there's nothing fundamentally wrong with being unattractive but unattractive people are treated worse. this mistreatment correlates to how they perceive themselves and their self worth. no one wants to be worth less
If you ever rate yourself below a 7 or say you're below average, people will just tell you that's not true and shower you with pity...it's basically toxic positivity 😩
Unless you find yourself getting social benefits that no one else around you gets, just assume that you’re a 5 (average) or below. You’re not doing yourself a favor by pretending you’re something that you’re not.
I personally see the "real scale" as 3-11. No one ever rates somebody below a 3, it makes the average 7, and quite a few people say something above 10.
In their defense, 7 out of 10, is 70 percent which is considered average in school. A 5 out of 10, though?! 50 percent?! That's failing. Most people aren't failing in looks, but they damn well are not getting at least a B (80%/8 out of 10).
A trick I learned is rate yourself a 10/10 in front of people, and honestly it pisses people off so much when someone is cocky and rates themselves a 10/10, that they give you your true rating
The worst thing is when you know you're ugly but then people give you pity compliments and you both know they are lying but it would be awkward to just outright confront them lol.
I'm 100% certain that if you were to add elements of anonymity and secrecy in the the rating process the answers would look completely different. People don't want to hurt others feelings so it would be interesting to compare how anonymity would affect the results.
It is so refreshing to have found a channel that specifically does NOT pander to feelings or "political correctness", but rather approaches the topic of attractiveness through the lens of science and objectivity. I find it incredibly helpful and honestly quite grounding, in order to find my own personal baseline.
I've noticed that usually when people do not really find any attractive traits about you, they quickly resort to telling you that ''you are confident'' and continue to sugarcoat the fact that they really do not find you attractive. I am not an attractive person, and whenever people tell me that my confidence is attractive, I find it as an insult, because that is the moment I usually know what they really think of me. However this is not always the case, some people genuinely find my confidence as something attractive. I also analyze their body language whenever they talk to me to give me better insight if they are lying or not.
This is extremely unhealthy… being attractive means just that. Someone is attracted to you. The rating system is to keep people in line which is understandable but still a structure to degrade. Our whole societal structure is to make you feel inadequate.
Such a good point tying attractiveness to your identity as a person; most people associate u calling them unattractive with their character, and their entire being. It can be hard to detach your identity from how you look because it is 'you', but at the same time there is a lot more beneath the surface that has little connection to how you look. Realizing this makes it ok to be called physically unattractive
