Never Contact a Man First 

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Approaching a man is a desperate look. Smile, make brief eye contact, use subtle sensual body gestures and if that’s not enough for him to approach you, he doesn’t want to meet you that badly. Move around him sis.❤

I have absolutely ZERO interest in a man that doesn't care..I have NEVER contacted a man first, and I never will..SHERA is on point here 💯, as always 👍

Everytime you chase a man.. it ends up bad! Always!!

Remember ladies the moment you want to figure out how to seduce the man, you’ve already been seduced! So ladies mind yours and literally focus on you

I will never approach a man first, never again. Once I chase a man, it went downhill from there.

I asked a guy for $2k when i found out he was cheating and he paid me lmao

men LOVE narcissistic emotionally and unattached women who barely give them the time of day. my guy friend was married to this woman for 10 years who was horrible in all of the ways you can think of. she was drop dead gorgeous but constantly deprived him of sex and depleted him of his resources. she was constantly cheating and lying to him and he would still take her wherever she wanted to go. she barely wanted to call him and was always busy going on girls trips and girls nights out. he gave her a ton of shopping money and paid her all bills. he finally left a couple of years ago after he got fed up for the last time with her cheating scandals but he is alwayssss venting to me about how he doesnt know what it is about her but hes still in love with her. this man is REMARRIED but his ex is living rent free in his mind. he is insane and its a crazy scenario. His current wife does all the things for him but he's always unhappy because he wishes it was his ex. just in case you want an inside scoop on the male mind its good to have male friends

Men that don’t want to chase and think that they are the prize is playing a game!!!!!

I still remember when I started a Convo with now ex bf once, how I asked for his contacts first, how I REACHED OUT TO HIM FIRST, HOW I WAS PRACTICALLY THE MAN IN THE RELATIONSHIP AT FIRST, but when I realised my value i started to detach. Guess what. That's when he fell for me the hardest, then I dumped his ass

Yall becareful i just met this handsome rich man..he has is own business snd he works for IBM . he gave me everything I wanted for 3 weeks. Wined and dined me... he paid 3 of my bills and everything. Absolutely no sex, never talked about it.. But I just felt like something was wrong... so about 4 days ago. I asked him did he have anything he wanted to tell me about himself.... he said yes. I said okay, he told me he had HIV. Yall please becareful with these high value men alot of them are can be sick.

Damn this topic hits really hard. I just keep remembering how my deadbeat father would tell me that I had to call him first when I would ask him why he hadn’t reached out to me. Mind you, it was when I was a preteen and he had already separated from my mother. This dude really set me up for failure in the beginning. THANK GOD I found you Shera because I unknowingly used to be a pickme looking for male validation because of my dumbss father. 😒

Men get sooooo angry whenever you say that the man needs to love the woman more, but when you look at long term relationships that are successful and happy (I.e. they don’t despise each other like many couples unfortunately end up) it’s rarely, if ever, a situation where the woman is the pursuer of the man. But they can’t accept that truth

Girls just use the Law of Assumption, affirm with two affirmations every day that he is obsessed with you and loves talking to you He will come back so fast

I have never contacted a man 1st. But not because of a power struggle. A man will pretty much accept a date from any woman if she falls in his lap. A man will make the 1st move and take the risk of rejection if he has genuine interest.

Yep! ❤ The best way to do this is to never save his number, and delete the recent calls/texts. Remove the temptation.

"A marriage proposal is not a good thing unless it comes wish a lot of money." "Run! That was almost a threat to your life"

Yess that is the exact reason why i love you and i hate male “realtionship coaches”. They’re sayin a bunch of true words first and then nonsense comes out. Texting a man first is not powerful and looks very cheap.

I’m on Millionaire Match and the women are thirsty. They forgot even tho he got money he isn’t the prize.

if you want to avoid contacting him first, delete his number

Yes! This is why I do not like the Bumble app. I will never approach a man online or in real life.

Reality is people do not need friends. They need mentors.

Shera is the mother I’ve always wanted!

She's so right 100 I've never ever called a man per my mom and grandmother....I only respond, if they text, and even then, I'm always busy... they will chase, and chase, and chase... stop acting like you so need them, and they'll chase you.. you have to be unattainable

I don’t even contact my husband first unless I need something that day, I never call or text him just to “talk” or anything 😂

"Does he want a hard working woman or does he just want something hard?? Tell him to go find something hard" 😂😂😂 SHERA IS THE QUEEN 👸 🎉😂

Yes ladies get their money and live your life to the fullest with no shame zero shame 💁🏻‍♀️❤️❤️

I’ve done a lot of dating and relationship coaching private, intensive, group, high-end, all, etc. Every coach I’ve worked with said to contact him, to reach out first. I always felt icky but opted to ‘do what I needed to do’ to meet a provider man. Now I know better… Thank you Shera ❤️

Was in a relationship recently with a man who wanted me first and I realize I was the only one that was communicating and I stopped and we never talked again!

“unless he’s in a wheelchair he better get to rolling”🤣🤣

10:56 what if he says he’s always the one reaching out “then say congratulations that’s how it feels like to be a man” LMFAOOOOOOOO yo i’m crying

Real ish, that's exactly how I roll and if he thinks I'm contacting him first he's a WHOLE fool. I have never been the type of woman to chase a man, unless he stole my purse. 🥴🤷🏾‍♀️

The REAL city girl 🤣😂💯

I’m still cringing at how I was in high school and college and I’m 29 😂 nothing wrong with a little refresher! I watch your vids for maintenance ❤

Shera , you are one of the best psychologist I know... without theory... put right into practice. Genuine , with real outcome.

It is important that the man loves the woman more than she loves him. He will always be panting and faithful -- this includes husbands. Sounds wild. Use your self-worth and discipline ladies. Even Kelly Ripca says she never calls her husband first, unless it is an emergency {and he is Fine } Try it, you'll love being a desired femme woman.

Contacting a man first is giving ( desperate debbie) 😂

I come for your videos anytime I’m about to make a stupid decision ❤

This is basically a lecture. I’m taking notes.

"congratulations thats how it feels to be a man" im saving this one for future reference.

I stopped watching you for 2 weeks and lost myself again. Please don’t stop with your videos 🙏

Idk if you have a profile on TIKTOK but your videos have blow up on there and that’s how I found you 🙌🏽 I’m so grateful.

👸contacting him 1st is the same as saying ur desperate, which makes u the man & him the prize🎁no, nope, nah & hell nah🙅he'll use u, but you'll never💰 ever be "the one👰‍♀️.

If you constantly need people around, you means that you have a codependency issues. Everyone must be peaceful in their solitude. This is coming from years of psychological study, plus undergoing my own therapy sessions and seeking advice from actual professionals.

Thank you for mentioning the fact that a lot of the men date just to get back at their ex. Two of my exes always text me when they meet somebody new, to check in to see if I want to give them another chance before they start hanging out with someone else. And check in with me every few months while they’re in those relationships. So men are really opportunistic like that.

50s 😂 I love your videos I’m just so pleased I didn’t stay to long with the wrong guys they still had to be the bread winners any way !having a conversation about the men being a providers etc with my 28 yrs old son sat in the garden ! He turns round and says oh Mother your so entitled !was laughing to myself 😂thought of shera ❤

“He has to spend it’s the law “😂

I once gave my number to a guy and then he said he lost it 15 mins later. I told him I guess it was important enough and walked away.

In all honesty, how many women would like a real relationship instead of playing games w players?? 🙋🏻‍♀️

Just read the title and said “exactly” lol. But I still see women make this mistake all the time

I’ll listening to all your vids and buying your books soon you are the truth and Im glad you’ve helped me rewrite my mindset for the better no more settling just cause he’s “handsome” but broke

Period. Helping us break generational curses

You are a genius how are you so smart????! Smart funny pretty a literal Goddess✨✨

Oh Shera, your yacht guy character has me in tears 😂

You: "that friend that is older and pretty just married a youngster in prison. Thoughts? Sheraseven: "girl?! No thoughts. Sprinkle, sprinkle". 😂

I think women are hearing these messages and going to chase high earner Men but are missing the point. It doesn't matter if he HAS money it's whether he WANTS you enough to GIVE to you that matters. There is Zero point to a high income if you get none 😆 and he spends it on side chicks etc.

It's a matter of semantics. Try not to get caught up with the word,, "chase" meaning pursue. Men naturally pursue. That's not our role...to be pursuant. We can pursue our careers and goals in business while we await being pursued by the right man who is provisional. Grown men don't have any issues with being a provider.

I wished I found you when I was in my 20s because I was such a fool but we leveled up

Thank you for your teachings, it work. This is not for everyone , but for committed ! As Shera said If you have to call or tex first , ask for a favour , help , money etc…

I knew some of these … manipulation tactics.. I’m glad for the in-depth explanation because it helps me vary my responses etc. these men been playing these horrific games for decades. It’s definitely time for us women to thrive.

I know you already know but girl you go viral every day on TikTok I’ve seen 4 of your videos on TikTok well over 100k views that’s crazy 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾 love to see the girls supporting you! Idk how many accounts exactly but it’s definitely multiple accounts

I have three friends married to MUCH older men and they STILL work!! Figure that one out! 🤷🏼‍♀️ (I’m with a younger provider man who’s attractive and don’t work) 🤷🏼‍♀️

Y’all questions be so funny I wouldn’t even think twice 😂😂😂

So happy I’ve found you. You’re the female influence I always wanted. 💕

I didn’t get this notification because I definitely contacted him first yesterday 😂

Shera you're crazy af girl you make me laugh so much. When you role play the old men you had the head shake goin and all. I'm dead! 😂😂

Omg…Shera is always hilarious but that old man talking about his boat…I lost it.🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

Omggg she’s so real and smart. Lol I need to be on this level. Lol

I heard this in another book, you have to let them come to you. If you look at them, etc, show interest, whatever and they then do it it might be just that they are pleased that you’re interested and if it goes down the drain or whatever you basically artificially created this by not allowing him to do it. You might not be his type type but you’ll do for now and he will leave you eventually for his real type. So ladies let them come to you so you don’t get hurt or taken advantage of afterwards.

Shera, I died when u said “ baby it’s time to ask for a raise “ lmao 😂😂😂😂

I feel like Shera exudes the most energy and youthfulness and enthusiasm in this video. Plus the message is the most important out of all of her videos.

This reminds me of when I made the first move to arrange a date on Valentine’s Day with a tinder match…at his HOUSE! I definitely had a fun time and it was better than spending V-day alone but I cringe so much looking back and I now know why there was no second date 😅

THE OLD MAN SHAKING TOOK ME ALLLLL THE WAY OUT 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂

fingers were itching to contact him after almost 3 months of no contact so thanku Sheraaaa for reaffirming

So happy I have found your channel! You have completely changed my way of thinking with dating

SheRas old man voice at 1:10:10 has me dying 😂😂😂

Thank you for posting SHERAA!!!! ❤❤❤Literally love you! You’ve changed my mindset and I’ve grown and learned from your videos

Girrrl you are too hilarious doing the shaky old man impression - I near spit out my iced latte 😂

Given how men really be out here, I think it’s more older men who aren’t married have never been able to maintain a woman properly😮‍💨

Shera's old man oice about the yacht took me OUUUUT!!!!!😂😂😂😂😂

LOVE THIS LIVE 😂❤ Shera is my inner voice 🙏🏼 who protects me from cheap men!

NEVERRRRRR APOROACH Ladies & compliment them. Soooooo embarasssing for us ladies if any of you does THAT!!!!!!

The old man with the boat imitation, fully took me outttt😂😂😂😂😭💀girl you are too much, I am crying and having an asthma attack at the same time😅

2:11:11,Old Man Voice That Part! I think I laughed non stop for about 25 minutes straight. Her acting voice is on point. Shera is off the Chain wit it

Lmaooo her old man impression got me crying

The old man SHAKE is taking me out!😂

This is like a podcast for me

5:37 "So if I give you my number .. will it be worth it?" why should I give you my number?" love this! 7:55

Idk I dated someone for a year and I never contacted him first, I always went on and lived my life and allowed him to contact me first every single time and it still didn’t work out, he chose another woman and he said he felt like I wasn’t interested enough. I think it’s about balance allow him to contact you first some times or most of the time but also sometimes reciprocate and contact him just don’t over do it that’s the problem women don’t know how to stop. Contact him then pull back, and take turns. BALANCE

I love old men they tend to be classic gentlemen, no childish shit

Lmao 😂😂😂 Shera I'm over here dying laughing. You give good advice but you're hilarious.

A “hard” working woman. So he wants a trans woman. Bc of that something “hard” he wants 😂

Ms. Shera , You're 💯 correct. It looks desperate if a Woman does that behavior. I will NEVER contact a man FIRST. He is a make him sweat and chase.

Queen Sprinkle, please upgrade the camera!

A wise woman

My guardian angel! listen to you any free time i get

Sperm chase the egg 😂 that’s going to stick in my mind forever.

Omg I love you since you first came out and I have a topic I’d LOVE for you to discuss! I just went to a dive bar and it occurred to me how so many men from other countries first ask me what I do for a living!! Omg I know how you said that men never really asked you that and you don’t ask them unless they bring it up first. I would not say I’m unattractive so I find it appalling that it is even an important topic to talk about. 🤔 😅But get this Shira…the only ones who ask are immigrant men! No offense if anyone who is reading this is an immigrant. I am American 🇺🇸 and I notice that there are a lot of immigrants in Orange County dive bars trying to land a successful American woman. Shira…I would love to see you do a discussion about these men who are scoping out us for what they think they can get from us and what we can bring to the table. I bring nothing! Lol 😂 I told the Egyptian man last night (well first of all I am already talking to someone and wanted to ward him off anyway) but when he asked me what I did…I straight out said I’m just a teachers aide! Lol 😂 I told him I didn’t need to work before when I was married because my husband was the bread winner. Lol 😂 I told him I am very traditional and still believe that I should not work if it’s going to make me become so stressed out. Lol 😂 Anyway…I think you should forwarn women about new men who are trying to land an American and for-warn them that they are time wasters. Sprinkle Sprinke!! ✨✨✨✨✨😘

Chile, idk what good Sis Shera is looking at but these men look old as hell!! 😂 Most Women are looking younger across the globe bc we aren’t stressing over them.

Random dusty - I got a T-shirt that says miserable woman . Her - “Where you get it from ? Your mama ? Sprinkle sprinkle “ LMFAOOO 😭☠️