Hello guys! So I have been getting so many questions about my No Contact Rule videos and I am seeing a lot of the questions revolving around the same mistakes. Heres the most common mistakes I have seen so far. Like and subscribe!
Not saying she isn't but it's a video, you don't know her personally it might be different dating her. I'm sure she is nice but change your thought process it sets you up for failure.
I'm just moving on not waiting for him..I have blocked him everywhere bcz I m not gonna accept him back ..I can't forget the pain he has caused me.i can't love him again the same I did before .
@@jenniferdimapilis5906 dear..I was in same situation last month.my bf also left me suddenly after 4 years of relationship.i can feel ur pain.dear.what I did was that I blocked him.and whenever I felt alone I shared with my loved ones .like my frnds n family so share with someone who will listen to u with patience u will get out of this situation trust me.just think positive
@@jenniferdimapilis5906 my sincere advise just move on, I know its suck but its worth it. I been through that before keep listening to all the advise from u tube and it make you wonder and realised your value yourself more than anything else. break up is suck and painful, my prayer you will get through this.
Starting the no contact rule today and I will focus on myself. I believe in the universe that good things happen and everything happens for a reason. Hope I get through this smoothly. You don't look 30 gurl. Keep it up.
Ishita Rajgor you are so special and I’m so excited for the new knowledge you are going to gain through this. You are on the right track! Keep working on yourself. You’re doing amazing
@@edrinablissg That is really sweet of you. Although I did break the no contact. I am learning that I don't deserve such negativity in my life. I am done chasing someone who doesn't see my worth.
I’ve just started it yesterday and it’s shit! I did beg! So it probably won’t work...but I’m giving it a go anyways who knows maybe I’ll totally move on!
I want to work on the “No Contact” rule with my ex. But it is difficult when we were together 7 years and she is my best friend. Many people would say that the relationship sounds toxic but no one understands me like her.
I blocked my ex and her entire family from all social media and phone numbers. She texted me 1 month into no contact. From some different number. I did not reply and blocked that number. Then she contacted me today almost 1 1/2 months into no contact, from another different number trying to gas light me. But I did not reply. Honestly, I made my mind up to just move on. There has to come a point where you just don’t care. No matter how hard life is. Just better yourself, love yourself. Fill your own cup.
Starting no contact today until he calls me first. I said everything I needed to say. It's time for him to pursue, initiate and start our relationship again. I'm done with being on text only communication for 3 weeks now.
Ms. Manrique we ended up meeting to work things out one last time. Things still didn’t work out after 2 weeks later of trying. Been no contact since November 2019. Totally for the best. I accidentally found out he bought a sex toys party kit and a dildo after we broke up. I realized he probably was a con artist and cheated a lot. Gods removal of someone is protection and alignment. Trust it. That first 3 weeks of going no contact is the hardest but it’s a real detox of all the love chemicals which cleared up my mind and helped me think logically again.
Ms. Manrique I also blocked him on everything and changed my number since November. Watching sheraseven1 RU-vid channel really helped a lot too to level up. I recommend her.
You are incredible. Just got done with a 4 year relationship . Been on and off and been through hell with her. I’ve watched so many videos about break ups but this takes the cake 👏 you really made me feel like you know what’s up and made me feel connected. Thank you for helping me sleep a little easier tonight . Your amazing girl.
what i love about this is that everything you tell us, is not from some book or study but from real life experience. i see alot of professional youtube channels who claim that they are masters of the "human mind" and that they have been there themselves. i dont care about that, this is truly from your heart and experience to help others with the same problem. like the navy seal commander once said. Find someone to help you paddle through life, and that is exactly what you did here for me. ( i'm sorry for my bad grammar on english, i'm from the Netherlands). Keep up this good work!
Youve really helped me ive been stuck in such a bad mental state not sleeping for days or eating but after watching a few of ur videos and i think i have the strength to become more in control now thankyou
I also believe the no contact rule also apply on not just relationships but also friendships. I use it all the time thanks to you and it has helped me become a better person!
Haha same here i break my nc rule but now im doing it again... Hes the one who broke up with me n he said he want to be free..... Just very curious...... After for example the 30 days no contact can i mesge him or i will wait for him to mesge me?
@@chonalyn298 if you don't message him he will not message you. But if you find someone else the 30 days gose fast. Im on day 4 and her mum said she is scared and hurting when she did it to me. If you can see how he is it makes it a little easy. Once the NC is over i what to be friends and get to know her again
After 3 months of struggling n trying to understand his point of view,stopped contacting him entirely..Its been 15 days n now he is frustrated that m not taking his calls,not calling,not available. Basically not wanting him any more..N i can feel his anger n my phone rings 3-5 times a day now. But for me its over finally !
@@lukn4perfection585 mine is so fresh. Then timing in this quarantine because of coronona virus, i cannot go out. Just watching motivational videos here in youtube. I also deleted my fb account. 💔
This video showed up on my recommended at the perfect time I swear. My ex recently posted something on her Instagram story and I was so tempted to look, and I was having an internal battle. And then I managed to control myself. 1:16 😂😂😂 it's like you already knew. Thank you for reminding me not to do it, and go back down into that downward spiral...
I just discovered your no contact videos and they have been so helpful! I’ve never commented on RU-vid video before but like gal!!! Yaaass! I did 7 days no contact and I let a Snapchat post sucker me in to commenting FML! RESET BUTTON!
The biggest mistake people make is going back to their ex after no contact. Obviously some relationships will work out, but most don't and that's why we have ex's for a reason. The focus here should be moving on and continuing to improve yourself until you meet someone whose compatible with you. Thats what no contact SHOULD be. With that said, most couples who breakup will eventually stop talking to each other completely, anyway.
What? I know so many couples that went through break up and now they are married and with kids. Stop with this, life is too complex and relationships too.
@@eastromaniaraveparty7764 But are they healthy relationships? Just because people are together long term, doesn't make it a healthy relationship. Most people I see that go back after breaking up don't have that.
Once you see that couples are in an on and off relationship, it already speaks for itself that its a toxic one. Some people just cant be together, its life.
You have really great content because of your real life situations. I’ve watched actual “doctors” or “therapists” who don’t have the insight you do. My ex fiancé broke up with me and I was as pathetic as you can imagine trying to get her back and fix it. She’s carrying my baby and it’s killing me to have no communication. But I’m maintaining no contact, albeit a bit late, but I know she’s still mad at me because of the most recent interaction. So I will wait. She never has given me back her engagement ring and still drives my truck I got for her, but in my name. A lot going on here I know so I remain with hope and getting myself into a better position financially to raise a child. I don’t think she wants to raise it on her own. Only God knows. But I subscribed to continue hearing your great insight. I truly appreciate it. Best breakup “doctor” I have heard. Thanks Edi
Edi, thank you. It's really hard to be in this kind of situation. Quite, painful. It has been 6 months since my ex fiancee left for selfish reasons. Yet, I have been faithful and still waiting for her to comeback. Somehow, i am beginning to accept everything.
Everything you said is spot on except ignoring your ex's rexts. If you want your ex back and you are ignoring their texts then why would they talk about relationship? Noone gonna talk about relationship right away after a break up. You have to let them reconnect and reearn you but not by ignoring.
I mean the point is to take time for yourself. Can't focus on yourself if you are constantly texting them. I understand what you mean but after 30 days you can text them and say something like "hey sorry I was busy" or something similar... You can text them but you first want to take a period of time to focus on yourself. Once you feel ready to contact them then do it
Apart from your outlook on the topic, I liked they way you look here and there while talking, the way you move hands and when you think what to say next. Its like you speak from heart. You strike me as a very kind person. May be you're a little too human than the rest which is rare. Considering you are in your 30's, your face has an innocence of a child. Which means what's inside reflects outside too. (I know i sound like hitting on you but I'm not. Its what I felt after watching a couple of your videos. Keep up the good work.)
Usually when I watch videos, i dont emote much i just keep my face plain and watch, but in your videos you make me smile, grin and at times laugh too, feels as if talking to a close friend directly, you are very natural and spontaneous, which is really nice.
Taking an ex back is like going out to the trash and scrounging through some styrofoam containers for what’s left over from last nigh’s Panda Express. Just fire up your phone, pull up an app and order something new off the menu at another restaurant.
Hey thank you for these videos. I am currently going through a very difficult break up and it feels as if my world is ending. You have provided some much needed clairity and insight. I've made the mistake of sitting by the phone wondering when they will contact me, but I feel as if this is what I needed to hear right now. Your words are truly appreciated.
i tried no contact w a rly good friend that i had a crush on and it didn’t work out for us so well bc now we are perfectly fine and back to normal but i think it rly did help out situation tho
Sounds like i know you thanks for the advice been alone for the last decade just getting old i dont think of her no more but ....wow your very preety Gracias for the advice you have a big Heart putting your self out there for people like me .thanks again
i started NC 3 days ago and from day 1 my ex sent me a text about a story i posted on Instagram and today he also responded with a text on my status on whatsapp he has been liking my posts and watching all my stories and i havent replied to anythinggg im so sticking to NC although i dont get one thing when am i suppose to reply him when he tries to get us back together text or call...
Ur so awsm n positive I wish I was like u seriously ur so nice I’m hearing u it’s really nice I’m trying my best to b best fr myself even if I was loosing myself now I won’t
The moment you said you have gone through a lot of breakup. Gave me hope as I've never been in Relationship. Recently so called was happening but I caught her cheating and she said I'm stalker lol. Unfortunately I gave her an excuse which she was looking for. By the way she have cut off from me. I do love her but can't compromise on my self respect. Also, you don't look like 30's. I believe I'll be better person as I'm doing intense workout.
lillian 1005 do you have problem with your relationship and you need help; I want to recommend you to a man who is a relationship genius that helped me out..
Thank you for your videos. I've been watching a few tonight and they are really helping me with my emotions right now. It is very hard, but your advice really helps.
I can recommend you to someone powerful who was able to bring back my ex wife and it works very fast and I believe he can solve your relationship problems ❤❤❤❤
Hi Edi ! Really like your videos! Had a question.. You said you have been through many break ups.. Actually two questions 😋 Did you dump some of them? 2nd question How has this experience been for you going through so many break ups? I personally feel that you are a wonderful person and your videos do inspire and motivate people, atleast I feel much better, relaxed and happy after watching your videos 😍😊
I used this rule, within one week I was contacted and requested to comeback... But after another week it happened again and I am back on no contact.. Advice what to do...
Nothing. Just no contact. It is what it is. Dont placate yourself. Do not care how old you ard. Love yourself. Beleive me I learned that lesson to late in life !!!
I love this . I’m doing this nc with my ex of 2 years. 1 month in she texted me, I told her I didn’t want to talk. Then a month later I texted her a picture of our friend arrested . She replied I didn’t answer . It’s been 3 months since our breakup I have hope she will come back and admit her wrongs and be ready to be with me. I been working on myself and staying busy but I miss her in waves.
hey! so i dated a guy for a while then he broke up with me because he "wanted to be single" but he still said he loved me and all that, the next day he dmed me and asked me if i was okay and i just kept it really simple and dry i guess you could say, about a week or so later i got drunk with my friends and sent him a bunch of videos saying "i love you i want you i would do anything for your cuddles and kisses" and he ended up saying "aww baby i miss u so much we need to hang soon" and since then every couple of days he would reply to my story or just find some way to start a conversation with me. its been 3 weeks since the breakup and we are planning to hang out in 2 days time but the plan isnt certain yet. is it too late for me to start the no contact period?
Oh my God! Your videos help me a lot, and i feel like i want best friend like you. Someone who's not just like ‚he's just idiot forhet him..!" but someone who's taking from personal experience! Love your videos! have a nice day, Sayng hello from Slovakia EU🤟🏻🇸🇰 (Sorry if my english is wrong)🙊
In my case the breakup was due to misunderstandings but it was sort of mutual (that’s how it seemed like) but I had promised him that I would help him quit smoking but he wasn’t the same person after the breakup. He started replying late to my messages and telling me he was busy despite being online a lot. When I removed him from Instagram he blocked me right after on Instagram and WhatsApp. One of the main reasons that made me remove him was that he used to reply so late to my messages( He was NEVER like that) It’s been 60 days since I’ve last talked to him. I’m way better now and Although he hasn’t blocked me on Facebook I definitely won’t be checking his account. Oh and I forgot to mention that it was a long distance relationship. He lived in a different city where his college was but came here during weekends. We never actually met each other in real life before.
Almost 3 week nc its been hard sometimes i wonder how he is and kinda miss that but dont miss him the way he treated me . Im focusing more on me and it feel like im doing ok im smiling more , being more positive ,and getting my confidence back up just learnings from this heck i want to learn some new stuff and be more at the gym
Hi ma'am ! Greetings ! What you said truly resonates with my situation but don't know why I've this feeling that he'll not contact me , So should I give up all hope in this regard ? I'm pretty confused , I'll be glad if you could give me some of your precious time ! 🙏😇
I recently just got married in may and now... my wife has asked for a divorce and we have been separated for last 2 months but I just recently went into NO CONTACT and we haven’t spoken in a month. During the first couple weeks of separation I learned she was seeing someone else. I don’t know if no contact really works for my situation but I don’t know what else to do. I’ve begged and cried at one point and that seemed to get me no where or us anywhere. I’ve tried to focus on myself and stay positive but I just feel like the more space I gave the more she won’t return
What to do if i try to do no contact but he keeps calling me and bothering me but says he doesnt want a relationship but he acts like he wants to be together but he say he doesnt
When a woman does no contact with me I respect her choice and I take it as it is: NO contact, also called ghosting. That's what she wants and that's what she gets. Move on find someone else.
KRYMauL . It’s not about taking things to extremes, it’s about being consequent and not doing a thing while expecting its contrary. Women love this: no contact with the guy, so he will contact afterward. In these «metoo» times , it’s important that men and boys understand to be consequent. If she doesn’t contact, there’s no 30 days or shit. No contact means it’s over, there’s no game and move on is the only option
You are absolutely beautiful. A very pleasant distraction from the pain I’m feeling and you do have very good insights into this dilemma that so many people go through.
Thank you Edi. I am a professional who recently broke up with my GM after four years. My ambition, and selfishness, broke us apart. I’m a Libra, so I love deeply every ounce of her. I have gone through so much emotional pain inside, realizing that we are no longer together. Thank you for your video. You are so right. Everything you have said she has done and given me hope, that we both will be changed people regardless if we ever get back together. Thank you. Men hurt too. Dm me.
I’m thinking this doesn’t mean anything at all. I had my ex tell me that he still cares a lot because he was watching and voting on the stories but now I just blocked him
Thanks for the video. My so called ex has called 2 times. I have not answered. It is hard I feel bad. He has a way on making me seem like the bad guy by shuting him out. He also has a background of woman even his mom just leaving him. He was an orphaned at a very very young age. But, I wouldn't be surprised if this does break us long term. Only time will tell. Going on the 2nd week. 😣😞
So the ex has my spare house and car key. And obviously I need them back. So I contacted him to leave it under the mat so I can get them. I'm not planning on seeing him. I know I contacted him but does this count even if I don't talk about my feelings?
great tips. I'm going to start today. It's a bit different as it's a 10 year marriage. separated but he won't divorce me. He's been having an online never met affair. so I'm done with limbo.
It's happy and sad at the same time seeing so many women suffer for the same lame reasons.. Like this is insane.. What do these idiots think of themselves,
She broke up with me for a little more over a year... I still think about her day to day and I know it isnt healthy... I've begun just barely to go back to my gym routine and on top of it I logged out of Snapchat. She lives at her home state now...so theres no way we cross paths. But I felt like I never did step away from her being that she looked at my life on snap and did I. When I met her she was divorced for like 8 months... ex was unfaithful and had kid with woman he was having affair. I had no idea what I was getting into. A emotionally damaged woman with trust issues I come to findout towards 4 months into relationship. Its sad because I wasnt enough for her to move on. I was just next in line for her... I didnt push strongly to work things out because I knew she needed her space. I told her this isnt GOSSIP GIRL Im not gonna chase you like some fairy tale. You tell me not to contact you anymore... so I shall not! I disappeared off Snap 5 de mayo weekend so I'm going on week 2 weeks. I feel better... working on myself... but its something I feel I should do. Yes i could easily delete her but then i feel it shows i never really cared about her. In the end i wouldn't take it as a win on my part for deleting her because I feel I lost a great woman that I saw through all those scars a great woman. She just wasnt ready for a relationship...
I recently blocked/ unfriended her after finding out there was more too it on why she broke up with me...i want to stay in contact with her after I move on but dont know how to approach this if I do unblock her etc.
i think one of the most important things about NO contact is to not respond to bullshit message. i know some coaches say do not be passive aggressive during NC, but iam sorry she doesn't deserve my response to a "how are you " text or a "hey are you ok". like seriously efff off: As Edi mentioned do not respond unless its a " hey i want to talk about the relationship" text Dont make that mistake
Hey. I just break up with my Gf last friday. I watch your video and it made me feel better. But I'm on my second day of no contact. Sometimes I can manage to be okay but sometimes painful feelings are coming back even I'm trying to avoid them. But the thing is we broke up because she still misses her ex who she have been in 3 years while we only have it for 4 months.. Am I a rebound and what I'm going to do? This pain really kills me. The thing is I have been suppressing my suicidal tendencies.. I don't want that to happen. Please help.💔.
