My Son Isn't Paying Rent, Should I Evict Him? 

The son will not understand how bad he messed up until he has to pay a real landlord.

It drives me crazy when people have this kind of opportunity and sabotage a good thing. ☺️

I don’t understand how parents let their kids run their lives

$740/month for a house? I live in NJ and I pay $1500 for a 3 bedroom apartment.

never rent to relatives and friends!

The son will not take care of her when she's old. Just watch.

Never rent a house or apartment to a friend or relative, you must keep it strictly bussiness, and when you have this kind of proximity becomes impossible and people will take advantage

..... my parents dont ask me to pay rent im also 22 (they make it a point for me to save) but i got 2 full time jobs and when they get older my life’s purpose will be to look after them no retirement home for my folks

It was a bad idea to let them move-in in the first place. Boundaries 101.

Right, just don't rent to family or friends. Or even lend money. My nephew recently called out of the blue wanting some money because he was unemployed. Instead, I offered to help him look for a job and create a resume for him. (I'm a recruiter in human resources). He got mad and I never heard from him again. I think Dave would have enjoyed this story!

no rent = no gas, water, electricity, etc.

The son has made some adult choices that aren't productive for him being independent and responsible. He is 22, chose willfully a low paying job, is shacking with his girlfriend, and they have a child together. Not really very responsible, but what is done is done. Mom is trying to be helpful by charging them less than market rate rent, but the two adults living there must feel entitled or can't afford to be out on their own and take care of their child. But whatever the reason, mom is NOT responsible to pick up the slack and support them. It is nice to want to do it for the grandchild's sake, but long term it breeds more entitlement and irresponsibility on their part, and contention in their relationship. Selling the house is an excellent choice, but if mom needs it has an income property, giving them 2-3 months of rent free living and then requiring them to move would be best. Good advice Dave.

The solution is so perfect. Don't destroy the relationship and keep your $$$.

I WISH my parents were fortunate enough to give me this opportunity. All I can do is shake my head

I'm so addicted to these dramatic calls.

When you have everything, money, house and life, you will have family member like this, and they will NEVER call you when you in difficulty. That’s just how amazing those people are.

I love how he took the time to so clearly go over what to say and what to do.

So he basically wants all the freedom of living like an adult with none of the responsibility. He should have stayed at home with his parents. 🤷🏾‍♀️

This is a very sad story. I can not believe that people like these exist for real.

Mom spoiled him.

Yeah I’m 22 living with my folks still but I’ve been saving $270 a week for a down payment on a house and $10,000 will go towards my emergency fund. Helping your kids save by not charging rent while they’re still at home is the biggest kind of help you could provide financially (as long as they’re actually saving) I just wish I didn’t start so late. But I’ve learned a good lesson from it because I know my plan for my children when I do decide to become a father is for them to save money for a house or college while they’re living at home.

30 seconds in and I was screaming “evict him”

Really liked Dave’s guidance on this. Saving the relationship is key

Pack your bags, Jimmy.

"he knows better, he's been taught better" Well apparently not.

When relatives ask you to move in or borrow money get any agreements in writing. Sometimes you're better off helping strangers than family.

My dad called me crazy when I offered help to pay the monthly household expenses.

I'm in Columbia and I would pay $520 a month and be an amazing tenant! 😂

Bwahaha! I wasn't expecting Dave to say to sell the house. It literally made me laugh all the way out loud!! Woooo! Thank you for what you do #Babystep2

In asian households the kids live with the parents don't pay rent but eventually they do anyway to look after their parents

OMG!!!! I am so happy to come across to this channel! My daughter is 23 years old she has a 2 year old baby boy. She treats me really bad. I want to get her out of my house. But I feel guilty.

A lot of people know how to handle their kids but don't want to. I like how she tried to hold up the grandkid card to get pity. So many enablers these days because they "love my grandchildren." Oh, puhleeze!! Tina Turner said it best when she said: What's love got to do with it?

As a son and being 49 years old myself, I am astounded by this. My parents paid for little after I was 18. I would be ashamed. He probably likes to get high at work at the restaurant and knows electrical work will be...work.

One mother tried to throw her grown son out of the house; he killed her.

This can end up sticky. Maybe she doesn't want to sell the house. Maybe she would be much better off renting it for $1,100 while it increases in value over then next years. And if she doesn't sell it, then she is a liar and a manipulator. If she does sell it, if that's only because Dave told her to, she may regret it for a very long time, because that was not her plan, it was Dave's, and she will feel that she was forced to do something because her son put her in that situation. It's a lose-lose. I say give them one month to pay the rent, or start eviction procedings the way you would with any tenant if they refuse to leave on their own. Being a landlord is a business, it is not a charity.

It reminds me a little of a situation I know - only it may be worse. My mother is so narcissistic that she’s gifting my sister a home a few doors away from her, that my sister can’t likely afford - although it’s mortgage free. My sister is used to working 4 jobs to hold onto a 1 bedroom apartment. My sister has also barely been present for decades, while I’ve been putting in all the work. But, as my mother doesn’t like an independent 50+ year old, she’s decided to scapegoat me and will not likely leave me the house she currently lives in. So, my sister doesn’t realize that she’s being used as a bat to bear me over the head with. I’m staying away from the whole thing. My mother and sister will likely kill each other at some point. But, for now, they’re huddled together, feeling that I’m all they’ve got and that I need to take abuse from them. That, although I’m the one with most of the information about the family business, I need to give it up - and still expect abuse.😆 At least this woman owns the home her son lives in and can sell it. My MotherShit to sign over the deed and I bet my sister is ready to run to the bank (my mother), every time she can’t pay property taxes, electricity, heat or for other repairs. Then, when the SHTF - they probably think they’re going to come to me, stuck living in my 1 bedroom and actually ask for help!😆 Then, they may think I’m going to help provide care for my mother - on the off chance I haven’t been future faked into thinking I’ll inherit anything - after my mother gives her the other house OR she completely loses her narcissistic mind and my sister signs that deed over to herself, too! Tweedle Dumb and Tweedle Dee with a “plan”. They don’t know, they’ve both alleviated me from ever lifting a finger! I’d much rather never see that wicked pair ever again! 😂😂😂

When I was pregnant with my firstborn, my dad gave me the best advice. Don't get so caught up in raising children, that you forget you are raising future adults. That child now puts himself through school working 3 jobs so he doesn't have student debt. My other son has CHOSEN to pay rent since he got his first job at 17, contributing to other expenses too. That son was a born capitalist LOL I was a single mom making little, so I could not give them allowances. So he would ask me to buy him a thing of cool press on tattoos at the Dollar Tree. He turned around at school and sold each tattoo individually. He took the money he made from those, put some aside, and used the rest to buy more to sell ( Mind you this was in 2nd grade ). That carried through high school when he'd buy day-old donuts and sell them one by one. Turned a $1.50 investment into $12.00 a day. I'm glad I listened to my dad! I think you would have gotten along great, Dave!

She straight up cackled when he mentioned the girlfriend. Lol.

This is actually really good advice. Dave is so smart.

Plz. They aint going nowhere. they wont let realtors in. It will still be an eviction if she has the guts.

She clearly does not like the girlfriend and wants to blame her for the son not doing what he should. If he was taught better he would go out and get a better job. If he was taught better he would be sticking to the agreement he made with his mother. You raised an entitled twerp and then are trying to blame the girlfriend for that behaviour.

That's a ploy that landlords do to get nonpaying renters out. Sometimes they really do sale property. Cause no way stay there with new owner.

A legal eviction in court is public record in my town.

What a sad world, when folks can't handle conflicts anymore without the help of the internet. How did we exist the last 2000 yrs?????

The son isn't living WITH her mum then yes, kick him out. If he was under the same roof, its a bit harder but if you own the property and he is living at this place then he is just like any other tenant

Love the way you handled that Dave. Was thinking the same but got a shock when a few seconds later you said what I was thinking.

I’m 24, single with no kids and still live with my dad and I pay about $230 a month for my part of rent/cable and I also pay my part for utilities, so all together I pay like $300 a month, but the bills are also split 4 different ways (since there’s 4 people living here)

i can hear jimmy when his mother gets old , he will say , " ok. mom you looked after me all my life and now that you're old and decrepit , you only have to take care of yourself "!

I wonder what he would say about that 30 year-old Michael Rotondo that had to be evicted by his parents?

This is what my husband had to do with his adult children and they are 24 and 26.

Let them deal with a real land lord and see what true life really is.

EVERYBODY SAY "FREE RENT!"

wow Dave u give great advice. Excellent conversation. I would have never said this.

There’s a generation of 20 somethings just like this. Mommy and daddy creating their own little monster.

Marriage and financial stability first. Then, you can decide to have kids. That’s the mature and wise way to do it.

My sister and her boyfriend are doing the same thing to my Mother. Her son and his girlfriend are not going anywhere. It's a free ride.

I would pay a deposit and first month's rent on an apartment for them (rented in his name), and then they would be on their own. I will make sure my grandkids are fed but I'm NOT paying my kids' bills.

I have no problems doing that. I kicked out my son who was 19 years old at the time for selling drugs in my home. Cops rated my house. He has been gone since.

you can tell it's a mom being mad at her son by the way she said "Hi Dave, thanks for taking my call". That means for "my son is pissing me off and i need to know way to whoop him into shape"

Great advice! Ingenious! Tactful! Probably the only way to save their relationship.

D.R. you need to have a follow up show, that would be awesome!! Get a hold of your old callers, and find out what the outcome was to these more prominent calls.

My brother told his girls that they needed to pay rent if they lived with him. He understood that his girls needed to see that money leave their account like it would be if they lived somewhere else. One out of four girls got the blessing. The one who stayed and respected the rules received most of that money back. My brother was saving it for my niece. He thought that she might blow through the money. So she was already accustomed to paying rent before moving to her first place. She had money for moving expenses and more from dad because she listened.

My nephew making $40k at minimum wouldn't pay his mother $400 per month rent. Meanwhile, he traveled all over and had lavish meals out

Learning heaps from this channel...more than just $

There may be reasons he can’t get things together. Unfortunately, he needs to be pressured to face the problem.

He is getting a deal he should be happy to be helping his mom.

I am in the same spot with my 24 year old son. I gave him a boundary of a move out date and if he doesn’t move by that date then I am evicting Him. So I would rec do the same.

After he leaves he will go to rent another home where they will request his rental history. Then the new prospective landlord will call his Mom. Interesting.

“ you don’t want to drive a unhealthy wedge between you and your son” so tell him I’m gonna sure you if you don’t move out. 😂🤦🏾‍♂️

Where is the father? Why would someone want to legally evict their son and grandchild.

The generosity of good people who are successful enough to be crazy generous changes lives...not the government

My parents would never allow me to pay rent if I stayed home. Then again, in my city you can't find a decent paying job either and rent is crazy high. My parents own a big house. They would prefer I live with them but I had enough of it. Living with parents after a certain age becomes very damaging for your personal life and choices. I don't recommend. There's a reason why you move out as an adult. I moved out of the country and they still can't accept it.

I hope this mom listens to Dave. It's disheartening to see your child settle for $9/hr when they have the potential to make $20/hr at such a young age. As a parent you can see up the road where your kids can't in life. If you see them making bonehead decisions early on it's best you give them a hard lesson to help them straighten up before they get old. This is not a matter of either party being bad. This is a matter of TEACHING your child (ESPECIALLY A MAN CHILD) to do what he was created to do. And that's NOT lay around on mommy and daddy forever. If your man enough to make a whole other human. MAN UP and take care of that baby without depending on your parents. I hope this grown son thinks about where he wants his child to be when he becomes an adult.

trying to evict 2 family members....i pay my light and gas bill then they call and get extensions making the bills double with late fees and revolving door of shutoff notices every month So now i wait to pay my portion so they pay what they owe first i cant afford a lawyer to evict them i hate it i want them out NOW

they may end up living with her unfortunately!

over $700 making $9 per hour? that's way too much. I understand but you gotta have an understanding of your son struggle. be has a kid and a woman to also take care of. he should pay something definitely but not over 700

How sad that she has to sell the house , why not just ask him to move out?

Better yet. Tell him you can't afford the property and your putting it on the market. When the house sells your will give him $1000 for a deposit and once he is out another $3000. I use the word "afford" not in the money sense, but it the worry and stress of your relationship with him. From that point on you can not longer "afford"" cash gives except for planned events like birthdays and Christmas that have a set amount in your budget.

Man this was great advice

My sister and her husband barely pay my mother. And when I talk about I’m the bad guy 🤷🏾‍♂️

No girl would be living in a house owned by me with my son and not being married. That would never be allowed. The 22 year old needs to get a better paying job so that he can support his child. That is his RESPONSIBILITY . Also, the child's mother needs to also get a job PERIOD! Even IF they started paying their rent, garbage, water, waste water, electricity/gas I would still sell the house and put that money towards my retirement. He is taking advantage because his landlord happens to be his mother. He needs a good @$$ whipping.

NEVER RENT TO RELATIVES.... In this situation right now!!!! Had to sell to get from under this situation!!!!! My brother said the property is family owned. Property Taxes, insurance , Maintenance, and Repair don’t care about family.... I Will Never RENT to FAMILY EVER Again!!!!!!!!!!!

I agreed with the brilliant plan to sell the house, but with the threat and ultimatum - not so much. Why not sell it and let the chips fall where they may, that is, if the new owner or the bank evicts him, the Mom is out of the loop.

I would like to know the outcome to this

My 19 year old daughter won't go to college and won't get a job. I feel like if I put her out she's going to end up making the worst choices. It's easy to tell someone to kick their relatives out when they're not your own.

LOL what is with these parents asking Dave parenting advice? This is WHY he is the way he is.

Saw this in the recommended section from all the news videos about the 30 year old guy who got sued by his parents.

This is really good advice though Dave.

Don’t evict grandchildren! My grandparents did that to us because my dad (their son) drank the money. Still hurts.

I would also remind him that if you evict him,it will stay on his financial record and he will have a hard time for a long time afterward.

Dave is 100% correct on this one

Rules are rules. It's your house plain and simple. Shame on him.

“Although rent is a normal incident of the landlord-tenant relationship, the relationship may be created without any duty on the part of the tenant to pay for the possession and use of the premises if such is the express intent of the parties. Restatement (Second) of Property, Landlord & Tenant §12.1 (1977), comment b (“Effect if no rent reserved in the lease”). If no rent is reserved in the lease, the tenant is not under any obligation to pay rent.”

That was some excellent advice.

Best advice you’ve ever given...

I was thinking “evict him” but Dave came up with the right solution IMO.

The only way i would charge my son rent would beif he was blowin his money carelessly, otherwise i would let them live for free too save up for a down payment on his own place.

Don't date and don't have a kid when you're making $9 an hour

Good advice

I wud rather have my son off the street and help him than a few dollars. ....you already pay for the house. give him time and encourage him to do better in a Godly way....don't loose your son