@@k-mart7475 sheer volume of interactions make them higher risk, regardless of carefulness. The career choice alone shows they make high-risk decisions, if it is by choice and not forced (which it could be).
😂 way to overreact. Sleeping with an escort is much safer than sleeping with a regular girl. Especially if the industry is regulated. One in 4 girls has Herpes. A working girl in a regulated industry wouldn't be permitted to exercise the profession with it. Also; people who tend to sleep with escorts tend to only sleep with escorts. Meaning they're a seperate ecosystem from the infected masses. I've slept with multiple prostitutes multiple times and I don't have a single STD . If I had slept with the same number of sluts I'm sure I would have cought something.
If his friends cheat, he cheats too. My ex boyfriend shared a group chat with his friends where the friends would upload videos of them and their affairs. And I was so dumb to believe, that he was just in the group chat and would NOT cheat. 🙄 Just to find out he cheated. What a surprise…. Her husband is for the streets.
Agreed. That’s exactly why I distanced my friends who were out there like that (although I’m still cordial with them). When I do hang out with guys, it’s only with those I KNOW aren’t cheaters or people who will present temptations to cheat. I don’t even want that stuff in my mind. If you love your wife, you have too much to lose when you cheat. Especially, if you have kids.
@@gabrielbuckley6814I had to cut ties with an old friend who would regularly and willingly cheat with married men. That's never been part of my personal code and I hated seeing her lower herself like that. While it's not my business, it's not something I want to be close to.
I would totally judge someone for the company they choose to keep. I couldn't respect a friend who bragged about their deceit. Disgusting. Leave the relationship if you are unhappy. Don't do this.
To this caller, you can't reverse time and ever go back once your husband brings home HIV/AIDS to you. This is not a husband. This is not a marriage. A marriage is dependant on LOYALTY to each other. He asked you what did you see on his phone, to see how much you know and what he can get away with. He has been doing this longer than you know. Save your life and get out now.
Not every escort is out there doing it unprotected, even when the "client" begs and offers $500 more. Expensive "high end" escorts are expensive for a reason. You're much more likely to get something from someone on Tinder. Lmfao.
@@Mischa21xoUh huh. It’s not about the escorts. It’s about her husband. Cheaters have no respect therefore they do not care about anyone or anything. They will sleep with anyone. High end, low end, tinder, bar hook ups etc. Majority of them bring back STDs to their spouse. I know someone whose husband had HIV from sleeping with anyone including escorts. When you choose to accept being cheated on, you put your life at risk.
Anytime someone’s told me they’ve been cheated on. I tell him I’ve learned the hard way. If you forgive them and stay with them, you’re just giving them another chance to cheat on you again.
I asked a guy friend I work with why he cheats on his wife repeatedly. He admitted it was ego & the thrill of the chase. So, being the curious owtson I am, I asked when she took you back the first time were you genuinely sorry & really going to try not to do it again. He just said I told her what she wanted to hear, but knew if she took me back once, she'll do it again, so why stop. He & his work friends treat being unfaithful as a big game. And people wonder why I prefer to be single.
@@stevelovescarsI'm a woman and I cheated once - after 1.5 years of no sex whatsoever from my partner. We are all human. I regret the action, but the relationship was in so much trouble (he has addiction issues, etc). I basically am more of a caretaker for him than a partner at this point. I would never cheat again though (he does know about what happened and we are working on things).
I cannot imagine hating myself to the point that I’d settle for a life with a man who probably cares more about his daily meals than he does about me. Nauseating
I had a friend who caught her husband with a girl at a bar, she left a note on his car window that he should not come home! He tried to get them back together with her rules…back and forth to work, no going anywhere without her…he said so I’m going to be in jail? She packed up his stuff and left it in the driveway and changed the locks! She had a son and a daughter..she taught her son how to be a husband and how a to treat a wife and her daughter was taught what kind of husband she may choose!
She is worst than i thought. Whatever husband did was wrong. But purposely telling your kids about grown people affairs is wrong. Teaching son to be a husband..bullcrap. he cheating on her has nothing to do with what kind of father he is to his children.
@@ACURACALABAR11 How you treat a spouse absolutely has an effect on how you parent. Cheating is risking the children’s stability and home life and being a bad role model.
@@ACURACALABAR11It doesn’t matter what kind of father he is to his kids. If he is a good father can have them on the weekends or half of the time. But he is not a good husband and a bad role model to his children. You don’t have to tell kids anything…they know more than you understand. Kids see everything, hear everything, they understand if momma is ok or she is not. If momma is not ok, kids are not ok. If momma is doing good, kids are doing good. It affects kids more than you understand. I know what I’m talking about because I grew up in a broken family. My mother was trying to glue it together, but one person can’t do it, it takes 2 to glue the family. I remember every day when my mother was overwhelmed and crying in the corner. I remember when my dad didn’t care and he still doesn’t. When a family is broken it’s the worse thing you can do to your kids by staying and fighting everyday. I personally blame them both. Blame father for cheating, and blame mother for staying.
@@ACURACALABAR11You realize there is a reason for the sayibg ”do what I say, not what I do” and that it never works. Girls need father’s to treat mom’s well so they know what kind of treatment they will accept. Boys look to their Dad’s as their biggest rolemodel and you can bet your ass they will model their Dad’s attitudes and behaviour.
It's Only, I can't forget the day my mom put all my dad's stuff in garbage bags immediately when she found out. Do not pass Go, Do not collect, Mister. 😊 *That's* how it's done. Had she done it differently I am sure my tolerance level for such behavior would have also been different vs. ZERO.
The first lady needs to leave. This guy is showing her he doesn't love her. She would rather blame herself for a decision he made. There will always be something foul lingering in the air. Maybe I'm just built different but I would have been gone AS SOON as found the info in the phone.
He's probably made her feel like he's all she's going to get or something to that affect. This type of toxic guy trys to get them to question their self.
@@karahupp4589 yes I'm built different. To many people hang on to things that are bad for them. I don't put up with cheating and disrespect. As soon as you do it, you're gone.
She’s afraid to leave because her support system, her parents are no longer with her . She needs someone to tell her that staying with a cheater for the sake of the kids won’t keep the family together . Her husband doesn’t even sound remorseful . She’s in for a whole lot of hurt if she decides to stay married . She will forever be his warden and that’s not a way to live . I hope she gets the therapy she needs to stand up for herself .
I Agree with the idea! DO NOT STAY WITH A CHEATER! HE WILL REPEAT THE BEHAVIOR DOWN THE WAY AND YOU WILL NEVER TRUST HIM AGAIN. TURN THE PAGE AND START A NEW CHAPTER IN YOUR LIFE AFTER YOU ARE EMOTIONALLY HEALED.
Oh Kayla. It's not you, it's not his friends- it's him. You need to leave him and build a life where you trust yourself, your instincts, your boundaries. He could've killed his wife and mother of his children with his actions. That is unforgivable. Stop the cycle and show your kids that you don't deserve to be cheated on and not treated like an equal in a relationship.
@missblue1617 That's too bad you feel that way. Speaking only for myself. Being from a broken home. And having a partner who cheated on me. Maybe someone could make the argument that I'm also male. My father is an ass. And my mother was horrible at her job. But as I see it, they both had a responsibility to raise the next generation to be respectful, responsible members of society. Yes, in the long run, if it's FUBAR and the problems won't go away, then the kids don't need to be around that. For many years now, it's all about because. That's many people reason why BECAUSE. They don't even try to recognize the underlying problems that individuals might have had going into the relationship. We all have prexcisting problems. People are so selfish with their lives. Not considering the other people around them. Your partner in life isn't someone who should be dismissed so easily. My wife did that crap to me. I was livet. The hurt is unreal. We have four sons. Well, she has four sons, and they all call me dad. I can tell that she has made a very strong effort to change her ways. I also had to make a strong effort as well. You would be correct to say that I can't trust her anymore. I don't. And that is a shame on her part. When my dad left, the house was very much different. But what I remember was being scared. What was going to happen to me and my siblings. There were people in the house and we were all blood, but we didn't have a family anymore. I felt that at five years old. My wife and I get along very well most of the time. I would have to add that it's been three years since I found out. So a lot of hashing out has been done. She screwed up. I screwed up. Those kids are worth it to me. And also she is my wife. What kind of husband would I be if I didn't take the time to understand why she was willing to do me wrong. I think I figured a few things out. You women are very scary .
@@TheMenace173dude stop being emotional. Just because you have issues doesn’t mean others should accept what you did. It’s ok to walk away from stupid and irresponsible people. Stop gaslighting yourself and being so tr1ggered.
@@TheMenace173 dud3 stop being em0t10nal. Just because you have issues doesn’t mean others should accept what you did. It’s ok to walk away from stup1d and irresponsibl3 people. Stop gasl1ghting yourself and being so tr1ggered.
The first call was hard to listen to; I wish she could see she doesn't have to settle for his lack of respect and restraint. I would choose to be alone over and over again than stay in a relationship like that. I hope she can find the strength to leave him.
I think it might be dissociation and being constantly flooded with stress hormones. Unfortunately I knew two women very well who were in similar states. They wouldn't accept help even though they had strong support systems, and they rationalized everything in favor of the justifying what the man was doing. They used their family and friends to vent to, to gain the energy vampirically to go back to their man and give him her best. They turned on their friends who tried to help them. They put their kids in danger while chasing the man. They sounded like she does.
@@HankiMausI agree with you and was about to comment the same thing. That she's in shock and is processing alot of trauma with the husband cheating, the loss of her parents etc. It's alot.
A friend of mind had suddenly broke out in a serious overall body rash, she quickly went to the doctor, She found out her spouse gave her GONORRHEA! THE MARRIAGE WAS OVER! SHE ENDED UP WELL.
I mean if we've talked about it being a hard line for me and he was on board but then I find out he went to a strip club behind my back...then it would be a betrayal but that isnt cheating. But we wouldve had to have a whole conversation about it first where its VERY clear that i feel that way and why I feel that way. Its not cheating just because.
He broke her before she found out about the cheating. She was already broken. She's living in insanity and doesn't even realize it. He's been emotionally and mentally abusing this woman and she doesn't know up from down. She doesn't even have the strength to realize her own worth and GTFO.
How could you consider staying with someone who willingly has such callous does regard for your bodily health and safety? To put you at risk with all those diseases by cheating? And more so risk with an escort?
It will happen again! Don’t put yourself through that! Run! Get out of that marriage. It’s one thing to cheat with the woman that you work with at work, but to cheat with a escort is a whole other level! You deserve better!
If you cheat, you are 100% done with me. I file the divorce papers that very day and you hand over your keys and stay in a hotel period. I don’t understand these people staying with cheaters. I get it’s hard to leave, but it’s harder to stay.
Pain clouds your judgement when you are in this situation, so you have to shut down for a while and just act. Get silent and cut all contact with your husband, hire a private investigator to gather evidence, get a lawyer to start divorce proceedings, and make every breathing moment about maintaining your physical and financial health. And most of all, remind yourself through it all that you will get to rest and feel and live again, but only after he is completely dessimated. You will be rebuilt, better and stronger, out of his destruction. Go get it.
Omg this is the sweetest lady ever. My heart breaks for her because you can hear in her voice that she is worried, nervous and hurting. God please take away her pain!
The third call really got to me. I had a severe eating disorder most of my life, in recovered now- thank goodness! But it truly is a killer. And her poor daughter, I worry for her. So thankful I recovered before having my daughter. ❤
This is why being a trad wife is a dangerous route. She has no career or money of her own, and her husband is essentially a daddy who pays for everything and does what he pleases. There's no escape.
They need to replace her ten dollar mic with a professional one. The sound is frickin' terrible. I actually hate listening to their banter because of it. Their studio sound engineer must be half deaf.
I really loved that 2nd question. I always just naturally defaulted to family taking the children but really thinking about the values and life that you want your kids to have is something really important to think about.
🤮 Absolutely disgusting. I pray she does all the methodologies of healing she needs to do. Whether she works it out with him or she leaves, major adjustments are needed. Her life has been seriously flipped
I honestly don't miss the "song of the day" these new end-segments like "Am I the problem" and "John gets in Social Media trouble" are giving me much more. Thanks for that team! ❤
A married man has no business going to strip clubs & out getting drunk partying all night‼️🚩🚩 Unbelievable she allowed this in the 1st place! Just as a woman has no business going out getting drunk partying all night & going to strip clubs while her husband's at home ‼️ AND they have kids & their Dad/& her husband is out acting like a single young man that likes to party⁉️ 🤦🏽♀️
He had no problem relieving himself in a person who is also messed up and rents herself out as basically a human pay toilet. “Escort” “ affair” sounds so lovely , like you should have these catered. It’s sin, adultery and it tears individuals and families to shreds. This poor, faithful wife could end up with AiDS. It is sickening how society has normalized pornography and prostitution. Great world our kids have ahead of them.
Respect John, "I went out last night with a group of guys and we went to dinner." Men teaching men bad behavior is zero respect, same to women. People shouldn't be doing this to each other. Absolutely awful.
Kayla when a woman leaves the home in these situations she is leaving it wide open for the cheating husband to bring his Playmates into her house. Stay make him leave don't give him a place to carry on his crap
Get out Kayla! As a fellow Aussie Woman please don’t think you have to tolerate this disgusting behaviour for a second longer. He broke a vow to you. It would be all over if it were to happen in reverse so why are you lowering yourself? Every time you forgive a person who mistreats you it lowers your value in their eyes 😞 you will find someone amazing. You didn’t deserve this. Do not stay with this creep. He does not love you. People who love you do not hurt you like this 😞 he will wake up to his actions soon enough and realise that he lost a beautiful woman because of some STD riddled slag. Do not continue this nonsense. You know your worth. Get a divorce and get out while you still can.
It's my impression that 99% of men, if given the opportunity to cheat "safely", will take that opportunity. ("Safely", meaning he believes he won't get caught). Given this, I want to know how we can even encourage women to get married at all. It puts so much as risk when the odds of marrying someone willing to cheat are enormous. The odds of failure only increase thanks to the internet.
Yes, unfortunately here in Germany too. Unfortunately, the big cities in particular are flooded with prostitutes in their “model apartments”. And brothels can advertise officially. Prostitution has been presented here as a “normal service” for over 20 years. I could just puke.
@@bittehiereinfugen7723Yes, I’ve heard that it’s especially bad in Germany. Unfortunately it seems that they wanted it legalised to destigmatise it, but it doesn’t work like that, hence the lack of registration. Yet there are calls for it to be legalised in the US.
@@toomuchinformation Yes, the whole thing officially runs under the guise of preventing forced prostitution and human trafficking. Of course that doesn't work. I see it this way: On the one hand, the state saves a lot of money by no longer carrying out raids or similar, but on the other hand, the state collects significantly more taxes because, on the one hand, prostitutes are supposed to pay taxes (but current figures say that only about 25% do do) and on the other hand, a lot of taxes are collected in the relevant districts through the hotels, bars etc. where all the dirt takes place. The prostitutes no longer have to undergo health checks; for officially registered women, a one-time instruction from the health department is sufficient. And there is a legal requirement to use condoms. As if a prostitute who doesn't make enough money wouldn't start accepting unsafe practices. If a woman who comes from precarious circumstances in an emerging or developing country has enough knowledge about sexually transmitted diseases and their transmission. Unfortunately, the sex and porn industry is very loud and very powerful. And it not only destroys the women who work in it, but also our men, who are literally brainwashed. And that in turn destroys us as partners and our relationships. These effects can already be clearly observed, even if it is not easy to identify them from the outside. But I really fear for the future of our children, our entire society.
@@toomuchinformation And you in the USA should do everything possible to prevent the legalization of prostitution. Nobody “needs” sex, especially if you have to pay for it. Legalization sends completely wrong signals.
DR. Delony can we please get other calls about co-parenting and or how to deal with an abusive ex who you now have to co parent with.... I feel like I see a lot cheating video 😢 I need advice
Call in and ask about it. There have been a lot of calls about parenting and a few about abusive relationships. Best way to hear what you need is to call yourself.
@@jacosisaba I listen all the time that's why I am asking. Most of the calls are about marriages and cheating. Not a lot about parenting if you have any suggestions on what videos I would like to know. I have also called many times and have emailed him twice.
I’m skeptically curious what he means by “North Carolina hasn’t made great decisions lately”…I think banning chemical castration and surgical mutilation for minors is a BIG win.
This is such a violation. Please get help for Betrayal trauma. You didn't invade his privacy you invaded his secrecy . " Snooping " is a symptom of betrayal trauma . You are trying to find safety in an unsafe environment
This is crazy, my wife has all of my passwords and log on codes incase something happens to me- She knows my friends and if they (my buddies) ever caught me possibly doing something inappropriate they would give me the opportunity to tell her and if I didn't, then they would and if it were a true character flaw they probably wouldn't want to be friends anymore with me - been married going on 25 years, marriage/ family for all us us is high priority- couldn't hang out with a guy who viewed it as less- this is crazy.
As someone who is recovering from an eating disorder, that girl should be being talked to about EDs before the alcoholism stuff ever gets brought up. She is so much more vulnerable to the eating disorder stuff than alcohol abuse. Also, the mother "won't admit to it affecting her behavior" because that means opening the door to saying she needs help, and that's scary as heck. Talk to your daughter honestly, and let mom find her way to seeking treatment
Kelly and Delony are so right 😂 Kelly is like his much older sister. She’s gotta gently bully him sometimes and keep him in line and he’s always intentionally irritating her and spreading rumors about her to the masses 😅 but you know he’s the only one that can get away with it without Kelly ripping them to shreds and Delony would rip anyone to shreds who spread those rumors or said those things in seriousness.
If he cheats along with his friends, his friends got to go. The type of people you hang around with says a lot about your personality and judgments. Why do you even still consider staying with someone who decided to do risky things like this and put your health and his in danger? He has no integrity, no moral compass, no loyalty to be a good partner and parent. He can be dumb and senseless, but do you have to be too? Your children need at least one loving and responsible parent.
Oh sister i am breaking listening to you almost exactly the same situation happened to me recently, and I live in Australia, but my husband was/is working in Western Sydney, and I found out he wasnt going to tell me 😢 😢😢😢
A partner of mine, fell in love with one of the escort girls and left. It’s a kind of an addiction unless, it was really, really a first time thing. In her shoes, I’d save as much money as possible, get into the job market, raise my boys peacefully and beautifully and if that man does it again, she has a plan B that she was quietly and wisely, preparing. If she goes back to him, she needs to create a peaceful place for her children otherwise, it’s two more innocent souls in a war zone because Mum could not leave and make hard, adult decisions.
Imagine feeling so bad about yourself that you would stay with someone of such low character after he shows you he has NO respect for you. He obviously has done this before and would have continued to do it without any remorse had she not found out. He even tried to gaslight her when she questioned him. She says she has no one but when we have no one that's when we turn to God. When all is said and done, God is really all we need (although humans are meant to live in community, interpedently-but please choose with discretion).
There's amazing men out there, this guy and those like him are not. Definitely pay attention to who a spouse hangs out with, watches, listens to, and the red flag clues they will subconsciously give you - and hopefully you find this before all out before marriage.
There is no fury as a woman's wrath. Lawyer up and take that man for the house, assets, his pension, child support and lifetime alimony. Teach him a lesson he will never forget!!!
Should’ve kept “Jimmie” in his wallet then. Your first comment is a lie. Men are far more dangerous and draining af. It’s women who should avoid marriage.
John or John's producer, when can you call in? is your show live or prerecorded? I would like to run my situation with my brother past you.. it's getting bad and my parents and I need to know the proper next move. Thank you!
Once a cheater ALWAYS a cheater! Also this lady is not the one that needs a shrink, the husband does. Cheaters disgust me. Get a divorce and take him for everything he has since he cheated. Teach this piece of dirt a hard lesson.
Does anyone know what happened to yesterday’s episode, I’m confused what happened to it. I think it’s private but I was really interested in watching it since it was on a hot button topic.
A guy called about with concerns after finding out that his wife had an OnlyFans page. Dr. John made a comment asking what's her OnlyFans handle. I think Dr. John is "Flash" in the comments...LOL. He's Dr.John's "Top Fan" & biggest defender...even when he messes up. Generally Dr. John is great but sometimes...
I'm confused how it was disrespectful to try to make the man face reality to the fact that any man with internet connection could pay $9.99/month to likely see his wife naked. Why would it make John disrespectful to show reality?
I struggle with anorexia since i was young as well and it is hell. I cant seem to break the spell no matter what i try. I hope she finds her way out of it.
@Scoreflo thank you 🖤 I really really appreciate your kindness. I'm glad your brother was/is there for you! I promise to keep trying to give myself grace.
I hope you're doing better now, and whether you are or not I'd suggest looking into Internal Family Systems therapy. Part of you is trying to protect you from some emotion(s) it doesn't think you're strong enough to deal with. I wish you healing 🙏
@duckz134 thank you. I'm unfortunately still struggling but I'm no longer alone in my battle. I'm hoping with this support I can handle things. I'll look into that, thank you!
As far as picking who your children go to if something happened to you, we chose non-family members, we were both in agreement that the last thing we wanted was someone who's values didn't aline with ours.
I personally find the back-n-forth with John and Kelly to be cringe and icky and not how I ever talked to my siblings. But that’s me. So I usually skip it as fast as I can.
