Nice guy habits you need to stop NOW

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Being a nice guy doesn't mean you should allow women or people in general to walk all over you. There are habits that are keeping you from reaching your best potential. Kick those habits to the curb!
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00:00 - Intro
02:52 - Habit 1
05:15 - Habit 2
06:38 - Habit 3
09:46 - Habit 4

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@jossell911 Год назад

As someone whose been called too nice. I’m learning to change. Mission: Put yourself first. Value yourself. Have self respect and set boundaries!!!! Very crucial vid💯

@kevinsekete1765 Год назад

Very good.

@richluetoure5386 Год назад

Good. Me too.

@cleophasnamayiotenyo4845 Год назад

Good, i have learned, am going to change

@JohnDoe-nm5le Год назад

Just because you put yourself first doesn't mean you wouldn't be a little bitch. e.g. "I'm about to be in a stressful situation so I'll just put myself first and not do what I should do because it's safer and feels better. I won't walk up and talk to that attractive woman." Or... "I value myself so I'll just stay at home and play video games or watch T.V. because I don't want to get hurt or die." Nice guys are nice because they're cowards and have no other choice but to be nice. If you want to not be a coward, then you should do things despite being afraid to do them even if it means putting yourself at risk. Men who aren't nice and are capable of speaking up against the group or whatever are men who have proven themselves capable. In other words, men who have been through some hard shit that was tough, challenging, grueling, or anything difficult and lived through it and gained valuable experience from it to the point they can inspire others to push themselves to those limits and beyond as well.

@henshawosong5469 Год назад

I think that a lot of people don't get that some people are genuinely nice. I am not a people pleaser. It actually pleases me to be helpful. Some of us were raised to be selfless like Jesus and put others needs before our own. Self sacrificing. Some of us simply do not have the energy to start a fight. Not because we are scared but it's not how I want to spend my day. So if I tell a woman what wrong and we fight about it sometimes I just want peace. I know I can hurt her with my words and it can take her to a mental institution if I was honest and trying hurt her the way she try to hurt me. So I'll rather allow the disrespect because I don't want to be the reason for someone elses trauma. Best thing to do is to abandon disrespectful women... Out of empathy no not because I am scared of fighting. So I am usually conflict avoidant with a woman that is headstrong. So I come off as a push over with these type of women. I simply have a very high tolerance for bullshit. Empathetic to a fault. I have dealt with my anger issues so much that I can't remember the last time I was angry because my anger can drown me. I can get angry to a point where I can feel the bitter taste in my throat. So from a very young age I knew my anger could either kill me or hurt someone else so I changed from one extreme to another extreme. All of these set me up to be taken advantage of with the wrong woman.

@LebronNOTJames1300 5 месяцев назад

I remember in high school I use to hear girls say this about me out loud to people “he’s weird, he so nice, and text me good morning beautiful every morning.” And those same girls that treated me like that now got 5 to 6 kids and a few baby fathers who don’t even help them. I lost the battle but I won that WAR 😌

@nurhayat81 2 месяца назад

Amen brother 👏🏽

@boxoffisa Месяц назад

In the end nice guys win. I can’t change myself and taint my character in need to win a narcissist heart.

@LebronNOTJames1300 Месяц назад

@@boxoffisa fa sho 💙

@Comic_control 28 дней назад

Yes it's not about losing the battle but wining the war

@johndasilva2686 26 дней назад

That’s right good for you.

@Raj-cl7he Год назад

Setting healthy boundaries will automatically make you seem like a bad boy. What changed for me is that I started noticing how much my qualities of being nice to others was actually affecting my self esteem, my confidence, my opinions, even my right to speak up. Once you see how it affects you will start making steps to better your self

@legion1630 Год назад

many don't recognize how it affects them

@ernestbannerman9868 Год назад

Thanks Very much my Dear ❤️❤️💯💯💯

@XPOSEAFRICAMEDIA 8 месяцев назад

Hi sis... You were talking about me, I was in that category for many years, and trust me it is killing me until I learn to say no, I learn to look after myself. Being a nice guy will never make anyone love you more instead you are being used. Thank you!

@soladah432 6 месяцев назад

The best video I have watched in a long while...thank you Jessica.

@ezramutunamusonda3131 14 дней назад

Wow, madam what a gift you are, thanks so very much for this session life changing indeed

@princeeleanyakalu7960 Год назад

I love this,I've been a nice guy and has been used and stupid to some friends and families, trying to please people has been my greatest problem. Today,I turn a new leaf

@rondavid7413 Год назад

Forget that stay blessed Anyone who doesn't like nice is EVIL Matthew 5:9 Blessed are the peacemakers, for they will be called children of God. Maintain a nice peaceful atmosphere around you I've seen evil mean women desperately in need of what the nice guy has been abundantly blessed with So Being nice is a position of strength that comes with being blessed just keep an uncompromised vision of what u want The being nice part irritates the evil ones when they can't manipulate you Being nice myself with abundance I see many mistake my kindness for weakness they're predictable a mile a way & I win every argument by what makes the most sense

@Terrestrial..1 13 дней назад

@@rondavid7413Don't give up on your inner self to become like Them. Be happy.

@niiadomnortey Год назад

Learning how to say "No" and not feeling guilty about it is the best thing that you can do for yourself

@text3plexfinderoninstagram97 Год назад

This message is to recognize your contribution to the team's success. Your commitment had been exemplary and your hard-work is an inspiration to everyone around you You're a truly a professional

@KNByam Год назад

True. Especially in my element in the gym.

@mrshinrillaify Год назад

💯

@joemiller8482 Год назад

I agree

@Sammie551 Год назад

Especially to women who use these emojis....."🥺🥺🥺🥺🥺🥺🥺"

@isazaki3056 Год назад

As a former nice guy. I would advice most guys to become a gentleman instead of being a nice guy or a bad man.

@solomonighede7133 Год назад

Yes, thank Jessica you helped me on the topic relating to my past relationship with a girl I know feeling guilty of my self for not put myself out for her , 0

@kerronewen3162 Год назад

Great advice 👏

@Kats_ronnie Год назад

Bad guys carries more weight coz it loads more weight

@carlosverde-datingtips7001 Год назад

I hear ya - Isazaki! A lot of people get it twisted, they think they actually need to be a “bad boy” in order to get the benefits bad boys get. And that’s not true at all, all you need, is to do some of the things they do that come off naturally to them. Such as being “independent”. Bad boys are rarely ever clingy and needy, they don’t constantly need a woman, they’re ok either way - they march to the beat of their own drums… and this is what you may need to do if you want to start being successful with women as well! Anyway, that’s my two cents. -Carlos Verde - Dating Tips

@isazaki3056 Год назад

@@carlosverde-datingtips7001 Well thank you for your reply. I totally get you. What you have mentioned in your reply is something Jordon B. Peterson usually encourages most guys to do. To become a gentle monster and learn to integrate our shade. Hence it's important for a man to have a good balance between his good and bad self. Choosing the former over the latter in most scenarios would make him a gentleman or/and a gentle monster. These character traits will attract women.

@NefariousDreary Год назад

I like to tell people that if you're a nice guy, don't only be a nice guy. Show people that there's more to you than nice and that there are consequences for mistreating you.

@ekemelunnoli7149 Год назад

I sometimes catch myself returning to my nice guy Mode, but then i remember your words and knock myself back into the awareness of not wanting to be the people pleaser i typically used to be. I have grown since listening to your Tips. Thanks for sharing.❤

@rondavid7413 Год назад

@malvernmabvira1562 28 дней назад

@@rondavid7413max respect u legend

@antonyndegwa6265 Год назад

The 4 Nice-Guy Habits to STOP are: 1. PEOPLE PLEASING thus living by IMPOSSIBLE standards. 2. Too much AGREEABLENESS, which kills your INDIVIDUALITY. 3. SAYING YES to everyone's requests thus allowing EXPLOITATION. 4. Failing to STAND UP for yourself when insulted/harmed/threatened. Adios.

@antonyndegwa6265 Год назад

@Hutton Patricia May all be well in your second try of the relationship.

@loszhor Год назад

Thanks.

@carlmaslow1870 Год назад

Thanks for the summary 👍🏽

@RealNzlord Год назад

Don't get that last point I'll fight who ever pisses me off or my family treating people how I want to be treated shouldnt be a sign of being nice I'm also quiet so respect me I'll respect you don't give it out

@sosososwaggva Год назад

My man saved me enough time to watch another video appreciate you my guy.

@jonathanv8305 Год назад

Never change who you are for nobody, if she don’t appreciate who you are she don’t deserve you. Let the trash stay in the trash can. 💯

@earlgoodlett7593 7 месяцев назад

sure you right let the trash stay in the trash

@JosphAdams-vd5nq 7 месяцев назад

More gracias

@deontuigamala 6 месяцев назад

Facts!💯

@snOags 4 месяца назад

Good words. Thanks

@michaelchilaka3113 Месяц назад

Exactly 💯

@fawohelvis397 Год назад

Wow this is a great eye-opener to me. I have spent almost all my life being a nice guy trying to please everyone and ending up being the most used, most abused and most unrewarded. I'm changing this with radicalism!!!

@mayowaokunoye6522 Год назад

I swear Jessica you are just too correct.All this points you made from point one to point six are just exactly the point. I in most cases find myself in this kind of habit/attitude.

@Baruch994 Год назад

Nothing wrong with being a nice person... your not meant for everyone! We are just living in a hateful nasty world!

@donnelladams8362 Год назад

Exactly

@malanmashilipa2662 Год назад

I was thinking the same

@muritalaakande69 Год назад

Being nice has to be moderated.

@OmniTheAlchemist Год назад

But if you keep doing it you look desperate and it feels forced

@earrth911 Год назад

So true, its evil vs god.

@sinethembasibiya4327 Год назад

Being a gentleman, setting boundaries & putting yourself first is always the best option

@jammer0856 7 месяцев назад

You really hit me Jessica!! This is my first time to watch your video and I felt everything in my heart what you said!! Put your self first is a great answer because my bff I met 10 months I met her online and she lives in the Philippines and she inform me to put my self first cause she said I'm so nice and don't let anyone take advantage of you!! I finally start saying NO and you are right!! It feels better but sometimes I still feel guilty but I'm changing from that!! Again thank you Jessica!!

@MojoSun1 Год назад

This video is me. I'm 65 years old and have been single for over 20 years. After watching your video, now I have to change myself again. I wish I saw a video like this one, year ago. Thank You for creating this video. Many Blessings To You. Blessed Be

@edecyprian2809 Год назад

The truth is that people see nice guys as people who are weak. Sometimes it's really very difficult to change from the real you, but I think is high time I start being nice to myself too than that way I do to people. Thanks a lot Jessy

@LoveInTheMiddle Год назад

Be nice! It’s fine, just also take care of yourself too. BOTH can co-exist…

@alexfletcher1492 Год назад

Yea bro, because being nice is wah I am I can't change

@simuspot Год назад

same

@millyrock4455 Год назад

Hey its been easy for me in the last year I've disowned everyone close to me and I don't do anything for anyone ever thats all I've learned from videos like this and the world lately

@teiloojukwu231 Год назад

I'm telling u o...

@douglasmusamba4673 Год назад

Somebody tipped me about the badness of being a nice guy. My previous relationships all ended in tears. Since then I transformed myself to a different person. Below are my principals which I follow either in a relationship or at work. 1. Do the right thing and never do things to please your boss at work or a lady u are with in a relationship. 2. Do not agree everything your partner says. 3. Don't be scared to lose her somebody who truly love u will never pressurize u. 4. Always be a big thinker.

@ebenezerdonkorx-ray4561 Год назад

Good

@tangaafrica1155 Год назад

I salute number 3

@loszhor Год назад

Thanks.

@charleslsledgeiii3683 Год назад

Very informative and helpful

@alvinsimba734 Год назад

One thing for men. Do not date women that you work with and the reason why I'm saying that as a man is because it only takes one move and those women that you think may like you , may end up sabotaging you and your job. For example, accused of something that you clearly didn't do. So you are better off dating someone that no one knows that you as an individual that you only know.

@smangankosi5124 Год назад

Thank you I was also that nice guy putting people first and helping everyone when they come seeking for help. Thank you❤️

@michaelmungu3339 Год назад

Jessica!! My tears are flowing inside, I love this.!!!

@jacoblantei1540 Год назад

Sometimes as a dude it’s actually very important to stay quiet. Even if you know the solution to a problem that’s being discussed in your presence. As a guy you should be able to analyze and pick up energies around you without staring 👀 or opening your mouth

@feloniousmonk321 Год назад

This is a great comment

@johnwest6977 Месяц назад

Completely agree you just gotta read the room sometimes

@kinchcherry5227 Год назад

I politely slightly disagree. It's the people pleasers that don't win...a person can be kind and compassionate but with boundaries. We should not mistake people pleasing with being kind or nice

@advils12 Год назад

100% concisely spot on! Personally, there's a lot of these social media people being psychoanalyst to every life situation. Ergo, I SAY...Never, ever mistake kindness for weakness! Assumptions are the Mother of all Fu..ups!!

@user-sk9sp7pe4y Год назад

Underrated Comment

@opimpibar4438 Год назад

@@advils12 Omar sterling fan?

@toborismattox3163 Год назад

Exactly you treat people with decentcie They take that for nice bullshit funny thing is everyone has a mean side

@captainkeyboard1007 Год назад

Jessica Opare-Saforo did criticize people-pleasing, and so does the Holy Bible. The Bible describes it as "being a respecter of persons." This trait is not good to possess. People are not perfect and do make mistakes.

@fistonmugisho7106 3 месяца назад

Thanks for this wonderful advice,I was a victim for being too nice to many people and been used but I changed and got my respect back.

@peterpn3215 Год назад

Thank you so much I have been a prisoner of being nice to everyone but have now been delivered may God richly bless you

@thokozanid Год назад

One of the best decisions I ever took in my life was to subscribe to your channel. 🇿🇦

@kofiappiah7034 Год назад

She’s really great at what she does.. 👌

@amosokilong6917 Год назад

After reading,a book by Corey,"how to be 3% man",it opened my eyes,just as Jessica has said, being a people pleaser especially if you are are yes person in regards to relationship,she will be see you as weak and a trap for manipulation, from that moment have learned to be me,to comfortably say no,and stand on my grounds, no more "nice guy", for me,I have now the freedom to be me.

@nqobilenyathi7699 Год назад

may i kindly have that book too friend. the 3% man you mentioned

@marvingrinage5423 Год назад

Jessica. You are on point. I can relate to your advice roughly seventy percent. I really like the fact that you speak about subject matter from your heart. Alot of advisors need work in this area.

@dennisgounden682 Год назад

Thank u Jessica.U are amazing and you comments are so true and absolutely good and true.I cannot stop watching your channels.

@kingsleynwoke7338 Год назад

Well done Jessica. You said it all. When I started to say no to my family members because I felt being used , I became an enemy . So much emotional blackmail and criticism but I stood my ground.

@modikiramaisa4619 Год назад

I’m going through this now I’m living for my mother and I want to live my own life now

@antonyndegwa6265 Год назад

It might be worthwhile learning about NARCISSISM too. Users can be narcissistic abusers.

@limitlessfelh1109 Год назад

I'm proud of you. Going through the same issues.

@richworldba Год назад

Great, am in ur shoes

@user-rn4tt9gw2p Год назад

Ditto for me…they told me f my chip on my shoulder…when I grew up without my brothers and a broken home

@princepacifico1512 Год назад

A polite man and a people pleaser are 2 different things. A people pleaser aka "nice guy", has no boundaries and is a doormat for everyone. He's afraid of losing friendships and relationships and does everything even destroying himself to keep those relationships. That's the difference.. it's not difficult to be polite and not be a doormat for everyone just have boundaries thats all

@audaciousmona1310 Год назад

So true, if you aren't being yourself and always trying to live for people, you'll always go through the worse in this, for a lot of people are on their personal agendas, being too nice won't benefit you anything but hurts and disappointments most of the time... You'll always wonder what you doing wrong and find nothing, but what really do wrong is the 'too much' of Mr Nice guy. Thanks for the lectures, you really play a great portion in our lives, especially the fact of being a woman and bringing the facts and truth to the minds of men... It makes you a significant blessing unto us. Thank you so much Jessy ❤️

@chaucerparks1713 Год назад

I'm only as nice as a person is to me. I am willing try to go the extra mild being nicer even when I'm not receiving the same in return. However, I have a built in trigger and a timer and I can explode with a mean streak if pushed. I try to avoid conflict but I will engage when It can't be avoided..✌🏿

@anthonyokonkwo843 Год назад

From all you've said, I find myself in between. I am neither a nice guy nor am I a bad guy. I am just a guy that please people when it's needed and right and don't when it's not necessary. Know yourself and feel free to be yourself anytime and anywhere

@Raptured_and_back Год назад

I think its also a good thing to be able to defend yourself and hurt someone taking the initiative to hurt and take advantage of you. It makes them learn. There's no nice girl term because women are only nice/submissive the more attracted they are to a man.

@babyluvjr Год назад

That's some of the realest shit u ever spoke, pimpin!! Women that really aren't feeling u like they SAY, will ALWAYS SHOW u their TRUE feelings!!

@abwizzybaby 11 месяцев назад

Am so happy for you Ma Jess. Am proud I saw you subscription grow from 120k followers to 1 million followers and more, keep it going Ma Jess, you're the best😘.

@malmeningakuri.malimusic281 Месяц назад

This video is definitely for me. Thank you Jess 🙏

@nerdi3984 Год назад

My first time watching your video and you've won me over. I hit the subscribe button before you even ended the video. People took my "nice guyness" as weakness for a long time. When I eventually stopped tolerating certain people who used to take advantage of me, I became an enemy to them. Thanks for making this video.

@nzangaanthonyjacob8832 11 месяцев назад

It's worse when you are dealing with a gas lighter

@lekasville Год назад

Nice guys stand up for everyone else, but themselves.

@RicardoLopez-ty4kn Год назад

100%.

@andrewkoech1646 Год назад

Thank you, Jesica. That's all I can give you. you've really transformed me.

@faloundiaye2504 Год назад

Thank you..I was dating a girl for just 10 days..she asks me everyday money, foods... She wanted to use me cuz I was so nice to her and thought I'm not mature.. This video is important 😊👍🏾

@isaacnigare6302 Год назад

It's never easy to change the real you to a new you, but I think it's high time we accept changes in our lives

@evanthomas1859 2 месяца назад

If you change who you are then who are you? See we don't get to choose much in this world. Choosing who you want to be.

@McNobotosombo Год назад

Very true, nice guys suffers the most

@peterodekina4369 Год назад

This is probably one of the best of your videos to me. I was so blessed. Such wisdom! Thank you so much JessicaOs

@adonismache 2 месяца назад

Thank You mem,,, nice stuff, I actually benefited

@olatundeowodimilehin827 Год назад

You simply made this specially for me, dear Sis.! More wisdom and God bless.

@justjoe9208 Год назад

This is a beautiful piece of advice for men who always want acceptance by everyone!! Just stop it already coz it never works. Just be who you are. Stand by your principles always!!!! BIG up Jessy👍

@angelarutoh1791 Год назад

True

@dalisobanda5575 Год назад

Thank you. I will be who I am. A nice guy...

@mrluvit8232 Год назад

@@dalisobanda5575 fully agree 👍 let's all do our part 2 help make average nice guys 🆒️ 😎 again!

@ZFlyingVLover Год назад

You can't make everyone happy so stop trying, be a gentleman but lookout for number one, YOU, and if you have time to help other then do so. But don't put yourself second.

@bettybless1764 Год назад

When you stand up for yourself by not allowing people to insult you, disrespect you, take you for granted or take advantage of you as said you're named "difficult " arrogant, proud among others . Its not easy where to strike the balance.

@kingsleygodson3219 8 месяцев назад

You are talking directly to me These are facts and it's affecting my business.

@edemlawe2430 Год назад

The accuracy of the points you raised in this video is astonishing, Jessica. I'm subscribing to your channel because of this video. Great job.

@sylvesterese466 Год назад

Jess ', the moment I picked up my boot from the straps, I discovered that am now quick to see a manipulative attitude from both genders, particularly the women . Am at peace, with myself now... Its Bs, pleasing people. You're 101% right, Jess' Those that will love you will and those that don't won't...

@NejiHyuga961 Год назад

Thanks to this channel I’ve found where I’ve been going wrong with things. Now I no longer am blaming the other person.

@1donKlanzDon 11 месяцев назад

You speaking real FACTS!!

@Preciousguyrocks Год назад

I love you Jessica, you are such an intelligent and wise speaker. You speak with so much wisdom. When I listen to your or appears you speak my language most times. You tend to cut across cultural and racial barriers. Most of what you say is applicable in most cultures. Keep up the good work.

@bigq1977 Год назад

This video definitely hit on the nice guy stigma. This has to be your best video to date. Thank you.

@fomosewoyeba7872 Год назад

This is a knock on my head 🙇‍♂️Thank you Jess for the video

@Introvertedalpha Год назад

🔥🔥

@plumduff3303 Год назад

Spot on...I'm the product of a narcissist family...been used by most people my whole life...

@robertb7529 Год назад

I really needed to hear this. I love your videos. I'm from the US and your advice is needed here too

@vcjjj08 Год назад

When I started being assertive and saying what's on my mind which seemed mean spirited but then my phone wouldn't stop ringing and always got approached. I stopped making women the priority and backing down in arguments. Learning how to walk away from bullshit. Here I am 45 and for the last almost 7 years all but one ex-girlfriend are still pursuing me. Not bragging but she is saying some real shit that I figured out many years ago. Young and old, women are a trip.

@ARTDEVGRU247 Год назад

Any plans of settling down?

@Nwokwulevictor Год назад

Jessica. I've watched your videos for sometime now and I must say you've really helped me improve my social life and game at large..I used to be this soft inferior dude but now,I am confident and I have had the most attention I've ever had in my life these past months thanks to you..you always give me content I need even before I think of it..I like me now because of your videos thanks a billion.❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️

@mukondelelic.mulaudzi8357 Год назад

You are truly a caring Sister Jessica, helping your Brothers out like this. Please continue with this great work, some of us need it. It provides great insights into Self.

@kobinaforson992 7 месяцев назад

Thank you for sharing! Very informative video

@t_adams Год назад

Why is being too nice equated with not putting yourself first? Why is it OK to tell nice guys they are the ones doing things wrong for being a nice guy? Being a nice guy is not a bad thing, yes being a doormat is a bad thing but that has nothing to do with being nice. I am a proud nice guy. I Take no shit from anyone, but I am still a nice guy. You can be a nice guy with character flaws, like being a doormat or not taking care of self-first, but that is to work on. I am tired of nice guys feeling they can't be nice, or they are somehow wrong. Stop guilting nice guys.

@shedparker Год назад

Exactly. I’m at the point now where if you don’t like me for me, it’s whatever. Don’t chase women, don’t be nice to women, etc., seems women are reserved for the James Bonds of the world. I’ll continue focusing on me.

@samuelagyeman1644 Год назад

This is exactly what we need in the Social Media space. Love your videos. Keep up the good works. God richly bless you for sharing your wisdom.

@DeLegacy_tv 8 месяцев назад

Can i give you more than one like..the video was so comprehensive and encompasses all aspects of Misdeeds done to nice guys out there I was also planning on making a talk show on this but coming across this now made me know that you have done a good job and did even better by put the full message I had in mind out there for the world to see and for every nice guy out there to brace up and know when to say “No” but the issues still remains that nice guys like us would always remain nice and even after knowing that we are been used in most occasions may still just want to remain nice and let things sly God help us

@ceddys_heatsneakerz Год назад

I’m so happy I came across your channel.

@JessicaOS Год назад

Welcome!!

@sincerity3699 Год назад

There are nice guys and people pretending to be nice guys in order to gain trust from a woman, or anybody, a girl might think "a nice guy" is a pushover and not be on her guard, perhaps he want to use and dump her. A true nice guy will always be nice no matter what, because that is who is, without the intention of doing things to please people, but I totally agree with Jessica don't allow people to use you, nice guys should be nice to people who are really in need of help and will appreciate their kindness.

@eguavoeneugene4384 Год назад

I am a definition of Mr nice guy cause all the characteristics you mention was a description of me. You have given me total liberty even though I was already freeing myself from the shackles. Thank you Jessi and keep on doing a good job with your post

@MichaelGriffin-wv5tx Год назад

it's a book online called no more mr. nice guy...you should listen to it.

@techy_jesse1514 Год назад

@@MichaelGriffin-wv5tx yeah one of the best books to definitely read. 🙌

@kobby_mystical Год назад

@@MichaelGriffin-wv5tx how?

@josephgatambia5679 Год назад

I'd appreciate a copy of that book from anyone who cauld be having it

@Rainstorm121 Год назад

Thank you. I just realized that I have being a nice guy for 5 years during my relationship and, now for 7 years of marriage.

@brianforbin4637 8 месяцев назад

Thanks a lot Jess this video was for me.😇

@daudakamara728 Год назад

Thank you so kindly Jessica Your channel is not only an encyclopedia but addictive as well Your presentations are out of this world

@wispermapiro8290 Год назад

this one caught me I'm always called a bf material and end up in a friend zone

@robertgeorge177 Год назад

Yes, you are right that when you face bad behaviour, it's better to let the person know that you don't appreciate it. And most of all, as you said, learn to say 'no' firmly but politely. Thank you!

@user-vu4yq6wc9b 5 месяцев назад

Thanks sister, nice advice!❤️❤️❤️

@abongderic8565 Год назад

Thanks a lot for reminding me that I've been making a mistake by trying to please everyone around me which is an impossibility, worst all this thing of a nice guy has totally destroyed and ridiculed my relationships both with friends and family not forgetting the romantic one's, but thank God I've learned my lessons and this reminder from you again!

@nwokochabright1995 Год назад

I found myself in all of this and i think this video is speaking directly to me. Am grateful, finding this channel have helped me so much. Thanks Jessica

@danielmboungoumayengue2298 Год назад

Thanks Jessica. Very good video.

@oghenetegaisrael2889 Год назад

Many thanks for sharing 👍.

@ignatiuslorenz3235 Год назад

I was a typical nice guy. Wanted to always please people until I decided to stand my ground. I lost so many friendships/family. As I focused more on my self and got better with my life. They came back but this time with so much respect and love for me. Now I have set my boundaries, you just have to respect them.

@dsanders799 8 месяцев назад

That is awesome

@jeffdarkwah2676 6 месяцев назад

Yh yh true

@niwagabajameschina Год назад

I'm really grateful for this wonderful work to help out the "simps" that are dying inside due to detrimental relationships and due to inability to understand their worth and fear to stand their ground and to listen to their guts. What is amazing is that it is a woman articulating this, this is wonderful and a blessing to have a woman talk about this in this radically feminized society. My humble request is that if it may please you, we have these ideas translated into a book. I think we will have another Esther Vilar

@borisbryant.007 Год назад

Ma guy You read Esther Vilar? I hope it was by accident if not what sent you there...........hmmmmm

@Wyntrborn Год назад

You can start off by not being disrespectful calling someone a simp. Unaware of being too nice is more mature.

@kofiabanquah8156 Год назад

So helpful and that you so much Jessica

@austinevick Год назад

Thanks for this useful information.

@onahchibuike5985 Год назад

You are so right I have been used enough Most times I feel bad knowing my weakness

@maxwelltsipoaka3654 Год назад

I feel this video was made for me 100% Thanks very much, Mad. Jessica.

@timothyjuwon9081 11 месяцев назад

This is so sweet thank you jessica

@jumaamiri8804 Год назад

Thank you very much sister jesica !

@tonyeentertainment5292 Год назад

You are so brilliant the way you articulate on every issue. Thanks for keeping it real Jessica.

@lekasville Год назад

Timely Message! Thank you, Jessica 🤎

@ahmadeltahan1167 6 месяцев назад

thank you Jessica for the quality content.

@JessicaOS 6 месяцев назад

You're so welcome!

@lawalabimbola9639 Год назад

Wow! this video has really been helpful, saying "NO" has always been my problem cos i don't just want to let anyone down and oftentimes it comes with dire consequences i had to bear all alone. Thanks so much @least i know i'm not a bad guy by saying No

@earlem9771 Год назад

The challenge for me is that changing my habits to be more in tuned with what I want instead of what I think others want has been taking some time. Nothing good happens overnight or without persevering effort.

@tunde4444 Год назад

Good video, speaks volumes about who I am and where I am in life. I’m 42 and have lived most of my life being nice to people. The times that I’ve stood up for myself got me revenge from the family members of the people I spoke up against ! It had a lasting repercussions for my sanity, it got me no respect but the complete opposite ( one of the incidents, 1. Being called gay as a young 20 something, being called a nigger, my heavily pregnant sister being pushed by another woman…..) the list is endless….sometimes speaking up doesn’t always help being the bad boy gets you locked up in prison for many years and you end up with a wasted time and nobody’s respect. I agree with you on so many levels but my personal experience has been quite the opposite when I’ve said no….I’ve been called lazy, self centred, selfish and victim mentality ! Women don’t like or respect me… We live in an unfair nasty world !

@earlem9771 Год назад

@@tunde4444of course you have to be careful with how you say things. That being said, saying what people don’t necessarily want to hear will can and may upset them.

@Kenzo_254 Год назад

Bless your soul. The message struck home.

@sexikenny09 Год назад

Great ministration, I am aware of this treat in me and I have to do better. Thanks so much. It is my first time seeing your post and I enjoyed it already.

@lamontucker8715 Год назад

Everything you said here is on point.

@stevebillwatchers4538 Год назад

You are talking about me. i thought giving women attention and taking care of them will make them love me. little did I know I was just fooling myself around.

@africanchildsouljah Год назад

my nice guy ended up with my first relationship at 17 i have been ruthless and cold ever since and it has shocked me how much women like bad people.sometimes it makes me sad but also alittle scared of the tendencies of women..married and successful women and even the religious ones are actually the easiest to crack the key is to move like you really "dont care" i call it the role the dice method or treat her like abitch while at the same time making sure they understand that you rule you universe this women will follow you to the gates of hell so sad

@RedDevilStudio Год назад

Did you find a lot of these ladies came from difficult backgrounds?

@africanchildsouljah Год назад

@@RedDevilStudio not necessarily it has always been amixed bag

@youtubewatcher4955 Год назад

That’s crazy. I’ve seen and heard that many times, and maybe that’s why I can’t get anyone. Being cold/ruthless is not me. Not even a little bit. I don’t even think I could fake it. Idk, guess the game of love ain’t for everyone…

@africanchildsouljah Год назад

@@youtubewatcher4955 yes its facts most girls cheat on the good guys and the guys who give too much attention to the chics

@cammokyle Год назад

You have them on a string because they can't "tie you down". So their mind is constantly gaslit with "what is he doing now/where is he now" lmao

@oladapodaniel6372 Год назад

Thank you for this video Jessica

@daveazi9554 Год назад

Wise advice thanks J.

@arincollins3920 Год назад

Thank you Jessica. This video is timely dear, I feel I was the culprit here and you have rescued me by the way.

@chelseafcfanstv4448 Год назад

I have learned a lot from here because I always try to be good to everyone expecially in relationship and get used and dump at at the end and this video teach me why and what I should do