Not Really My Hair?! curlTalk: Hair Care & Growth 

I really am getting tired of people asking me if this is my real hair. Everybody should know by now that black women can have long hair. I just don't get it. People online who don't like my opinions love insulting my "weave." Black women who wear weave are deemed ugly, but black women who have long natural hair are called liars. It's like we can't win.

What pisses me THE F*** OFF, is that people don't even question non-black women about their hair. And they wear just as much weave! Oh I'm sorry, "extensions". Even RU-vid is full of beauty gurus wearing wigs in every video, heads full of fusion extensions, tape extensions, clip-ins, and whatever other type of fancy extensions that non-black salons charge $1200 for. The second people see a black woman who loves her hair enough to give it the care and time it needs, and it's growing down her back...people can't accept it. It's either fake, or she must be mixed.

Jealously is a hell of a emotion. lol

stop explaining yourself to people who are dead set on being ugly and mean. Continue shinning❤👑

you owe no explanation to them stay black an beautiful 🙌

My question is...how often do you get the "what are you mixed with?" Question. I hate that question that just because I have long curly hair I have to be mixed with something because it's impossible to have hair like this and be black 🙄😒

A robe? Really!?! It's called a washing machine lol! I'm tired of Us putting eachothe down. Why is it hard to congratulate each other? Idgi smh

Lol I'm 23 and I wear a jacket I used to wear when I was 10.

Lmaoo I'm dead ppl are hilarious 😂. I keep my robes in great condition too! Btw you're gorgeous!

Ppl are very ignorant of black hair. Especially black people. Good Job

You are beautiful and so is your hair. When ppl say that it is not your hair that is just a reflection of their own deep seeded self-hatred whether they're aware of it or not. That is trying to disassociate anything beautiful with blackness. you are BEAUTIFUL, I am beautiful, everyone here is beautiful regardless of your hair type, skin color, etc. You are beautiful simply because you were made in the image of the Almighty. Peace and love always.

You touched my soul when you talked about loving yourself when your don't feel beautiful while transitioning. Preach!

What's crazy is that 85%of the people who ask/assume that our hair is not real or can't EVER be long are OUR OWN PEOPLE ;Black/Hispanic. It's sad. & the sadder thing is that its TAUGHT from a young age whether it's on purpose or unknowingly. People are embracing their natural hair more now but, there will still be people trying to bring us down or be blind to the fact that you can be a Black women with long/thick hair and not have to be mixed with something else.

people are so ignorant black women can have long hair too i hate when people say u lyin like it must offend people i think u have gorgeous hair and i am tryin to grow my hair u are such an inspiration

Brilliant advice, our hair grows no matter the type!

I can't wait for someone to wonder if my hair is real. I enjoyed this. New subbie.

I bet those people making negative comments are bald, only wear wigs and weaves, are ugly and just hateful. God bless you Sis...keep doing you. I document my hair growth also..

Your hair is your hair, who cares what others think. Between 2011 and 2015 is 4 years. So your hair could grow that long. I think people want to believe your hair won't grow, because their's haven't yet.

Nobody ever asks if my hair is real when it's curly but they always do when it's straight. It's kind of hilarious.

Ive come a longggg way with my hair too. My mom cut my hair when I was in the 6th grade, 4 years and 5 months later... everyone says my hair is either goals, or it’s fake. My whole freshman year, my hair grew because of my goddess twists that I pinned up, they looked just like yours. I love my hair now, but I don’t like straightening it. I dyed it bright red for my 15th birthday, got it straightened then trimmed. I posted a pic, feeling nice for my bday, and some girls were saying how my weave was messed up, they didn’t listen when I said it wasn’t weave. I just don’t straighten my hair anymore. Having other girls my age and older, saying how I should style my hair is annoying. My hair is a sore subject for me.

Thank you for the advise my hair has been stuck at armpit length for ever and a day since I came out of hospital. I hate that mentality. My 87yr old mother in law still till this day don't believe the hair on my head is not mine. Her belief is that only light skinned women have good hair (rolls eyes). But her real issue is that her baby boy had the audacity to marry and love a dark skinned woman. Recently a black woman looked at me and said " yeah your mixed with cooly(indian a Jamaican term) I said no my dad was half Syrian. And her hateful response was" you mean the ones that bomb up the place. What she failed to realise is that not every Syrian is Muslim and that a lot of Christian Syrians fled their country out of persecution. The time she was looking at my head she should take off that tight ass wig that snatched off her edges on the whole circumference of her head. I can't be bothered to prove anything and no-one else should for that matter.

that is so crazy the sad thing is if you were lighter I wonder if you would have even gotten those comments #chocolatesistalove

I'm dying at the fact people didn't believe you because of your robe (idk why people disbelieve at all). I'm sitting here in a robe that I got for Christmas when I was either 11 or 12 and I'm 23 now. The robe is the same material as yours and looks the exact same as when I got it. Idk what kind of robes they have, or what they be doing in their robes, but maybe they should question their own habits lol

she is so prettyyyyyy

*hides my robe I've had since 20yrs old and I'm 35*

you have a great voice. its so soothing and I can listen to your tutorials easily

you're such an inspiration! I've been growing my hair since I had cancer a while ago and it's been tough but I have no regrets for keeping my hair natural. Seeing people like you on youtube always gives me hope for my hair and my journey.

You are so positive. I'm a new subbie! Your hair is pretty. Thanks for your honesty and your video.

I think this video was great! I've spent most of my life being asked "is that your real hair?" or even having people tell me it's not mine lol. Those questions came when I used to get relaxers all the time. Now that I no longer get relaxers and hardly ever straighten my hair, it has grown even longer and thicker. I just got it straightened two days ago and one of my thoughts was, here we go with the question. I don't understand where the thought that black women cannot have long hair came from...and if we do, it must be fake. When I was younger I used to be a tad offended but through the years have learned that many people do not mean to be offensive, it's really just ignorance. Therefore I do my best to educate because we're all ignorant to some degree. Wow this was long, sorry! Thanks for sharing!

lol because of the robe? my brain hurts now... I love your hair girl. it's very lovely.

You got really gorgeous hair and never mind the haters. It's really ridiculous when a black woman posts a picture of her own long hair, people (you'd be surprised to find black women amongst them) go out of their way to dispute it and try to embarrass her, how pathetic. It just shows how insecure they are, because they can't stand to appreciate something that someone else has and they haven't got but desperately want!

A robe, really. I have a hooded, chenille robe that I received as a gift over 10 years ago and it looks brand new. You will never be able to please everyone regardless. You know the truth and those that believe you is all that matter. Keep doing what you're doing

Women can be so jealous, it's sickening! You took care of your hair and maintained your length, congratulations your hard work payed off because your hair is beautiful! Don't even give the jealous ignorant people a minute more of your energy, keep doing what you do

Thank you so much for sharing this! I came across this video at the right time when I was just losing hope and wanting to quit. My hair is about shoulder length and has been there forever so I was about done, but I have so much motivation now after seeing this video that I can't wait to see how far I can take my hair!!! Thank you again definitely subscribing!!

You look great! We all need to really embrance our own beauty. It took me a little while to adjust to the different stages too but confidence and loving yourself will go a long way. Thanks for the vid.

they always believing something's fake..which is crazy

I will never understand 'your hair is fake!!' people like i get some people wear weaves and wigs but like... do they not understand that hair grows?

Your hair is gorgeous! Love the curls!! Love it straight, it's amazing! So thick full and healthy looking!!

Thanks so much. I just started taking care of my hair again. I Neglected my hair for years and fell out. I went natural June 2017 and I started deep conditioning. I use to have long hair after I had my first son my hair was down my back. You inspire me to keep going. Your hair is gorgeous and very beautiful woman.

Beautiful Hair! Thanks for sharing and helping others. After coloring my hair, I had some issues. Embracing your natural hair is being true to yourself.

Haha I have my robe since I was 14... I'm now 31 no shame. It is still in great condition. 😂😂😂

thank you so much for sharing! no one really shares the "ugly phase" and the fact that you really just have to deal with it for a while lol. makes me feel a lot better about where I am in the process.

your hair looks great and healthy! ppl don't understand that hair is supposed to grow and if it doesn't, it means that you're not using the right products for your hair! keep up the encouragement, it really helps me! God bless and keep doing your thing, girl

I don't comment enough on your videos but I just want to tell you how much I love them. You're so inspirational and just have always been such a sweetheart and the advice that you give on your hair is so important. Keep doing these videos and keep inspiring people to take care of their hair. Our hair is beautiful and we have to embrace it… Work in progress myself 😊

Aw this video really gave me the motivation to keep wearing my natural hair because I just decided to wear my natural hair and grow it since I always wear weaves but lately I've been getting so frustrated because it's so much time and effort and I'm still learning but this video really helped so thanks!

You Have been an Excellent steward of your blessing(your hair) and it is Beautiful!👏😊 Thank you for the encouragement & help tips😊

Great video, very encouraging! Really reaffirms to me that I need to continue loving my hair, embracing the stage I am in, but also that I should stop saying that this is as good as it gets in terms of length. I went natural because I wanted to be all me and wanted to show my children (yet to be born) that their 'black' hair is beautiful, leading by example of course. So thanks for sharing your experience and the advice. That being said, I actually lost my blow-dryer and thought it was a bad thing, but perhaps it was time for me to quit the bad habit of using heat to dry my hair. I have seen such an improvement in my hair ever since. Thanks again for sharing!

Hi Ebony! I'm happy to find your channel, I've been trying to grow my hair long so been youtubing natural hair videos so yours came across my feed and my mouth dropped! You look like a heavenly angel, very beautiful hair and skin. I broke down and cried knowing us Black woman proactively and subtlety fight to stay valid in our unique beauty and features. And here you are showing the way!! Please continue to share information and thankyou!🥰🙏🏿

I legit saw that pick on pinterest and saved it for motivation. ur nose is so cute btw lol

You are so lovely to look at. An unusual beauty. Your lovely curly hair texture, your dark complexion mixed with your soft rounded features are gorgeous.

Don't feel bad hun about keeping old stuff I do it too, some thing you just can't let go(ex.clothes, blankets etc). Thank you for helping me understand that it takes time and it will grow although we may get impatient. I'm 10 mths a natural and I have a big fro and I love it! Mrs, Ebony thank you so much and looking forward to hear more.

You didn't waste making this video. Thanks for making it. I'm in the process of taking better care of my natural hair & grown it out. This video was motivational & inspiring for me

I didn't even realize it was the same robe until you mentioned it!😂 Your hair is beautiful and you seem so genuine

You just gave me HOPE

Congratulations on wearing “YOUR” naturally beautiful hair!!! I’m excited to see how your hair looks in 2020. Have confidence, keep loving you and SHINE Queen!!! ✨

Your hair is beautiful. Love your makeup, too. I've been perm free since 2009 as well. Celebrating 10 years as of May 2019! But just stopped getting it flat ironed. And it's my first summer wearing "natural" styles, twists (before, it was wigs, weaves and braids). Learning to embrace it and just getting a routine. Will try your Pillow Soft and Gel Souffle for wash and go. Looking forward to more healthy natural styles. Thanks for the encouragement.

girl just keep doing you. your hair is beautiful. #stillhaircrushin' 😍😍😍

Throughout this whole video I didn't pause or skip to another video once. Your voice is so mesmerizing and calming and I could listen to you all day.❤

Girl I see you gotcho LIFE! Yazzzz! I love your hair! I'm fascinated at how all the different types of Black hair can flourish in the natural state

Thanks for this video! It's so inspiring! I'm in the awkward post-big chop phase, and this has really helped me keep with the natural. New subbie!

Thank you so much, I just started my natural hair, I did my big chop, this month my hair was waist length before. So yes black woman can grow long hair if we keep care of our hair. l am so looking forward to my hair growing back. your hair is beautiful.

People are that bored that they're checking about a robe. That is crazy... Your hair is gorgeous! This is my second big chop and I have learned so much from different youtubers this go around. Thanks for sharing!

Beautiful hair! I love to see all the textures, length and styles! So glad we are promoting self love. Keep up the great work!

This video describes EXACTLY what I am going through now and what I was going through about a month ago when I did my big chop, being uncomfortable w/ my hair, not being used to having short hair, not knowing what to do (I'm still kind of lost tbh) Bantu knots are my go-to at the moment. I NEEDED this video!! This inspires and motivates me to be patient, pay attention, not to give up just because I get frustrated and to get creative! Thank you so much!!

I have locs and people still ask of they are real smh

What?! Hahaha if you take care of things (like your hair & robe) they will maintain. 😂😂😂 people are crazy.

Great video! Great job on your hair journey! You’re giving me hope! I’m at the beginning of my journey , looking at your hair I can not wait 🙌🏽. Thanks love

You really made me feel better. I've been natural for 4 years, but suffered some setbacks, causing me to lose a lot of length. Thank you for reminding me to love my hair in every stage and embracing who I am as a natural. Now I have to check out this product application video! It sounds amazing. ☺🤗😍

I believe you!! And your hair is beautiful. I am comfortable with my hair texture but it is in that in between stage . . . to short for this style and to long for that style. And I have a lot of hair (individual follicles) which makes it harder to put in a bun, etc. I also have a lot of shrinkage. I do not want to get a relaxer either. So I am trying to stick it out. I am looking forward to growing to your length. Great video.

I just fell in love you you lol!!! thank yu so much for this video omg!!!! I just realized that most of the points yu mentioned are exactly what I needed to kno and my hair does it's own thing on the same side as yours lol....I've grown 2. inches maybe more in the last 6 months...it takes my hair a year to get that far so I was so excited I engage so much to say but I'm going to stop lol...but yes this video was very very helpful

Nice video! I think when our community realizes and accepts that WE ARE DIVERSE and not cookie cutter as some seem to want us to be (those in & out of our communities) ; then the negatives we be replaced with simple appreciation (at least I hope so)! As you probably expect - I've been there with people trying to tell me what's real or not on my head! Smile! Anyway good job and thanks for saying it!

Ebony I really love your take on natural curly hair! It's an enormous inspirational video to me. I'm making my first step to going back to my curls and quit relaxing. The thickness was crazy! Honestly it was hard to decide on that because I had no idea of how to maintain my natural curls. And I dread having short hair. Watching your video made me feel supported...thank you for your tips and advise

don't pay any mind to the haters, your hair is beautiful and so are you. some people don't understand that in four years it is possible to grow hair. since I was young I too have gone through the same thing being an natural red head. sometimes you just need to shrug the negative off

OMG! Where have I been? Your channel is AWESOME!!! I am recently chopped ( OCT 2016- down to 1inch length). ANd it 1 month, my hair has grown a full inch and half longer!!! And I am loving the journey already. I love the ABS ( African Black Soap- DIY SHAMPOO). Great ROBE. You are a good woman and sweet, and it comes through your spirit.

I really love the way your hair look! I'm also on a natural hair journey and I enjoy the inspiration that you give. Thank you!

I love that you said you had to learn to love yourself. That is the key to this. It's great!!

ppl will hate even when your fake/weave/wig be slamming too! so you can't win with jealous ppl.

I love this video, your hair and I need to figure out how to do my eyebrows like yours...gorgeous!!!

People say really stupid stuff on the internet and what's funny is they act like they know for a fact that what their saying is truth. I think your hair is beautiful and I'm glad you posted the before and after pictures because they do help us to see how far you have come and give inspiration. Thanks sis.

Your hair 😍I'm in Love with it! So beautiful and I don't know how I'm only just coming across your channel! Great vid, going to definitely watch the rest.. you have a new subscriber 👍🏾🙌🏾✨

haters gonna hate you're beautiful and inspiring. I loOve you're hair.

Hair goals!

I applaud you for sharing. You are absolutely right. When I went natural I didn't know how to retain length. Watching natural hair guru's is what helped me to go beyond just a little over shoulder length to almost mid back length. Your absolutely right...when you find a routine that your hair likes it will grow. I've been told I'm mixed when my hair was just a little past my shoulders. It must be irritating to hear that you're mixed because your hair is healthy and long. I'm definitely not mixed but proper healthy hair care techniques are critical to hair retention. I loose my hair length from prolonged stressfulness, but otherwise my hair grows fast and long. I feel sad when I think of where I could have been but for my setbacks. However, hair keeps growing and you just keep learning. Happy holidays, and all the best for the New Year to all who've read my post.

Thank you for sharing your story! You're beautiful! I'm starting my curly hair journey and my hair is so short and heat damaged, your video has given me the boost I needed :)

Your a beautiful girl with beautiful hair and I love your vids I wish people would celebrate and praise one another rather then try to tear others down for no reason other then pure insecurity but anyhow tfs! 👍🏽

Haha I'm literally (right now, as I type) wearing the same penguin robe my friend got me for christmas 8-9 years ago. This robe is in wonderful shape. I'm a broke college student, I don't have time to be buying all kinds of products. I do the lazy natural method; water and oil. I just make sure I wet and oil my hair every day. I did a big chop back in March. My hair only grew 3-4inches. After 8 months, its still awkward and loose looking so I wear wigs. I'm sure this is just the way my natural hair is but I'm definitely not comfortable wearing it out. I don't like short hair on me. And I still can't find anyone with hair like mine.

Thank you so much for posting this video!!! I'm in the process of starting my transition (2 months in) without heat. It was very helpful and whenever I'm feeling discouraged in my process I'm going to watch this video!

LOVE LOVE LOVE, YOUR POSITIVE ATTITUDE, YOUR SUCH A OUTSTANDING INSPIRATION!! LOVE YOUR HAIR TOO!! Just started my hair journey, looking forward to the progress. Thank You For the Encouragement.❤

thats your hair, it looks so beautiful, job well done girl! ignore the haters!

Gorgeous hair. I also got some negative comments when I posted my growth comparison pic on instagram this month. people thought it was a weave or crotchet. Some black people think our hair can't grow long and fast.

Those that mind don't matter and those that matter don't mind! Lovely hair that is CLEARLY coming out of your scalp. If that was a weave, it would be a multi billion dollar business. Millionaires have yet to get weaves that look like that, esp. your straight styles. Your hard work paid off with healthy length.

The robe!! That's insane! People are so dumb 😞 some thing will ever change people never believe that my aunts hair is real. Growing up kids would pull her hair and say mean things. Stay positive you are an inspiration

this is the texture everyone wants and loves :)

People will always believe what they want to believe period. I think your hair is beautiful and I do know for myself how hair grows and for some people hair is just different and everyone that goes natural need to understand that just because one person's hair has more or a length or Curly it's all apart or learning how to deal with the madness it's just hair but thanks for this video.

ThanQ for this video. Your hair is beautiful. I'm more inspired now! It was as though you were talking to me. I, too, struggle with my new natural look. Wondering if I look professional enough. Going to embrace my new look in hopes that, one day, my hair will be long and beautiful too. Thanks again!

I can't tell how many times I have watched this video. It motivates me and keeps me focused on my natural hair journey... thank you

they are haters...your hair is beautiful

Lmao ppl are ridiculous.... Some just can't see a beautiful black women w black long hair... They're automatically going to trash talk.. Like damn, so much hate w/in the race. It's sad smh!

You are just stunning 😍 Not sure how anyone could dislike a video of yours, let alone 149. Always going to be those negative few. Love your videos, and it goes without saying, LOVE your curls!! Keep being bomb babe!

Extremely honest & vulnerable message. LOVE your personality! God bless you 🌹