How Do I Shut Off Emotion , TIPS 

Even if you love him, never be extra, just give him barely enough... keep him hanging on. The minute he thinks you're over the moon for him, he will change up. Don't call him, text, don't pick up his calls right away....make him earn everything.... and when he pulls back, let him go...

I normally get emotional when I lower my standards. ONLY when I lower my standards. Don’t lower your standards ladies. He must like you more, and make him work. If you’re getting emotional, then he probably likes someone else more. Choosing the right target is so important.

1. Think of it like a business - your love and emotions and energy is money, who's paying more? - if your emotions are more than them, then you're getting cheated, you quit - if it's paying you're staying, if it ain't paying you leaving - throw away "falling" in love, it is "growing" in love - look at gestures and actions not words, until you see actions you don't do nothing - take full responsibility for what you're paying out - don't give more than they're giving - sex does not equal love to men, the more you hold off the more they like you - if you're not getting more, you're paying him to be with you - money is the physical representation of emotions and energy, no money, no emotions 2. Self-control - stop and think --> shut off emotions - It only takes you a few minutes to think - "I need to think about this for a few minutes." - Don't go around aimlessly recklessly, you gotta think logically to get the life you want - Discipline your emotions, we have all this power, we need to know how to wield it - Don't allow them to control your emotions, you control your own emotions 3. Focus on leveling up Do men fall for sweet woman who don’t complain and go with the flow? Nope. They fall for women who make them work for the things in return. 4. Shutting off your emotions is a choice - When you find a man that has more emotionally attachment to you then you have to them, you don't worry about being cheated - If that person doesn't care about your feelings, that means you like them more, they like you less - find someone that likes you more - they will agree with you and give you your way - they will make you happy and comfortable - they will not try to put you down because they like you more --> that's why you shouldn't chase after men if you're chasing that means you like them more and you working for them, wrong YOU ARE THE PRIZE YOU ARE THE ONE THAT'S SUPPOSED TO BE CHASED - emotional wrecks are with men that don't care about them - start thinking of it like money --> you give too much, you realize you're robbed, you pull back

Shera is confirming what my late mom told me. (The only real advice she gave me about men)--"marry someone who likes you more than you like them." My late sister (from her experience) also said, "Don't listen to what they say, look at what they do."

I think the best way to cure this is to test it out. Be emotional ladies.. & then see what happens. I’ve been emotional towards skinny, tall, fat, short, dark, light, broke, rich men and the psychology STILL remains the same. Being emotional will never work, I don’t care if that man is a pastor, you can’t beat basic male psychology. So go ahead ladies.. test it out yourself. The response alone will make you never want to be emotional ever again.

"Think of emotions like business and money." You could have cut the camera off right there. #anentireword.

How to know if you like him more than he likes you: YOU GOOGLE RELATIONSHIP ADVICE BC YOU ARE UPSET/JEALOUS/UNFULFILLED. Trust me, he aint asking no one for advice. He is enjoying his time while you are fretting.

I read a lot of self help books in my life but none of them changed me as much as you Shera

If I get emotional, all I have to think of is Shera saying “sprinkle sprinkle” and I snap right out of it. 😂❤️😘

If you are a very passionate and emotional person find a way to channel it through art, music, dancing or writing. This is a good way to express yourself and keep yourself emotionally healthy and balanced. It will also allow to not be overly emotional with men 💅🏿💅🏿💅🏿💅🏿💅🏿

I have made a habit to ask myself is this Good for business , does this benefit the business , it has saved me from alot of stuff.

I don't fall for the BS when men say that they like for a woman to approach them. Believe me, if a man wants a certain woman bad enough, he will approach her. Also, a man has more respect for a woman who makes him work hard for her.

There is something to be said about holding off on the sex. If most of us held off on sex as you look back you will discover most of the ones you laid down with would be a NO WAY. Sex means nothing.

"You say nothing, you pull back in action, and energy!"

I have learned my lesson on “overly liking” someone because when I say this man chased me down bc I wasn’t paying him no attention, WHILE he was being chased down by other women. I gave in after 1 year and boom! This fool played the snot out of me after I confessed I liked him. I will NEVER ever ever ever ever do it again. Especially after 3 years and him finally saying,” you’re too emotional”

Getting emotional is just a way of your body/soul telling you that you need to put yourself first and benefit bc you gave everything that you had away. You went too far and are self destructing. Emotions are there to help you stay healthy. Not press the gas and beg him. Stop everything you are doing for him. Think. And give to yourself until he or someone else comes and invests in you. Otherwise he will find you cheap, desperate, and annoying no matter how pretty you are.

Shera got me triple checking my looks & outfits before I leave the house. Saying “is this leveled up enough?”

Ladies, once you ve ghosted someone once, you are addicted To this emotion of power. Try it!

Set standards and don’t be MOVED for nothing unless MONEY!!! God said cast your Cares onto Him, that’s what you do with them Emotions and Cares...don’t throw them on ppl lol frfr tho

Yes, you have to train yourself on how not to react and be emotional. "Money is the physical representation on how he feels about you" Absolutely Shera!

Shera is right. We need to be more like men in this regard, guard our heart. And think logically when it comes to love. Dont fall. Watch him, listen, and decide if you want to show and have feelings.

She is not talking about money. It's very simple. Let them prove to you that they care. To those men you can show emotions. Dont chase, atract. You are all so worried about loosing a guy, not realizing you are already in his power just by being worried about loosing a person.

Thank you Shera! Yesterday a man started hitting on me and instead of getting emotional and excited I toned it down and played hard to get. He proceeded to come after me again. What she says is the truth, men are hunters, period.

It's so annoying when I have to shut my emotions off but it's so beneficial. A lot of the guys i date say that I come off mysterious and aloof.

He surprised me today by telling me he wants to get (buy) us an apartment.! I haven’t even kissed him.Only holding hands ! 😄😄😄Its really true that the more you hold out the more they love you

This also applies to friendships with women as well! Hear me out!! Too many women out here will not be there for you how you would for them. That is why it's very important to guard your emotions. Don't let any drain you and never give more then you get! I recently got into a bad accident after trying to celebrate a friend's birthday who didn't even come to mine.. the lesson is I gave more then I got and ended up in a worse situation... NEVER give more then you get...

STOP GIVING SO MUCH. CONSERVE YOUR ENERGY AND LEVEL UP LEVEL UP LEVEL UP..LESS wrinkles and edges maintained until you get what you deserve. I am learning and practicing this daily. Thank you SheRa...xx

Very true...as Tyrion, a character in The Game of Thrones said in the first episode of season one, ”Never forget what you are. The rest of world will not. Wear it like armor, and it can never be used to hurt you.” Own your flaws, and don't forget them, then it can never be used against you.

This hit so deep. It makes so much sense now. It’s when you let yourself slip up too and get comfortable with men then boom they switch quick. Gold information.

Her videos are like meditations my anxiety always subsided cus she slap that common sense back into me real quick sprinkle sprinkle 🤣🤣🤣

All men are the same I learnt the hard way, 10 years of suffering with a broke narcissist she is 💯 right. Do not be emotional or sweet to these guys younger females I promise they don't deserve it!!!

Yes having lived in Europe and Asia, at the age of 30,“ i finally come to the realization that adult relationship is indeed a business because it’s political in nature. There’ll never be 50/50 power distribution in the relationship. Either you take the upper hand or he does. We all know what will happen when the man doesn’t care. Ladies take your business seriously, as Shera said watching for the other‘s behavior rather than their words.

My man took care of me, but was verbally, and emotionally abusive, and showed the tendency for physical abuse... grabbing and squeezing my arm, etc. I had to let him go. On to the next I guess.

Use your emotions as a tool. They help in certain situations but won’t work if you pull them out all the time.

Sometimes I question this way of life with men.. then after they start playing games I always end up back to this channel. Back on my ish 💄💅🏽👛👑💰🤑

Got into an argument with my boyfriend last night and things are looking uncertain. He said he needs time to himself so I’ll give him that and shut my emotions off in the meantime 🤷🏾‍♀️

THINK BEFORE U FEEL LADIES ....Idk if its because im a virgo but im super logical over emotional I thank God for that💚

When I emotional , I overshare valnerabulitues . Later when I back to stable stage , people still judge me based on my emotional stage of oversharing ( they keep bringing up what I said ) , I keep on explaining that I was overwhelmed than but not now

Just feel no ways. That’s it! I learned how to stop being emotional. It’s better that way and you accomplish more.

Right never chase a man!! Follow the correct order is so right!! Even the SPERM chases the egg and the BEST sperm fertilizes the egg!! Giver and receiver order as you discuss often

Shera out here speaking facts all day, my grandma tought me how to use the power we have as women, "men are like babies " is up to u as a woman to use them how u want and 'A MAN HAS TO LOVE U WAY MORE THAN U LIKE THEM', that's the only way u can be in control. I am 28 and my man is almost 60 hes a BILLIONAIRE, Girls u need to take emotion out of relationships with men, that's the only way u will get what u want... thank u shera

@31:37 I regret marrying a pretty boy. He took care of me but it was young love struggle and he was a dog. The one blessing that came of it is a beautiful daughter graduating at the top of her class this year🤗 At 39, I’m now ready to remarry a man who will provide more and is too old to cheat😂

"Changing the target" is KEY....you think these men don't have high standards and don't change target, they show it in so many ways when they lose interest. Level up and keep it moving.

Overly emotional men make me sick.

I still remember having a conversation with my daddy two years ago about marriage. He advised his little girl (me) to marry a man who loves her more than she loves him. I didn't get it then, until now.

I love this woman she’s a mother that many women never had

"money is a physical representation of what you're doing" bruh we get this iconic wisdom for FREE? i love you shera thank you for your time and energy

I married for looks and he was a prick and cheated and verbally abusive so glad it ended, the worst 3yrs of my life, my bf now treats me like a queen and has put up with my crazy/ but he said he notices a big difference in me lately-thank you Ashera seriously

Had to watch this bc bf is looking somewhere else… so what did I do? Level up ladies… bought new clothes new shoes and started working out more.. thank you shera I listened to your advice and I found my self a provider I cannot thank you enough for guiding me into a better lifestyle

Grow in love vs fall in love. Until you see action, don't respond. Always be on your A game. Don't give so much when no one asked you to. Thank you for the reminder Shera! ❤

That's why you always get THEM more emotionally attached to you you lean back and recieve the benefits from it you can get them to do anything with emotional attachment just dont fuck it up

My word of advice to anyone trying to get over a dusty, just go to Miami and get a rich man to ball out on you. He will be crying at home 👏🏼😂

What I love the most about u is that u don’t sing the like , comment , share, subscribe song in any of your videos which proves your care free nature ! Loads of love from India

Here 2023. Shera, you’ve reached a whole new sector of women and your message is doing wonders for us all. Thankyou.

It is a businesssss darling ! 💯

These are facts! My husband gets super spooked when I’m emotionless and he is more emotionally invested! I always stop doing everything 😅 when he complained that he was doing it all I said I don’t care to hear any of that🤪I give him what he wants when he’s doing his part😊

“Who cares what they’re asking, what do you want them to know?” GOLD

If you ain't getting paid, youre getting played

I don't get why people say Shera is Toxic. This is the simple teachings of our Ancestors. Ask your Grandmother - these are old ancient African ways women used to carry themselves. The Western World has you acting dumb and giving your power away!

It's like God is speaking to me lol

Your videos are definitely for me. I have an obsessive and addictive personality and I'd imagine that to be overbearing for a man and I'd obviously be the loser who loves more. So I need to not be emotional.

Tall women are stunning and impossible to ignore with heels on. I’m 4’10”. I should know. Own your long beautiful legs and the attention they bring you ladies. ❤️

Ask JLo if she hit the wall on that pole... I'm way younger than her and I can't even pull my a** up 🤷😝😂 Runs to pole classes... 😭😭

The thing that you said about children learning from their parents is so true I have issues with controlling my anger, and I think I picked this up from my mum. I realise that as an adult I am fully accountable for my actions though.

That's so TRUE! In dated a guy for 6 months and when i went to "third base" with him after 6 months, he lost interest about 2 weeks later and purposely forgot my birthday! After 6 months of him chasing me and buying me stuff and asking me to move in with him! I thought he loved me, well, maybe he didn't like my "technical skills"! LMAO 😂

Man when I tell you these videos have helped me so much!!!!! If it wasn’t for Sherra my ass would be emotional and all out of control around here. And everytime I feel myself slipping I come watch her videos 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂

This is my issue - I was too emotional and I paid with my energy😢

I love Shera. She is giving me what my own parents are incapable to give me.

You saving lives. I wish I heard you 10 years ago.

Damn I’m 3 years late! I’m dumping him right now 😂

I just created a Playlist titled “Shera’s Wisdom.” I kept liking them and realized I needed to have a Playlist of only her wise videos.

I started a relationship with the guy asking for it. He also said "you have to love me with all your heart in order for us to be a couple". So he started by actually asking for love! It was his requirement. I was still being used as placeholder and dirty little secret.

I needed this been married for 18yrs I’ve been chasing him the whole time and still doing it. I’m just realizing this just need to turn off 😢 cause I’m not getting what I give . I needed this!

OMG please critique the Bachelor!!!! I’m so disgusted seeing the beautiful women fighting for this one guy!

I’ve been binge watching this channel, for HOURS AND HOURS ! Soo much info sinking into my energy and bones! Level-UP

My own uselessness was real. My friend once told me there was a new woman in his life and he wanted his space. I responded by exploding and interrogating. He responded by saying I was like everybody else (in responding like this). I guess I was, I thought at the time. Who wouldn't be? My reaction served nothing. I disappeared. His association with the other woman was short-lived. (She discovered quickly what he was about.)

As women our gift of emotions and love is for our Lord Jesus. We were made to praise Him! But nowadays we give all that to the men in our life 😮

Holy crap! I never look at things this way!!! I am being cheated! I always detached emotionally from my boyfriend and over a year still never chase him bc I feel like he’s not giving me enough

I got married 5 weeks ago . I noticed my Husband just stepped down . I usually let things go . Even though I noticed all the things he wasn’t doing. He wasn’t wearing his wedding ring . Sleeping on the sofa . Stepping out from my kids . I’ve started treating him the same way and he is angry and pissed with me .

To sum it up ... Check yourself before you wreck yourself !

I think the more you care is the less the guys care... once you realise what you are doing you leave the guy and move on with your life and I am very sure that you will meet someone that will treat you like a queen 👸... what I know is that, if a guy truly loves you no matter what you do to them they will never raise up their hands to beat you... Have one thing at the back of your mind that’s self esteem.

Lol I had a huge fight with my bf on Christmas..we were both drunk in the club and he told me if I leave him he won't chase after me this time. I left the club immediately, got home and started packing to leave the next morning. I'm telling you the panic on his face when he saw that😅 He begged me to stay and spoiled me for days. Don't play with me, I'm the prize and you'll treat me accordingly😏

Restraint is sexy and powerful.

I always think I have it under control, then my pms hits me. 😒🤦🏾‍♀️

Energy is definitely the metaphysical form of currency

This woman is a blessing. ❤️

The way she be addressing ppl is so funny!!😂❤️ #GOALS I seriously need that kind of fierceness about myself because I’m too nice? She just gave me the keys to unlock a lot of hidden knowledge concerning men and this makes perfect sense? Now I feel completely stupid for allowing myself to be drained and treated less? HELL NO? Knowledge is power ladies👏🏾❗️

Shera!! THANK YOU! Your manifestation videos are the TRUTH! I have a journal I’ve been manifesting in for only a week and I’m already getting big time results and blessings!!! PLUS your tips and tricks help not only me but women as a whole. You are my fairy godmother✨ SPRINKLE SPRINKLE

I don’t have words to explain the blessing u r to women ❤️❤️❤️ I appreciate u deeply girl, u found ur purpose and its fascinating to see and learn😍😍😍😘

I’m a fire sign (Leo), I definitely need this help!

I feel so much better when I don’t care💯

Saw the TITLE, and said 🗣 Yes, Shera help em girl!! Help us ALL 💜💜

This one was a hard pill to swallow. But I needed to see it for a reason

I used to be great at controlling my émotions until I met my husband and freaking surrender🤦🏾‍♀️🤦🏾‍♀️🤦🏾‍♀️🤦🏾‍♀️Now it’s so hard to go back to the baddie I used to be !!

I LOVE THIS WOMAN , ALL THE WAY FROM NIGERIA

Was just looking up detaching emotions this morning..right I’m time!

you have all the power but you don't know how to wield it--needed to hear this

Shera... your wisdom is out of this world... The women in my community did not operate with such self-worth and innerstanding... Thank you for your teachings!!!!

Seperated= Married. Learn that one the hard way. We're going thru a divore= married. I'm waiting on the lawyer to set a court date= married. I ain't seen her in 2yrs=Married.

I love how straight forward she is😂