My Daughter's Friend is Being Emotionally Abused - How Do We Help?

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My Daughter's Friend is Being Emotionally Abused - How Do We Help?
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@jenna6653 11 месяцев назад

My daughter told her teacher she didn't get anything for her birthday and I had to remind her she got a trip to Disney world and $50 spending money while we were there 🙄. I was so upset. My daughter just said she forgot...kids smh.

@joywebster2678 4 месяца назад

That's why you give them a card on actual day that says " glad you enjoyed your Disney bday".

@ameliakennemer 4 месяца назад

Just went through this with my 10 year old. Friend told her she was thinking about self harm. I thanked my daughter and met with the school the next day. My daughter was scared that the friend was going to retaliate. Friend thanked my daughter for telling an adult because she really did need help. Aside from the fact that my daughter is dealing with this at 10, I’ve always told her that no matter what- she tells an adult if someone is threatening to hurt themself or someone else. It was so hard for her to come forward but I’m proud and thankful she did.

@TheEquiss Год назад

Yep I lived that. The room I was stuck in was triple digit in the summer and freezing in the winter. No one cared. I was the “invisible child”. No one gave a dam and no one seemed to ever see me. I left as soon as I could. I learned early that no one cares about anyone else unless they get something out if it. Others just turn a blind eye.

@cathyosullivan718 3 года назад

Pam is such a nice woman to try to help a friend of a friend. It’s so rare that people care enough to step up and help someone.

@hannahheartsedward 3 года назад

You can also look up child advocates in that area. They tend to be separate from CPS and have a good idea of how the system works. I am a mandated reporter, but I report when I'm unsure. I leave it to the investigators to figure it out. I'm not taking the risk with a child because I know too many adults who were not believed as children.

@shachede6828 3 года назад

@@damoab1909 NEGLECT is ABUSE

@nikkisigmon8090 Год назад

@@shachede6828 and still, da moab has a very good point. Don't overlook it.

@john1425 2 года назад

Never met someone who involved the police or DHS/CHS and wasn't extremely disappointed by the outcome.

@sstrongman1667 2 года назад

Same experience here.

@sarahalderman3126 Год назад

Same.

@3roachkidsdhe 11 месяцев назад

The police were called for us and we have had amazing services come out of it. We’ve had advocates and our family has been helped immensely. We have a lot more work to do but I am very happy the police got involved. Guess it just depends on the situation.

@ez2u1 4 месяца назад

They seldom help

@dabd8175 3 года назад

Dr J is definitely my favorite out of the Ramsay team!!!

@heatherbrenner8275 3 года назад

They moved him from the basement to Dave's old set pretty quick lol

@briancross6620 3 года назад

Him and Anthony are the best moves Dave’s ever made!

@123567Efd 3 года назад

Ramsay? 🤨

@amyfuller3801 3 года назад

Chris Hogan was awesome, but the current lineup are all rockstars.

@MeloFloww 3 года назад

Yes!!! 🙌

@Nat-lg2ks 3 месяца назад

Glad you didnt say “just pray for her” like my mum did every time something big came up

@ez2u1 4 месяца назад

Presents are gifts, when did we become a society that parents are required to give give give with money… we are responsible to give our children the mental balance to have healthy lives.

@chandaprinsloo5201 3 месяца назад

I so wish that we had a show like this in my country. I wish there was someone I could talk to and get help from. Counciling is very expensive where I'm from, and I just wish there were someone with a bit of training that I could talk to that could give me some tools to help. 😢😢

@katiesimpson8517 3 месяца назад

I'm so sorry you are going through this, apparently alone. Could you talk to a friend, perhaps someone going through this too? Strength in numbers. Plus, we're out here too, cheering you on.

@DogmaGirlAD 3 года назад

Call the non-emergency police... Child Protective Services is more likely to harass the parents, even if nothing is wrong. Child Protective Services has their place, But they're authority goes unchecked too often, I seen it firsthand in multiple situations in the lives of people I know in real life.

@DogmaGirlAD 3 года назад

@@damoab1909 not all police departments respond quite that way. I've seen it work itself out in different ways in a couple different situations.

@lisadaws8724 4 месяца назад

Adult Children of Emotionally Immature Parents is a great book! You talked about it on another podcast and I'm almost through the whole thing! It's helped me deal with my parents and it's helping me to not make the same mistakes with my daughter. Thank you for the great recommendation!

@kimbarnetson3297 5 месяцев назад

Don't tell the child before you make the call.

@jennymessmer3701 3 года назад

The other aspect of things with the teenagers is that if her friend lied then whatever happens next is not the daughter, but if the friend is telling the truth, how is the daughter going to feel looking back on things if it isn't reported (even if the friend says she was joking?) Also even if she says it was a joke, it should be reported...it is better that this other child is believed and people were "too concerned" and maybe she deals with the larger consequences of lying, but this teenager (the friend) may also claim she was joking lying because she was afraid.

@razmiddle9410 3 года назад

Yeah... I'd help my parents anyway if they were going through a temporary financial setback -- in my case they've always prioritized me and my siblings and have been very financially responsible and frugal, if some devastating medical emergency happened or something then I would prioritize getting them through it even if it meant taking on extra work or taking money out of my savings.

@10tepeyac 4 месяца назад

Love how he said coming like B-52s

@robinirons8140 10 месяцев назад

I raised a daughter who was s drama queen and told the most outrageous lies to get attention. It was baffling. I would be very careful about calling CPS. They will make your life a living hell, even after it is obvious your child is not being honest

@JAB2010 5 месяцев назад

So what? They could also find out about abuse that may be occurring

@ez2u1 4 месяца назад

So did you ask yourself why she is acting out like this.. your words sound like you don’t like her? Like you didn’t bond with this child.

@madisonandthespirits Год назад

Not saying this situation is wrong or right, not enough details. Colorado is very very expensive, moves are very expensive…who knows if they are having financial issues. I lived in my sisters basement as a teenager in Colorado, it was really cold…I feel for her!

@joywebster2678 4 месяца назад

She doesn't want to share a bedroom, and at 15 chose the basement. Didn't know how cold Colorado is. So bend pride and accept that room sharing is a reality.

@kelliconlan8133 3 года назад

Gage picked a great song. Dr. John please take the time to listen to that song and many other for King and County songs.

@analozada9475 6 месяцев назад

I’m a ESP, Gibson and Jackson type girl! 🥰🤘🔥🖤🔥🎸🔥🫶

@valerieodonnell6764 2 месяца назад

Who knows what’s really going on. When my mom was a teenager she lived in the unfinished basement with carpet hanging from the ceiling to partition a bedroom area. Her dog slept next to her and they kept each other warm. She loved it and it was her choice because she wanted to have her own space away from her siblings. I can see how it could be neglect though as well if the kid is forced or it is unreasonably cold. There’s some nuance to the situation and it’s best to let the authorities investigate and determine which it is.

@brightpage1020 4 месяца назад

Margaritas! 🎉 with Kelly! Any day!

@stonepumpkinsable 3 года назад

The correct answer for which guitars are better is Paul Reed Smith

@shanejohnson1845 3 года назад

I wonder if he could speak on similar folks like June Hunt...used to listen to her as a teen..

@candyluna2929 3 года назад

Why would abusive parents give their abused daughter a cellphone??

@sarahalderman3126 Год назад

Exactly. I have 9 kid’s and have heard it ALL at one time or other. There are simply too many holes in that story. The primary one being that the “abused” child that is being “neglected” has communication ability.

@vaska1999 2 месяца назад

Are we ourselves 100% consistent all the time?

@hannahalexie5158 3 года назад

It’s sad that people think it’s a crime to get a blanket for Christmas or a candy bar for a birthday. Yeah it’s not much, but it’s the thought that counts.

@pjcanadian3686 2 года назад

I think the woman was incinuating though she knows the family and that gift doesn't line up with the family she has seen in public. Those gifts could be all they can manage and that is valid. But if lets say the daughter is the youngest of 3 and the 2 older kids get substantially more at Christmas and birthdays that's a pattern of treating the daughter as lesser.

@user-fs3ji1sj4j 4 месяца назад

The question is- did everybody get candy bars? Is the heat low throughout the house without blankets for everybody? My narc mother was expert at abusing me and schmoozing people- she had us move as people questioned and she worked the narrative

@aprilporter770 4 месяца назад

Samantha sounds like a very intelligent woman. 👩🏼‍💼

@brightpage1020 Год назад

I want to hear the guitar debates!

@digitalcassette5 4 месяца назад

The authorities sadly won't do much

@Kwk16534 4 месяца назад

Regarding the last call you kept saying send letters but she told you that her brother was homeless

@catdancerskaleidoscopeofbo8496 3 года назад

I would help the parents through this transition even if it meant it took him 6 months longer to plan his wedding or pay off his student loans.

@pupasarus 3 года назад

Living in Colorado in a freezing basement is pretty normal. 2 words: space heater!

@Mrs.LadeyBug 4 месяца назад

Yes… Logic!? Unless they are choosing to freeze her, in which case an intervention is clearly warranted.

@Nayahpooh012 Год назад

It’s not this deep. Call for a welfare check IMMEDIATELY. If the child is being abused, they will have potentially saved her. If not, the parents will know they need to do better to care for their child and at least provide heat. The consequences of not acting are greater and than acting.

@joywebster2678 4 месяца назад

Maybe with the move the 15yr old didn't want share a bedroom with a younger sister and chose the basement.? So she's experiencing her choice.

@yvonnecastillo822 3 года назад

He's homeless, where is she supposed to send the letter?

@amydenny2338 3 года назад

Emails maybe?

@MattTerrell-gc9vw 2 месяца назад

PRS superiority

@hangrycoon4252 3 года назад

do we report if children witness constant domestic abusive?

@FromTheAshes7 3 года назад

Absolutely so.

@3roachkidsdhe 11 месяцев назад

Yes

@Mrs.LadeyBug 4 месяца назад

This should not even need to be asked; but yes!

@joywebster2678 4 месяца назад

Is it physical abuse? yes. If it's emotional domestic abuse, the cops and agencies will stare blankly at your report. Laws only cover neglect or physical abuse.

@freezinginhere 3 года назад

23:30

@brettascott124 2 года назад

Taylor is definitely better than Martin Hands Down!!!!!!!!

@OM-or3im Год назад

Definitely Disagree with Dr. John on not helping out the parents. “I hate this for you” advice is lame when he can actually be helpful. Dude, i hope you didn’t listen!

@user-yi5ez9hk7u 3 года назад

Pam is both a busybody and not too bright. Unless this teenage girl is being locked into the basement at night, she has the option of taking her bedding and going upstairs to sleep on a couch if she is too cold. Her parents just moved into a new house in the middle of a world wide pandemic with houses at a very high price right now, probably because of a job or jobs in order to do such frivolous things as feed and clothe their children. “Everyone but me has their own room.” Translation: “I refuse to share a bedroom with my sibling, and hence I am staking a claim on the basement bedroom my parents are no doubt planning on as soon as the can do it. This way I will have a nicer bedroom than my siblings.” “I only got a candy bar for my birthday and a blanket for Christmas.” Translation: “My parents are either really hard up for cash right now (a possibility) or the bought me a specialty candy bar (a nice gift) because I have everything else (but a bedroom). The blanket that I got cost as much if not more than what each of my siblings got because I complained how cold I am (because if the blanket was wool, it is a very expensive item).” This teenage is trying to get sympathy points from her friend, and these adults are sticking their noses in. Remember this girl is communicating on an expensive device since her friend can see her. Oh, she is so hard done by - NOT.

@tupelohoney622 2 года назад

I feel this is likely the case but would rather ask for a wellness check and be wrong, than the girl's situation be true and do nothing.

@DogmaGirlAD 3 года назад

The girl is the only one who's not happy about much... Ok, then... As a woman who's worked with teams where everyone else is a man, I just got to say that sometimes it's not that we're grumpsters is that we're just done with your foolishness. 😉 Maybe you're just jealous that she can just chill and doesn't have to prove herself... LOL

@user-fs3ji1sj4j 4 месяца назад

And the parents will pull a con job... what narcs are expert at

@joywebster2678 4 месяца назад

What if the move financially strapped the parents are doing their best re gifts, and perhaps the teen chose the basement over sharing a room with a sister. So why are parents automatically " narcs".

@SherryEllesson 3 года назад

That slam against Kelly about margaritas & food was nasty and un-called-for. This is the 2nd time I've heard John verbally slap a member of his staff and it stinks.

@jeremyzamorano4774 3 года назад

He's a good guy so I'm sure he'll talk to her and apologize in person and of course he'll do better in the future. We've all said something that came out the wrong way so I'm trying to empathize with him and hope he apologizes to Kelly. God Bless.

@kara2162 3 года назад

Lighten up. I'm sure they have that kind of teasing relationship.

@AMK544 3 года назад

LOL that’s how all my friends and I interact. Not everyone is as sensitive as you are.

@katiasadoudi3361 2 года назад

It didn't sound right, I agree. He should be heald to a higher standard. It is what it is.

@gloriack7976 2 года назад

Him and Kelly have a very fun cavalier and sarcastic relationship. She is a strong and warm hearted person you can tell through her conversation with him in other episodes. I'm sure she can stand up for herself and he's good enough of a guy that if it really bothers her, he will probably grovel to the world on the next podcast that he needs to eat worm dung or something.