Do you ever feel alone in your choice to live the childfree life? I’m Hannah and I knew in my early teens that having kids wasn't something that interested me. People kept telling me I'd change my mind, but decades passed and I never did. While happy with my decision I often felt like nobody understood my choice and I didn't know any other childfree people.
This community is a positive and non-judgmental place that supports your choice to live life without kids so that you won't feel alone. Video topics include how to deal with pressure, addressing assumptions about us, possible regrets, childfree stories/interviews, our value, society's expectations, growing old without kids and all things related to childfree living.
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people who critisize other people without children are just not happy with their decision and just looking for any mean way to show you you are just poor and even not worth of living and breathin ..I have those in my own family..terrible expirience
"Who will take care of you?" Either way, you'll have to be taken care of by children. Whether by you're own or someone else's. While I think most people would love to be cared for by their own children, at least they have the option, for now, to be cared for by someone else's children in retirement homes. A luxury that will disappear in 50 years due to our generation not having enough kids to fill the gap. Now more than ever people aren't having children. Which is going to lead to SO many problems in the future and is going to cause hospitals, clinics, and many places of business to be overwhelmed and understaffed. We act like our personal choices can't or don't affect society as a whole but it does. Not only that but think of social security payments and disability. How many old people won't have enough to retire and will need to live off of those? Will there be enough young taxpayers to fund those programs? What will happen to the elderly and disabled if federal programs aren't funded enough? Will politicians raise taxes in order to fund the programs? What will that look like for young people? Will they be financially crippled even more than they already are right now? We think our personal actions don't have an effect on society as whole, but it does. What you do can and does effect others. We NEED each other to make this work, otherwise we'd all have to build our own house with our own hands, farm our own food, build our own vehicles, etc. We've been living with such ease and convenience that we forgot what it took to get to this point. And I have a feeling it's going to blow up in our faces. Already the numbers are showing that the older generation is going to start to outnumber the younger generation. I hope we're preparing to lie in the bed that we're creating for ourselves.
Just saw a news report, that even in a traditional country like India, where old people are traditionally cared for by their families, more and more elderly people are abandoned by their kids. And India, because of that tradition to care for the elderly at home, does not have enough places in senior accomodations. Childfree people like you and me always know about our need to prepare for our old age. Parents sometimes do and sometimes don't ..
Damn ..this is the saddest video and comments I've seen all day and I just saw one about a bunch of kids killed in Gaza. By the way some here probably love that sort of thing.
Why don't older generations look at themselves in the mirror and try to contemplate on "what did I do that made having kids so unappealing to my children?" ???
I choose to live my life alone and no stuck in the system where people are programmed robot slaves of the system thinking happyness starts with extern factors like status, money, material things, family that is relativ and an illusion create by society. If your happyness depend on extern factors you will never be because extern factors are endless. Happyness starts inside you. The more people around you, the more expectations, talk about others, lying, frustrations, negativity, jealousy, double standards, own benefits, hate, judge, comparing etc..... reflection of their broken souls. Alone or in solitude you have more strength, peace, power, happyness, freedom and time to reflect and work on yourself in the here and now where the magic happens. Be the light in your own life. No, not feeling superior or better then others but more be carefully and awake. Relationshit these days only cost money, time, pleasing, complaining etc
During covid, i reached out to some friends I had lost touch with to see if they're ok. Nobody cared to call me. It gave me a picture of what my old age will be like.
Just found your channel in the last few days. I'm 36, single and child-free and I don't see myself as the tragic figure people think I am. Still hard not to absorb it though. Your videos are helping me. Thanks!
I think it’s fine if you recognize you don’t want kids, but I feel that this is most often out of selfish motives. Kids are challenging in many ways, but they are rewarding in many more ways. The joy of serving your children is beyond anything this world can give you. Life is meant to give and serve others, not about giving yourself everything, and kids help you to see that. To say you regret having your child is heartless and I feel for your child. It’s ok to miss your former way of life at times and to wonder what it would be like without them, but you brought them into this world and they didn’t ask for it, so it is your responsibility to care for them and pull yourself out of that self-pity. That is so damaging to their self-worth when you, as their parent, should be their #1 advocate.
This story is so sad. I feel so sorry for this woman & of course the child. What was this (sorry) idiot thinking? That life with an unwanted kid is all fun and chill? And if I was the wife, I would run away tbh. I would leave him & the child, no joke
The hardest thing for me is when mums assume you can't connect with them on any level. Like child-free people have never experienced tiredness ever, frustration with another person, being proud of a loved one etc. Of course everything is heightened when you become a parent but people without kids can still try to imagine and empathise - and most do extend that generosity of seeing how tough parenthood is. I know I do. If I'm totally honest, I do think that parents, especially mums, who deliberately make childfree women feel 'less than' are insecure or resentful on some level. People who are secure in their decisions let others live and let live.
As a 58 year old female, I have not wanted children for as long as I can remember, even as a child myself. No, I will not change my mind, so stop telling me I’ll meet the right person and suddenly want children. It’s not going to happen. My belief is that these people are jealous that we don’t have kids, and have a freedom to do what we want with our lives that they don’t. Have to say, my oldest friends have no problems with me not having kids. Never did have a problem. And not one of them, in the 30, 40, or 50+ years, have ever told me I will change my mind, that I must be a sad person because I don’t have kids, that there’s something wrong with me because I don’t want kids. I love my friends. We have so much fun together.
You might wanna come back. JD Vance, the vice presidential nominee has been dissing childless cat ladies. I’m sure you know about this. It might give you some more material. 😁
My husband and I are childfree, and for many years we ended up buying gifts for all nieces and nephews, while the parents of these kids bought gifts for their kids only. The grandparents on each side bought gifts for their own grandkids, while we were the only ones expected to get gifts for all kids on both sides of the family. We chose to be childfree for many reasons, and one of those reasons was less stress and financial burden at the holidays. With both sides of our families put together, we have a total of 20 nieces and nephews. So we have no kids, but we are expected to provide gifts for 20 kids. We now buy Christmas gifts for zero kids. In fact, we told the entire family that we don't celebrate Christmas anymore, which is true. If we see something cool for some niece or nephew throughout the year, we just get it and do a random gift for no reason. This we only do for the few kids we actually spend time with. The ones who don't even know what we look like won't even notice. So that's the solution. Christmas is permanently canceled.
"People keep saying it to you and you keep thinking: well if everyone is saying it it must be true, right?" No, I keep thinking that those people must be a totall idiotic dickheads.
I cosider unfair to their children that people put thier uncapebility to manage their emotions on their kids-..and creates in them unberalble feeling of I am the cause my parents are not calm and happy..
Most people my age have children by now. I simply never liked them enough. End of story. There are many secondary reasons but "overwhelming lack of motivation to be a parent" is definitely number one, followed by "I friggin' hate life with kids". I like peace, quiet, personal space, money, and the time to pursue all my goals too much.
Many parents dont see their children as some individual and a separate person. I often see drama when a man gets serious with a woman or gets married. The mother in law acts like he is her husband and wants to be prioritized so much so that his marriage struggles and eventually breaks. If she saw him as his own person she wouldnt go that far and respect him as an adult I can add so many examples but having a child is mostly for me me me reasons
I am 44 years old and have traveled to 25 countries throughout Europe, the Americas, and the Asia-Pacific. I plan on doing more in the future. I can do this because I don’t have kids. If I had kids, I won’t be able to do as much traveling and enjoying life because all of my time, money, and energy will be devoted to them.
My parents guilt tripping me about "not getting to be a grandparent" only makes me resent them as I know I don't want children! - 31 year old male with high functioning autism (Asperger's Syndrome) They don't make me feel very loved and respected by doing that
I found out I have higher risk to fell in coma or even die from giving birth so... no kids also I am people observer and learn from their life... noticed... those who insist having kids are the first ones who disappear when you actually need that village to help! : D it is just a pure prank with lifelong consequences and huge joy to make others miserable!!
31 year old male with high functioning autism (Asperger's Syndrome) My own father put a guilt trip on me last weekend when I told him that my stance on not wanting children hasn't changed and won't change. He then said "Son I'm disappointed in your decision that I won't get to be a grandparent!" - This came across to me like I'm obligated to owe him a child with my future girlfriend/wife :/ I'm sorry but should I be angry with him that he's attempting to guilt trip me into something I know I don't want.
31 year old male with high functioning autism (Asperger's Syndrome) My own father put a guilt trip on me last weekend when I told him that my stance on not wanting children hasn't changed and won't change. He then said "Son I'm disappointed in your decision that I won't get to be a grandparent!" - This came across to me like I'm obligated to owe him a child with my future girlfriend/wife :/ I'm sorry but should I be angry that he's attempting to guilt trip me into something I know I don't want.
I'm a 31 year old male with high functioning autism (Asperger's Syndrome) and I don't want children, felt this way since I was teenager. I have enough challenges with myself let alone taking care of a child! Now to find the ridiculously small chance of a woman who feels the same :/
I might be a weird viewer here but i have struggled with fertility (2 miscarriages) for years and years now and i am trying to live life without kids. These videos help
Wish I could give this 3 thumbs up!!! I knew as a very young child I did NOT want to follow the typical family path. I remember being about 9 or 10 and thinking...Do I REALLY have to do this?? Do I have to get married and have kids?? Retired at 58, World Traveler, and incredibly Happy!!
I'm in my 60s. I don't regret not having kids. I'm happy being single & childfree. I also have 3 close childfree friends, 2 are in their 50s & 1 friend, is nearly 60. We all have pets, cats & dogs. Our lives are great. 😊👍😸🐶⛵♥️
I know these videos are older but i love them!! 34 no kids dont want any. No regrets!!! Kids also dont guarantee you'll be taken care of. I use to sell medicare all over the country and ive talked to people in every damn state and i cant tell you how many elderly people are alone and lonely and havr kids and grandkids who barely see them or stop by. Its just not the same world that they grew up in. With social media and so much advancements in technology people are becoming more interesting in more then just getting married and having babies. Travel see the world, make great money! Ect. Plus money just dont go as far anymore. 40 years ago a police officer could support a wife and 3 kids on just his salary alone but nowadays ever cop or fireman i know is married to a wife that also works especially if they have kids. Besides you never know how your kids are gonna turn out. The cons outweigh the pros for me.
I’m 46 yr old male and never had kids and I gotta tell you not only do I not regret it, I’m proud of myself for sticking to my guns. I’m telling ya I knew at the age of 10-12 that I never ever wanted kids and never changed my mind.
When that time comes for me, it will be the job of the nursing home to care for me. There are lots of activities at nursing homes, mealtimes, crafts, puzzles, movie nights, etc., you can build friendships with the other old people there and the nurses. Some even have resident animals. They have TVs in each room, and some also have gardens for outside time. So what if I don’t have children or grandchildren to come by. Usually they are out living their own lives, anyway.
