You cant crush their ego...They dont care...That's the whole thing about narcissism....no matter what you do they truly arent bothered. . They may pretend to get upset or have their feelings hurt but its not real.. If they do happen to act this way there is an ulterior motive for them to benefit in some way... Its never genuine...
@PrincessAmandaTV : I’ve had experiences with people I’m guessing were highly narcissistic if not NPD. I think most of them were attracted to me because I’m very polite and respectful to others and I’m also pretty laid back. Don’t get upset much or “sweat the small stuff”. But when something goes down that I don’t like I’m very firm about it. The narc is shocked (and angry) that s/he isn’t getting her way. Newsflash to the Narcs: Nice doesn’t mean stupid.
@@amasion2882 great! As long as you don't take crap from anyone be as kind and sweet as you want. I'm the same way and I'm quick to cut them off. I used to be worried about offending people. Now idc bc they don't care about you. One guy got mad bc I deleted him from Facebook after he ghosted me. He called me mean but Like why do you care. My Facebook is not for people who don't talk to me in real life.
@PrincessAmandaTV : hi, thanks so much for your positivity! I agree with you for the most part. I value a stable, positive environment so I try to respond to conflict positively. We’re all human and we all make mistakes.
You see narcissists with 50/50 chicks or straight up codependent ones, even if she’s beautiful. They know who the victim is and they don’t have empathy.
Narcissists all operate from the same playbook! Figure it out and play the game, turn the tables, or STAY AWAY! They will destroy you if you go in unprepared! They are awful people who see no issues with their actions. THEY DON’T CARE ABOUT YOUR FEELINGS! Don’t kid yourself!
I was once a target. I didn't knw my worth and would take what was giving to me, even promises. I was conditioned by my family (jealous & narcissistic) my mom didn't want me, so I was stuck with them. Ppl thought I was slow because I didn't know or value myself. I have always had the most beauty and the best body with a great personality. The women in my family treated me like Cinderella growing up, mean hateful and ugly! I'm glad I know my worth now. Thanks Shera, you helped wake me up!
Jealous of one's potential is pitiful. I was never encouraged or praised growing up. It's like they didn't want me know. Strangers would tell me and I would doubt myself.
you can be 'nice' , but not to everyone ... don't ever let those devils make you step out of your true character....empath warriors needed now , more than ever !
@melaningoddess.....once we understand that the narc' is/was a teacher it gets easier .. when all is said & done , it is a 'spiritual' war ... but you know this already as an empath..... goodness is now seen as stupidity .....it is a war now .. build up all your energy & squash them like the vampires they are ! kindest regards warrior ...lol !
Same when i levelled up, quit smoking, quit drinking, even just as little as i did... he started feeling alone in his self imposed misery. Like my self love started giving him nausea 🤣
My ex left (finally!) saying I was 'too good for him' another man I was interested in said he couldn't have a relationship with me because I was 'too much woman' for him. Watching both in the rear view mirror I can see how they are only attracted to women they can use and manipulate-Since I wasn't like that they had to go...These users go for low hanging fruit most of the time (not all of the time though.)
Yasss. People who believe in karma tend to attract them. I used to believe in karma and not wanting to hurt others but quite frankly the one person you should be cutthroat about is yourself. I had to learn to be relentless in pursute of my own success. Close the door on dusties or anything that upsets my energy immediately. Get on your alchemist game and get what you want. Keep your spiritual gangsta tims on their necks bc you deserve better and you know it. God consciousness, we're ascending, dusties cant come with. 😂
But we do get what we put out there and victims are called victims for a reason. Important thing is to educate self, realize where we we're going wrong ,strive to not repeat behaviors and push it along. Dealing with one takes recovery because you endure trauma.
@@teemadarif8243 you can transmute anything you put out, especially when you realize duality is a matter of preception. Whats good and whats bad depends on the person. One thats free of societies norms realize that if you can justify from your perspective/perception that what you're doing may not be right to others but its right enough to you. You will not attract the consequences if you feel you dont deserve them.
Sometimes if you are raised by narcissistic parent you will attract a narcissistic partner.You have to realize as I did that this is a something that you must delete and reprogram!!!
@@user-zx5xw4yw2e learn to set and keep boundaries. For instance I dont allow men to call or text me before or after a certain time, don't allow anyone to force you into daily contact, don't tell people where you are or what you're doing unless he's your husband ( not his business), check disrespect and manipulation immediately, always put your needs first. You can't love anyone if your needs arent met.
My ex was a narcissist but I wayyy more narcissistic than him I used his weaknesses against him😹.Stop telling men what your exes did cause he’s going to use it against you
There are two types of narcissists that I've discovered. There are overt and covert narcs. They are similar, but covert Narcissist are not as detectable. They have low self esteem, super sensitive, and very jealous and are overly obsessed with being successful. They will call themselves stupid, just so you can say "no, you're smart". They will call themselves ugly, just to get you to say they're beautiful.
Straight up. I’ve been a magnet for narcissists for a long time. No more. When you have self esteem and health self worth your aura is blocked from those people.
Most people that attract Narcissist were raised and abused by one so they are not aware that they attract these people until they are older, they were raised to be people pleasers, some are silly and thirsty but most were raised from someone that emotionally abused them so calling them stupid is ignorant and offensive and has nothing to do with how they look or dress!
Ok I'm gonna have to step in and disagree with you on one point shera (even though I love everything else you're saying) just because truth is important and I don't want women thinking that only levelling up their looks will protect them. I'm an international model and I've had several narcissistic exes. Many of my model friends have been narcissistically abused. My mother was an extremely beautiful woman and was also narcissisticslly abused. Narcs target ppl who can add to their status and grandiosity. Looks alone don't protect you, especially if you're spiritual and pride yourself on having good morals- they know you won't stoop to their level so that's why they get away with their behaviour. The spiritual/altruistic covert narcs are the most dangerous. But I agree with you that to protect yourself you have to become more like them, because we aren't enough like them and therein lies the problem.
Sundal Roy I’m spiritual and will teach an abuser a spiritual lesson in a second ! Being spiritual has nothing to do with being nice....... Being beautiful has nothing to do with being a victim !! All is choice
Sundal Roy yes this is very true looks don’t matter because most likely the narcs that you attract is a karmic relationship and you will continue to repeat that cycle until the lesson has been learned
narcissists do like a challenge though. they get more pleasure in fooling someone more complex than submissive and gullible personality. I don't know if someone said this because I didn't have time to listen to the whole thing yet :)
The problem is that narcissists don't show their true colors right away..its little things u don't realize that chip away at your self esteem through time..until u start allowing things u never thought u would. Can't always see them coming.
there are always red flags even if they tiny lil ones..but if you are in your feelings its difficult to recognise..so you just do what shera says you stop caring and getting emotionaly attached..
Every narcissist show their colors through body language even in the beginning When you loveee them or have connection .. is the only the moment you don't see.
@Irina Ivanova must be just the women Taurus that hang on for deal left...my ex was a Taurus and he left me. Took no accountability..I think he had narcissist tendencies tho
This is so true ... because I didnt know what a narcissist was I didn't noticed the signs early on but after we got married his true side came ALL THE WAY OUT...he caught me when I was dealing with PTSD after my deployment & I settled for him & I had to pay for it....THANK GOD I pulled myself together and exposed him to his family and the public...freedom is real
Wow sorry to hear that... I find it real funny how these kind of people come in your life at always at a time when the person is already down or going through some kind of turmoil....this is how the devil and his children work and with all that being said they are only sent to...KILL...STEAL AND DESTROY YOU IN EVERY AND ANYWAY POSSIBLE... THANK GOD YOUR FREE.🙌🙌🙏🙏
Shera i love you girl. I was watching an old video Alpha Male Strategies and went to his channel. He was too funny teaching these lame guys how to get over in females. They dont even know their not our target they are referring to pick me chicks..
Absolutely because rule #1 is self-preservation. The orange seller basically abandoned their business and that lack of accountability gambles with its success. Your heart is way more valuable than them oranges, mind your business!
Yep if you stick to Shera’s tactics you won’t fall for Alpha Male Strategies. Never FULLY emotionally attach yourself to a man! Especially when he did not invest you financially and emotionally. Alpha Male Strategies himself mostly dates insecure “i’m a independent i don’t need a man to take care of me” black women. He dates women who go for looks in men in stead of looking for financial security. He dates women who split the bill 50/50. He said that himself. So those men who follow him will only attract pick-me chicks with low self worth but never their dream girl 💁🏾♀️
Hi, just chiming in to say I’ve viewed some AMS snippets and read a few comments from followers.... and I’m scratching my head wondering, “Who falls for this mess?” Behaviors advocated by AMS are not “alpha.” I couldn’t waste 5 minutes of my life entertaining the dehumanizing rudeness advocated on that site.
If you have boundaries, narcissist are not a problem. People are so mad at them, but never look at themselves. I dated one. It last 6 weeks because it was obviously all about him, and my self worth and love won't let that fly. He's still surprised. It was addictive. The charm and attention, but it was never about me except in very sly ways.
Yeah, this one guy I was into was like, instead of saying I really want you he'd say, "You really want me, don't you?" Very cunning. That way he could mess with my heart without being able to be accused of misleading me.
This is TRUE...from the beginning you are being tested..You know like when your about to play Mortal combat and you have to choose who you want to be to fight? Yeah just make sure to choose the best character.
This whole level up journey started with me having a toxic experience with a narcissist 6 months ago and me googling how to not experience that kind of situation ever again. I am literally a narcissist expert now, can spot red flags and have such strong boundaries and standards now I feel like saying "try me now! 💅🏾"
You are soooo on point! Many women don't know what they're looking at, so they blame the men. Understanding narcissists traits will help you see what you're dealing with. Narcissists only go to certain types of women. What energy are women putting out to attract such men and what red flags are they ignoring. Things don't just happen. People treat how you allow them to treat you. Both men and women don't want to face up to that reality.
Girl I'm a fly an humble, shy Virgo just figuring out ALL this, late in the game...I used to be a nurse and teacher, hes a dusty hustler, lol ugh, i met him in my 20's young!!...Church :/ led me SO much i was starving for knowledge. I kno now i jacked up smh. I kno i can do better, im not a pick me. God helped me find u i truly believe. 💛Thanks beautiful...Im not mad getting the truth..xoxo💕
Watching this video I realized my mother could of did WAYYY better than my father. (Shes fit,beautiful eyes,beautiful smile,beautiful dark skin,VERY smart,feminine(but she doesn't wear makeup,shes feminine in her energy) and very youthful appearance. He's a narcissist,controlling and was jealous of my mother because she made more money than him. He even tried to control me when I was younger saying I couldn't move out just because he was scared of being alone. Growing up around him caused me to have low self esteem with no boundries.I went to therapy to work on my self esteem and I gained it,but still attracted a narcissist the funny thing is he ran away from me at first,but came back to talk to me and I still gave him a chance because he was my type and now I am working on my Self Confidence and how to fully love myself.
I’am always concern about other people’s feelings and tend to forget about me, but watching this made me realize am stupid for feeling that way cause am now feeling a little depressed because I let narcissists and abusive people in my life and tolerated their crap. This is a lesson learned knowing that I need to work on my self esteem and self confidence. I’am too freaking nice and I hate it. I just want to not care about people and mind my own business. Demn I need tough love to sink this in my brain. Thank you Shera! U are my role model
You are right, the narcissist usually won't approach you, but the mistake that some women make is approaching the narcissist first... Many women that seemed to be leveled up will tell you that they approached the narcissist...
Well that’s why these strategies she teaches inform you so that you’re NOT blindsided. Narcs are not always dusties, they are also the types that throw money at you and can give you your hearts desire... the seeing them coming is in your ability to uphold a standard that others must meet and maintain. No amount of handsome, money, or anything offered can actually buy you, but their achieved status awards them the privilege to keep you around. If he yells too loud, he’s gone, if he raises his hand, he’s gone... it’s standards! And I wear glasses lol
I caught the video half way through the live, I had to watch from the beginning but your explaining this better than anyone I've heard speak on narcissist 💯👏🏾👌🏾❤
Hold up, just when I thought she couldn't get any better! I mean seriously, when she explained 2 broken people getting together, him getting high on putting her down...so explaining my 37 year marriage....been out for a year now since October...finally! Free!!! Love you Shera! Let's go party girl!
Ladies ‘ take away the key sentence of this session......... “ you will be treated the way you allow them to treat you “ unless you want to remain stupid to an abuser !
I like that if you became a lawyer, all women will be free.. lol... I love your sense of humor... I am 100 percent on the same page with you... Excellent Video...
I feel like I’m dodging narcissist all the time because I am so cold and not friendly and I’m not interested in making friends so that In itself is narcissist repellent 😂
I about 💀 when she said “ we are talking to you lol you are too broke bc you are on this channel 🤣🤣🤣 she said you might as well be woman bc you are on this page 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣...... than you can name a roach after your ex for Valentine’s Day 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂🤣🤣 I’m done
I agree with the glasses statement... I prefer not to take photos with my glasses on... You always know exactly what to say... This is such an excellent video...
I approve this message. No normal human is going to be attracted to your unhealed traumas, ladies! xo And sidenote, I love the dark hair on you, SheRa🌹!
Is rather deal with a narc who pays all my bills. My one friend been dating a dusty, verbally abusive narcissist for 4 years for free..... actually she pays most the bills so yeah its really messed up
Ugh! Once again you're preaching the painful truth! Great video! We really do teach others how to treat us! I realized this and got away from my ex narcissist! Thanks to you, I've leveled up and raised my standards. No time or energy for these energy vampires. They'll find a Pickmesha...they're everywhere!
I love 💕 all of your videos! Their so enlightening! I know I was meant to find you Because I was at a very low point in my life at one time! Dealing with dustys’ low caliber’ low quality men! NOW’ it’s a whole new ball 🏀 game’ it’s funny because now’ Dusty’s look 👀 like their afraid to approach me! It’s like I’m repellent ‘ to them now! 🤣...I give off the don’t even try it look’ unless you have means!! MMMMM’s!
