Self Mastery of Your Emotions Allows You To Control Others 

I've practiced personal detachment with my husband. When I used to show emotions he had me control. Now I just don't react , don't call him, don't text him. I spend his money. His money is my first love. I've gotten a breast augmentation, lip fillers, botox and now getting my crowns dentures. He used to come late now he comes home early and I'm not home. Ladies hit him hard spend his money that way he dont have to spend on the other ones😁

Notice how SheRa thinks before she answers 👑

This is GOLD...my life completely changed when I started detaching and not reacting...Ignore them too!!! Men loose their minds when you ignore them...act like you don't care...just live your life and think about what his ass gonna buy you for getting on your nerves or doing something stupid. Another thing I LEARNED is to stop expecting my partner to be perfect. Men are as faithful as their options and they lie and usually don't want to hang with you without it benefiting them in some way ie Sex, food, appearances...so...I stay calm cool take notes and collect tax...I have never ended a relationship and walked away with nothing...😉

LOGIC OVER EMOTIONS. UNDERSTANDING OVER CONFLICT. Keep a book every time you get upset you write on one side logical thinking and you write on the other side emotional thinking and you've simply follow the logic side and ignore the emotional side do this every time before you react.

I detached from my emotions at age 14 when i noticed how my dad enjoys arguing with me. That skill has served me so well with men.

My mom was so oblivious and never taught me any of this stuff. Thank you for your service to women. 💁🏻

You don't get mad. You get money.

Ladies no amount of money or lifestyle should make you sacrifice ur dignity.... Verbal abuse,/ physical.... You can find a man with money and who will treat you right...

Thank you Shera for your platform. I hope the younger generation of women will take heed. To you young ladies: never let ANY man try to guilt trip you about your standards. That’s his way of saying you’re out of his league, but he wants that to be your problem. Keep your foot directly on these men’s necks.

The irony of people arguing in the comments with dusties under a video about not being triggered and emotional.

Journaling is another good way to handle your emotions. Has worked wonders in my life.

1. Talk about your emotions - if not to the person they caused that, talk to someone else "I hate when people....I dislike the type of people that..." focusing on your dislikes 2. When they did something bad. when you supposed to be emotionally, get something out of that situation - cuz they supposed to be in trouble but now they only have to do this/ buy you this , they will agree - when they turning up late, ask for things too, they won't be late after that plus you'll be getting gifts 3. When you surrender to a person that you're helpless, that you value them, that you've given up so much so much for them (faking it) - they will feel obligated to give you what you want - pretend you have a huge event you should've gone to but you here on a date with them “I really want to see you" - ' wow she gave up something that is so important to her just to see little old me ' - when someone make you super happy, only show about 30% happiness but still show happiness (leaves room for improvement) - then you up it when they up the gifts and things they do 4. when you stop caring, when you stop reacting and START PLOTTING--> is when you get the most in return - they also start to act better - you control them, you control yourself *If that person has interest in you, it's gonna work, if they don't have interest in you, it ain't gonna work, so you leave and go to the next target 5. Stop being competitive that's for the men to do 6. ACT HELPLESS HELPLESS - so they feel obligated to you - or not they will view you as competition and a man - you need feminine energy to get what you want 7. How to handle verbal disrespect - Act VERY VERY hurt - get your acting skills on - they say something bad about you --> act and start to cry - right then that gon get em - obligationnnnnnnn - but if you fighting back, you feeding them energy to throw back at you, just start crying --> use your feminine charm someone calls you a gold digger --> say nothing (it's a compliment to me ) not caring is a mindset, you choose where you put your energy I gotta put me first there is no room for emotions in business or the workplace it is business 8. Get people approach you - feminine color - easy to approach - leveled up - a lot of factors 39:00 9. Water signs emotional when they're young - when these water signs (me) controlled their emotions, it's OVER - we become underemotional 10. When you angry - get quiet - create master evil plan to execute to get something I want get them to not doing again - it's a chess game - we don't get mad, we get a plan - get primitive reacting mode happen, get the creator of your life - GET SOMETHING OUT OF THE SITUATION 11. Female friends - if you got A LOT IN COMMON, close to the same page --> great friends 12. If people triggerring you - its about keeping yourself unborhtered - oh youre right ill think about it and then keep doing what you were doing and being unbothered by whatever they saying - mirror their behaviour to let them know how it feels - DONT BE EMOTIONAL - don't let people know your triggers it's like letting them know your passwords - if they dk your triggers, they can't get to you SURRENDER SURRENDER , ACT HOPELESS, ACT LIKE YOU GAVE UP A LOTTT

Ladies, dont forget that your goal doesn’t have to be money, it can also be turning him into your slave. Just make sure that you have a goal tho.

I'm nolonger slave to my emotions..

My ex never cared if I cried he always seen it as an opportunity to manipulate me. If fact I believe he liked it

When I'm about to get emotional and over invest myself into someone, I go straight to her videos and it literally works wonders on my time & energy

Watching you Shera at 3 in the morning with tears streaming. 37 years old with 2 kids, 1 deceased and it feels like I am just growing up. 1:08:10 You said a WORD!! To level up and succeed at our goals, we as women have to give up the best part of ourselves!! "Give up being honest, being caring, being loving, being giving". It hurts so much!! You're right and I feel like I've always known the Truth but instead tried to be Noble. Fuck having principles. Literally nobody cares... I understand this now from watching your channel continuously for weeks. THANK YOU for sharing your wisdom Shera!! For my own sanity, happiness, growth and fulfilment, I will become the epitome of SELFISH!!!

So true. This guy I was seeing was always doing me wrong and every time I confronted him about it he was so calm and looking at me like I had five heads . He controlled me cause I couldn’t get a reaction out of him . I felt like I was going crazy .

Honestly, controlling emotions has been an advice that made my life so much easier. I used to be very impulsive and it wasn't easy to stop overreacting re EVERYTHING. it's a whole new level now though 😎

"Fake a panic attack and he won't try that stuff no more." That is awesome hahaha

Stoicism works. There’s books on it for those who need it.

Emotions have no place in business and at work. BOOM!!! Life changing sprinkle indeed!!!

Highly emotional people can be fun if they are generally positive and interesting. NOTHING sucks worse than highly emotional, poorly regulated people in the workplace. It sucks energy away from actual problem solving and building team spirit. I have worked with some truly emotionally STUPID people who thought I was “mean” by remaining calm and detached while they exploded. They had no clue how insignificant they were.

It’s pretty inspiring to watch you upgrade while learning from you!

That's it! I'm lying through my teeth from now on 🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾

Ladies sometimes your hormones are out of balance especially as you age and taking birth control. That's why we get super emotional. Need to figure out diets, weight gain, meds, lack of sleep hats causing the imbalance. Suzanne Somers have great books on fixing hormones.😀😀

"That's the punishment " ❤ it! Get him where it hurts... his wallet💸💳👌

Some of this sounds like The cure for being the Target or victim of a narcissistic person. Or, solution for dealing with a narcissistic person.

I just don't give a f** anymore, I'm neither disappointed nor surprised by men's behavior anymore... I used to be very emotional and shi now i just leave the conversation I don't let their words control my mood I'd say yeah you're right and end the discussion or just leave it on seen . I choose to protect my peace and energy over anyone

I need this because I tend to pop off first and ask questions later🤦🏾‍♀️

Stop caring the best advice in my life 😎😎😎😎

U are so right.. I experienced this today w the guy I’m talking to. I didn’t react - he asked me out on a date (but stood me up). I reacted to that & he started doing this dr. Phil “don’t be miserable“ schpeel. And went on to “hope” for my forgiveness.. I decided to ignore him... now he’s begging to come over... but I think I’m done w the mind games.

Yep and most people, men and women have such limited control over their emotions/ reactions so you definitely have the upper hand when you control your own.

This is made me mysterious and that “there’s just something about her” woman to my boyfriend

Girls, when isn't Shera on her game?

When you stop caring and reacting, you get the most!!! Words to live by 🙂

Every time a video pops up I say “Oooop my Fairy God Mother is speaking to me.”

Why couldn’t you have been my mother 😫😫😫I’ve learned so much from you...and it works my dude was out all last night so I didn’t bother him or call him today had him calling me like why haven’t you called me wyd, got him tryna chase me and figure out my where-abouts.....oh yea and I had him pay my phn bill lol where young and only been together six months, thanks for all yo advice ma.

I appreciate you being honest about how you used to fly off the handle. That's me right now. I get soooo..mad that it scares people at times. Sometimes I scare myself. I have a huge heart, and when people take advantage I lose it. So glad you are discussing this topic.

This is a TRUE GODDESS IN FLESH AND BLOOD!

“I can’t breathe ... Call my mom” 😭😭😭💀💀💀💀

I was so emotional this afternoon and this snapped me out of it.

Shera is a master mind!

Therapy! You can’t control others when you can’t control yourself. It’s boundaries, logic, and healing yourself. Thinking rationally and logically and listening to understand will protect you always. Seek a qualified therapist, don’t turn a partner into a therapist-they can use this against you later on.

She's right about talking to older men. I don't talk like a lot of my peers (i.e..slang, etc) and that was one of the first things an older guy I was dating complimented me on, then one day we were texting and I responded to something he said with the symbol for smiling emoji :) and he texted back "what's that" 😂

I have been called "childish" for be offended/ crying when I was disrespected.

I needed this. Over the past few years I’ve had ppl tell me I act as if I am unbothered by the things ppl do. Lol...well this means I have been on the right path. I choose not to let anyone get the best of me.!

Shera your advice comes handy every day! I do not let people trigger me and get what they want. Instead I trick them back and beat them at their misconduct! Well they started it.

Love your advice Shera, I’m a Scorpio and finally realizing my goddess power and ability to flow through life detached and getting what I want ! It just manifests out of the blue and feels so effortless

It takes practice to control your emotions. I say to myself never let them see you sweat. I told the guy I’m dating as soon as I want to tell you the what’s up I will be gone. He’s a grown man I’m a fool to think I can change him. If he don’t know how to act I disappear. He comes back acting right. I also vent to close friends and I get over it quick

You're right about all if this. I used to do whatever people wanted- family, friends, and my ex. And even after doing all that, everyone still disrespected me and talked horribly about me. Not one person ever mentioned any nice things I did for them.It was unreal. I had to smarten up and start getting what I want from people. I am not dating yet but my social connections are a lot better and people treat me better. I don't care anymore about people and am way less emotional. I was almost arrested from over reacting to a dusty. Exactly.

2:35 anger is a double trick as you think less of you more of them! It also ages and is more intense and activates your flight or fight nervous system

Ms. Shera is aging BACKWARDS honey! 😍

Extremely valuable advice. This is the beginning of any true ascent for all.

Asheras voice is so soothing. Makeup always on point. I have had so much more control of my emotions since I've been watching. i wish i found her sooner.

Beautiful, wise lady🌹 I think I will run marathon through your videos 😅

I think you need wayyyyyy more recognition and even an award you dont understand how much you have helped me, more than my friends or family put together. I have had problems in controlling my emotions i have a moon in pisces and this video has changed my whole game thank you Queen

You are a Guru. You are a wealth of knowledge.

Make a business arrangement. That is basically what a relationship is. You don't use manipulation to practice business. You are professional and do what is best for the business. Let go of people, who are liabilities.

The fake cry got me rolling 😂😂😂

If a ugly man can to turn into a beautiful woman, there’s hope ❤️

OMG I should have listen to this in my mothers womb lool In all seriousness, i honestly believe i am more in control of my emotions now and understand i have to really think about financial goals than trying to be right ALL THE TIME. Learnt it the hard way, but worth learning. Thank you for always doing these videos :)

This really works, timing is EVERYTHING!

TAKING NOTES AS WE SPEAK. This is ALL about reclaiming your power as a woman in this game of love. Thank you Ashera. There's so many videos telling MEN how to handle women that's blunt and forward and finally we have the version like that for us women. 🙏

Everything starts "IN THE MIND" big ol ass FACTS you said there Lady! Forget arguing, take the other route Do not get mad And stay thinking this way PeriodT! Yes I spelled it correctly ✌🏽

I will suggest people to play chess. It makes you more inteligent and get you brain use to think strategically

I really needed to hear this. Been giving out my energy to useless people. No moooorrreeeee

Keep emotions out. Only use Femininity and logic😊):.. use absence and presence.. temporarily detach when you need to... complete 🔕 silence..

This is so true, no one cares about my emotions more than me

Shera I’m so thankful for finding your YT. It really puts things into perspective. I’m a college student who’s dabbling into entrepreneurship. I assumed that I would have to sacrifice romantic relationships because I want to provide better for myself & wasn’t too sure if a man could compete with that. Thank you ❤️

Thank you for schooling me .. I’m 25 Pisces Female with Aries rising. My biggest challenge is my emotions I over react quickly & fucked up a lot of good things in my life. But I usually bounce back quick. But I really needed this advice to make my life smoother. This is life advice that my mom never taught me. 🙏🏼 thanks again for jewels 💎

Ive watched you grow for the past 4 years and you have really been flourishing and inspiring others by setting the role model example. Good job👿🕵️‍♂️😎👿👹

Fake a heart attack?! 🤣 Damn, I love this woman! Howwww do you come up with this stuff!

I did exactly what you are talking about on my own before I watched this! I generalized the dislike of behavior and directed it as a group of people when I texted this narcissist back and blocked him. And this other guy I started hanging out with started being passive aggressive and mixed signals saying insulting insensitive things. I ignored it and acted like I didn't notice! I am using him for what I want then throwing him away because he leaves me confused and doesn't care how I feel and he's a narcissist. Yep they ALL LIE!!! SheraSeven is BRILLIANT! 🙌

This guy I knew had recently got back in touch with me. My nieve self was like aww he miss me, but my intuition kicked in and telling me something ain't right, come to find out this dusty wanted a loan from me, I told him off because it started out with flirting I was thinking it was cute. When he start talking about money, I was like you can miss me with that sheeit.

I LOVE YOU SHERA! IAM LEARNING SO MUCH! DAAAAMN!😂😂😂😂🍷🍷🍷🍷👏🏿👏🏿👏🏿❤❤❤👍🏽👍🏽👍🏽👍🏽👍🏽

Talking about our emotions to the people that try to step on our toes can be divulging our prescious energy ,so to add to what you say,if we got to get out pent up emotions, having a mentor can be helpful for some,because talking to narcissists about how they make people feel is detrimental,it will only feed their ego with narc supply. I was watching this vid in a middle of a minor argument with spouse and i appreciated the reminder to not get triggered and the disagreement never went any further and "the fight " never happened.😈🖕👿🤔💓

you look so pretty :( whenever i feel emotional over a man i come and watch your videos, they really help me

You get more beautiful every day! Teach us your level up ways pls!!!!’ I love when you do topics on emotions

Thank you Star goddess,I usually say that what you focus on affects your reality be it physical, emotion or financially just to mention afew, my mom always say "where your focus goes, so does your energy too n you attract. Its all mental'' be the director of the situation to control your emotions..maybe in extreme exemptions. Much love ASG

Perioddddd this woman is a genius

This is gold especially being a Pisces

Being emotional is because of our hormones, we have more estrogens and we are more emotional than men. After sex we also generate more endorphines, dopamine and oxitocin, and men do too but in less amounts, so the attachment for them is less. We are naturally emotional however we can be educated on being rational. As women is always good to have a group of girlfriends and we can cry and get emotional there, and complain and vent and cry for how men are, but never cry in front of a man. You can leave, but dont cry, you can complain and demand, but dont cry. Go cry with your friend, your mom, your neighbor, go to church, etc, it is hard for ladies not to be emotional. I am super emotional and I fell in love with a guy, and I dated him only 3 months and after 5 months I feel I still have feelings for him, but I am trying to find a replacement as soon as possible

Lol now i know why men try to get you mad, coz they be doing it intentionally and you end up falling for them wondering wtf just happened

Shera you are right AGAIN. Thank you for just confirming that i was playing the game right years ago. I had him right in the palm of my hands but let it go because i just got tired of the game. I am ready now thanks to your videos. ❤

I’m A PISCES. I AM EMOTIONS.

I don’t want to control others. Sometimes you have to let go

Facts Pisces I get quiet an start plotting 😂

I am so glad I found your channel

Yes SheRa preach. Love it. Strategies is the key.

I’ve been listening to you for three days & figured soooo much out already . I look at my time now as money & my energy is expensive .

Man I wish I would have watched this when I was with my ex 😂😂😂 and ur so right btw about the asking for things, just get guilty and panic so they do stuff for u lol

Thankh you beautiful for the tip on using emotions to manifest things I want and desire instead of just getting angry and wasting it responding to bs that might otherwise agitate me. Love this crown you're rocking too!!!! Good vibes from BERMUDA 🇧🇲....

I used to have major arguments with my mother when I was in college. When I didn't have an immediate answer and came back later, she questioned it as if she was testing me.

My rich boyfriend is getting married to me and I figured out through his old messages .. he was cheating on me with one of my girlfriend. I get upset , said nothing and cried in front of him. He transferred money out of guilt to me .. like always bought ice cream and a lot more .. he cried too :P

I’m emotionless

This is great advice for the work place too...a lot of personalities and egos flying around...when you ask what can I benefit from this conversation and if you come up with zero then conversation is over document (no emotions in report) and report to HR....HR is useless but you may get rich because documentation holds up in the courts...

This video is a masterpiece. I can't stop listening to it and every time I learn more and more. Shera you deserve to be rewarded as the woman of this century. I love 💘 you more than my own mom.

This is the greatest advice I've ever heard!!! 😍

Your makeup looks absolutely stunning! You should wear that eyeshadow more often Shera!