I’m a maternal person and a “mushy” person. I’m a teacher. And regardless of both of these, I do not want children. I love kids but we do not want them!
While I'm not mushy, people have thought some else's kids was mine and even had people thought I was a teacher because I handle their kids so well. Not as in I know how to "correct" their kids better but I talk kid language and have 100% patience. I just don't want any. Doesn't mean I won't watch your kids though.
I always wanted a dozen kids and we ended up with seven (three by birth and four by adoption but I 100% agree that people who do not want kids should not have to defend that position. Women who choose a childfree marriage or a childfree life should absolutely respected as intelligent people who know what they want in life. Being childfree as a first choice option, one that doesn't need constant explanation or justification, is each person's and each couple's own decision!
Yeah but then they you hear them say i want to skip being a mom and just be a grandma! Grandma?? To who?? So they want all the experiences of enjoying a family, but dont put in the work. And yes i have heard two women I know say this.
The most cold-hearted bastard I know is a guy with two kids. They deserve way better parents. At least they could have been spared if he stayed childfree.
Thank you, Hannah. I always find so strange the fact that some people think children will grow up to help and be there for them when they get old. Working in assisted/independent retirement community for years now, I noticed that it is not so at all. A lot of seniors don't see their kids for months (sadly, even years) leave alone receiving any help from them. I find it more beneficial to save money that you spend raising kids for your comfortable retirement.
All the time she said she was cold hearted and explaining why she wouldn't bring a child into this because she would not feel good about the child growing up in it. That seems warm hearted to me. She seems sweet and really knows who she is at such a young age. Good for her.
I completely relate to the emotional aspect that you were talking about. Most of my life I felt that I was cold and a bit heartless like something was wrong with me cause I couldn't cry when a big group of people were crying or about things like children and fawning over them. Just never felt it. For me just the thought of a child coming over to my house since childhood would fill me with dread and still does. I have an urge of putting all my glass and delicate decorations away when they come over since my home is not child proof and won't ever be. The only child I have is my fur baby. I'd rather regret not having kids than regret having them and being resentful towards them and not giving them the love that a child deserves causebi can't really give that.
Omg, finally, this resonated with me so much!!! My mom and sister have always harped at me for being so "cold." I have always been the level-headed one in the room that is never swayed by emotional things. I still have feelings, I just don't get overwhelmed with emotion, I am glad I am not the only one like this.
My husband and I always said 2 kids when we got married because that's what you do and what's expected. Later, after my health issues of possibility passing on cancer to my kid and we just don't want them. My parents have said who's going to take care of you when your older to which I said the nurse since it's their job.
Also there is no guarantee that your kids will take care of you as the child may not like you,may die before you do,and may not be able to care for you due to mental or physical impairment.
I’ve said these words too “I hate people/kids” I want to be Perfectly Clear here: I Do Not hate people or kids, I hate how we treat one another” I’m Not indicating every person is bad. I Do Not hate kids either. I do like that kids ask questions on multiple topics a lot. I appreciate that often! The good thing about this is kids return home, to ask their parents too👍🏼💗 (or they Google)
I'm pretty sympathetic most of the time but when it comes to kids my emotions just deactivate. When I see old people being abused or animals being harmed I get mad about it but for kids I just think "That sucks. Anyway." I'm not gonna win any popularity contests this way but it is what it is. I just don't want to be around them and they don't strike a chord with me.
Greetings to both of you guys! I am from the Czech Republic and I am glad I came across your channel, being a voluntarily child-free European male myself. I am so glad that I came across your channel! There has been a quite significant child-free movement in the Czech Republic lately and I am glad for it has been happening in such a small country. I always enjoy meeting like-minded people around the world which is indeed possible in these times of internet and social media. Please carry on with adding this content, the videos you make are just pure gold for child-free people around the world!
Welcome to the community! It’s great to meet childfree people from other countries and see that the conversation about not having kids is getting talked about more.
I really think there's a small percentage of us women who just don't feel like other women. I usually don't get excited or emotional over the things that typical women get worked up over either. I have yet to find a single woman that I'm compatible with as far as being friends . Some people might roll their eyes at this, but have you ever taken the Myer-Briggs personality test? It helped me understand myself on a whole other level. I learned that my personality type is an INTJ, which is really rare for a women to be that type. But it helped me understand how different my mind is from other women and that there's actually nothing wrong with me. It's just how my brain works.
It’s interesting how society has decided certain personalities are more “desirable” or “appropriate” than others. I’ve had multiple people tell me I need to be more extroverted and less private to have a successful YT channel. 🤷🏻♀️
I totally relate to feeling odd about not being emotional like a lot women seem to be. I took that personality test and I am also an INTJ, so it sounds like you are on to something!
I'd rather be cold-hearted than be a parent lmao the only time I get emotional over things is if it involves an animal getting hurt or the end scene in Lord of Rings (The Return of the King) when Frodo boards the last ship leaving Middle Earth to go to the Undying Lands with Gandalf and the elves.
Omg what a smart girl! Her ability to analyse,argument,I wish more people had this capacity! Thank you for choosing great people to highlight your videos👍💕
Hey friends I just saw a concerning commercial a little bit ago at first I wasn't paying much attention to it until the announcer said "is having a family not what you thought it was going to be like" and "is your family more than you can handle" ...it was a commercial for a family therapy center....I thought oh crap these poor people....I'm so glad I made the choice to be single and childfree
@@WifeWithoutKids it is very good ...I saw a billboard today that's along the same lines when I stopped at a gas station the only problem was when ya go under the canopy to the pumps ya can't see the upper half of the billboard because of the canopy they need to put 2 there ..1 high 1 low so people pumping gas can see it and get help ..I'm still glad I chose single and childfree I'm more available to help others
00:00 intro 01:10 when you know, you know 01:52 i've never related to anything more than this 02:44 is it worth the risk 04:17 does this interest you 05:04 when family doesn't support 06:56 this instead of kids 08:37 something a child should never hear from their parent
I wish the more emotional side of a woman wasn’t always assumed for just child rearing. Obviously it exists in that area of life but I feel like women can be emotional beings and maternal in other aspects of life as well, not just motherhood.
This is one thing I hate about being a step parent. My husband assumed I would be maternal towards his kids because I'm a woman. Excuse me, I didn't make them I'm not their mother, also sexist much? I don't mind helping him raise them but it's a matter of practicality, not being maternal.
Child free people (especially but not exclusively women) deal with a great deal of social stigma. However, people who choose to have children also deal with social stigma. I believe it is called mom guilt. If you have only one child, people will tell you that the child will be socially deprived. You have two girls, people will tell you that it is important to have at least one boy child. You have three children (and the third one is a boy), people will complain because the number of children you have is an odd number. You have a fourth, you have entered the category of the freakishly large family. What do people want you to do when they judge you for having too many children? Do they expect you to give your eight year old up for adoption? You should make a video titled “Mom guilt. Why women can’t win.”
Yes, the judgement doesn't end even if a women give in to societal pressure and have kids cus the pressure continues even after having kids. That's why I learn not to give a hoot about what society think. I do whatever I want as long I'm not harming anyone 😌
You are definitely not cold hearted hannah ypu seem like a light hearted friendly person you don't have to have kids to prove you sre not cold hearted love you hannah you are a good beautiful person
If I never had a kid I don't think I would have regretted it, but I would definitely be a very different person!! I was never very maternal, but I love taking care of my daughter. But that doesn't mean I would want to do that for other people's kids. I loved my body before pregnancy & I'm not going to lie, after I gave birth I hated it for 18 months. Then I finally lost weight, and I really like my body again. But I was very lucky with the changes, which are barely perceptible. Even so, they can still upset me.
Just because that is how mammalian life continues to propagate, does not mean that nature took into account the host. After all, in nature there is such a thing as traumatic insemination. It is just some people's notion that we were designed to reproduce. Rather, we can reproduce at our own risk and detriment to our health. Had a coworker who wanted to have 7 children. At the time, she was pregnant with her second. She stopped after her third child. She mentioned how her health got worse and worse after each pregnancy. She deceloped vertigo, something she never had before. Also, her third child had recurring health problems that required several surgeries. So, it's like being a mountain climber: ye gotta really love what ye're about to do. 😈
I agree that it is important to talk about whether you want kids or not but when me and my boyfriend met and started dating I was only 18 about to be 19 and I had no idea that I didn't want kids. I just thought I was going to get married and have kids eventually. As I got older I realized I love my child-free life and I don't think I want kids but I might change my mind when I am older but I don't know I am still on the fence. I am thinking that I would rather be older and regret not having kids then have kids and regret having them. Once you have kids you can't go back and change your mind and that is what I really think about. I am currently 31 and my boyfriend is 34 and we are not married but we have been together 12 years so we are committed to each other. He does want kids but honestly I think he would be ok not having kids. He really likes playing video games and taking naps as do I lol. The reason he says he wants kids is because he wants to leave a legacy but that is not a really good reason to have kids. Kids are just a huge responsibility.
Hi. Appreciate the content but would also appreciate it if the volume of the intro and videos you react to were as loud/quiet as your voice. It hurt a little bit.
Hannah ....hi I found another 'fab' "I Don't Want to be a Mother' video for ya... someone I heavily follow has new channel Eva Zu Beck is her name. Her 2nd channel with this titled video is called Unplugged here on YT and maybe on other social media. Please check it out because she has millions of followers overall across her media.
I definitely feel you about being cold or having subdued emotions. I just don't feel empathy at all. I experience love, happiness, and most other emotions as intensely as anyone, but when it comes to empathy, there's just nothing there. I can try to force it, but it seems insincere, so I usually don't. Cute animals like cats, hedgehogs, and alpacas are the only things that can melt me. Governments were reliant on people being afraid and anxious, so they wouldn't question the extreme measures they were taking, ostensibly in response to the pandemic. Kind of a conflict of interest when they are also tasked with providing mental healthcare. We are now dealing with the consequences of their actions, and in many cases it will take more than a decade to fully recover from the damage that they caused. I live in New Zealand, and our government took on so much debt that the interest alone will exceed our entire education budget by 2030, among many other serious long-term problems. I just wish more people were less fearful and more critical of what their governments were doing. We would be in a much better position now if that were the case.
@@WifeWithoutKids If you're ever back here, we should meet up. It is definitely a beautiful country, and there's always more to explore and discover. It's sad to see so many Kiwis moving overseas, but with low incomes and high costs of living, they don't have much choice. If I had children, I would likely be forced to leave my city at least. My older sister who has children moved to Australia. It's not worth the compromises you have to make to have children. That is something I always try to hammer home when people say that I'll change my mind.
Dude you never actually add anything of substance in these "react" videos, you're just like "yes, that's right!" "that must be frustrating!" "how about that!"
