Narcissist Relationship - Dealing with Anger after a Breakup 

Same situation for me. It's like an emotional rollercoaster.

me too. I'll never go back but I do still get angry sometimes out of the blue

I am angry at mine too @ChristinaBelta But the thing is that I shldnt have to be. I am doing all I can to cooperate with her and we have kids together but I can't avoid arguing all the time over stupid shir bcz we have kids together and so if she's in one of her moods then she threatens to take the kids, or go to the police 🚔 or take my life hell...always walking on eggshells I think I mite need counseling or some type of help

Same💔

We’re not being loved and we know it. It feels horrible until we do something different. I’m 2 weeks out. I’m so f’ing pissed! Yes, at me.

how are you now?

Same 🙌. Still feel angry at myself for that. I know how people would condemn me and blame me if I still spoke of how I was struggling nearly 2 years down the line afterwards with the whole psychological after math. People say "Forget and move on" but I want to scream shut up you dont know the first thing I'm going through. And secondly they want to try to convince you like it was an ordinary breakup and you are only "heartbroken" or mad because you are overly sensitive and still thinking of this person mearly because you are heartbroken and gotta stop and find someone else. Try to explain to novices. What they also dont know is before mr covert narcissistic came along I had divorced from an abusive relationship before with kids etc lost my dad as a kid etc, yet nothing (aside one other thing..*) tipped me over the edge with a covert narcissistic just for nearly six months. Yes, and people go "only". So no it's not because I was just heartbroken (ie been divorced know how that feels) or just grief (lost my dad) etc... this somehow got to my core, and he flicked me over. The silent strong woman who went through so much fell. Among other things, I was bed bound ill for months after this, night terrors , in a state of shock and trauma, and I was still a single mum facing adversity at the time by myself! So yeah, took a year and half to not consistently cry daily etc so I guess the process is and has been slow for me to this point, but I couldn't have pushed it if I wanted to to be quicker in hindsight if I tried! (And believe me I demanded it of myself and was hard because of other people's standards and my own and what I expected of myself and how I thought in comparison to the past to my ability to suppress and bounce back) I hated myself for it, and tend to hide the timeframe of events (obviously not now) of how long, as to have comeback as to why it's taking so long "your weak" or not normal, or downplaying your past if I couldn't bounce back from something so simple as "only a breakup" see what a weak wimp you are. For you and I and all must remember now to believe in our own perception and feelings of events even if nobody believes or understands. Greatful to have these channels as validation on our journeys. Much hugs.

I totally agree perfect same here Coaching Thank You Stephanie.

I can relate With you I am known as Being very kind Now I'm afraid Of even letting Anyone Know how I feel So Angry He took 75000 And a nice Boat ibought I'm so mad At myself

I hope things become amazing for you! You sound like an amazing person and deserve all the happiness in the world

watch/listen to sheraseven1 here on YT. I wish you all the best as you heal

Oh thank you for every word you wrote and I had same kind of experience and I am trying as much as I can to be strong and happy.

You are amazing and a wonderful inspiration on here 🙌💗

Stephanie Lyn Coaching 🙏🌹Thank you also Stephanie , I owe you my happiness my made me understand myself and become a better person❤️your lover from Egypt

Yes, there is so much to learn! I feel that it is an ongoing process. Videos like these are amazing! Just keep learning and growing

Thanks love! So glad you are gaining some insight 🙌

@@StephanieLynCoaching No thank you! But you are most certainly welcome☺

The narcissistic friend not my friend anymore said he want to be my roommate and think I'm his best friend. But he never pay me back. The narcissistic guy who gets mad easily and doesn't have a job and live on disability welfare and he can't control he anger and wants attention and he called every single guys ugly only find himself attractive and he think he the smartest student in school and he always skip school and he doesn't go to college or have a job he living with he parents sitting at home on disability welfare and he have angered management to deal with he also make fun of the shy guy because his Asian and he always judge people about how ugly the guy can get a girlfriend and he think he dress the best . Also he said he got sponsor in a sport to pay he fee and he said he was going to travel to Germany for a sport to live there for a year and he lied he doesn't show me the plane ticket and he said that Germany got a wildfire as a excuse everyone search online there was no wildfire. And last thing he did was he stole my friends money and other friend witness it and the narcissistic friend make an excuse saying he have mental disability see things that is not real as an excuse so he can get away with the money. I doubt that he will pay the rent. He also say that he drives a motorcycle but he doesn't show everyone how to drive it and show he licence. He always call me and my friend immature and tell us to grow up.

Yes!

Oh thanks love 👍

Ohhh well I am so glad the videos are helping and they are giving your guidance 🤗

Same 💔

Very well said and it is true at times.

I didnt either... it came much much later down the line in short spurts (going through the motions of realisation and grieving process. Another part at one point of handling it was detachment. We each handle it differently when we try to figure it out or cope (or lack thereof) with it. Some might never feel the bits of anger, only severe trauma or depression, and of ill health etc. Our past, body mind makeup, acts differently to trauma, but mostly all with a collective of a range of similar symptoms I guess. Just saying my view, I'm no doctor. But if you are going through still the trauma and depression of narcissistic abuse like me, I send you my compassion and I hope you heal well ❤

@@evemichael3850 Thanks for your kind words Eve and for sharing your experience. I’m 4 years no contact, still fairly traumatised and have had no desire to start dating again. I honestly don’t know how to fix myself, I had a brief go with therapy but they just didn’t really understand NPD properly. I don’t know if time is the best healer though.

@@torqueofthedevil8145 I'm abit afraid to say anything because I wish I had some right words or solution or abit of hope to make you feel better right now, but I dare be so arrogant or bold. But you go you badass little rebel you! You've gone through 4 years and survived it so far! I've only gone through 2 years and feel wiped, but tbh there is no gains in comparing pain, each are unique to their own experience and valid. I quote from another video I watched this guy relay his narcissistic healing journey and its snail pace etc it took, and he said something to the effect that if you remember just after it happened until now, there has definitely been a change, one must admit no? even it's hard to see it at all along the way. Its pretty normal I'm assuming for this type of abuse to take extra long to heal, it's the beating yourself up for it that doesnt help I guess and it's quite normal for heavens sake to want to be free already from this pain! I'm too scared (among other things) to date too, but it's our mind/body trying to keep us safe so its expected to feel that way. Also I've heard in other vids how important to find a therapist that understands npd and one feels safe and resonates with. Easier said than done. I'm doing it on my own atm. But I did way back a couple of months after it I paid to see a private kinda counselling with a lady I saw, and I feel in a way indebted and saved my life by putting me on the right path by telling me to research what narcissistic abuse was!. Me personally I've lost all trust in mainstream therapists and authorities and religious systems and people who used to be close to me, also family... as I have been narcissisticly and have been emotionally or physically abused through them too it scares me. Now I feel like an outcast misfit constantly asking myself where I went wrong and how I could fit into society again, which god knows I only tried to do the best in the situation and was innocent but end on deaf ears. But I digress and I know I'm not going into details, but I guess I put myself so small throughout my life that I took so much abuse and made myself small. And although I hate bigging myself up before others, we must remember we too are human beings that deserve love and fair treatment and deserve not to be mistreated or talked down unfairly at minimum. I feel I'm struggling to break through the self worth thing, and I find it hard to point the finger and say he is a narcissist he is wrong, I didnt deserve to be treated that way. I still feel like I love and miss him. In part I guess we want to prove that we are worthy of love. The love we gave, the dream we lived can never be true. That and also later this same person we loved and adored their smile etc ending up saying and treating you in ways so unacceptable but wasnt able to see it at the time.. and is it me etc. We know the trap, but we keep falling back and forth. I'm not sure about you but I found he blew all my old traumas our of the water especially at the shock of disguard, if you can relate. Which left a whole lot of new traumas and depression I thought I kinda left in the past..came to life larger than life. I guess with emotional abuse 'the body keeps the score' - (heard it's a good book, but havnt read it) but it's kinda true I guess. We gotta try finding ways to override it by making ourselves feel safe again, way more gentle and compassionate to ourselves, and feel less shameful to say no and making boundaries despite the discomfort deep in the pit of our hearts that we might be upsetting someone else by doing so. Lol, I was crying my eyes out just before and now look at me preach lol. But we're only human. But after 4 years of hell of recovery I do hope somehow things get even more better swiftly and find happiness, and comfort. I can just wish it, I dont know how or for sure about anything myself. Anyways much hugs, soz if this was a long wramble, minimally all I hoped it helped. Lots of self love, take care. X

I’m in this phase too.

I’m so glad!!

Thank you!

Yes mastering our emotions and becoming unstuck!

Resentments can kill. Step 4.

Jan K you deserve better. Cut it cut it. Love yourself more. If he can’t see your worth you need to see it for yourself. All the best!

Cut it, I’ve just been through similar v recently. Life is soooo much better elsewhere, there ARE good loving healthy warm beautiful caring people off the other ended (or same) who are hot as hell on the inside and are just brilliant romantically, brought me so much warmth when I needed it

Choosing not to be stuck is a huge step!

It's projection. It's really got nothing to do with you. And none of us are perfect - yes it's not ideal but it's not a disaster... and even so, that's why we have to try and take responsibility to work on ourselves and to learn to care for ourselves and be the best and kindest people we can be - even when we think we are already okay, there's always room for improvement. These are traits that will not only encourage peaceful and togetherness in life, but I believe will ensure and decide who will survive and evolve and who won't, as living beings in the future.

The first days are the hardest hang on there is light. Practise lots of self love!!

2 days into a breakup myself..Peter Pan and me finally had to stop. Still it's hard. Positive self talk and keeping a structure to my day is helping.

Thank you so much! I am so happy to hear the videos are helping!

Yes I will put it on my list.

@@StephanieLynCoaching thank you so much. Your videos always help.

Healing from sadness is about learning how to soothe yourself through the pain that you feel

You are so welcome!