I like how Shera said: "He is the one who FAILED at being a provider, father, etc." Put the blame where it truly belongs, with HIM! He is the one who lost out! Quit hating on yourselves, ladies.
God that felt right to read ..I'm going to read it outloud.. my dad left my mom leaves on and off. I raised myself. My 8yr old could never do what I did. Get myself to and from school and care for myself till dark 2nd grade and beyond..she had a job went to school and also acquired a serious boyfriend by the time I was in 5th grade i met him and his son..looking back I realize a lot of my alone time was for her dating..she still hates me if I need help with my kid.she always tells me im not ready for love..my ex failed me. My dad failed me so many loves failed me. I've given up I don't even go sing anymore..I've started my own business. Its not over yet but there are times a train would hit me AND BOUNCE right off my back. Haha I really wanna die tho 🙃 😅 🤪
Me too. I just dumped my dusty last night, it was so messy, I’m a wreck today. Only a few minutes into this video & reading through the comments makes me feel better. I know I made the right choice.
Biologically, when you've been sexually intimate, you have biological attachment. It takes time to neutralize that sexual connection. It's like withdrawal from drugs. So give yourself time to recover. Go no contact.
I loved him before we had sex u couldn't let it go had to have him. So far I am still a disappointment but I dunno I think the sex might of helped me to let him go. An to see how he dosnt care at all. I just need to not do it again an be done.
Phoenix always go into it for Love, but if their life isn’t together just be friends. Tell them no. Being with someone for money when you really want love is miserable. Trust me I’ve done it. It’s not worth it. Yea you can have a lot of material comfort but you will lack so much internal connection and desire. Your relationship will be dead literally. I realized I make enough money to care for self. My life is not luxurious, but I’d rather be alone than know I gave up my integrity.. that my attention can be bought. Real love is super hard to come by so until then I’ll be alone. Nothing wrong with being alone.
@Tired of being an EMPATHY. HELP ME! Ugh why do you care what men do? Where are your personal values? If women use men , and cheat on men , should men turn savage?? Because you know women aren't saints right??
My tip to get over someone is think only about every little bad or unattractive unappealing thing about them do that so much that you get to a point the thought of them repulses you, get out there and meet new people and focus on yourself, accept that it’s over
Tiffany Titty Sprinkles I’m 6 planet Taurus in the 12th House. I never care. I’m typically on to the next the week before anyway. You’re very intuitive
Alexaelyse you are so lucky if you can move on so quickly. Its been 7 months since my husband left me and I still feel Ill when I think about him...I still love him very much
I give myself a 2 week rule. If he don’t come back by 2 weeks I’m COMPLETELY done no going back. During the first week I get all the hurt out my system. 2 week is nothing but leveling up. Then I will move on after that. If he willing to leave me for 2 weeks... no matter what he says it ain’t real love idgaf. Someone who loves you can’t go long without you & that’s just facts .
I never go back to my old jobs or my exes it's simple like that ! Even if it hurts you have to find better you broke up is a sign from the universe and a blessing in disguise telling you, you can do better. Even if it feels like a slap 👋 in the face! 💔😅
Men don’t change unless they want to. They have to grow or experience a major tragedy or life changing event. People never do things just once. A liar is always going to lie. A cheater will always cheat. It’s a character flaw.
honestly if a man cheated on me i wouldn't be bothered. i would quietly cheat on him, have several side men, and take his money and force him to give me more money. women shouldn't be getting heartbroken nowadays. just get what you want. and if he can't give you what you want then leave.
Holy shit she’s so right!! I left my dusty ex /father of my children like 5 times. He would always chase me and I would go back. Each time I came back the emotions and mental and verbal abuse got worse and worse. The trust wore thinner and thinner, and I tried harder and harder. I’m leaving him for THE LAST time! I’m sick of the abuse, he’s even abused me financially! I’m done!!!!
If they left you.... think about that? That’s the best way to communicate to someone that they don’t want you. They left!! You don’t abandon people you love. You abandon things
This may be your best video yet (and they are all good). You made me realize I AM the CEO of my life and anyone in it must meet my standards. There is no shame in setting standards. If you can’t step up, then step aside! NEXT!
45:53 never invest in any relationship. The whole point is for the man to court you. If they failed it’s their fault and you shouldn’t be upset. Why are you mad. He failed at impressing me
My ex was an energy vampire and I left him. He wanted me back and I felt trapped and blocked. I did not go back but I was stuck in anger for a while. Then I forgave and let go of the fear of meeting another man like him.
I’m 19 years old and when I tell you Shera is helping me. I just got out of a 2.5 year relationship and was feeling soooo down this morning but when I tell you this lady got me back to feeling like myself again
the way I’m writing down almost everything you’re saying like I’m taking notes in a university lecture 😭 I’ve never heard anything more real and more applicable in my entire life. Thank you, and thank you to the women in the comments who are speaking nothing but facts 💆🏼♀️💆🏼♀️
I think my issue with getting over my ex was me having abandonment issues. Not wanting to be alone without anyone (no real friends, nor family support). 😢Parents are dead so it's hard letting go of all I have.
Same :(. It’s not even that I love them , it’s just i can’t afford to lose people bc I actually don’t have anyone else . Then when I start getting deep into this it makes me realize it’s better to be single anyway bc I’m literally relying on them for my happiness and I know it’s not ok
Girl it's the same for me!! my parents are dead. I'm still in my 30s and it's like I really had nothing left other than my man.. I was trying to hold on just to feel like I still have someone who loves me.. But he was broke and I know Shera wouldn't approve lol! I'm taking this time to invest in myself and loving myself.
I broke up with all my exes first but went back because I honestly had no sense of love and though it was losing my invested feelings. Women who were abused by their own parents and never felt love tend to end up in bad relationships and sadly, I'm no exception. I invested a lot into my relationships which was stupid. Never again, I'm wide awake now.
I do not want his raggedy ass back. Hes ded a dusty and honestly was a downgrade. I went against my better judgement and gave him a chance for love and physical attraction. It was hard for me to get over bc I wanted him to feel pain 10xs what i felt. I knw hes hurting though he pretends hes not. I def gave wayyyyy more and he isnt capable of giving anything. Im happy I knw this. Im happy i dont want him. I was more mad at wasted time and energy.
I feel like I don't want him back! I am just being needy for the things he did for me that my parents didn't! I just realize am just being needy .....trying compasate for the the emotional needs I missed from both my unavailable parents
I’m 31 and my first time being dumped was this year. But all my exs always come back smh and by then it’s always too late..... this time it’s different so idk...Moving on is the best thing to do. You don’t wanna relive the bs!!
this was a hard pill to swallow , but you are absolutely right about everything you said. I broke up with my bf today and it was my first real relationship. but i had to break up with him for my sanity. i have more respect for myself to allow myself to be treated the way i was. it is his lost, i lost nothing . he is the one who has to live with what he has done . i have no desire to want him back because i cannot allow myself to be treated the way i was ! chucking my deuces lol 😂 ✌️
This video really helped me. Was seeing a multi millionaire that was old, fat and not attractive. He dumped me 2 days ago, I think that just my ego is hurt. He said I wasn’t giving him what he desired. He took me on 2 trips and bought me several nice gifts and paid my bills they last 2 months. I didn’t want to sleep with him yet so he broke it off.
All you say is great but i would truly miss the butterflies and what we call "love" or passion, even at 39. I d cannot be with a guy without feeling emotions. But your Channel is helping me getting less emotional and its empowering me
That’s limerence. Limerence is not love. Sad how we as a society have romanticised limerence relationships, telling women that we need to fall head over heels for a dusty.
The 1st 7 mins makes me see I don't want him back I just don't like or want the feelings of rejection or want to feel the temporary hurt🤷🏽♀️ I love your advice!!!
Just got dumped but the guy got me a job at the most prestigious bank on Earth so it was worth it. Always need to get something out of them as an insurance policy if they end up hurting you
Your right on this one. A lesson and move forward. 💯💯💯💯💯 He said you gonna block me. I said no I want I want you to see my moving on. Thanks for opening my eyes to these dudes. In my world these young cat come more correct than men my age
Thank you girl you gave me a reality check I was so dumb for 4 days over a nobody who has nothing of his own I will never ever do this stupid ass shit again in life
Really needed this ❤️ This is the most REAL and Helpful How to get over a breakup video on RU-vid!!! Most videos just suggest:Get busy,hang out with friends,go workout blah blah 🙄
This video is a godsend! I almost slipped up and went back to that POS! I'm learning to remove my emotions entirely. I'm two seconds from being a total beast 😂🤣😂.
I love listening to your points of view about relationships, how men are and staying with someone for more than 2 reasons. I needed to hear this to push my way of thinking into the next level.. Never will I act like a fool again
Shera, you have such a healthy sense of self, and the way you prioritize you is just remarkable. Thank you for sharing these jewels and your mindset with us.
I really dont miss my ex.. I just want him to crawl and beg just to make me laugh at him.. This is what I really need revenge.. Give me an idea of what to answer when he texts hi again...
I used to wish the same but usually when they come back crying by that time you are over them and just feel sorry for them. You no longer want revenge.
Shera you are so right on. I am a Gold Digger and have ridiculed by the Retched ones and Dusty for my entire life. You are a breath of fresh spring air. You are so darling and dear to me. Thank you so much for vindicating all us, wanna be elegant Ladies of Men of financial means and integrity.
I don't want to get OVER my ex I want to get EVEN with him for stealing 100K from me. I want him in prison! Not to mention the cheating an lying. Great vid SR7! I must add, It was my own stupid fault for trusting him. I was head over heels stupid. I'm a prime example of why not to be a pick-me-chick! I had to learn the hard way. But he's still a thief.
Tiffany M: I had a second home that I let him live in for free. It was an investment that I was planning to sell when i retired. I had about $200K invested in it. He convinced me to sell it to him for $100K and then he would "take care of me" in my retirement. As soon as we signed the contract - he revealed his other woman and discarded me. He's a criminal. I did not know he was a criminal when I met him. I have reported some of his criminal activity, but he has the local law enforcement in his pocket. Like Al Capone. I have no doubt that he would kill me if I turned him in.
“You got robbed I can’t believe that” 😂😂😂. Wish I saw this when he cheated BEFORE I took him back. After watching this I got a great laugh and I don’t want that dusty back. It was my ego 💀
Hahha messages I found in his phone ?! Noooo these cheaters have PIN number plus face recognition on their phone. His phone is more secured than the White House !
urScorpioLady Men here in Canada have what we call Ho Phones. The first phone is for wife/girlfriend, family, friends, work the second the Ho Phone is for side pieces and one night stands. Going in a man’s phone would solve nothing here cause you wouldn’t find shit.
Yessssss!!!! It does work and it feels better when you write down a list of all the negative things the motherfucker done to you and must believe once you read over what you’ve written down on that list , must believe you will NOT GO back with the jerk!.. Ditch the ex !.. write down all the bad and some good things you put up with , if there’s more negative than positive, DITCH THE EX!!! Do not repeat the same cycle over
Thank you Your videos show you really love us. I feel so much love from you it is amazing. Thank you for helping all these young ladies. I love sending your videos to my younger sisters. Thank you♡ if I had a daughter, I would want her to watch your videos too... Funny, you are so warm and loving. Thank you for being you.
She Streamed this 2 yrs ago on my birthday, but I missed it cus I was out, bringing in 40 in my VIP section at the club!!! ....her words are a gift that keeps on giving!! Timeless treasures!!! Shera I love your werk (old & new) you are sooo REAL!!!!
shera this literally made me cry you’re helping me so much. i’m 24 and it’s my first adult heartbreak and i used to always listen to your videos even while with him. he lied a lot, no cheating i know of. but he said it’s his mental health but he let me know on a random night and said i’m less then a week he’s moving out to his new apt after 4 years of being together. it killed me and i am def a pickmeisha. i want to be as confident as you im so grateful there’s women like you that are able to help us
Hadn’t seen my ex in a month I was drunk last night and we had Inter course. I feel awesome tho cause I don’t want him no more I just wanted that! And Shera you’re voice was literally in my head “Dusties are for fun ONLY”
Literally the best advice from any dating coach in RU-vid! Thank you Sheera for sharing your advice ❤️🙏🏻 you have helped me and other thousands of other woman I’m so happy I found your channel xxx
Alise This video made me take $14,000 from my ex. He kept leaving me home for another girl. The last straw was him hanging up on me. He wants me to come back but I’m so damn scared. I left all my clothes lmao. Take something before you leave ladies!!!
Thank you for your words of wisdom and trying to understand other people's shoes. Your way of presenting the big picture was wonderful. I appreciate the time and effort you took to explain many scenarios/sides of the spectrum on this topic. This is helping me in this time. :)
Excellent Video!!! The only thing they only owe you is another lesson!!! Just keep in mind that a cheater can most certainly give you a disease and there are diseases that will kill you!! Love it!!
This is so true! You are a genius brain ma’am.. The minute I saw that funeral Cadillac that crazy narcissist bought without telling me..I was like the Stella walking away after she lit that s*** on fire with $3 in my pocket and anxiety that lasted a year after. I will never forget this damn character. 😮💨
👸never let a break-up go to waste. use it ⛽️ as fuel; to get shyt done on your dream/goals list🎁💰🏘🚘🏞🚆🛩🚢! be grateful & 😊thankful every day, to him for the catalyst🙏of: turning break-up into ur BETTER-up😌!
