On navigating large age gap relationships | Men, Explain ft. Ryan Tan 

"To exist is to suffer." It feels so good to hear someone else vocalise this. Thank you for normalising this

Honestly I love the way Ryan presents himself and his views! Sonia is such an engaging host too. What a genuine and candid conversation. Love it!

love the candid conversation, didnt realised how long the video was until it was over. cant wait for the next!

Is really good to see Ryan is happier now.

This is a great topic to have an insightful discussion on. Large age gap relationships have a tendency to be stigmatized. I feel like this conversation can clear up any issues with it.

Enjoyed this episode as it is relatable for me. Haha! Some good insights shared. 👍

SONIA!!!!! way to go.... very neutral interviewer... dont jump into conclusion. encourage him to talk more.. and yet dont put him down..

I can totally relate to Ryan's comment about the unhealthy competition in a relationship. Like he said, there's nothing wrong with being ambitious and career-driven as a woman. However, it crosses boundaries when you continually impose your personal goals and ideas on your partner, causing significant mental stress for the other person. I'm not trying to say the guy is laid-back or unable to provide; it's just that everyone has their own pace in life. Improvement doesn't always have to revolve around career or money; it can be about health, fitness, or spending more time learning things outside of work.

Really love this discussion! Wishing u two the best in ur R/S!!

Life goes on. Everyone deserves a new chapter regardless of having a kid or not. Mature aka old men who look younger rock!

But tbh.. if my bf cheated on me, I would’ve also quarrel with him when either one of us is homed. Just saying.. wait till he cheated on the new gf be it emotionally/physically, we’ll see are they still lovey dovey when he comes home to her. Nth against the age gap or whatsoever & I’m not siding slyvia either but its just something I personally feel for slyvia. Certain things we can keep quiet on but certain things we have to fight for ourselves. So by saying its better than coming home to quarrel, reflect on the causes first (not necessarily have to be cheating)

I love Sonia. She is not judgemental, open minded and feel down to earth also. ❤

First time tuning in and find this one way better than the hush podcast.

Sonia is such a great host

Hey Sonz!! I’m flattered that you painted me as a badass. Hahahaha😅

Finally got to see Sonia (only hear her voice on radio so far)...wow😍😍..i m impressed..great host, pretty...i m in love😄

Yes Sonia & Ryan, Health and Finance is one of the most important things besides Open Communication and Love😊

Sometimes age is the most problem thing between a relationship

Don't worry. Age might not define your life span. My aunt also have got a really sweet r/s w 11 years age gap. Therefore i used it as a benchmark to be acceptable of a r/s with 11 years apart. Sadly my aunt worked hard for her whole life n got ill. Even being the younger one and a really nice lady, peacful and most well liked aunt she left the world earlier. My uncle till today uses her picture as his phone wallpaper after years. I think age really ain't the matter. As long as there is love, there will be happiness. Or at least attempts to create more happiness. So just live your life, love yourself, dont care about wat others thinks. If its positive take it w a smile. If its negative just shut it off w a smile tat u ain't going to let it in. As long as u r happier that way. Just do it. Dont take it for granted tat u r younger means u will live longer though. Life is unfair n cruel at times! Live w no regrets as far as possible! (;

came for Ryan, but Sonia made it entertaining!

Personally knows Ryan and tbh he is really a very sincere guy.

I think as long as you're in a heterosexual relationship, having a kid or not is not always up to you. If you happen to get pregnant, then it will come down to your stand - pro-life or abortion? Whatever happens, you roll with the punches. Doesn't serve one's mental health to be overly rigid. The serendipity prayer does hold true.

I guess there's that on-going talking point about huge age gaps is that of e.g. when the girl is 12 years old, the guy is already 26 years old. But if both are adults and know what they want, it's really no one's place to judge.

You will never be ready..

Happy for yall! :)

I noticed not discussion on pre-marital sexuality: can do an episode on “What do you think of Premarital sex?” Unless you feel this is a non issue and nothing to discuss about. Thks😊

"Desensitized", not "disanitised" 😅

Where to watch the video where she talks about her own relationship? 😊

Guys, Ice Ice Baby came out in 1990.

Me watching born before both these two 🥲

when ryan said he avoided getting back home... i legit thought no wonder he took his talents home... i woulda did the same damn thing! 🤣🤣 i am judgemental as a white man towards other white men going to philippines n those kinda countries for a young girl to marry... they doing it not for love but a piece of a** n eye candy next to them... n making themselves feel better about themselves!! they lack self esteem or they are in a midlife crisis about their age... alot of the males make them not work or go get a university education to weigh them down to lean on them for finances... cuz if they had a proper career they would prolly leave the guy and they dont want that... so they basically groom them to be a trophy stay at home with which i think is disgusting! ryans relationship is very much different cuz both parties work and have education or some sort of career path... ryan chose good with his current gf considering ryan is a very passive assertive person... his gf is a soft femine type that meshs well with his type of personality!! im hoping that his channel can super take off soon so he can save up for a future wedding! im hoping happiness for the both of them being together for a long time!

Once enter marriage nowdays just facade, way contract dating and sign up After all people change

Ryan is likeable.

Is that Ann kok?

it's the de-sanitized for me

Ice Ice Baby was Released in 1990 wei! Not 70s! 🤣

hahaaaahhahahaha.... "desanitized"... Classic Ryan.

Plus minus 5 years is the max for me, but I still have to deal with way way wat older men like e.g. 20 years age gap trying their luck etc cuz they think that as long as they have money girls wont mind. I get that if u dun mind the age gap go for it, but personally for me I find that even if I really really I am interested in the guy and he looks good doesn't look his age, the MAX age hap is 10 years and that's aldr very very stretching it for me liao. To me age gap is an issue because generation gap, lifestyle and the ability to have kids and being able to raise a family, ur energy level, health issues at ur age will have more issue as the age gap is widens lei. Esp the health part unless the guy is dam fit even in his 50s and have no prior health issues if not I doubt he will outlive someone in their 20s/30s. That's me la, but I'm sure to some ppl love transcends age gap (not pedo can le)

ladies it isnt rocket science, if the guy is older, just practice shutting up more, putting food in his stomach and he's yours

testosterone deficency... True story... feels so much better....

most singaporean couples dont want to have kids.

Isn't his ex wife Sylvia accused him of being a serial cheater I'm not sure if that's true I might not care too much about the drama😑

"Conservative" is not a bad word.

I have dated older women who are driven / and have high positions ? no idea back then. The stuff that they go on about is different varies with the levels of position I guess. Age gap either way 12 for me. Idc. The thing about having a way younger girl companion is worst 10 years ago... now if she is past 18 no one gaf. Its the person that you connect with. Some girls have high maturity. But I am a junk food guy so yeah... yolo... Rather junk my lifespan than to have the want to go but can't go end up in and out of hospital or in hospice. Also that black hole of EDMW. Very entertaining to read about why n how others have the time to edmw and have the edmw lifestyle. I find it tiring to judge and my reply is to anything and everything now is yay ok good. f**k it. I do enjoy watching " news " about all these. but still what else is there. When I bring up world news I get replies like " not affecting me " Also I agree with Ryan on desensitising my goal is to get a great pic. It's harder to achieve when the clothes get lesser. Body shape n curves have a love hate r/s with lighting. Throw in colour tones. and the fun goes to editing. The thing about the now era, every one has something to say so If you let that get to you then will you stop posting your TTs ? or just f**k it you do you. you either end up in a sneeky sushi react or a yeolo feature. 🤐 food for thought.

The age gap shrinks with age. And ice ice baby is early 90s. Its popular for those born in the 70s fun fact #1 Only child usually just want to have one child themselves. #2 Once you get married and have a kid, the younger wife wouldn't be so sad over the idea of your demise. #3 Ya, men's maturity stall at a stage. We are all big children

Ryan RUDEEE

u both wear same colour

I think the only thing you "overkilled" in life is your marriage.

BETA SQUAD ENSEMBLE!!!

i can't be the only one who thinks his insights are childish, naive and hypocritcal 🤷‍♂

Omg, why would this channel invite cheater to give advice on relationships? Isn’t this guy who cheated on Sylvia?

if I was him hell or highwater I would have stuck it out at prev r/s, workplace cuz good money and so many syt eye candy to see everyday. but seriously to have a successful business takes a lot of work and luck statistically it's very hard to be lucky twice in a row so quickly do you ever hear anybody kanna toto first prize twice within the same week?

Sonia is such a great host