My Entitled Sister Demanded That I Be a Surrogate for Her, Then Booked a Doctor's Appointment Beh... 

Story 1, that's not BPD, that's sociopathy.

Why can’t you turn her over to the state? She’s literally running the house and she does what she wants, no one should have to deal with this while pregnant

OP’s sister is a sociopath. Also, I don’t know how OP did not give up her to the state. After all of the Hell she put them through. The sister has not suffered ANY consequences for any of the lies, stealing, lack of hygiene, and animal abuse.

OPs father is the worst kind of human being. I had a stepfather like that.

OP's a kind person, and it says a lot she feels bad for wanting the sister gone. But alas, that girl needs to go. You can't keep trying to fix someone who doesn't want to be fixed.

Surely the girl qualifies as needing to be committed, right? It can't be any more expensive than paying for all that therapy, dental work, and exterminators (and whatever a hazmat cleaning service goes for). Tell the therapist that she's a danger to herself and others, and that you can't adequately care for her with her current mental state, and GET HER OUT OF YOUR HOUSE.

Ah op made a big mistake, if op kicking girl out after she is 18, then don’t get a new house before op do that. So even she tried to retaliate and come back, she can’t find op. Now stuck with new house with potential jeopardize with retaliation and ruining the house.

Why would you decide to have a kid with this little gremlin skittering around the house 💀

Your husband, your baby, your pets aren’t safe with her there. This is so scary because she is capable of harming anyone at this point. Stop worrying about looking like a “bad” person and worry about the safety of your family and the damage to your new home.

YOU WANT TO HAVE HER AROUND YOUR BABY?!! A BABY THAT CAN'T DEFEND ITSELF?!! TAKE HER TO A POLICE STATION WITH THE PAPERWORK, MAYBE IN ANOTHER STATE. You'll have to sleep DONT keep her in your house when the baby arrives. She will see the baby as a problem that she needs to get rid of.

If all you have to do is tell the doctor you're being coorced to donate an organ will make you illegible to donate. No way would kidnapping to force a surgocy be legal.

You shouldn't feel obligated to house an A-hole parents' affair child. Especially if that child has expressed animosity towards you. This girl should have been in therapy long ago but it's far late for that. The longer she stays the more grief she'll cause towards op and ops loved ones.

1st Story She seems like she has anti-social personality traits. She lies easily, never takes responsibility for her actions, selfish, narcissistic, cruel to animals. This child is dangerous I would sleep with my bedroom door locked.

Never let somebody live in your house, especially if they have made it clear that they have it out for you. Traumatic upbringing or not, the half-sister is a manipulative, destructive thief. The more comfortable she gets with sabotaging OP's life, it will only be a matter of time before she does something that completely crosses the line, especially for somebody who obviously has no sense of boundaries.

Okay, I can't finish this. OP is just pissing me off.

I know you said that social services won’t help you but call CPS state what she’s doing and tell them how she’s going to create a bad environment for your three month old child. Tell them that she’s not mentally stable because clearly somethings wrong with her.

OP: "clearly, I am incredibly naive and easy to fool", "I'm an idiot" Damn, bruh, you have no idea 🗿 Why's that demon still not in the foster system yet? Does OP not value her child's life? 👀 We already see that her and her husband's lives mean nothing to OP OP's like "OMG, I dragged a monster from hell and couldn't make a sweet kitty out of it 😫, I'm so guilty I failed her". This pisses me off like SO MUCH

As a former foster parent I can say that OP is enabling so much of this girl’s behavior to the point that she’s allowing her to wreck her life with very little consequences. She’s too old for her to put up with any of this regardless of her past. She needs very real life consequences for her actions *every*single*time that she pulls something. And why she isn’t on meds just because she’s a teenager is beyond comprehension. She needs to be medicated properly if she’s bipolar/borderline because her brain literally can’t function properly without medication. I had a friend diagnosed with this as well as a mother that I could bet the bank also has it. Her behavior is “very” much like my diagnosed friend’s behavior. Like spot on. Life will NEVER get any easier until she’s got a decent doctor working to level out the brain chemicals that are out of balance in that girl. My friend, off her bipolar meds, was like a whole different nonfunctional person. Wildly unstable and quite able to do real damage to people. On it? So so SO much better on her meds. Normal. So yeah this girl would be put on proper meds and on extremely limited privileges until she complied without fail just like they do in residential treatment homes for kids who can’t live in normal homes/families. You have to earn every right that you want without fail in those places. Want a privilege? You go take that shower or “no deal”. You don’t get a THING (other than basic necessities/food) without earning that right. Only good compliant behavior gets you anything extra. Structure and routine is so important to people like this until they learn how to function in normal society. They need rules and boundaries at every turn in order to turn their lives around and lead a better existence.

28:29 sadly it sounds like, OP half sister was extremely mentaly and emotionaly abused, and needs to be place in a mental hospial

I’ve heard of adoptive parents giving up their child after they adopted said child. I don’t understand why OP in the first story can’t do the same.

An old guy ik used to say that you are the creator of your own downfall and it couldn't be any further from OP's situation. My opinion would've been to not take her in in the first place. I feel sorry for the husband not OP. Literally man deserves a better partner.

Can't find the 1st story anywhere so I'm guessing it turned out to be fake

I can see why her parents ran as fast and as far as they Could.

Jesus I can't blame the sister's mother for having a breakdown and leaving that kid

I just love making it in time to see and hear the countdown.

The second story: why does she need to flee her own house? Just don’t open the door when those crazy witches show up. Doormats annoy me.

Take everything out of her room, bed on floor clear totes for her things.

that is way more akin to antisocial personality disorder than BPD. there are four types, and while one can be manipulative, the other three are petty, self destructive, and impulsice behavior that generally does more harm to ourselves than others (and everyone understandably gets sick of being along for the ride). there are tools to help manage symptoms. DBT, CBT, and a good psychiatrist for medications have helped me so much as a BPD bipolar.

Eventually you stop feeling bad for OP because she allows it to keep happening. At this point her best option is to give up custody or put her in an institution now because otherwise she will lose her husband and her new baby because the sister cannot be around them and they cannot wait 2 more years. There seem to be no consequences for the sister and she is allowed to do whatever she wants. Also the fact that they refuse to properly diagnose/treat her because "she's too young" is ridiculous at this point imo. She's 16, not 6, and clearly needs help.

orphanage this “sister” is older than me and is acting half as mature this “sister” is very narcissistic this “sister” is a NASTY AHH BOP

Don't keep her in your home. You don't have to live like this

Whooo! 🎯🔥💯 Tom! It's FIRE! I'm so impressed with the how HARD this hits and how quickly you brought this out. Says everything. 👌

Just a small note, rabbits are NOT rodents, they are lagomorphs. Interestingly, if people have an allergic reaction to rabbits, it’s usually due to a protein in their saliva. When a child is cruel to animals, it’s a major warning sign that should never be ignored. I can’t believe they ever left any pets in her care after how she treated her rabbit. There is no way in hell I would have her living in my home with any other children, especially children too young to verbalize anything she might do to them. That baby is going to be abused in some way, possibly even killed if they allow her to stay in their home.

the only good thing of second story is the fact there’s a healthy coparenting relationship with her ex. i wish more kiss got to experience it

OP was dumb throughout the whole story and even though she had good intentions, she deserve everything she gets for being naive.

I remember my aunt (shes an former addict but has similar behaviors) had a hygiene issue like this girl and my cousin who has the same family nickname as her made her sit in the tub fully clothed then sprayed her with dishsoap and a hose and scrubbed at her with a body brush then washed her mouth with a bar of soap. I don't approve of that method, but It worked and there were no more issues after that.

She is a danger to herself and others. Institutionalization her now.

First story if I was op's husband I would leave her and take the kid not the sister.

Person with BPD here. That is not BPD, i'd get a second opinion.

I can’t believe OP put her husband through this nightmare

That sounds like narcissistic behavior, if I was you pit cameras all around the house inside and out without her knowing make sure they are small and unnoticeable get evidence then take it to the therapist and have her committed period.

Can someone give me a summary please? I don't really like listening to reddit stories that involves pets being involved with animal cruelty 😅

Bruh, the husband should divorce and seek full custody of the baby with no visitation rights. But then again, he's probably the same idiot as the op, otherwise he would have already put his foot down.

3 guesses as to just why the mom up and left without telling anyone.

Jesus christ that title

The sister in the first story is absolutely terrible, she's undeniably conniving and evil, seriously she makes Eric Cartman from South Park look like an angel in comparison

Some kids are a lost cause because it is not bad to say, it is just facts. If you arent able to come to terms with this then you will allow that lost cause to ruin your life.

That clip would have gone to boot camp

imagine she thought it was soap and did a backflip

The sister sounds like my dad. He did the exact same things in order to keep my mom, younger brother, and myself under control.

i don’t think i’ve heard a single story of surrogacy between family ending well

The fact op could have given up her rights from the start but didn’t is stupid

Go to a foreign country that doesn’t speak English take her passport in the middle of the night and fly home change your phone number and move to a different state then change your last names or send her to a trouble teen camp and refuse to take her back

This story repeats itself too much

That's not BPD. Also, she's old enough to be diagnosed.

Ummmmmm you need to get her OUT of your house!! Yesterday!!!!

OP is důmb for allowing her, in her home.

Our family has been taking in kids from fostercare for decades and OPs kid does sound exactly like some of the kids we had here. Three of them were exactly like that, to the extreme with the lying and manipulating, even to the point where it became dangerous. These kids should have never been placed in foster homes, but it's very hard to figure that out beforhand if parents are either not aware of their kid being like that (one of them was smart enough to make it look like their brother was the unhinged one) or if they come from an abusive home and have been taken out by cps and still have to be evaluated, but usually they need an emergency place to stay immediately, which will often be with a foster family. We would have both long-term placings as well as emergency placings in which they will stay a maximum of 3 months (all of this is in the Netherlands btw) Anyway, those three kids shouldn't have been placed with a family and afterwards all three were eventually placed in a 24/7 surveillance facility. One of them didn't go there immediately, but was placed in another facility, also with a high alert level of care, but not as strict and structured as a 24/7 surveillance one. She tried to burn that place down. (One of the reasons they shouldn't have been in foster families, this is something healthcare professionals should be handling) After that she was obviously moved immediately. From what OP is telling us, I'm certain the kid belongs in a 24/7 facility, especially because of the lying, as healthcare workers can be bamboozled quite easily when those kids aren't under camera observation, as they work in shifts and manipulative kids like that will exploit the gaps within the transitions between shifts and they will know exactly were the gaps are when it comes to the workers sharing information. We've seen one such place which wasnt a very strict place, basically just for kids that were transitioning to adulthood and going to a group home afterwards as they were mentally impaired and therefor not able to be living alone. Anyway, this kid had just lost her dad and her manipulative mom saw a gap to come waltzing back into the girls life and basically destroy it, by feeding her lies. She wanted to get her out of the group home, but didn't have authority to do so. So she had the kid come up with lies of being abused by her former foster family, the kid starts telling these lies to the healthcare workers at her grouphome, whom blindly believe her and never even tried to go into a deeper conversation to figure out whether she was telling the truth or not. Which would have been ridiculously easy as this girl was mentally impaired and could've never kept her story straight for too long as it was lies fed to her by her mother. As they believed her the case was escalated to the police and foster organizations. The former foster parents were kept in the dark and the foster organizations they worked with instantly dropped their support, even though this family had been fostering for over 20 years I believe at that point and had always had perfect remarks and evaluations by all organizations and other professionals involved. But no one even bothered to look a little further into the stories before duping those foster parents like that. Absolutely abhorrent. And these are the dangers they won't warn you about when training to become a foster parent. (You need to do a 2 year course to get licensed to be a foster parent) Which to me is bonkers, as it is a very real danger, since there will always be parents angry about their kids being taken from them and they will be looking for someone to blame and take revenge on. They can't really do that to the governments foster organization, so they will come for the foster parents. So when it comes to being a foster parent, better have your ducks in a row and always be able to proove you were never alone or inappropriate with a kid of the opposite sex. Luckily those foster parents were able to proove that and with only a few questions the police had already determined the kid was a liar. However the mother took it a step further by telling some friends or acquaintances and this led to that poor foster family being harrassed publicly on Facebook. And you know how these things go, people will have an opinion instantly. One of these friends was even messaging the son in law to keep his kids from their grandparents. 😮 luckily he knew about the ordeal and blocked this woman, but jot before telling her to better check who's lies she's believing and putting herself on the line for.. allthough there isnt really a way to get through to people like that. Luckily the family didn't have Facebook accounts themselves, the harassing happened on their kids pages and they had to promptly delete all family pictures or put them to private, as that was what these people were commenting under. OP is only in her early 20s, and was clearly bamboozled into adopting this kid, but there must be a way to undo this. Do it quickly and have the kid sent to one of these observation facilities, they might be able to help and also keep her off the streets once she turns 18 and keep her under observation as she's not capable of doing normal human things at the moment. This is a problem for the experienced professionals.

take ur sister to another country for a vacation and leave her there too much mess

I'm up to the cat chapter part of the story 😮.

Second Story; NOT the Ah! Tell your Sister that if Your Eggs are 'Her DNA Anyways' than WHY CANT YALLS MOTHER EGGS DO?! oh Bc is that JUST LIKE raising a SIBLING and NOT a Paternal Child?! Is THAT why? ORR is it 'just gross, eww no why would I use Mums Eggs instead, That's NOT the Same" BULLSH. Bc for REAL, if it's 'Just Eggs and Similar Enough Dna' that the Sister wants in order for a Biological related Child, than ASK and GET IT FROM THE MAMA, NOT your Own Sister! Problem Solved.

Story 1: OP'S father is a piece of shit, the reason his daughter is like that is because of him and when he should've stepped up he ran away. It's a shame OP had to step up for her father, especially since she probably did so out of guilt😔

So ops sister saw how shes living and rhought i want to live like this and lied about her abuses and shit from her parents her parents gave her to op without hesitation because theyve been dealing with ops sis and dont wanna anymore. She was abandoned on op because of ops sis bpd

Ops sis clearly knows what shes doing to op her husband and her house. Op sis is mental and needs to be put into care uf shes going to act like that.

Sister is a psychopath.

Question? You stated you had her for the pass 2 years from the time she was 16?do you live in the states bc if you do... We now know she's playing head games. She is now 18 which for us is considered an adult. Give her 30day notice to find somewhere else to live. Then change your locks

First story: I'm in the process of adopting a kid from foster care. You always hear awful stories about foster families, but my son was in close to a dozen and only has one horror story. (transphobic little old lady that insisted on treating him like a girl, it sucked but wasn't SA, physical abuse or murder) CPS and foster families are, on balance, heroes. They are way better equipped to deal with OP's sister. If OP hasn't already kicked her sister out, she needs to call CPS and terminate her custody. Sister's behavior is unfair to OP and her family, and OP's inability to give sister whatever it is she needs isn't fair to her either. I can't guarantee that "the system" will be able to help sister, but it stands a better chance, and won't destroy OP's life as well.

Womb Raiders

Thisbis a shit story relly just repeats excessively