That is not their home, they didn’t buy it/put a down payment on it. And they will not maintain the property. Am I on crack? This is ridiculous.
Idk. The story about the drugged girl is suspicious. How did she get drugged in the first place if she was with her boyfriend? Also, why would he leave a taxi if she was really passed out and he was originally planning on taking her to the hospital? Why not try another taxi? Also, what nighttime taxi driver charges that much for vomit? A broke one. Feels more likely that he did the drugging, hopped in the taxi to save face in front of their friends, got out of the taxi in a “reasonable” timeframe and finally gave that lame a** story to the police and her to try and cover it up.
@@binaboop1 I hope you never got scammed by an Uber driver, but that’s just not true. I drove Uber before. If anyone tells you that they are lying to you. The fee is way less for vomit. Around $50. Then again, the driver could have straight out lied about it. Doubtful
@@claudias5564 I never had to pay, but my friend was close in the backseat, and the uber guy turned around and said it was a $200 fee if someone vomited. So, thanks for letting me know, but I hope I never have to find out.
Omg I just sat down at a car maintenance appointment with nothing to do! Perfect timing, guys! 🤣 Story 1: Yes, as a Latina, the quinceñeara is a very important (normally Catholic) tradition that symbolizes a girl becoming a woman. I never had one because I was given the option of a trip instead, but my older sister and one of my best friends had one! It’s a very huge milestone for us.
First story: Where they going through the daughters phone in the first story? Violation number one. And based off what we know of the mother, I don’t blame her for maybe going along with it if it was going to save her from a big argument and constant problem at home. And for the landlord story: did the person renting the place not look into details of who rents it out LOL?? I feel like that would’ve been one of the things oc checked before renting😂 Cheap boyfriend story: GIRL DROP HIM!! He could’ve asked someone to drive them home the next day! Or asked for a loan from a friend to get a taxi! Or CARRY HER! And the Ambulance said they weren’t coming????? WHAT??? Final story: no, not the asshole and prom and home coming would both be off the table. That girl would not be doing the “community services” for the right reason, she would be doing that to be able to go to prom and not because she was truly sorry!! The daughter knows what she did was wrong, she’s old enough to be going to Homecoming and Prom, she knew what she did was awful. But didn’t care. My kid would be going to therapy and taking racial sensitivity classes as well . I do like the idea of not telling the daughter that she could earn it back without knowing she’s earning it back though!
The one about the dad telling the daughter to stop complaining~ One thing I don't hear is her saying she misses her ex-husband. All she talks about is the monetary things she no longer has. That's probably another reason her dad has no sympathy for her. The drugged girl~ The taxi driver let a passed out girl get out of a car with a random guy for all he knows. The taxi driver should have called an ambulance or police. The guy could have been a serial killer lol
I think action should most definitely have consequences. It’s also a lesson in entitlement, you don’t get to earn back prom when that girl never even had a chance. You lost your privileges and now you go to therapy and will be giving back instead of dancing around and brushing off the issue, because in the end, the real world might not be so forgiving. I’m sorry, we’re also aware that teens are manipulative. They’ll play along but talk shit with their friends at prom, like we all knew friends like that at that age lol Her life also needs to be changed drastically, because even with all those things taken away, it’s nothing compared to what you did to that girl…at all. Tying in the lesson with therapy will also balance out the understanding she also needs to want to change, and not because she’ll get to go to prom, it will be for the wrong reasons.
It's because she needs to change for her own and other's sake, not to get to go to prom, that this idea is counterproductive imo. Let her go to prom and still work with her on the issues.
The dialect is giving "southwest Texas preacher's wife on a day off at brunch with the friends getting willdddd" (from experience as I was born and raised here.)
As a daughter who experienced this shit in my 15th party (and my mom was the AH), it hurts. In my case, my dad just felt hurt that my grandmother had more money to provide the party and, as a pride issue, didn't go and made a scene in the day before. It sucks.
Sam! That one about the cheating husband with the pregnant wife, you really got me. I was raging 😂 I had placenta previa and I would of done the exact same thing if my husband did that. He has a two hands, he could've used either one
Her boyfriend is a trashman that takes her for granted. The simple fact that he can do for his girl friends than his actual girlfriend is WILD!!! He might be cool or sweet but he’s also self-serving and and thoughtless.
The landlord one, $650 for a two bedroom apartment is unheard of! My rent is $1260 for a one bedroom. Anyone would he happy to rent it at that reduced price.
I think overall just to take away things like social media/prom etc might not be the best way to learn a lesson. It should not be about what you get out of behaving in certain ways but about the consequences of her actions i.e. changing someones life for the worse and scarring them for life. It's the guilt of what she did and how dissapointed her parents are that could really make a deeper change. Have discussions of what lead her to bullying in the first place so she can work on herself. While I appreciate the parents taking this seriously I think these "punishments" might be a way to avoid the feeling of not raising their daughter right and their own guilt. There are no quick fixes, you'll have to have these hard conversations with your child and actively parent them in a better direction.
Idk as a latino women and the experience of being 15 with divorce parents. I cant blame the stepmom and father to step aside of xv. Idk when my father n mother talked shit of each other i just went silent and didnt say nothing or just said "can we talk of something else?" And if op and father said why they didnt wanted to participate, the daugher should talked to them and said it that she just was trying to avoid arguments with her mother and explain, but if she just went silent is...there is a saying in mexico "Whom remains in silent, concedes."
Parents were not too harsh. Me personally my kid would be staying off somewhere temporarily until she could figure out not to be a racist bully. Kids are literally fucking killing themselves every single day because of bullying. Everyday a child takes their own life because other children made them hate their own self that much. If they don’t attempt or commit suicide, then they definitely grow up with those scars embedded in their little brains. Their entire personality and life experiences will be altered because of it. That shit never leaves some people. Years of therapy and even meds for these people to get over that trauma. Parents should not be doubting themselves and if my in laws or own parents were under MY roof making me doubt my choices that reflect my daughters future and soul, then they can get the fuck out too. Hard lesson she had to learn. But the baby who went through that torture is missing out on so much too, from the hands of her bullies. So no, I don’t think it was too harsh. If anything, it was not enough. She would be there every fucking weekend doing all of their yard work, washing their cars and folding their laundry. Also, my kid would be in extensive therapy alone and as a family….because somewhere, somehow I failed and missed signs. That entire family needs an intervention. I’m not shaming them, I’m happy they’re choosing those punishments. But the kid clearly needs help too if she’s treating another child that fucking evil. I was bullied my entire fucking childhood. I refuse to raise one.
Perhaps they should have made her move schools, too. Sure you can go to Homecoming and Prom but you'll need to make a new friend group and experience some of the challenges she put that other girl through. I also love the idea of her having to learn about the culture and race she bullied the girl about. Deleting all social media was a great call, she can save her pictures from the platform. I would also ban all of the other girls that were part of the bullying from being part of my daughter's life.
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With the first story, its depends what the daughter actually said since Op saw the daughter going lol and also agreeing with her mom. I need to know if she also joined on the shit talking on Op and their home.
Right I feel like op isn’t the ah actually because op said that she saw her step daughter replying with lol and agreeing with the mom and it’s not like the step daughter is 5 or 9 she’s literally 15 and quince’s are a celebration for girls becoming women so basically she’s seen as an adult therefore she can have her own opinions and knows what she is talking about
@@siarranacoste1654girl- she’s 15 she most likely just agreeing to not upset her mom as her mom sounds toxic/abusive. The responds to that story is on point, you should listen to it, both of y’all should.
@@plushbunnii 15 is old enough to know exactly what you’re saying/agreeing with. If the step daughter actually liked the step mom she would’ve defended her against her own mom so therefore I know my point is valid what I’m saying is not wrong at all .
You must not have been in a situation as a teenager where you can't just defend someone against your mother. She wouldn't have had a quince at all. You really saying that the child should have to go defend an adult against another adult and that's weird
@@belizelover21 all I’m saying is that the girl could’ve told her mom that what she was saying was rude and that she felt uncomfortable with her saying those things so I still highly disagree with you because I never said she had to go ballistic on her mom about talking shit about her stepmom. All I’m saying is the girl can literally voice that she’s uncomfortable with something said it’s not that big of a deal. And i never said she had to defend an adult against another adult you’re the one who made all that shit up not me and you’re the one that’s weird
Being a landlord is inherently a toxic relationship. The "haver" of housing (wealth) is withholding a thing which is a basic human necessity. Think of it this way: if a person is hungry and you have food to spare and you charge that person you're taking advantage of them for your own gain. Both of my example and the story are widely considered socially acceptable acts only because we live in a sick capitalist society where we have to have money to survive. Many of us have to justify withholding goods, services, and in the case of the story, housing, from one another in order to maintain our standard of living. The OP isn't an intentional asshole, but he is betraying his class by choosing to be a landlord when it's really a matter of convenience for him.
Good grief if i saw any person much less my SO unconscious on the floor of any public building, i wouldnt be asking what to do. I would take out my phone and i would call 911. There would be no taxi, no walk. Wth is wrong with that guy?
very disappointed so many people are so turned off by the accents. seeing any accent be brushed off as grating or annoying makes me mad, but this is just how people i know talk :\
It's not an authentic accent. That very well might be the reason they're saying that. A bad accident impression is very grating and annoying. You have an authentic accent so it wouldn't sound like this.
the reason it's annoying to me personally is that it's very obviously getting in the way of her telling the details correctly, their only job is to read other peoples stories and get money, the least they could do is tell the damn story right!
The 1st story the DAD and Stepmom read msgs between her mom and her you decided to NOT go to her party so her dad CHOSE the new wife over the daughter….also WHY were they reading THOSE msgs? You don’t need to read msgs between her and her mom. For ANY reason unless there a safety concern……NOW you take out your hate for Sharon…..out on the daughter rather then being an adult and talking to her. Now when the daughter always sides with her mom they will always wonder why….🤷🏾♀️🤷🏾♀️ cause now she’s not talking to them and they acting like it’s an Oops
That movie will never not make me cry. I wasn't old enough to actively listen to anything by her, but based on fan reactions from that time it totally feels like fact "Anything for Selenas"....ETA the accents are awesome and distracting and hilarious
I understand the remain saying and being livid when you found out if you were genuinely friends or if you had a shared living space... Like I remember this girl at my old church bought a condo and wanted to rent out the second bedroom because she kept talking about how her mortgage is difficult and she doesn't make a ton of money actually... I was always really nice to her so she thought maybe I would want to rent and be her roommate. But you'd also make comments like, "Oh it would be so nice to have a roommate again so someone can remind me to clean," and I genuinely felt like she would not be a good roommate at all. So of course I wasn't interested in her being my landlord and also us having to share almost every space together except the bedrooms. She was transparent and flat out admitted that my rent would cover her entire mortgage each month, and I was (partially) transparent with her that it was in a part of town I had no interest in living
37:35 plus when your a homeowner your in charge of all repairs and property taxes, home owner’s insurance depending on how and if those things are factored into your mortgage.
On top of getting prom back get the daughter to apologize to the other student. Maybe have a heart to heart moment she has couple months to write a letter and work on herself and who she hangs around with. Cause I’m sure of her parent are as good as they try to be it’s her friends that got her into trouble. Find her some new friends who are constructive in life
You dont cheat and you beat your meat, Sam. 😂 I live in the South, so I hear a Southern accent all the time and I had to really focus to follow the stories because I was so ittitated and annoyed with it. Lol love you all and the podcast though. ❤
I think Brandon hit on something when he thought the boyfriend drugged the girlfriend. Did she see proof that he called the ambulance or is that just what he told her? Did she confirm with the driver that the destination was the hospital and not some other location? Makes sense for him to harp on the cost of things when he had to ditch the taxi, like he knew it was likely she'd throw up, and then the cops happening by sabotaged his plan. Sus on so many levels.
Hearing Miley Cyrus doesn't like "Party in the USA" makes me that much more glad that I prefer the parody "Everything's gonna be ok" It's more heartfelt and just as catchy.
Hi! Bonus mama here. As a stepmom I think OP in the first story is the asshole. I am not particularly close to my "sharon". However, You put everything aside for the child. Even your feelings. Stick it out, do your part. Be the bigger person. It is hard and it is hurtful. But the child comes first and when you married your husband you agreed to those terms. Your husband is also an asshole. He chose to run away instead of sticking it out.
So is Sam literally deaf? Honest question because he has missed details in like, the last 5 stories I've heard from the channel in a row. He seriously cannot pay attention or has hearing issues.
speaking on the last story, my immediate thought was "damn now the daughter definitely hates x people lol" in my opinion as someone who also is not a parent it just seemed to me that the punishment just gave the daughter an actual reason for her teenage brain to base her hatred on, as dumb of a reason as that is ( even though arguably all racism is dumb)
20:27 Not the asshole by a long shot. She definitely made that bed. Now she got to sleep in it. This whole thing sounds like it was started from adultery. Why else would she have left her husband for a younger man?
You are not the AH for not to telling him. You owe him nothing about your finances. Sounds like he wants something for free tbh. Even if he was scheming something off the top as long as his rent is paid it’s not his business. $650 including utilities is a steal. Even if OP got the house for free is not the Tenant’s business
Yeah, I've just got to the end of the first story & if she doesn't drop the accent soon I'm abandoning this video. Also seems a bit like she's mocking the people in the stories by putting on an accent.
