Narcissism or Narcissistic Personality Disorder? 

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Narcissism is where everyone else ends up in therapy not the perpetrator/narcissist

At the end of the day if you feel bad around them that’s enough of a sign for me. ✌🏼

I went here thinking my sister is a narcissist but now I’m listening and I think I might be one 🤦🏽‍♀️ I’m realizing My life is going so downhill because of this and I blame everything and everyone around me but myself. Thank you for this video I will work on this.

I was in a relationship for 15 years with a narcissist and it took me to the edges of addiction.. it took me down the roads of depression and on many paths of anxieties. Thankfully I was able to get away and now I want to try and help others who are in narcissistic relationships. For 15 years I thought it was me. Narcissists (in my opinion) are one of the most dangerous types of people to involve yourself with.

She was my Psychology Professor in college and I love Psychology because of her

1) lack of empathy 2) Grandiosity 3)Entitlement 4)Superficiality 5) Arrogance 6) Tendency to manipulate/ exploit other people 7) Chronic seeking of validiation outside of them. 8) Real tendency towards rage.

So I recently became more conscious of myself and the way I treat others. Thank god for the shroom therapy sessions. I'm just gonna come out and say I'm a narcissist. Most likely the covert one. I always have these big plans and grandiose fantasies about becoming famous with music. I realized I show little to no empathy to people around me. To rephrase that...I don't know how to put myself in someone's shoes and feel what they feel. It's always been hard for me. I've had a few relationships that never ended well nor lasted long. I was never able to provide my partner the love that they needed. In fact they end up telling me that I make them feel like shit. Most of the time I end up forgetting I'm in a relationship and think about only myself because I get depressed easily and I have this "main character" complex that deludes me. I remember always telling myself that the world was against me when it really wasn't. I was just seeing the world through childish lenses. I admit the more I think about it the more I realize I just wanted attention for being sad all the time. I wanted people to pity me and say "aww poor boy". What a fucking manipulative way to seek attention. And even when I got the attention I dismissed all the effort people put into helping me. It sucks to think people actually loved me but I was too deluded to see. And that hurt them because they saw that I was nonchalant about all their efforts. I kept blaming myself and saying I was just irreparable. But in actuality it was just a fucked up narcissi tic scheme to get more attention. Learning all this about myself made me disgusted. I cant help but feel self hatred but honestly I think I shouldn't because I don't want to fall into the loop of hating myself so that people could take pity on me. Lets not even get started about the lack of identity I have. I have problems with refining my sense of self. This is all so overwhelming. I literally cried my heart out and felt pain like never before when I realized all this. I mean depression is one thing but this pain was different. I could finally feel what everyone felt when I let them down emotionally. It made me feel fragile and demonic for not understanding human emotions. My ego completely dissolved for the first time in forever. Almost like a veil was lifted and I could see things from the other side. I might have been making decisions based on childlike behaviors all these years without realizing it and thinking "oh its just me as a person, this is what defines me". Goes to show why I'm also impulsive a lot of the time. And now that I finally realized all of this the worst part is that this disorder makes you the enemy of the public. All the comments here are all about how narcissists are jerks and how everyone has had a bad experience with them. Like damn is there really no place for me to get along with people without being judged? I mean I totally get it though. But I just wanna say that not all narcissists are ignorant of their behaviors. Some of us wake up and realize what we are and we wanna change. We're empty inside but we want to be able to feel things normally like you do. We crave normalcy in a world where normalcy is so diverse. I don't really know how to end this but I guess I'm just gonna say-I WILL CHANGE FOR THE BETTER.

Someone with narcissistic personality disorder might: Upset other people often Struggle to keep relationships Put themself first Think they know the “right” way Think about themself most of the time and talk about themself a lot Crave attention and admiration Exaggerate their talents and achievements Believe they’re special Set unrealistic goals Have wide, fast mood swings Have a hard time taking others’ feelings seriously Strive to win, whatever it takes Fantasize about unlimited success, money, and power

There is no reasoning with someone who has NPD. There’s no understanding. They are very unpredictable and emotionally unstable. Anything could set them off.

I didnt have an education cause my parents thought they knew more than everyone and wouldn't take us to public school, they were to busy to raise us but do not admit to any of it now. I missed out on my childhood, making friends, learning, schooling. All we had was the lds church and my siblings. I learned how to read at 7th grade, my parents always said I was dyslexic or had some kind of mental problem, but they never put me in school or showed me anything. I dropped out due to how I couldn't function in a social setting and getting in fights when I did finally get into school. Im 25 and I'm just now taking online classes for my highschool diploma and in almost done. I'm so happy I've made it this far and I'm finally healing from the past.

“You stand close enough to it, you’re gonna get sick”... this resonates. I just left my narc partner after a year of dancing around the idea. It finally made me sick. It’s only been 2 days. I hope this feeling goes away soon.

When dealing with narcissism, you should know that it’s not personal. “It isn’t personal” is one of those cliches used to cushion all kinds of bad actions taken by people who need an out for being immoral, but in this case it actually gets near the truth. Narcissists don’t know how to love or be a friend; they can’t afford to spare the energy to learn, because they’re always in a state of high emergency, cataloging potential threats and redoubling their defenses. When they claim to love you, it means nothing. They may even think they mean it, but they don’t understand the concept - they can’t feel it. They never attach to you or anyone else. Other people are paper cut-outs to the narcissist, like those cardboard figures of celebrities you pose next to for a selfie. Narcissist value their own children only as mirrors of themselves. When they destabilize you or attack you, it means nothing. They are stuck in an endless conversation with themselves, in which you are an inanimate object, to be assigned their own faults and used as a surrogate punching bag for their hatred of themselves. When they toss you out, it’s no more meaningful than a junkie tossing away a needle; when they try to reel you back in, it only means that they tired of the new drug and need a hit of the old. None of this is personal. They’re too terrified to have personal relationships, opting instead for extraction of admiration from a subservient partner whose range of action they strictly constrain. This is not personal. None of it. The narcissist does not know who you are - it doesn’t know how to know other people. Like the vampire or the chainsaw-wielding creature in the horror film, it’s from another world, bereft of the concept of human connection. Moreover, People wonder why they end up hurt, seriously hurt, and even killed for their own actions. Cheating is a choice and there’s simply a lot of ignorance in the process.... Thank you so much for helping me out Metaspyhub@gmail. com. Your advice and services helped me so much. You are a lifesaver !!! The information you gave me about my cheating partner when you gave me access to his phone was everything I needed to get,.. thank you very much..

My life changed from watching med circle. I now am seeking professional help because I realised it's not the people around me who have the issues, it must be me! I truly am grateful I watched these videos because I'm tired of living my life feeling feeling lost. Thank you med circle

Explaining how you can’t diagnose someone for being a jerk is brilliant

My ex mother in law is a grandiose narc. I remember one time when she told me ..."If only every one was like me this world would be a different place." I had to take a second look at her. Because I couldn't believe what I was hearing. This was in the beginning at my marriage with her malignant narc son. It was such pure hell being in that family. Thank God I'm out!!

"They need galas, they need parties" My narc ex had four birthday parties for herself in a week.

People with NPD will not admit there is anything wrong with them and therefore, never seek treatment.

Narcissists rarely if ever seek help because, in their minds, there is nothing wrong with them.

Damn i feel so shitty now. I was a narcissist I have the traits, I was a very quiet and isolated kid, I remember imagining about talking with a therapist and what I would say is "I know that I'm different but there's nothing wrong with me". I had good intentions but I unknowingly hurt a lot of people and only realizing it now. I seriously wanna change. I never wanted to be that guy. I don't wanna be that guy anymore. I'm going to seek therapy next month.

You said it all DR Ramani. "A person who is self confident doesn't need to constantly share their accomplishments" I've always wondered. If someone is comfortable in their own skin they don't need the constant validation. Thank you!!! Love your videos

Omg my ex is a mix of all these narcissistic types I feel like. But regarding the communal narcissist, people will say "he's the most polite person I've ever met!" Yes. He's polite to PEOPLE THAT DON'T MATTER. He's psychologically abusive to those with whom he has a close relationship.

This doctor is one the of the best if not the best in the industry. It’s incredible to listen to her speak.

After watching the video I realised that my ex was a covert narcissist...your description is so exactly what he is! He was forever saying that he was special and no one understood him...He had had a depressive breakdown 6 years before...He also used to have anxiety attacks and had to have marijuana all the time... he smoked it all the time, big time!! I told him he was addicted and he used to say he could stop when he wanted...I guess I found when he smoked, he was more chilled out and slept better...so it was better for me...I think I felt sorry for him, at times he was like a lost child and tried to "fix" him....When I found out what NPD was, and that he had probably never even loved me...I felt so used...I realised that the last 6 years I had been used and I had to get out... If I hadn't seen your videos Dr Ramani, I would still be with him.....Thank you...🙏

Dr. Ramani, I inadvertently discovered you a week ago and you have changed my life. I now know why my partner of 24 years behaves as he does. I would like to leave, but I cannot. It will take me a while to learn the best ways to respond and react (or not react) to his abuse, but I'm already making adjustments and I see that your methods work. After only a week I feel so much more free and I'm gaining peace of mind. Thank you and bless you for sharing your knowledge.

If you are dating a narcisist, they take advantage of your kindness. It's like they test you.

I wonder how many narcissists are on here saying that somebody else is a narcissist.

Getting married and moving helped me so much after dealing with that with one of my parents. I didn’t realize how bad it was until I moved. That parent didn’t even congratulate me getting married and only contacts me to ask why I didn’t contact them first… 🤦🏽‍♀️🤦🏽‍♀️🤦🏽‍♀️

I also disagree that the narc has to acknowledge that it’s “messing up their life”. No. A narc blames others. So they’ll say that others are messing up their lives. My husband has been “blaming the devil” for the past few years.

My narc parents only had me so that there would be someone that they could rely on when they get old. Fun times are ahead for everybody I guess

I’ve never considered myself as a narcissist, but I feel like social media is a contributing factor since it’s all about maintaining an image and you can get really sucked into seeking validation from others even though you don’t necessarily need to be validated like a person with npd!

It is hard to accept the fact that some of us are narcissist. And all we doing is hurting the one that we love. It was hard for me to accept that I was a narcissist but time and dedication we can fix this problem, I was hurting the love of my life and she left me, I was so mad i could not understand what was going on that my soulmate was leaving me. After I was doing a research on my life I understood everything that she was doing to me! . She was trying to help me, she was trying to fight for us, and all I did was just nothing been my self. Now I think different thanks to this videos so thank you 🙏 for making this videos

100% a fan. I dated someone for a year who I loved and cared for very much but ultimately there was too much volatility and insecurity in her part. I had to walk away cause I felt there was a limited amount of consistency and no matter how much we discussed it the relationship kept getting argumentative and we kept facing the same issues. I wish I would have seen these sets of you tube videos because it helped put closure to my relationship with this individual and get over the unresolved issues and questions I had.

I think everyone has narcissistic tendencies because of the society we live in, is good to talk about it and recognize it. People say it’s treatable but can’t change it. I say we can if we want to we just have to recognize it. We gotta have hope!

The more I learn about narcissists the more I realise what tormented souls they are. 💔 It's all an act

Thank you so much for your videos, I can't thank you enough, I was married to a covert narcissist for over 25 years, I didn't even know about narcissistic behavior until a few years ago, I'm still in the healing process, and probably always will be. There are no more narcissists in my life now, and I'm breathing a sigh of relief. It's amazing how I could go for decades not recognizing this behavior, I had no clue, I thought narcissistic people were just loud and overbearing people, it goes so much deeper than that, my ex wife was your textbook narcissist. I know there's no such thing, they come in all flavors but if the was a stereotypical narcissist, my ex wife would be it. Also the family that raised her, I could go on about it for hours,cI still have AH HA! Moments remembering things she said that were so toxic, 25 years is a long time in a toxic relationship.

I attribute the only reasons my dad stays with my mom to her being a communal narcissist and he being so incredibly introverted. It works. He's frustrated often, but he's not unhappy

Best advice for dealing with narcissists: run like hell and stay away as much as possible.

That woman is amazing!!

Thank you med circle. I had always thought everyone else I had encountered was with the problem. I just realised now that I was the one. I've heard of narcissism before but always believed it must have been others but when I hear this, every single traits and doings are exactly my doing. I feel bad.

She explained covert narcissism so well. This describes me 100%. I've wound up alone and hit rock bottom and now I realise I have to accept that I've done it all to myself and I am 100% motivated in changing my ways and getting the help I need to change 🙏. Thank you for all of your content Dr. Ramani, you're my saving grace. ❤

One thing people need to understand about narcissists is that they cannot be alone. In fact, they have to bring people or someone close enough to them so that they can ignore them. It is the best thing I have learnt is that they are never ever happy alone, they need an audience to see that they are alone, without an audience, they are dead. It is so sad. But when you are away from it, it is the best thing ever.

Mental illness is truly the worst illness on this planet. At least with everything else you could kinda live a more normal life but mental illness is a life of suffering.

I love the way Dr. Ramani talks about these people. "They're fun to have at a party, but don't turn to them for advice"

Don't forget...there's plenty of female narcissist out there. I've had two on the bounce. The signs were confusing to me until I started researching the behaviours (around seven years into the relationship with the second one). I also take some of the blame for their behaviours because at some concerning stages...I allowed myself to be controlled/manipulated and treated terribly. Because they were very attractive, sexy, intelligent, independent, passionate, successful and kind & caring to everyone else. Now I've been single for a year (today), and I'm determined to stay that way!

Different patterns (not subtypes) of narcissism: 8:03 Covert narcissists vs. depression 11:30 Malignant/toxic narcissists 12:27 Grandiose narcissists (most common) 13:05 Covert/vulnerable narcissists 15:16 Communal narcissists 16:47 Benign narcissists

It's really great to see everyone learning.

I wanted to say thank you so very much for what you are doing, It is making a difference. My life will forever be changed because of The information I just learned. This narcissist information is fairly new to me but I have been married to a covert for 20 years and I'm starting to understand the devastating effects it has on my life. Something you said made a huge impact. When you were talking about cognitive dissonance and trauma bonding, It really got my attention , But what really made the most impact was when you explained that the longer you're in a relationship with a narcissist the more harmful it is, And I can see how that is true from my own experience. Then you gave examples of what one's life might look like after years of narcissistic abuse I, And I cried because it was so Sad and I felt so sorry For anyone who has to go through that, And then I realized that is exactly what has happened to my life. I think you get so used to living a certain way that you become numb to it , but to see it from someone else's perspective Can be truly shocking. Anyway I just wanted to say thank you and that you are making a difference in people's lives and I am forever grateful. God-bless you.

10:58 In all narcissism we tend to see: 1) a lack of empathy 2) grandiosity 3) entitlement 4) superficiality 5) chronic seeking validation outside of them 6) arrogance 7) a real tendency towards rage 8) tendency to manipulate or exploit other people. Those we see in all narcissists across the board, in varying degrees. Whew! Just when I thought to examine myself just in case, I hear this list. Glad I don’t suffer from any of these. I have some other issues to work on, but not these. Overall, I like who I am.

Half the comments are just people seeking validation that their ex were narcissists

'Deeply deeply SUPERFICIAL'... That's poethically paradoxal really!

WOW, you hit the nail on the head for me......... My mother was diagnosed with depression when I was two, had grandiose NPD and when I was 14 she was diagnosed with bipolar. It was no picnic growing up with her and my enabling father.

None of the many therapists I saw seemed to notice that I was coping with craziness not causing it. One psychiatrist suggested I had borderline per. disorder. Again I wasn't the one in Thailand cheating, that was my husband. Everyone was more that happy to pathologize me. I was trying to cope with absolutely crazy behavior that my husband and all the therapists were happy to blame on me. I can't describe the relief I felt when I realized I was not defective.

You will NOT feel sorry for the covert narcissist after being married to one for 17 years! It took me a long time to figure this out but thanks to Dr. Ramani’s videos and books, I finally gained the wisdom and courage to leave. I am so much happier and feel sane again😊 Thank you MedCircle!

4:57 Dr Ramani’s description of self-confidence would describe me. I don’t need to announce my achievements from every platform. I don’t need to talk over others when they’re talking of their achievements. I don’t need my achievements be front and center and ahead of everyone else’s. I can stay quiet about my achievements and be perfectly fine with that. I should be having a healthy sense of self-confidence. But I feel very insecure regardless. Even when people are praising me for certain things that I do well or praise me for certain things about me that they consider admirable, I still have low self-confidence in that area. I know I’m good, but I also know I’m not great. It may stem from my narcissistic father constantly telling me my achievements weren’t good enough. There was always something I could have done better. My less than perfect achievement might as well have been a complete failure.

Thank you so much Dear Dr Ramani and Med Circle! I am so grateful! You have opened my mind as always. Thank you so much! I enjoy your content so much on RU-vid! I love learning all about how disgusting people are and I am done with them and need to get rid of all these toxic people in my life. I am defiantly healing and getting stronger day by day! It has been a crazy journey! Taken such a long time and patience, I am a survivor and I am really also so up for helping people like you do!! You are a true inspiration!

To have FELT something all along about my ex and find out the explanation into his personality disorder is comforting. I thought I was being judgmental and unfair.

The main characteristic is "personal gain"

For years I’ve hear people jokingly and insultingly call my father a narcissist. I was always conscious my dad was different and didn’t do other things dads did or said. When I finally went into treatment for my bpd I had a lot of doctors tell me my father showed traits of it. I’ve been researching NPD for a while now and I cried because I finally felt like someone understood. It felt like people were describing my father. My dad doesn’t believe in doctors and says people are making up illnesses to justify being mediocre, he gaslights A LOT, over exaggerating achievements, never having maintained long term friendship, lacks empathy and a shit ton of other things. I finally have closure and I feel so good.

for a year i've been supporting my cousin with her narc mom only to reason today that my mom (her sister) is probably a narcissist too. it feels like i'm finally caught up with what the universe has been trying to tell me all my life. so validating.

i recognize my narcissistic tendencies, these videos of outside perspective are very helpful to recognize how i need to change.

More like its abusive, not just toxic, abusive.

I have watched a couple of videos and it somehow feels like unraveling a covert narcissist is like realizing its a wolf in sheep's clothing

Wow I love this break down! My step-dad is definitely a covert/vulnerable narcissist. Literally, even the image of him hunching over the laptop and having all these "million-dollar" ideas he felt wasn't being appreciated.

Kyle is such a great and humble interviewer. I’d love to have someone like him as a friend or person in my life.

Covert narcissist sounds like someone who was bullied but instead of getting depressed with a hope for getting better they develop dark triad traits and want the world to apologize. They want power, success, because they don't have it.

On a side note, Dr. Ramani is very attractive for someone in her mid 50's.

My father has been putting my mother through absolute hell my entire life. I’m 39. She is unable to leave for good because she is financially irresponsible and her entire financial existence relies upon him. It’s like a narcissist on steroids. Every single characteristic fits the bill. I’m still recovering from the toxicity I’ve lived through with them. The one thing I have made sure to do is not carry that trash over to my own family life. So far so good. Good riddance to the past.

Now I realize I have NPD and my ex has it too, now I get why were killing ourselves 😰

Your info has been so helpful for me to finally walk away after 5 years of abuse. Im so broken, but I know things will get better the longer he is out of my life! People dont realize what a relationship with a narc can do to your health. Ive been so sick this year, have gone through several stages of losing hair from stress. I am realizing these health issues come from my relationship. Im done, im free!

@14:07 Narcissits are good at creating awkward moments.

Wow, thank you for all these videos!! Knowing that you understand and hearing you speak so clearly on all of the issues around Narcissism gives me a sense of hope, that I am not making this up in my head, that what I have experienced/continue to experience with my brother is real! I appreciate each and every video and the tools you are providing to get through situations with my sibling!

I like listening to her talking. she is so eloquent and appropriate.

I can not stop replaying this program. I have learned so much from it. Thank you Dr.Ramani and thank you MedCircle. You are amazing!

Thank You Kyle, this was an excellent interview with good questions on your part! Doctor Ramani is brilliant and has taught us all a lot!...and we're still learning...! Many Bright Blessings

Listening to Dr. Ramani speak so passionately and intelligently about this subject is so pleasing.

Mad respect for the person doing the interview that mention their coping mechanisms and how this is a deep topic. thank you for keeping it real

The last relationship I had, he had all those features. Sometimes he told the truth about who he was. He said he walks away from relationships without problem, never loved any ex, and doesn’t care about looks(just wanted something from these women) yet overly concerned about his looks and criticized my looks. All the games, criticizes and gaslighting and very entitled. He went through a lengthy divorce and blamed that cause she had a better lawyer or he would be further in his life goals. Very cold and heartless individual.

YAAAS! My current situation is a covert narcissist and ALWAYS say “....yeah, but you don’t care...” but the crazy thing is he realizes that he has an issue and doesn’t like that he treats people this way

I have bipolar and I had to learn how to be high functioning, and honestly ditching the mania is hard when going off your meds is like a drug, and it can drag you to a dark corner of your mind where you are maybe not your kindest. The goal setting thing really resonated with me in this self care approach to my health, and I learned how to set simple attainable goals and avoid telling people most of what I do unless they ask. I prefer to learn about people, but take me off my meds and I'm worse than most schizophrenics you will meet and the grandiosity leads me to be impossible to be around. I only like who I am when I am on those medications anyway, so I'll not go back to that pariah lifestyle where I am irritable 24/7. Thankfully I have had opportunities to pay it forward to other people going through it with their own lives and I think anyone with bipolar who lets the demons run amok can get back on track. The medications of the last 5 or 6 years are wonderful for their acute mood stabilizing and antipsychotic properties. You need to elevate yourself by admitting you are toxic in order to break that cycle. I was definitely toxic when I went off all my medication like 4 years ago... Have a great day :)

She's great ! Clearly knows her stuff and is really relatable. The impressions she did were unexpected from a clinician but made you think ' Oh gosh, yeah I've seen that in people ' haha. The bloke interviewing was good too.

The fundamental problem is the fact that (Most) narcissists will NEVER admit to having a problem. Hence We continue to go round and round together in relationships and personal (so-called) friendships, until we finally chose to exit that amusement park ride, once and for all, never to return again into the same counterproductive BS. Once we begin to heal from that 3-4 decade downward-spiral, we start to understand what it means to be Truly ~Blessed~

my dad has a narcissistic personality and i've always knew something was wrong with him now I finally know what it is

I don't have npd myself but I am SO grateful that I'm educating myself on a topic like this. I have to deal with a narcissist and I kept feeling so bad bc I thought I was thinking people with npd are bad. Spoiler alert he doesn't have it.. In reality, I just didn't know the difference between being a narc and having npd. Npd is so poorly understood by the general population, so my heart goes out to the people who actually have to deal with this.. Along with people who have to deal with a narc/someone without npd who's just an asshole. Seriously, y'all deserve BETTER. 💖💖

I came here because I noticed a huge rise in narcissism in our society the past years. especially with the epidemic it almost seems as if I'm surrounded by narcissists. about a year ago I even started getting mental health problems because of that, and that is when I became aware of Narcissism as a condition that seems to be embraced by our current society. So my question. is there a danger to society because of the this rise in narcissism, and what can be done to make our society more compassionate and loving instead of entitled and numb.

This was amazing.. My mother has severe narsasistic disorder. Hence I went through narsasistic abuse syndrome. The struggle is real. I pray for those going through this

Every time I listen to her my feelings are hurt. I try really hard to listen and accept it constructively.

To my fellow NPD sufferers who came here for information but quickly realised that this is another pop-psychology 'let's hate on the narcissist' channel, don't lose hope. There are some wonderful psychologists here on RU-vid who won't pick out the superficial NPD traits and mock you and your disorder. There *are* real professionals on here who go deeper and have a real understanding of your suffering. Ironically, the subject of NPD often attracts unaware narcissists who purport to be specialists. Keep vigilant my friends, there are a lot of wolves in sheep's clothing in this line of work. Stay strong brothers and sisters. We'll get there.

"The pattern of narcissism is awful! They may be fine with it but-" Uh, narcissistic people are also negatively affected by their disorder? I don't enjoy being extremely prone to jealously, feeling inferior, feeling worthless and not being able to have a stable self-image

An old English series "Keeping Up Appearances" You need to see this.

I love Dr.Ramani,its always a pleasure to watch her,we get tons and tons of information which is really helpful.

Thank you for your very professional, and accurate definition of NPD. It is helpful, and I will take it with me, to avoid toxic relationships.

That is so true. Being around someone that has npd or who is narcissistic more likely hurts the people around them more than themselves.

My ex-wife ... despite being diagnosed with Narcissistic Personality Disorder by two Forensic Psychologists after full Psych Evaluations, having disagreements with coworkers (firings and disciplinary actions), raging against neighbors, children, and strangers, and having legal issues, believed she is right and everyone else is wrong. If your significant other has these characteristics, please don't think you can fix them. You cannot. RUN.. Period .... run. They are evil.

wow that's exactly what happened with my ex-husband. went in to AA, stopped drinking and then became more of an ass.

wow, Dr. Ramani is someone who really knows! As good as, in a different way, as Dr. schlessinger...love your strength Dr. Ramani😍

After she started defining all of the different kinds of narcissism I realized I dated the first 3 kinds. I knew they were all narcissist but I couldn’t understand how they all had 3 different ways of behaving like a narcissist lol thankfully I left these men in the past and have had time to heal from the damage they all put me through during different times of my life

I wish she was my lecturer and my therapist. Dr Ramani never ceases to amaze me!

Narcissist masks comes from represseed emotion of childhood so its like a compensation, but being human means you need not be in a fixed state of being but you have the ability to recognize that emotion and respond consciously

When she gave the example of the partner who cheats on his wife but thinks "it's working out for me", I instantly thought about my MIL, she abuses weed and alcohol and she honestly doesn't see it as a negative thing affecting our relationship with her, she just thinks we're being the bad guys and attacking her by asking her to stop drinking and smoking weed while taking her meds (which do have hallucinogenic effects when mixed with substances) when she texts my husband while under the influence. She thinks these vices are helping her feel better but they are really just making things worse. Beer does not improce your mood, it often amplifies emotions like anger, sadness, etc. She has not apologized for the horrible things she says to us because she either feels justified/entitled to them, or she conveniently doesn't remember saying them and refuses to acknowledge she is the one who hurt every relationship in her life with her poor behaviors and addictions. We are the only people left, her family has distanced themselves from her, her friends don't talk or see her anymore... But she still doesn't get it, and it's frustrating beyond belief. I know my husband will give 100% to being a husband and father to our expecting child, this just makes me worry about what the future holds and how she will affect things for us going forward. I have told him that I have almost no sympathy left for her and, while i understand that this is his mom and that I would feel the same way if this were my parent, I also know that there comes a breaking point for everyone, and tough love becomes the only option...