My Thoughts on Jess Hilarious vs TS Madison 

I know this is probably not my place to say as a man but there is NO WAY a trans woman can EVER tell a woman how to be a woman in womendom(if that makes sense). To try to tell a natural born woman that they aren't the gatekeepers of periods is bonkers to me. Who df else is gonna be the gatekeepers bcuz men sure don't have periods. Sometimes people just need to chill and know their place

I am a trans woman and a long time supporter of you Bondy and I am just so tired of the loudest part of my community! I hear biological women saying that we don’t hold our own accountable but a lot of us are private citizens who aren’t trying to be social Justice warriors or activists like Hope Gizelle. I don’t have a big platform, I just wanna live as a woman privately and go about my life, but unfortunately when fools like the trans woman who started all of this or the Sidney Starrs or the Cherry Booms come across as disrespectful, all of us get cast away and it’s so hard because I’m a trans woman who has the utmost respect for women. I honor who I emulate. I’m a trans woman who doesn’t use cis or fish because I know it makes a lot of women uncomfortable and I care about women. I’m a trans woman who doesn’t believe in trans women being in women’s sports or spaces for biological women. Now can we cross over when it comes to talking about more surface things? Like beauty, skin care, fashion, even men? Yes! But I don’t want to fight with women about who owns periods and womanhood because the answer is obvious! BIOLOGICAL WOMEN own all of that and are obviously the blue print and any trans woman who disagrees is insecure! I love my black mom and I was accepted by her so maybe that’s why I don’t have hate in my heart like a lot of the other trans women, but Gosh it’s out of hand! Also I know there are some real women who simply just don’t like trans women at all and are using this as an opportunity to even extinguish ones like me who do not agree with these misogynistic trans women but Bondy you’ve always been fair and understanding and real and I don’t always comment but I’m always watching your tv show reviews every week! Love you girl.

I'm so tired of the disrespect women get from men from all sides. The masculine and the feminine ones want to control our language, our identity, and our bodies. I'm tired.

I hate the label "cis~women" We are natural born female/ women

First off I DO NOT identify as cis. I am a natural born woman who will never be jealous of someone who wants to BE me. You hit the nail on the head “misogyny” a bunch of men trying to dictate to me who I am. Be whoever you feel you are I support you but watch your mouth when you speak on me or I’m coming for you. You have to give respect to get it.

As a TRANS woman myself I would never DOWNGRADE my black women. My mom, sister and nieces are BLACK women. Black women are the embodiment and epitome of what a WOMAN is. I come from a lineage of BLACK women. I do not have it in my heart to downgrade one's identity for the sake to give me space. In all due honesty, I live a relatively private life and the experience for me is albeit personal. I thank black women for being gracious and kind enough for us black TRANS women to even exist and support. Even though I am apart of the LGBTQIA+ community I do not claim myself to be apart of the community because of reasons such as this. Real women, at the end of the day, did not ask for the word CIS to be placed in front of their gender...rightfully so because they are not apart of the community, gender wise. The word CIS to me is degrading a person to bring them to the level of another label, in this case, trans. I do not see the problem/issue/disrespect with real women called WOMEN and a trans woman as TRANS. All I want to say is this to my black women...I love you all, support you and will continue to fight for you. Even as a trans sister, I can hear the pain and frustration in your voice and you have every right to. You have the right to live your truth by expressing such issues because your feelings are valid and the issues are real. If real black women did not exist, there would be no black trans women. PERIODT. I love my black women! PERIODT. Sincerely, your black trans sister.

Bondy I just wanna take the time out to appreciate you hitting on this topic and breaking it down with the care and respect you showed both parties.

My only problem is don’t call me a “Cis woman” bc I’m a whole ass WOMAN without the CIS!!!! Biologically!!!🤦🏽‍♀️🙄

This world is messed up I hate it here

OMG, listening to Bondy is like going to school and listening to the professor. She always comes thru giving lessons, schooling, and making sense. 👏😊

They won't hold the men accountable because they still want to sleep with them, but blame us these same men won't claim them in public. This is the real issue.

Well…Bondy Cleared the air and Cleared all of the Misogynistic Trans-Women….💅🏾 IT’s misogyny in a Skirt.

Thank you!!!!! You have PERFECTLY articulated EXACTLY what I’ve felt! It felt intellectually disingenuous to play gender politics when addressing biological functions. The lines were muddied purposely. And when we respond out of our frustrations, we’re blamed for the violence against trans women. It’s just gaslighting bs and I’m over it. We can have compassion and empathy, but the respect has to go both ways.

The old school transwomen are content with themselves and just live life but it's the new school that feel the need to compete. I hate that TS Madison felt the need to jump in this. She sat next to Khia for years while she said every slur possible. Jess comment was not directed at her.

Thank you Bondy!!! You said everything that needed to be said. My biological feminism shouldn't offend psychological feminism. I was born a woman, will die a woman. Thats it, thats all.

Thank you for calling Maddie out. She inserted herself into this and only took issue with Jess. She dropped her response and a article in Rolling Stone calling Jess homophobic. She new exactly what she was doing and I can't support her no more because of that.

The crazy thing is when I was living in Atlanta Cherry was my roommate before she ever presented as a trans woman. I as a “real” women never threw her any shade at her and didn’t do anything but support her. As well as other women that I knew she hung with. I respected her for who she was regardless of how she looked. But even then I noticed that Cherry would mess with down low men. Many of whom would try to abuse her if she went public about them. (And they were some hood dudes too which definitely opened my eyes btw) And to keep it all the way real she and many of the other homosexual men/rising trans women like her did nothing but fight each other! VIOLENTLY AS HELL MIGHT I ADD. For hating on EACH OTHER. I don’t think us cis gendered women are the problem or ever were, we are the reason space has been made for trans women because we were always excepting of trans women or even homosexual men. Way more excepting than even the men they choose to deal with. It’s just so sad to see that’s how she really feels because I’ve actually always rooted for Cherry. Bondy I’m so glad you covered this because you are correct, they need to begin not only holding these down low men accountable, but themselves as well for the hateful rhetoric they spew to not only women but towards each other in their own communities!

I don’t like the arguing, but I am extremely happy that this conversation is being had.

Bondy Blue THANK YOU 🙏🏽 THANK YOU 🙏🏽 THANK YOU 🙏🏽 💐💕👏🏽 I said the same thing; “if you are going to continue to call me a cis woman after I tell you not too, then I will continue to call you a man when you want to be called a trans woman” “RESPECT NATURAL BORN WOMAN JUST LIKE TRANS WANT US TO RESPECT THEM”

Gaslighting by saying that you felt like a woman inside, but wanted your outside to match but it had nothing with wanting to be a woman? This is giving narcissistic male energy.

I have such an appreciation for your ability to address, dissect and, educate on divisive matters❤

Maddy was mistaken saying transphobia affects all women. No I t’s not Transphobia that affects all women, is the misogyny and misogynoir that affects us all. We live in a patriarchal society that hates everything feminine. It isn’t exclusive to trans women and I wish everyone would understand that. Trans women act like they are the only women being unalived because that’s the same argument they keep going to as if cis women are to blame.

Yes it’s the internalized misogyny of the first trans woman that makes this problematic. I have noticed it’s been a trend against some of the trans women to speak down on biological women. It goes to show you no matter how some people chose to express themselves deep down they hate real women.

These people can’t think their way out of a paper bag. What Jess experienced wasn’t transphobia 🙄. We ALL know society including black males denote all black features as masculine. Jess simply has black features so in society’s eyes she’s masculine; that’s a deep rooted non-trans issue. TS and the people that responded like her only want to tell us how and what to think. TS was transphobic in her response. And lastly, trans men would NEVER demand this of bio men; they’d be met with violence on some level bc they are still female. Flame is about the only trans woman I’ve seen shoot it straight without disparaging themselves or anyone else. I was so disappointed in Funky’s recent realization of the issue too. Thanks for speaking on this bc it is so draining defending ourselves at EVERY angle.

Come through bondy !!👏🏾👏🏾 you breaking it down perfectly!!!

One thing Bondy is going to do is make sense of it and explain it right. Thank you so much for this Bondy because as a woman that's exactly how I feel

I am not a Cis woman...I am a woman period!! No one is about to rename me but you want to be able to recall your self Transgender femaie

That's all that needs to be said. At the end of the day a woman is a woman and a trans woman is a trans woman. Period. No pun intended.

Thank you for clearing air. It's time for women to speak up for ourselves.

I'm not a cis anything...I'm a natural women and sadly it's being pushed onto us.. I work in corporate and that language was in a recent training 😔.. And let's not act like the LGBTQ community don't use the term Sis very loosely.. Even gay men call each other Sis.. So if the term is used so loosely who can identify it when it used to represent a natural woman..

Thank you, love. You are saying everything I was thinking. Not to be disrespectful, but the transgender men and the non-binary people were born as cisgender females.

I started watching this because I wanted to here what Jess said. However, the longer i watch, I'm convinced this topic is not worthy of attention. I am a Black Woman, born and raised. Period!

👏thank you Bondy. I want the respect I give. If I say I do not want to be called cis respect that. I want my existence respected as I respect others' existence. I am glad to hear people are starting to get it.

If women say they don't like the term CIS no one especially a man should tell us what we are. I don't like the word Cis Periodt! In my opinion women need to focus on women ONLY. We have given enough and it's time to be selfish. Also if a man sleeps with another man they aren't straight

I was at work during this live and I was small listening so I missed this party but I knew you made your points very clear as always Bondy. See you on Kandi tonight 💙💙💙

You better talk that talk Bondy! Awesome breakdown!

I feel like some trans women NEED to believe we're jealous of them, it gives them something. 🤷🏿‍♀️

I normally don't comment but as a biological woman and mother I had to say thank you Bondy for addressing this because biological women need protection also. We try to be supportive of trans women but for some of them to try to discredit us the way that some of them do is disheartening. They dont truly understand the things we have to go through with giving birth and having actual period and what our bodies go through with both.

I stand with Jess hilarious all day long. This is getting out of hand.

Cherry has been problematic for years. There’s plenty of trans women that do not like Cherry and I can see why. Straight trash. Nobody’s jealous of cherry. 🥴 Bondy you broke all of this down effortlessly, and respectfully. I enjoyed and agree with everything you said here. ❤️

I’ve been trying to sum up your commentary and how you are ALWAYS on point Bondy. I know that you love what you do, but I see you standing at a podium in somebody’s college/university as Professor. Thank you for what you teach us in these moments.👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾

Bondy you are soo right. Thank you for trying to explain how I feel to people that want me to feel wrong for feeling the way I do.

Thank you for this Bondy. Thank you. 💯🙏🏽💯

New subscriber! I really appreciate the way you broke this down, these were my sentiments exactly. 💙

Some things that are quite strange to me 1. The need for women to have a pre-fix, we simply ARE. Those who are not born into womanhood are the ones who require a label/pre-fix. 2. Why are we even having a conversation about "performing" womanhood? We don't perform because again, we naturally are! Tis all...

Bondy Blue I love your channel because you make sense thank you. I am going to speak up for women and I appreciate you understanding and explaining it so perfectly ❤

Thank you. I learned a lot watching this and was waiting for a woman to really explain this bc I didn't understand why ppl were so upset. I know now and understand why some women do not want to be called cis. You're truly a gift and I can't wait to see and hear you as you continue to grow, Bondy!

There are people who claim they are the president of the US and attempt to move in, we don't give them the top position in the Whitehouse. They get sent to the psych ward because its crazy talk and behavior. But for some reason we have a group of people in the population who are born one way saying reality is wrong and are now something else. Requiring everyone to validate their delusion based on their feelings. This is insane. They need help. I feel wealthy, where is my money. I feel like I should go on vacation every month, now who is going to validate my mf delusions? "I feel" does not trump "what is" real. Men are men even if they have on dresses. Let's stop validating mentally ill individuals delusion.

I do not care who someone wants to be, it bothers me when who I am naturally is encroached upon and I’m expected to smile and accept it. Patriarchy even when they want to be women. They are men and it makes me think of Kendrick Lamar’s song DNA 🧬, that man mindset is down to the bone no matter the surgery or how they dress up. We as the archetype and the goal and still to trans women we are less than they. How we feel, our lives, our rights, our spaces or our bodies is invalid. It speaks volumes when some believe a women is hair, makeup and high heels, isn’t that wild. I’m sorry someone who is NOT a woman can not do womanhood better than me. I grew to this I am not new to this. I don’t have to put on a costume it is who I am from the womb. That comment is so weird.

Bondy you are always on point!

I’m 100% in agreement with Jess and your response and no man can tell me how to feel

Thank you for speaking on this Bondy 💙

Loved this video Bondy! You preached tonight!💯💯💯💯

Girrrl! I just found you! And you are "SPEAK ON IT" FACTS

Thank you for this!!❤

Saw you on Speak On It , had to come follow on all platforms 💜

The ABSOLUTE Best commentary I’ve heard to date on this subject. WELL SAID Bondy🎤🎤 Dropped

Thank you Lord for Mrs. Blue and the truth she brings forth in this conversation. 🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽

Totally respect and agree with you on all levels regarding this topic - thank you for your truth and honesty 💜

Yes! Thank you for keeping it real❤

The trans girls need to understand that at our biological, real women meetings, we NEVER discuss being jealous of men in wigs trying to cosplay us. We support them but we are not the same.

You made so much of this make sense. I already had an opinion about it. But you brought so much more clarity. A Transgender woman having an issue with the one specific thing that separates her from a Natural Born Woman, is something that only a man would choose to debate. So no matter what changes a man makes to be a woman, his way of thinking as a man, stays the same. It's natural through our make up. I had to look up Cis-gender when I was doing a survey. I was wondering when did this change? It doesn't make sense to me. And you get to a point that you get tired of making allowances for [some] people who won't make them for you.

I’ve been waiting to hear your perspective on this. Also looking forward to seeing you on Speak on it tonight.

Bondy is absolutely right, and the point about gay men and trans women being misogynistic and also hating on each other and lusting over str8 men... these are FACTS. Omg.

Thank you for always telling it right and true Bondy!!!

Extremely valid points you’ve made💯

Damn you said it best.. Thanks-for shedding light on this..

You did that. ❤ I watched twice … I’m sure I’ll come back around to watching a 3rd time at some point as well.

Whew thank you Bondy. Thought I would hear this some other CC who claim to be advocated for women yet they’ve taken stance with the other side. Using cherry the boom a transwoman who KNOWINGLY hates ciswomen to prove a point. Like Omgggg. As a woman I’m here for the benefit of women FIRST! I literally thought I was going crazy and that maybe I am transphobic but seeing this cleared it up for me! Thank you!

I been avoiding these posts because folks are all over the place. I decided to listen to Bondy speak on it, cause i trusted her to 1) Keep it real 2) be educated on the topic and 3) be empathetic to both sides. Bondy came thru. I better understand what was going on now.

Love You girl! 💯 All of your commentary are broken down with extreme intelligence! This one, and The one on coleslaw & Tasha K was epic! As such; The way you spoke on Kandi's show and the way you protect Melody Shari is Second to none! Extremely intellectual! Authentic & straight forward! Thank you!

I appreciate Hope's response as well. Thank you ❤

Thank you Bondy. It needed to be said

If I don't know ish else...I know Bondy coming with the MFKN facts. We need you on fox soul to help Claudia get the point across.

Congratulations on the recent speak on it episode Bondy. 🎊 🎉

I was waiting patiently for this. ☺️

Bondy you are the Realest, always clear, concise and on point. ❤️❤️

Someone PLEASE tell me WHERE you can BUY a period 😂🤔

Thank you for speaking out!!

This best response to this topic by far!

Thank you so much Bondy Blue for brick this down. Respect us please!😔😎

Jesse was right, these men are going insane😡😡😡👎👎

Thank you Bondy!!💙💙💙

I enjoyed you on speak on it with Kandi. So I had to come subscribe. I’m excited to view your content

Jess was speaking the truth! Like the saying goes, truth hurts! Do trans wanna bleed? Please tell them it’s not all it’s cracked up to be! Come on and get these cramps, bloating, headaches, chocolate cravings, heavy bleeding, asking your besties “is anything on the back of my butt?” the big ass maxi pads and tampons! I’ll give it to them at an awesome price $free99!

It's such a shame that you have to explain any of this, but thank you for taking the time to articulate it all for those who don't get it

Thank you for this video

Girl this is why I love you! You break stuff down and you are so articulate! This is exactly how I feel but I couldn't put it into the correct words! ❤

The reason why I don’t even entertain this conversation is because, even as a biological woman who presents as such, I have come to spiritually recognize that who I am and who I present as , are only a matter of ego; The identity I have in THIS lifetime as a physical being. When I remind myself to remove my EGO, things like complicated labels don’t affect me because I realize they are meaningless. I wish EVERYONE would share this perspective. That way they’d be able to calm themselves of trying to constant label and identity themselves and others. I just am. And I want people to BE.

It was the "girl nobody wanna be you" yodeling, while she waiting for her female gender transforming medication to keep up the female hologram...for me.. She her own exhibit A destroying her case..

💯 Great breakdown!

👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽🎯🎯🎯🎯🎯 🗣️Thank You Bondy!!

Bondy you brought this point all the way home. It is what it is...why R us real women even apart of this bullshit!

Now I like Cherry but when she said transwomen look better than real women...If REAL women also elected to buy our entire body (which some do) then you would have no argument. Most REAL women elect to keep their REAL looks.

💛thank u Bondy!

Thank you Bondy!

This makes me so sad because how can we not see that we’re treating trans women the same way racists treat black ppl? Trans women are encroaching on women’s spaces? Sounds like a scarcity mindset brought on by every group who discriminates against us, but trans women are not our enemy. Jess used the opinion of ONE ignorant trans person to spray the entire community with vitriol that she’s CLEARLY been itching to let out and now she’s given the go to all these transphobes to unleash on the trans community and it’s completely unwarranted.

You are absolutely right Bondy

Thank you Bondy. ❤

Love this!!! Thank you!! ❤