She would say he was nothing, so she ruined her marriage for nothing? No, she ruined the marriage to get beefed down by 6'6 Chaddeus Vladimir Thunderschlong III.
@@abbthedreamer8378 yes, I want the truth, not some half ass excuse that she thinks I want to hear. If you think otherwise you're just coping And failing with yourself.
It’s always “a mistake”. No. She started an emotional affair, texted AP, made plans, met up with him, had sex, didn’t come clean, tried to love bomb her husband to assuage her own guilt and intended to never confess. How is that “a mistake”? It’s a series of betrayals and acts of disrespect.
@@sanicinapanic4264 the point I’m making is that it is not “a” mistake as in one singular, stand alone, unaccompanied mistake. Her actions were multiple. Plural. Numerous. I’m not quibbling over her use of the word mistake, just the seemingly omnipresent usage of the term “a mistake” as a deceitful minimization. I hope that provides some clarity, I apologize if my original point was not artfully conveyed.
@@sanicinapanic4264 By that interpretation Ted Bundy "made a mistake" or are his intentional actions towards an end he desired somehow different from hers? as if she somehow didn't know having an affair was wrong.
It's a mistake if you actually regret it cuz at the end of the day you can't lie and convince your self your partner is the only attractive person we all know that's lies
@@-lord1754 It's sad. The quote that has stuck with me since I first saw it shared somewhere online a decade ago: "You have to work 10 times harder than your grandfathers for women 10 times worse."
She the worst kind of cheater. She didn't have bad marriage nor she was tempted by other men. She purposely search for other men. She will cheat again in the future that just her nature.
But she was supposed to reject him because she had a loving hasband I can tell that the hasband was also in the same situation with other women but he was still loyal so ain't justifying her actions@@NeoCreo1
Once a cheater always a cheater. She only regrets the fact that her ap spilled the beans to her beta husband as well as the fact that her ap was not good enough to make her forget her family during their session.
remember she knows her husband is reading the posts .. that's the same manipulation women use when they write in a journal they know someone will read. Its all part of the game. I would bet my life she cheats on him again. Maybe 5,10 even 15 years later.
You guys are dum What did you think the husband was doing without using protections? It's obvious the baby wasnt an accident lol, it was just something that happened
@@dukenukem1718 tell me where in the video the husband planned to use birth control. It was a shared choice to not bother. I dont agree with modern feminism and women either, but some of you have equally large biases.
How so? unless this is the exmept your logic is leave someone behind no matter what if they do you wrong by all means he has the right to leave but is no joke if he chooses to let her stay
@@sanicinapanic4264 to disrespect your partner, in such horrific way. To spit on a marriage like that. Is unforgivable to me. He has such low self respect he stays. He’s sad and weak. If the rolls were switched she would left him right away. She almost said as much. To stay dose not make him strong. It makes him a door mat to her forever.
She is goddamn lucky her husband forgave her and stayed with her. If my wife had cheated, I don’t think I would have done so. Also, a total hypocrite. Expects her husband to forgive her when, if the roles were reversed, she wouldn’t have forgiven him.
Because the laws shouldn't be this far skewed in favor of women. Nor men, they shouldn't look at marriage legally as a merging of lives and in fact the state shouldn't be involved at all.
Another weak doormat… Edit: Turns out his father was also cheated on and decided to forgive her. This goes well with my theory that backbones are genetic. You can’t grow one of you don’t have one.
Thank you for saying that the dude is a doormat. I won't even care to see this video. This doormat thing has to be cultural, he saw his father forgiving and this made a bad example to him, he needed to man up and stop this cycle of humiliation.
Was just about to comment this Guess cucks run in the family. Cheating when there's a problem on both sides is 1 thing. Cheating when there is NO problem at all is another. She sounds so damn entitled "we weren't broken, I broke us, so now I must fix us". Hope he finds this post and comes to his senses
Apart of me thinks "doormats" Aren't doormats and some of them are stuck because they know how the Family courts are going to treat them. For all intents and purposes a man inside a family court is almost guaranteed a massive L.
Honestly, it's different when you have kids. It's sad, but I'm sure that's the main reason, and the pain sits in the back of his mind. One more sacrifice for family. The woman deserves full shame. But I think that making that sacrifice for the well being of your kids is noble, if sad.
I really hope she posts another update after she cheats on her husband again, but I doubt she will. She wants the internet to think she’s a good person, despite being horrible and soulless
Women don’t understand the pain a man goes through when their partner cheats. Most men in these relationships work long hard hours just to make enough money to keep everything going. They destroy their bodies and trade their happiness just so their family is safe and comfortable. Then the woman these guys sacrificed their lives for blame the guy for not fulfilling their needs, not making enough money, ex. These women sleep with other guys and often gaslight their partners. The cherry on the top is most of these guys get destroyed in the divorce, often having to support the person who destroyed their lives. Cheating is not a simple mistake.
OP having regret because the AP is bad at sex. God forbid, what might happen if OP meet another guy with the same body type as the AP but good at sex? Also, I hate when people make active DECISIONS that might ruin their own life and called it MISTAKE
My advice for OP on how to save her family is go for shared custody but give the father more time with the kids because he's clearly better at making good adult decisions. Stay civil with your ex and never meddle in his life again. You don't deserve to get him back it's not a "mistake" it was a decision. I'd also reccomend staying away from relationships for awhile atleast until you can grow up a bit as a person. Also admit you decided and planned this and not just blame the guy you found more attractive for being persuasive, just because you regretted it afterwards doesn't mean "oopsie!" If it was amazing you'd be singing a different tune and probably drop the husband instantly but now that it didn't live up to your expectations now it's a mistake.
The fact that she stated nothing was wrong with her husband or their marriage along with no fights or resentment kinda makes matters worse. How can they work on a marriage that wasn't broken to start with? She stated that her affair partner was taller and more muscular than her husband. That means her husbands was not enough and she was attracted to a better man. Aside from getting more fit, the husband can't get any taller. How can he compete? What's to stop her from wanting "more" again? How can he trust her?
This is one of the most popular reddit stories on the site. It's at least 4 years old. The theme is essentially "Confessions of a Female Overt Narcissist".
logic and females dont mix. Dont try to understand them. Its futile. They say the most incoherent contra-dictionary stuff but to them it sounds logical.
As someone who got cheated on while deployed and found out about it over a ig story there is no redemption for cheaters in my eyes if u cheat ur out for good
The only one un this whole story who had balls was sister in law, no real man could see himself in a mirror after going back to a cheating wife that now wants to be perfect for her husband, this are horror stories disguised as hope or redemption fairy tails, a bit of hard love is needed because people learn after betrayals like this when there are consequences but what kind of people gives you advice like "don't break a marriage for a mistake". Cheaters don't deserve second chances and of course women shouldn't tolerate it either, counselors or pastors are doing the demon's job and shouldn't be trusted.
OP is one lucky sob. She wasn't even planning on telling her husband yet she got the best possible outcome she could while she deserved none of it. Even AP got shafted while she got nothing, smh.
Affairs are NOT mistakes they are CHOICES made with one aim which focuses on what YOU want not what's best for the family. Want to keep your family together? Keep your legs together outside of the marriage!
to anyone that cheats and asks how to keep their family together afterwards, I have a simple answer to that. build a time machine, go back, stop yourself from doing it, and the future should be better. oh yea, that's right. you can't. 2nd solution. don't cheat
People shitting on him for trying to mend things really don’t get how a marriage works. He’s not doing this just for her. It’s for the time he lost. It’s for himself. It’s for the kids. Marriages CAN be salvaged even through this kind of shit. It’s hard, it’s painful and it will never be the same again. But there’s a reason why so many people, especially after having kids, decide to stay together regardless. This whole “a happy parent makes for a happy kid” thing is bullshit. Kids who go through a divorce are OBJECTIVELY harmed by it. It’s statistical. If you have kids, considering not divorcing for them is perfectly acceptable. Your happiness doesn’t come before your kids. I’m sorry, but this is what being a parent means. I do not blame this man at all. He seems very mature. And, at the end of the day, even if we just talk about the marriage itself: It’s possible. Y’all have way too much black and white thinking.
I'd give him a "blank check" postnuptial for his lawyer's eyes only. People who cheat often leverage their situation, thinking if they dig their nails in for long enough, they will say the right mash-up of syllables. In truth, the cheaper went all in on a bet and needs to show the other person they can honor a foolish gamble and trust the other person believes in grace. If it was me, the only way a cheater can come back is if we they give me everything including the space and outing themselves. If we reconnect it is because they show they trust I won't take everything
OP: Broken trust for no real damn reason. If your husband will have you back, which isn't a garauntee, you've got a *lot* of work to do to rebuild that trust. He's a pretty solid person.
She is only remorseful about the fact that her ap was not good enough to make her forget her family as well as the fact that he informed her beta husband about what she did despite her attempts to rug sweep it. I also don't buy the part where she claims her pregnancy was not planned. Pretty sure she got pregnant on purpose in order to make it easier for her beta husband to better cope with her cheating.
9:50 "Then he asked me if i understand what i'm asking him to do. I'm asking him to come back home, eat his pride, no, kill his pride, kill any trace of ego he might still have. Don't worry about that. He doesn't have any pride nor ego in the first place, just as one would expect from a beta.
Interesting video content. My relationship of 5 years ended a month ago. The love of my life decided to leave me, I really love her so much I can’t stop thinking about her, I’ve tried my very best to get her back in my life, but to no avail, I’m frustrated, I don’t see my life with anyone else. I’ve done my best to get rid of the thoughts of her, but I can’t, I don’t know why I’m saying this here, I really miss her and just can’t stop thinking about her.
Just a matter of time bro. Believe me. Just be strong. If you want to cry, CRY! But never beg her. Delete her from your life. You will not even think of her an year after.
Assuming the story is true, the husband is pathetic. He lets his wife get away completly with nothing after breaking his trust in such an incredible way. He takes all the blame and "protects the honour of his wife" that didn't have any respect for him. He then makes the AP lose his job by complaining to HR. Complete doormat
This is what every woman has the potential to do. Every single one without exception. When a taller, better man comes into her life, she WILL leave with 0 exception.
She is disgusting for this and most likely will do this again (especially after hearing how husbands parents are still together after multiple affairs) but this guy is a complete door mat and also at fault He put her above his own needs too many times according to what she wrote... he lets her go out with friends after work while he stays in with the kids and gets no time for himself??? what? And he took her back after this... He is just looking for trouble at this point. I'd take full custody of the kids and find a better woman to be with.
These things are never just " a mistake ". These are a series of decisions tens, hundreds, sometimes even thousands of decisions to deceive, gaslight and, outright lie! All in an effort to try to get away with something that they shouldn't even be attempting. Your husband was a perfect man, and you still cheated on him. How selfish must you be.
She's only relieved that husband is still giving her money huh? Also if your partner is OK with you sleeping with someone else, no matter the reason, they don't actually love you.
i dont think he was ok with it as he was definitely saddened and angered by it. but that goes even more to show that the husbands a doormat showing how he'd still forgive her.
A way to keep the family together after cheating? Own up to the crap you did, and leave in shame. Other ways of leaving could lead the rest of the family to resent their dad if they're unaware of the backstabbing, while the cheater isn't part of that family to begin with, even if she gave birth to some of them and married the other.
Let him go, he deserves a chance to find someone that loves and respects him. Let him have the kids, they deserve a role model that will teach them morals and healthy relationships
"I want to absolutely make it clear to him I have made a horrible mistake..." No. She has made a horrible sequence a choices and she's facing the consequences of it.
He was perfect? They were together for 16 years? Well there goes my hopes of finding a loving wife and being a great father. I don't want to put a child through that or the current state of the world at large (crime and war games)
This sounds like the generic, "perfect housewife got cheated on," story, but a genderbend version. My advice is the same regardless: don't stay with a cheater.
His problem was that he placed her on a pedestal. The amount of “perfect” husbands getting cheated on is staggering because the women don’t respect them. A you can’t love someone you don’t respect. OP husband made her needs the priority and she paid him back by cheating. If he stays with her then he deserves every bit of sorrow that comes.
Let him go. You can't possibly understand the pain he suffered from your actions. If you see your husband sleep with a younger more attractive woman, then you'd understand. Your relationship is over. Give him space and allow him to move on. That would be a kindness you could show him.
If they didn't have kids, he'd be outta there so fast. From what I can tell, it seems like he's primarily doing this for the sake of his kids. And for those that think cheating is a mistake, you are so wrong. It takes so much premeditation to get to that point that theres know way the cheater is clueless as to whats going on.
This is what happens when a narcissist marries a fool. The husband us absolutely weak. She said there were zero problems with the marriage but ignores the several issues the husband had. If he stays he deserves whatever he gets.
All I have to say is that I wish that the op didn’t get a second chance, she genuinely doesn’t deserve a guy like him and that she should have just suffered the consequences of her selfish actions
We need to stop calling our poor choices mistakes a mistake is me bumping into a someone and they fall a mistake is me sending a text to the wrong person or leaving the window open she made a poor choice i always find it sad when a person takes back a cheater she cheated she broke ur trust to me its crazy tht someone could do tht even with kids i wouldnt be able to do it once u cheat the marriage has become a sham all tht time spent and effort and energy all tht love and affection becomes a lie anyone willing to cheat on u "because they could" is nkt a person u could trust
Just wash away your shame like samurai. And your family will be together. Btw, how her husband could be perfect if she literally found taller and more handsome?
It's always a mistake after sex, and never before the fact. Either lie or admit it, but don't act like this couldn't be avoided a few steps prior to sex.
What a hypocrite women claiming she wouldn't forgive him if he did the same but wants to keep marriage when she does it😂women☕ the guy is weakling for continuing the marriage and the women didn't get punished enough at all
Honestly I don’t get it. Making that mistake even early stages was stupid in the first place but what gets me more than that is how she responds to it “I’m even willing to let him sleep with other women” are you sure you love him at all then after all you’ve done? No one who loves their partner can say that. If I was cheated on and the girl told me that it’s an instant nail in the coffin because that statement alone tells me the exclusive lifelong bond we had means nothing to her. There is no recovery from that. You expect me to believe you made a mistake and you’d do anything to change it but to you “well just sleep with other women we’re even” is okay. Nah. Absolutely not. That is an act exclusive to your partner not some stupid handshake. Your kind soul and body are one you defiled him and showed him what he was really worth when you cheated the least you could do is stone by letting him come to terms and make his own choices rather than trying to bribe him with his own affair
Once a cheater, ALWAYS CHEATER. You can find some that will sugar coat it, but the trust never returns. You have to ask yourself do you want to settle for that and see how long you can stay together or just accept it's over and separate.
Fake or not, it has happened somewhere sometime. People are terrible, and you never know who will stab you in the back while smiling and looking you in the eye.
