My wife was a lesbian once - should I worry? 

Worst day ever when i walked in on my wife and my mistress in bed. Betrayed by both. I thought i could trust them

People talking about how much Lindy's content' changed not realizing this series has been going on 7 years

This is one of the questions that makes it obvious that this book was written in the 80s, I don't think mentioning homosexuality and incest in the same sentence would fly today

As a man attracted to men, thank you for mentioning that there’s something offputting about how weird the relationship between straight women and gay men often is, and how accepted it is. There’s the seeming obsession for some straight women to “tempt” gay men like you pointed out with the Stephen Fry anecdote, but then there’s the reverse/complimentary bizarre behavior where some gay men get a “pass” to basically fully sexually assault their straight women friends because “it’s not serious” or “just a joke/prank”. Weird, at best.

First question straight up being "do you find bisexual people icky?".

“Yeah there’s a reason for that Luke” 🤣🤣🤣

After discovering it, I would simply ask her, “Are you more bien or less bien now?”

"I was a lesbian once, should my wife be worried?"

Like for deploying the word "sapphic"

7:45 Yeah, I find the double standard troubling too.. it seems that it's ok and even funny when it's men being sexually harrassed by women.. I used to work in a restaurant and this old lady (who was mentally ill) kept looking at the guys working and she would wink at us and tell us she had erotic dreams about us and other innapropriate things and when we told our boss (who was a woman) she thought it was hillarious and did nothing about it. She came everyday and it was so degrading, some of they guys were minors too.. I am 100% sure if it was a man doing this to the girls he would have been arrested right away and frankly she probably should have been..

I've no problem with my current partner having had previous partners, regardless of the biology of those previous partners. Total non-issue for me. If someone has cheated on a previous partner though...that would give me pause.

_"I do remember a friend of mine once admitting that she'd... um..."_ All right Lindy, let's see you end that sentence without indelicacy, come on... Oh, well done!

I feel like this question isnt "What if your partner used to be gay" but "What if they are bi"

I can't decide if the title is moronic or genius. After all, it made me click on the video to see what the lunacy was about.

As a gay guy I can attest that Ryan Gosling is not stupendously attractive. He is by no means ugly, but Henry Cavil he ain't.

Answering that question is the equivalent of being challenged to cross a minefield on a pogo stick.

I’m so glad Lloyd is finally getting through the Q217 book, we still have 173 questions to go!

Lindy: there's no genetic threat for me Also Lindy: everyone in my family is male

I'm a gay man & both my husband and I used to pretend we were into women. Should I worry?

2:37 me thinking the video is over when he said ”no” so I go to click off the video and see that there’s still 9 minutes left 💀

RU-vid, play "My Girlfriend's Girlfriend" by Type O Negative.

Damn you, Algorithm, for hiding months of Lindybeige videos from me. Must I scroll through my entire subscribed channels list every time I sit down to watch? I think we have the "universal ick" concept already... the problem is people who push back against others' distress with denial, gaslighting, and shaming, which is neither an old nor a new tactic. Funny twist, though, I've had an unlikely number of experiences where women who seem mentally ill have made aggressive advances on me (I'm a cishet man), and I get that "universal ick" feeling because _I know it would be inappropriate to reciprocate._ I won't give an exact number because I actually have no standing to declare whether or not anyone is mentally ill. But it's interesting that the reaction Lloyd describes can be triggered that way, as well.

that would just mean that wife is bi. my gf was bi, we did good as long as we were together, so, it doesnt matter much. so no worry.

I think the book writer intended the book to be read by a group, and the group needs a person like this guy.

It's called bisexual, not lesbian, if they're into both men and women!

I had a girlfriend who was bisexual and she was exclusively sexually attracted to me during the time we were dating so that fact didn't bother me because I didn't see anyone else as a threat.

Is Lindy spending this summer inside answering questions from The Book that was Once Lost but Found Again? Amazing. Have a good day Mr. Beige. Warm greetings from the Netherlands🇳🇱.

I'm in the "no more than any other ex" camp. Though there is that little corner of my mind that quietly mutters "threesome? poly?", so maybe that should be "slightly less than other exes"... In practice, how I feel about it is going to depend on all three of us involved, and right now I only know who one of the three people would be...

'Yeah, theirs a reason for that one Luke!' Made my Day, LOL!

I'm single. I've never been in a romantic relationship, much less gotten married. So if I found out that my wife had previously been in a same-sex relationship, I would definitely have a lot of questions.

Man people are so touchy. I will give your video a “like” Lloyd!

So lindybeige, you dont find the conventional man attractive, in fact, the opposite... But what about *femboys*

Gosling has an odd nose structure.

god, I was *fully* expecting him to just say "because everyone in my family is *ugly* "

Oh dear. Well - I'm assuming we're ignoring the case where my mate is also of the same sex as me, and therefore the question becomes 'how would you feel if you learnt your partner had been with another man, before he met you?', which is... I'm much too old to expect a potential partner to have been a virgin before we met, come on. But - in the case of 'How would you feel learning your partner had a girlfriend before she met you?'... honestly, the major concern would be, if I'm finding this out once we're already partners, about how and why she'd kept that information from me, having been together long enough for us to be considered, er, "mates", without my knowing about what _could_ be quite a major component of her sexual and/or romantic preferences. I don't expect to be _part_ of every facet of my partner's life, but if they're not at least comfortable with me knowing some basic information about their overall personal situation... this speaks to potential relationship problems, I think. 'Have you ever been attracted to someone of the same sex?' I think my response to part 1 _might_ imply an answer here; 'How about a relative?' uh. What? I mean - for the sake of fairness, I have an older cousin or two who I can _understand on an abstract conceptual level_ to be attractive persons - but there's some really powerful disgust responses preventing me from even _thinking_ anything more than that. So that's probably a _no_ 'How did you deal with that?' I think I already answered this as well.

i knew some people who had a game named "willie", they would basically hide naked and hug the person of the group who they would always pick on. These people where also the most homophobic persons i have ever met.

Yes, worry. Then ask her for a ménage à trois, which ends being very awkward. Then get jealous, have a fight, move out, start a separation, get divorced, lose half your retirement savings and the house, and then get depressed. Sigh. Screw you Sally and Vicky.

Lloyd is starting to answer some really weird questions but it makes for some fantastic content haha you can tell this was an old book because this would never be allowed to be printed nowadays

It depends on what part of Lesbia she was from.

Straightest man in the world Lindybiege

What even is that title?

This is like watching someone cross a room littered with security lasers without setting one off. Jesus, it’s Jason borne.

A lawyer could win or lose a case but always is paid for the work done. So yes Lindybeige you're right.

I mean, it depends on what she says next. If she says “Well, I went through this conversion therapy program, and I’m cured now!” then yes, be worried for her health. Whereas if she says “Well, through therapy Ive come to discover I’m attracted to men as well” then we’re probably all good.

I won’t tolerate Ryan Gosling slander

Bisexual is a thing, and like anything sexuality is a spectrum, so basically, doesn’t really matter, as long as they’re loyal etc etc

Every girl I had a crush on ended up being a lesbian funny enough, jokes on them, my first actual relationship was with a man. Was a weird experience when puberty hit and I started liking both. I do wonder if I do date a women what she would think if I revealed that.

That's something the field experts would call a "red flag".

You did a great job with the title - it suggests that you share your personal story about your wife. I prefer for this question to be a theoretical wager for me too - if she changed to the opposite sex, she may want to go back to the same sex one day too.

"Good looking" and "sexy" are very different things when it comes to men - from female perspective, that is. They can coincide, of course, but it is also quite common that they don't. I think Benedict Cumberbatch is even a better example than Ryan Gosling considering that he very much not a traditionally handsome man but is seen as very very sexy by a large number of women.

I thought it was interesting Lindy said about arbitrary labels of colour. Nature may have only one rule for the whole colour spectrum which does not presuppose any specific experience of a colour. To me by having a pre-set experience of a colour you are adding an additional rule or swathe of rules, for x amount of colours, red, yellow, blue etc, all needing some additional rule... so not being as frugal.

Are these following the algorithm or is it a genuine evolution of the channel? Cos I prefer the long form videos about military stuff and history.

As a straight man, if my partner was bi or had experimented before - then no, that doesn't bother me. I was still picked in the end. If my partner was a lesbian who was denying that part of themselves, then I would 100% be concerned because I would want them to be happy regardless of whether I am in their life or not (and keeping such a key part as your sexuality boxed in is far from healthy). As for the double-standard, that situation you described is absolutely troubling. No matter the gender or context, if Person A makes advances on Person B that have been clearly communicated as UNWANTED, I believe that's harassment pure and simple. It's ick regardless of the genders, orientations, etc.

For people complaining about this video, Lindy has been doing this Q217 questionnaire for seven years, it's nothing new. It's part of his classical content, you can even check out his playlist.

7:15 that just reveals the "privilege stack" in our supposedly more equal and fair society.

My fiance is pansexual, and prefers women. Let's just say that I am wholly and enthusiastically supportive of her escapades.

“There’s a reason for that Luke” 😂

As a heterosexual, I've sometimes wondered if homosexual people are actively repelled by the idea of sexual intimacy with the opposite sex or just feel utterly indifferent to it.

When I first met a cousin of mine, I thought she was cute. Then, I found out she was my cousin and she was no longer cute.

The only winner/s ever is any situation that necessitates the need for them, are lawyers. Win, lose or draw, they get the fat fees. One of the (many) reasons that 100% of non-lawyers, generally regard them in non-favourable terms, sometimes justifiably. I also remember the episode of Q.I. that you were referring to, and Emma Thompson didn't exactly go to Stephens house, they were students at the time and shared a house (with a couple of others) which is why he was sort of trapped, because the other rooms were locked as their occupiers weren't present.

She could be Bi-Sexual. Or she could have identified as a Lesbian in the past, and doesn't now. Sexuality is be fluid for many people.

As a student of biology, the universal ick doesnt make much sense to me because there is no evolutionary pressures (out side of like colorblindness which is a loss of function) on how we see color. On the contrary nature in fact wants to change whatever it can about someone to see if it gives them and advantage, so assuming (like you do) that perception of color is largely genetic, people should have a vastly different perception of color.

"Genetic threat"?? Do you actually care about passing on your genes?? Either way, I don't see how her sexuality matters in that regard. Whether she leaves you and has kids with another man, or leaves you for a woman and has no kids at all, the result for you would be the same

Lloyd back again with the *interesting* video titles

In the Emma Thompson case, that combo gets a social pass due to abcense of clear physical threat.

what do you mean "was"? it's like that meme "Years ago ... I was Chinese", lol

I mean... I'd kind of consider that a requirement. But to flip it as 'not a gold star' then I can't be at all reasonable in being unnerved. Everyone takes time figuring out things about themselves.

"There's a reason for that, Luke." 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣 As for the questions: I would not have bee surprised, nor threatened, if my wife had had a same-sex romantic relationship in the past. Why would I? And attracted to a family member? Do first-cousins count? As for the Emma Thompson story (I did see that episode, BTW), I think it gets a laugh because few people think a man getting chased around by a naked woman as a threat. The other combinations you mentioned cross the reasonable threat threshold and become threatening.

There is a phenomenon that happens with children who have been adapted or conceived whit donated sperms when they meet their parents as teens or adults they are sexuali attracted to them, It can create some very disturbing problems.

The layers always win.

My cousin was a fox, always fancied her but then as it turned out so did lots of other much better looking men. Strange that!

As far as I know, Stephen Fry and Emma Thompson have been very close friends for decades. Just to give a bit of context to the otherwise slightly uncomfortable anecdote.

Yep, it's definitely an older book. Many people are openly bi or pansexual nowadays, so many probably wouldn't care. If you really like someone, then why would you be particularly worried if your partner has a wider potential dating pool?

If you changed her mind you needn't worry at all .

Emma Thompson comes across as a bored socialite and will play that sort of game because she is immune to consequences. I don't know if they're still friends but I would think both parties pass it off as just a bit of fun. Emma was probably miffed that Stephen did not find her attractive.

Honestly most of the girls I've dated have been with other girls

"There's a reason for that Luke." :D

The ick sounds close to a phobia. For instance my wife gets the ick when she sees a spider. I too have an ick as I would rather not handle it but on balance it's probably not poisonous, and the risk is low. I.e. a irrational fear vs a rational fear. I think this is also linked to behavioural traits such as perception, anxiety and over analysis. Beyond that it all gets abit Fruedian!

I'm confused how this channel switched from history to this. Quite interesting though

There's a great looking guy at the local icecream shop. I could see how someone could be attracted to him.

If my wife had had an intimate relationships with another woman i would ask her to tell me all the details, how it felt, how is it different and so forth. Because apperantly i can not have such an experience

What is that title, Lloyd

What is important is loyalty...faithfulness. If they are now loyal to me, what happened in the past just doesn't matter.

5:10 That's funny because I just rewatched The Empire Strikes Back this evening.

why is everyone talking about the question? like why is most people here attacking the question ? is it because it's a judgy question? is it because it doesn't take into consideration everyone's feelings? Is it because it will assume everyone should be straight? Questions can be whatever they want to be, and true responses should always be the truth. The question is targeted to straight and more conservative people and having them have a chance to express what they actually think and feel, even if it can be judgy or critique others, that's how they feel and that's also valid. Humanity doesn't have to be in full agreement all the time, straight men can say "i do feel insecure about me and about my partner leaving me for someone of their same sex, I do feel insecure about her staying over at her female friend, fully knowing she use to date other women back then". Why should we mock and laugh at the fact the conservative straight person can have some insecurities? Don't we all have insecurities in some shape or form?

I'd say this "universal ick" is only shared between the same culture. Or even subculture. It's really not universal between all humans.

What a silly question, if the wife was a lesbian once, they'll still be.

I'd argue the harassing of is more socially acceptable in general. As a teenager my coworkers were mostly older women, and I had many very inappropriate things said to me. I think women are far less likely to escalate that to physical harassment, hence why it's not seen as such a big deal.

I would pay 18 fat, gold Sacagaweas for another British Mark IV video.

You can already tell from his immediate answer of "I don't know, it depends." Already implies how little it matters on principle. Its less of an issue of the past history or even if the past history was gay. But more to do with the exact individual in question. No bigotry or ideology about it whether by culture or religion. Just objective pragmatism of the facts of the matter than the implications of the hypothetical which requires preconceived notions. Immediately skipped right over the obvious trappings of the question.

Always interesting to see what slang from the younger generation(s) gets passed up to the oldwr generations, like Rizz and Ick, I honestly see people Gen Xray and older use these slang more than people my age, Gen Zed, and younger. Though I am rather an introvert, so my perspective is pretty narrow.

My wife is a lesbian, I have no issues with it.

Presumably, if I found myself attracted to someone of the same sex, I simply wouldn't have sex with them. I've been successfully not having sex with more than 99% of the attractive people I know.

I guess "No, no and no!" would not make for an interesting video. There's this weird idea that if a woman, or person in general, is bi, they are more likely to stray. I suspect this is true only insofar as their partner believing them more likely to stray, and becoming estranged and distant as a result, might indeed push them away, and into the arms of another person. If you have a committed and strong monogamous relationship, fleeting attraction to people outside the relationship shouldn't matter. A friend of mine is bisexual, but for the last twelve years or so she has been with her now husband and the father of her child. Whenever someone implies bisexuals are promiscuos, I always remember one of the kindest and most devoted persons I know saying "Yes, I'm attracted to women as well, but it doesn't exactly matter anymore". Anecdotal to be sure, but that's my opinion, informed by personal experience.

If she was a lesbian prior to meeting you and you had relations with her.. Then that means she's no longer Lesbian, but Bisexual. Its perfectly fine to date a bisexual person, their preferences don't affect who they are. They could be a saint, or a pile of crap. As long as you and her are happy together, that's all that matters.

I wouldn't mind my partner having past lesbian relatioships as much as heterosexual ones. The reason being i would not have to compete with her ex as she has very different things to offer, as opposed to a male ex lover i would feel like i have to be better in every way (and this is also true, women often compare their current partner to the best aspects of their previous relationships. Thats why women find titanic so romantic and why you should find a woman with minimal bodycount)

I've been told by women I'm attractive, but I honestly don't get it. Being too hetero is detrimental to your dating life. Straight men benefit by being slightly bisexual and thus more aware of the female gaze.

Where did you learn about these attempts to raise children together so that they marry each other that failed because the children in question understood each other as siblings?

Clickbate title got me lol.

As a guy who finds other guys attractive I find Ryan Gosling to be kinda ugly.