No One Told Me That | The Truth Behind Respectful Treatment 

This also applies to oneself internally. Speak kindly and compassionately to yourself. We don't want others putting us down, so we should not put ourselves down.

Respect,,, Get it from a normal person near you 😺

The nurse looking after my roommate in emergency last night was so caring and respectful that I was in a way shocked ❤ .

Like my grandparents taught us. Good manners keeps you from choking the crap out of someone who desperately needs it. It keeps interactions peaceful.😊

Thank you, this is still a lesson I'm trying to learn and internalize. As a child I genuinely believed I was worthless and unlovable. It was mind blowing to realize as an adult that that is no universal truth.

Possibly the only person who was ever that nice to me was a narcissist who was lovebombing me. I thought you were issuing a warning.

Crap. Well now I'm questioning literally everything about my life. 😮😅

I’ve met one normal person in my life. I Thank God for him. I definitely think he’s special. ❤ thank you for letting me believe there could be more “normal” people out there! 😊❤

You look special. Your eyes look special. And your advice is equally special. ❤ May this channel grow leaps and bounds... 🙌

Thanks. You showed up on my feed just when I'm as a senior questioning conditional love vs unconditional love. It's time to change the story of the past lifetime. Sometimes the people you call family don't know the difference between the two.

Thank you Bethany, what a beautiful person you are. Thank you for spreading light in this world ❤️

Thank you for telling me I'm normal. Seriously, sometimes I feel like the weirdo in a relationship just for caring.

Wow. I needed this.

Thank you! I treat people how we all should be treated and either people misinterpret it, are leery of me, or attempt to find fault in me. 😂 I want nothing in return except for mutual respect. I’ve had people even ask me out! It’s like no! I’m just a kind person and this is how everyone should be.

Brief, to the Point yet impactful. Thank you! ❤

So simple. Yet so true These people seem few and far between

Thank you, needed to hear that!

I've never met someone like that "normal" person you are referring to. Whenever someone is nice, I just assume they want something from me, such as my money or labor. Even my own mother won't talk to me unless she needs something from me. Then she's nice to me until she gets what she wants from me (money, favors, a ride, housekeeping etc.). Then it is back to radio silence or outright abusive language until she needs something again.

Right before I retired I went on a work trip for a few months in a different state. The leadership there treated me with respect and appreciation at every turn. It was almost disorienting. I had to make a brief trip back to the home office where I re-entered the normal (to me) toxic environment. Then back to my out of state assignment. It made me realize that the creatures I was working for at home were not merely bad managers or incompetent, they were actively and aggressively venomous. As soon as I returned from my trip I put in my papers and retired, easiest decision ever.

I love that you're encouraging people to think of respect and consideration as the baseline instead of special treatment. This is wonderful. I chimed in because i know it can be a very confusing and long journey finding out what healthy boundaries are and where they should be. In my experience i've hit a roadblock several times where i would gaslight myself into thinking my standards were too high or that i was too needy because i saw so little kind and respectful behavior coming from people around me, but in those moments i was simply surrounded by the wrong people and needed to let them go and keep looking for the people who are kind and loving. I want to encourage people by letting them know that the right people and the wrong people exist in pockets in the real world, and if you grew up without seeing healthy boundaries demonstrated you are far more likely to find yourself in a pocket of the wrong people because they feel familiar. So if consideration, thoughtfulness and respect don't seem normal, keep letting people go and meeting new people until you've collected a group of friends in your phone contacts who demonstrate to you day by day that kindness and respect ARE normal 😊.

Some people are gifted and special!

when you asked the initial question if I've ever been around somebody like that before, my answer was no

This literally made me cry

EXACTLY... 🙌🏽💯👑

I always treat people the way that I like to be treated. The problem now a days is the world is full of selfish A holes.

That was fantastic. Thank you to the Universe for everything that took place, in order for me to tap into this video!! Freedom, Grace, Love, and Respect to everyone who is reading this❤

Love this message and how it was delivered. Just below the surface of this concept, and what makes it all possible, is that the two parties must be playing on the same field. Meaning: When one party creates their own definition of TRUTH, respectful treatment immediately collapses. Period. Therein why this video even exists. Today, those without a moral compass create their own truths. Lying is rampant. Denial is somehow considered brave. Lowering standards to their whimsical needs and tolerating what they believe while begrudging those that stand a-posed, believing in a higher standard and greater purpose. Yeah, “Respectful Treatment” is a concept that needs revisiting and it starts at an early age, in the home, coming from both parents, within the family.

If you expect a certain behavior from yourself with other people in general, it's not too much to expect to get this kind of behavior from your close ones. If they're not capable/willing to treat you the way you treat others, then either you give too much or you're in the company of an AH.

Very well put! And it is normal. Even for people like me who were raised by wonderful parents and had a wonderful childhood, it was low self esteem I suffered from. Your short video makes for a nice “meaning tool” to gauge the status of one’s self esteem at a given moment. This was a reality check for me that my self esteem has taken a dip lately and you have provided me with the perfect reminder ❤

That was nice. Genuine and told with a smile. Thank you.

Love this!

I am pretty special for being normal under abnormal circumstances... Being normal under normal circumstances counts as normal, being normal under duress reveals deeper character

The whiplash from being respected is so strong I always suspect a catch 🥲

Really a cool talk. Straight to the point and valuable insight for relating

You've just described my ex-girlfriend. Not respecting me, my time, or the relationship.

Yes, I’ve known normal. Thank you.

❤OH YOU DIVINE WOMAN!❤

Great Video! Simple! Thank You! Truth.

"Can't we all just get along?" - Rodney King

I wish someone had told me this before I listened to Newman Gopherwood month after month after month when I moved to Kansas.

I actually met a person like this. She said that she believed in me, so i asked to take her picture. She asked me if i wouldn't remember her, and i said no. It's just that you're literally the first person who has ever said that to my face!

Thank you!!!!!

THANK YOU!!!!!!!!!!!!

Fabulous, well said, not rocket science just fact but hard for some to believe when they have been hurt in the past. Thank you for highlighting that it is ok to expect “normal” love makes the world go round.

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Thank you! This spoke to me. Used to get so blown away by how kind people were… 🤣

Bravo Bethany Brunn :) That was awesome!

Thank you.

Wow, thank you so much for making this video. I needed to hear that today. I love you and I respect your boundaries as well. And I wish you nothing but the best in life.❤❤❤

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Thank you, living & learning 🦋🫧🌌

Thank you sweetheart🌻🎶🐾

Facts..

Thank you

So Nice

I prefer those who prioritize truth, not my feelings. To me, catering to my feelings is just enabling, not respect.

I've been under the impression thru 5 decades of teaching by the church that the sinful condition is what's normal, and to rise above it with love and respect requires divine intervention.

I wish someone cared enough to tell me this when I was a child,all my life Ive been treated with disrespect and awful,rude,ect...when someone was nice to me it was like special my whole being needed it,it's so sad,im 38 years old today and I am fighting so hard to get out of this death pit,I never had a home,I don't know what rest is I'm just a quiet being, trying to be strong and protecting myself emotionaly,Im happy about this video thank you ❤

Ik leef rustig dankjewel voor u belangstelling lief van u❤

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Normal is good.

Thanks pretty lady 💗🩷💛💚

Thank you. I’ve had to endure some weird stuff for a celibate woman who moved to Kansas.

R-E-S-P-E-C-T. Aretha Franklin.😂

I think it’s okay to acknowledge that the level of kindness and consideration which you’ve described is not normal, as in, not the norm. How can we move towards a vision without first seeing the present state of humanity?

Sometimes someone who treats people nicely is normal. Sometimes they have a Cluster B personality disorder and are in the early stages of an ultimately destructive relationship.

I want to tell you that I am a Christian and since oneday as over my aged 40. I tried to donate to some organizations and more person to person too! But, they all betrayed me even they trapped before me so I disappointed their acts to me. Now I am reducing the donation gradually n it will be to the zero oneday. Your saying I can find into Holy Bible. But, these days in our society, I am living in South Korea, it's not possible because of they asking me my everythings even my foods for the meal. So I made the conclusion in myself about these society!! The peoples lost their conscience themselves and they only think for their benefits through anyone else. But, through I see on RU-vid and I feel of your society's has many good persons still and them whose accepted the help from somebody. They express thanks to the givers. I think your society, Americans can make much more bright society after this hard time passing.** GOD BLESS. Boky B.

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I never had anyone treating me like that and if there was, they had hidden agenda

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I think a definition of normal might help some of us to understand this video better. If you take normal to mean typical, I can't entirely agree that the typical person is respectful. History helps me prove this since we have been at war far more than we have been at peace, with humans only having been at peace for about 8 percent of recorded history. Of course, war is all about violating boundaries. Since we are products of this wartime behavior, many humans do not have the proper role modeling for setting healthy boundaries. The good news is that we have folks like you who are doing your part to change this. I hope humanity has a better future.

AS A MALE I FIND RESPECTING YOURSELF IS BECOMING IMPORTANT BECAUSE YOU WONT GET IT FROM MOST PEOPLE TODAY ESPECIALLY MODERN FEMALES

I feel as though that those kinds of people come very far few in between. This is getting to be a lesser of a we’re all in this together type of world and more of an every man and every man for himself type of world. Sadly.😔

I think you must be a nurture queen.

I have a near-phobia of calling people to ask for stuff - even if I'm calling a business I know I'll l be paying for their services. I also hate answering the phone, because for decades the only people who called were asking me for stuff - usually free of charge or at a cost to me. Nobody ever calls just to say hi and ask how I'm doing, so I don't even know if such a conversation is possible.

Most people are capable of basic politeness. I guess that's considered the norm in most civilized environments. However, if you apply that to a Gauss curve, the results might be quite different. And note that psychopaths can be quite charming.. Society as a whole is like a box of chocolates. You never know what you're gonna get in an environment you didn't choose - like family or work. And you have to deal with all of them. Simply walking away might seem a valid option, but sometimes we can't have that option. That's life.

Sadly, I've reached a point in my life when the only time I am surprised is when someone is nice to me. I was treated badly as a child and I have allowed everyone else to do the same. I'm about ready to withdraw from the world bc I'm just really tired.

May the Lord bless and keep you Bethany in the Mighty Name of Jesus. Lord, I pray you allow Your Holy Spirit to grant me confirmation about whether this word is for me or for someone else. In the Mighty Name of Jesus I pray. Amen.

"*Humans All Normal & No Powers*"-"*Spiritual Life Difference & Mental Care Different & Psychological Care Different - My Dear Friend*"

Can I be a very special person

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I need all kinds of help

No I haven't!

The title "Respectful Treatment - The Truth" would get more views. The end is cut off, at least on a phone. I didn't know what this video was about.

Is there a way to turn the music off or down??

So we're to suspect someone who is nice & respectful to you?

They make me really nervous.

When a behavior or event is rare, it isn't considered normal. Such as snow in June in the northern hemisphere. I've been all over the country and have met many, many people from all walks of life. I can assure you, that it is rare that someone just gives respect to people. In my experience, respect must not only be earned, but occasionally demanded. I worked in "essential" retail during the pandemic. If you worked next me during that time, this video would have NEVER been made. Go work the drive up at McDonald's or as a cashier at WalMart and see how normal people behave. I guarantee you that the last word you'd use to describe normal people would be "respect."

I honestly thought she was going to say something bad like they're a narcissist or they're manipulating you.

Respect has to be earned. The best one can expect is 'common courtesy' which also needs to be reciprocal.

Could b love bombing. Every time I think finally someone makes me feel respected is usually malignant and has evil waiting to flip. I always double bait them. Ppl who pretend to be friends to steal secrets, give them fakes and see what they do. Blessings.

I can't even remember "normal".

It’s very hard to be blindfolded and have people pretend you are a helpless cat waiting for a man. Do you have hot water?

Never experienced that , I don't have any friends,,,,, no help fast don't I should be muscular work out 😂 run drive 😅

my family and relatives have always treated me so badly. I hate my cousins. I would forgive the previous generation but cousins who are my age treating me like shit, makes me think, why have they not learnt?

Why would a man,or woman concentrate on the faults of another person that they have an interest in? It depends on how serious the problems are of course, but you won't find perfection.You have to accept people as they are.

Beeing kind and respectful is easy. But for most people it‘s not 😉. Most people in the world are very bad and you can‘t trust them.

You resemble someone I know.

Only women believe, that getting treated special is normal.

This was mental soul food ❣Thanks a lot